DianeW88 Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 If you are momentarily unavailable and not in the same room as your cell phone when it rang, would it bother you if someone else (not your dh or one of your kids) answered it without being asked to? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 No, but we don't have a house phone, so my phone *is* the house phone. Sometimes I will tell them not to answer it and many times they won't answer if they don't know who it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I would assume that the person was a friend or family member, so no, it would not annoy me. If it was a stranger, then yes, it would annoy me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I wouldn't care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 No, in fact I'd probably be screaming for someone to please answer it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I would assume that the person was a friend or family member, so no, it would not annoy me. If it was a stranger, then yes, it would annoy me! :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 In fact, neither my kids nor my husband answer my cell unless I ask them to do so. Nor do I answer theirs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, it would bother me, and furthermore, it would bother me if someone outside of our immediate family answered the phone ringing in my house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I'm not sure. I think it might. I'm not much of a phone person, though, so very few people have my cell number and my phone rarely rings. I do not, however, answer other people's cell phones--unless asked. I rarely even answer for dh since his phone is mostly for work-related calls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 It would bother me if they didn't holler "Should I get that?" first. Answering without permission would bother me. Then again, if they answered my house phone, I would not be ok with that either. There are a lot of phone calls that I ignore because I don't want to talk to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Mom Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 :iagree: It would bother me if they didn't holler "Should I get that?" first. Answering without permission would bother me. Then again, if they answered my house phone, I would not be ok with that either. There are a lot of phone calls that I ignore because I don't want to talk to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Well, I don't use a cell, so... However, someone answering my home phone without being asked to do so would tick me off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 It would annoy the heck out of me if anyone at all answered my phone without permission. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 If you are momentarily unavailable and not in the same room as your cell phone when it rang, would it bother you if someone else (not your dh or one of your kids) answered it without being asked to? Yes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seraphina Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 If it was an adult yes it would bug me, but my son's friends (who are like my 6th and 7th children) answer my phone if it's ringing. I don't mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muninay Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Nope. It doesn't really matter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RanchGirl Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, I think it's the height of rudeness and invasiveness. And not just because my MIL did it to me once, lol! But that was many years ago and I asked her not to and she hasn't since. On the other hand, I think some people do spaz out about not missing calls and not really realize there is voicemail and caller id... that was the case with my MIL. She didn't mean to be openly rude. Hopefully that is the case with your phone answerer and a simple request not to do it again will end the problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, if it's my personal phone and not the general household phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalknot Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I wouldn't be bothered if it was someone my kids/husband knew and was willing to talk to on their own until I could become available. Or if the answerer was capable and willing to take a proper message if I shouted from the other room that I'm not readily available and would return the call later. I'd be mildly annoyed if someone answered a call from a number or contact they didn't personally know ... but that's more because I actively try to avoid some people, and that's usually who's calling LOL. It's not because I mind people answering my phone per se. Growing up, we were never to do that. I think my personality is just more relaxed in that this doesn't phase me much. I don't care if anyone borrows my things or opens my mail, either, without explicit permission -- so long as they put it back where it belongs so I can find it, I'm good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In The Great White North Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, it would bother me, and furthermore, it would bother me if someone outside of our immediate family answered the phone ringing in my house. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margo out of lurking Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I would assume they are trying to be helpful. I don't really care for my cell phone and usually don't answer it if I am home. (I want to encourage people to use my home phone or email.) If they were typically a nosy person, then it would irritate me because I would distrust their motive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellesmere Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Around here, it would be considered weird if anyone but me, dh, or children answered. I can imagine a lot of scenarios where it would happen and be fine or expected. For the most part, a friend would just say, "Your phone is ringing?" and either wait for me to respond or ask if I needed someone else to pick up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 It would bother me if they didn't holler "Should I get that?" first. Answering without permission would bother me. Then again, if they answered my house phone, I would not be ok with that either. There are a lot of phone calls that I ignore because I don't want to talk to them. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yep, answering any phone that is not yours is presumptuous, imho. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) It would bother me if they didn't holler "Should I get that?" first. Answering without permission would bother me. Then again, if they answered my house phone, I would not be ok with that either. There are a lot of phone calls that I ignore because I don't want to talk to them. :iagree: It drives me nuts when people answer my phone--cell phone or home phone. For one thing, I still get tons of telemarketing phone calls despite being put on the do not call list. Secondly, I have a few people who call me who clearly do not understand the words, "This is not a good time." In those cases, I don't answer the phone when their caller ID info comes up unless I have time to talk for as long as I know they always wish to talk (since apparently they think it is the height of rudeness for me to say it's not a good time and ask if I can call back). Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. That's two invasions, in my book. She answered your phone AND rifled through your purse?! The purse is more sacred than the phone. :lol: Edited September 9, 2011 by Alte Veste Academy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) No. I don't see it any differently as anyone of us answering the land line. I seriously cannot think of a single thing that would seem intrusive. If someone was calling to talk about something personal with me, I am fairly certain they wouldn't relay that specific information through the person taking the message. I would expect someone to tell me that so-and-so called and wants you to call him/her back. Or maybe my life is just utterly boring. :tongue_smilie: ETA: See what happens when you read too fast? I thought the parentheses was specifically saying it would be your DH or your children answering the phone. But someone not related to me? That would be utterly bizarre. Does that really happen?? Edited September 9, 2011 by Night Elf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DusksAngel Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I'd be annoyed, especially if they had to go through my purse to do so. Even the kids (okay G) knows to bring it to me rather than answer it. Even dh asks if he should answer unless it's a personal ring tone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, it would annoy me. But I don't answer the phone that often anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mama2cntrykids Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, b/c it annoys me when my ds10 does it. What if it's someone I don't want to talk to atm or EVER lolol? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisainOhio Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Your MIL went into your purse to find the phone then answered it? Oh my gosh, that would annoy me! I think you should have the right to whack her over the head with the purse. Oops, sorry. I think my own angst regarding my MIL has crept into my answer. :P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seraphina Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Your MIL went into your purse to find the phone then answered it? Oh my gosh, that would annoy me! I think you should have the right to whack her over the head with the purse. Oops, sorry. I think my own angst regarding my MIL has crept into my answer. :P :iagree: I think I could handle anyone but my MIL going into my purse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. Yeah, that would have annoyed me too. Our house phone is up for grabs, but my cell phone is my direct-to-me-personal line. I only give it out to people I'm close to or to people I need to reach me like doctors, etc. Barb ETA: I also get flustered when I call someone's cell and another person answers it. I called my daughter the other day and one of her guy-friends answered and that completely confused me, LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Food4Thought Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 No one answers my cell phone. Not even me half the time, but I'm not a phone person. :tongue_smilie: It would *definitely* bug me if someone rifled through my purse to answer my phone. I consider a cell phone a private phone - it would be like someone checking my emails for me. Not cool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4kiddies Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, it would bother me a great deal but then it bothers me when my mil answers my house phone when she is babysitting. It's an invasion of privacy and people should mind their own business. ETA: LOL, I just read the rest of the replies after I posted and saw your update that your issue was your mil.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 If you are momentarily unavailable and not in the same room as your cell phone when it rang, would it bother you if someone else (not your dh or one of your kids) answered it without being asked to? If I'm unavailable, I'd prefer it to go to voicemail. If I couldn't get to it in time, I wouldn't mind if someone answered it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parker Martin Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, I would be annoyed, and I would say something about it. My MIL would never do that though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. No, I'd be mad. Your MIL went into your purse to find the phone then answered it? Oh my gosh, that would annoy me! I think you should have the right to whack her over the head with the purse. Oops, sorry. I think my own angst regarding my MIL has crept into my answer. :P :iagree:She invaded your privacy x2. Wolf doesn't go through my purse...if his mother did, I'd be sorely tempted to whack her with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yeah, that is just not cool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. Oh my. Where is that fainting smiley? I think dh was trained as a young child to think a sanitary pad with wings is going to fly out and bite him if he opens a woman's purse. In over 2 decades, he has never willingly opened a purse. Even if I tell him to open it and get something for me. He won't. He will bring it to me and tilt it so I can unzip it and dig for myself while he holds it. He won't open our daughter's purse either. I think he might have been traumatized by a purse as a toddler or something. LOL Your mil was way across the social boundary on this one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Oh my. Where is that fainting smiley? I think dh was trained as a young child to think a sanitary pad with wings is going to fly out and bite him if he opens a woman's purse. In over 2 decades, he has never willingly opened a purse. Even if I tell him to open it and get something for me. He won't. He will bring it to me and tilt it so I can unzip it and dig for myself while he holds it. He won't open our daughter's purse either. I think he might have been traumatized by a purse as a toddler or something. LOL Your mil was way across the social boundary on this one. Flying pad, huh? :lol: Wonder how I'd go about emotionally scarring...errr...teaching my sons that lesson...future DILs would thank me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) No, in fact I'd probably be screaming for someone to please answer it! :iagree: I don't like checking messages though, so I would rather another family member answer it. If strangers answered my phone that would bother me, and I don't think friends would do that unless I asked them to or they recognized the number as a mutual friend. I'm laid back about the phone though, and I would not answer other phones unless asked. ETA: I didn't read the part about MIL digging through your purse. I don't carry a purse, but women have told me it feels like a violation of privacy when someone goes through their purse, so yes I would be annoyed in your situation. My phone hangs out in the phone pocket of my planner or on the counter, so that is not at all the same thing. Edited September 9, 2011 by dwkilburn1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I think dh was trained as a young child to think a sanitary pad with wings is going to fly out and bite him if he opens a woman's purse. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 depends whom. More and more people are using their cells as a house phone, so it would depend. does this person have a house phone or just a cell? in which case I doubt they see a difference. Is this a person I'd feel comfortable answering my phone? I've answered phones as relatives, but not at friends houses. I hardly answer dh's cell, but then he uses it for business so it's usually clients. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Oh my. Where is that fainting smiley? I think dh was trained as a young child to think a sanitary pad with wings is going to fly out and bite him if he opens a woman's purse. In over 2 decades, he has never willingly opened a purse. Even if I tell him to open it and get something for me. He won't. He will bring it to me and tilt it so I can unzip it and dig for myself while he holds it. He won't open our daughter's purse either. I think he might have been traumatized by a purse as a toddler or something. LOL :lol: Mine too. I think DH is overwhelmed by my purse. You know that baby shower game where you get points for everything on a bizarre list of potential items? I've won that. Repeatedly. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Dh and I don't even answer each others phones (or open each others mail), so yes, if some one else answered it, it would bother me...a lot. My kids are not allowed to answer it either, unless I ask them to specifically. We have a house phone, so if someone calls one of our cell phones, it means they want to speak to a particular person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Hmmm...well, I was trying to decide if I was justified in my momentary feelings of irritation. This was my MIL, it was my cell phone, and she rummaged through my purse to find it and answer it. I was only upstairs and she did not ask if she should get it for me. :glare: I prefer that others don't answer my phone, because if there's a message I need to get, the important parts always seem to get lost in translation. So I was a tad miffed, but I was wondering if that was just an overreaction on my part. my mil is insane. scratch that. my mil makes everyone else insane. it is the sort of thing mil would have done in her younger and moving-faster days. As irritating as that would have been, it would have been a "add it to the list" of her social ineptitude and drop the irritation because it wasn't making me feel better and she is too clueless to understand why she irks people on a regular basis. when my children were younger, I'd never get messages if they answered the (home) phone so I finally told them if they couldn't give me my messages, they weren't allowed to answer it! I still can get a message days after a phone call. gee, it would have been nice to know about that. grrr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 I screen my calls, and if anyone answers the phone on my behalf without my permission -- house or cell -- they can talk to the person. I won't do it. I do not answer the phone unless I want to talk to the person who calls at the time they call. Period. The kids check the caller ID and if the call is for them, they answer it. DH is different - he can't stand to hear a phone ring without answering it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Yes, it would bother me a great deal but then it bothers me when my mil answers my house phone when she is babysitting. It's an invasion of privacy and people should mind their own business. Really? This is so surprising to me! Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I would be annoyed if mil was babysitting and *didn't* answer the phone. I'd like to be able to get a hold of the person watching my kids. :001_huh: It would never cross my mind as an "invasion of privacy". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 No, in fact I'd probably be screaming for someone to please answer it! :iagree: :iagree: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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