Jean in Newcastle Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I've taken a cold shower. I have aloe vera smeared all over my legs. The burns aren't too bad - no blisters even. But 20 some years ago when I was r*ped, I had boiling water poured on me. I'm pretty shaken and trying not to let the dc see. (Ds has apologized and I've assured him it was an accident - I don't want him to feel badly about this.) Talk about a trigger for flashbacks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Jean, I'm so sorry! I'll be praying for peace of mind and quick healing for your burns. OUCH!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T'smom Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I don't know what else to say. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 No words, just :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shalom22 Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Wow, I am so sorry. I burned myself with boiling water a couple of weeks ago, it was only three fingers but was very painful. Hope you get better soon, physically and mentally. I understand about the flash back, very nerve racking.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I'm praying for you to feel God's healing grace! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smrtmama Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Can you take some valerian to help yourself feel a little calmer? Bless your heart, that's so upsetting, and you're being so strong for your kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I've taken a cold shower. I have aloe vera smeared all over my legs. The burns aren't too bad - no blisters even. But 20 some years ago when I was r*ped, I had boiling water poured on me. I'm pretty shaken and trying not to let the dc see. (Ds has apologized and I've assured him it was an accident - I don't want him to feel badly about this.) Talk about a trigger for flashbacks. Oh Jean! I nearly burst into tears for you. (((((Jean))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Pain on several levels at once...I'm asking God to give you peace and comfort! BTW, in case you have any lavendar essential oil around, ime that will heal a burn faster than any other thing on the planet! It also helps with the pain if you can keep the moisture content of the skin constant. Aloe or any other ointment drying out creates much pain. (I think that's why people used to put oils or greases on burns, because it felt better if the skin didn't dry out.) {{{{Jean}}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Macrina Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Do you have any rescue remedy around for your emotional recuperation? Praying for healing on each level. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefly Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Sending physical and emotional healing thoughts your way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WiseOwlKnits Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I am so sorry! I don't even know what else to say... I hope you heal quickly, both emotionally and physically... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4kiddies Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMCassandra Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Oh no! Be extra kind to yourself today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 Thank you for all the kind words and hugs. It has been about an hour and my heart has stopped pounding now. Tears are no longer threatening to spill out at any moment. I did e-mail dh just to let him know what happened (not that he could actually do anything). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMW Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug:Oh, Jean!!:grouphug: So sorry. DO be extra good to yourself. Take care... I know you already try to keep life simplified, I hope you can rest. Will be praying for your comfort and peace and rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sputterduck Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I've found that sometimes flashbacks give your brain another chance to process what happened. Maybe this will end in more closure for you. I'm so sorry. I'm tearing up for you. :crying: :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Oh Jean, there really are no words. :grouphug: Prayers said for you here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Oh Jean I am soo sorry!! Get those burns checked though. I had second degree burns on my shins from boiling water as a child. The blisters formed overnight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 (((Jean))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I've found that sometimes flashbacks give your brain another chance to process what happened. Maybe this will end in more closure for you. I'm so sorry. I'm tearing up for you. :crying: :grouphug::grouphug: You are right. I've had other flashbacks. The worst was only a month after the attack when the shower malfunctioned - I was a blubbering mess that time. I am sooooo much more calmer this time around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 Pain on several levels at once...I'm asking God to give you peace and comfort! BTW, in case you have any lavendar essential oil around, ime that will heal a burn faster than any other thing on the planet! It also helps with the pain if you can keep the moisture content of the skin constant. Aloe or any other ointment drying out creates much pain. (I think that's why people used to put oils or greases on burns, because it felt better if the skin didn't dry out.) {{{{Jean}}} No essential lavender oil. Would lavender bubble bath work? (I will be going out later. Maybe I'll stop by the heath/vitamin store). :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Oh Jean I am soo sorry!! Get those burns checked though. I had second degree burns on my shins from boiling water as a child. The blisters formed overnight. The original attack left big white blisters all over my front. I wasn't even aware of it until the police officer pointed it out (all physical pain was blocked out at first). I didn't know that blisters could form later. I'll be monitoring this. I don't think this burn is all that bad though. It is more the "psychic" pain than the actual physical pain this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I've taken a cold shower. I have aloe vera smeared all over my legs. The burns aren't too bad - no blisters even. But 20 some years ago when I was r*ped, I had boiling water poured on me. I'm pretty shaken and trying not to let the dc see. (Ds has apologized and I've assured him it was an accident - I don't want him to feel badly about this.) Talk about a trigger for flashbacks. So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I just want you to know that I'll be thinking about you and praying for you. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. How strong and brave you are to protect your babies like you are doing. You are amazing. Again, I'll be praying for God's healing for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
herbalgirl Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Many, many :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: Very soft group hug. I'm so sorry... more for the flashbacks than the burns, right? Praying for a little more healing if that's possible. SOOOOO sorry! And, sorry for your son, too. Carrie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I'm so sorry, dearest. You have my prayers! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Oh, Jean. I am so sorry for the pain you must be experiencing. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mammaruss Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I wish I knew what to say to take all your pain away! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I'm so sorry... praying for peace and comfort for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I'm praying for you to feel God's healing grace! :grouphug: There are salves and ointments you can use to avoid blisters if the burns aren't too deep. Call a pharmacy and see what's available OTC. Sorry this triggered such awful memories for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I'm so sorry... praying for peace and comfort for you. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 I know you were already dealing with some chronic pain, so that just really seems cosmically unfair that you are having to deal with additional pain and also the emotional pain of this. ((((Jean))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Oh Jean, I am so sorry honey. Do you have a family doctor who could give a quick look-over and make sure everything is ok. They could also prescribe a very mild anti-anxiety if you would like. I think that the rest of the day would be perfect for cuddling in front of a good family movie and maybe a comedy. I hope you weather this well. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 :grouphug: I am praying right now for you. I know all about "triggers" and flashbacks. It is NOT fun. Have you ever had flashbacks to the r*pe before? My therapist told me some strategies to help "ground" me when I was having flashbacks. If you'd like some ideas, PM me. I'm so sorry this happened...flashbacks on top of the painful burns. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Thank you for all the kind words and hugs. It has been about an hour and my heart has stopped pounding now. Tears are no longer threatening to spill out at any moment. I did e-mail dh just to let him know what happened (not that he could actually do anything). Oh Jean how terrible! :grouphug: If you want to try something www.tapping.com helps me a great deal for flashbacks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Jean, I'm just getting home from a loooong day out and am just seeing your post. I'm so very sorry and want you to know I'm praying for you. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natalieclare Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Jean, :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Healing, peace, love, strength...I am praying these for you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PineFarmMom Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saille Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 I just saw this. I am so sorry. Bless you for having the presence of mind to protect your ds from your reaction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Dominion Heather Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Just saw this... Hugs and prayers.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BridgeTea Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Peace and hugs, Jean :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 I just got home and saw this. Oh Jean - I am so sorry. Know that I am praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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