amyable Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 So, so wonderful and beautiful! :crying: Wishing you continued growth and success! (That sounds so business like ... I hope you know what I really mean!) This hits me so deep down inside, I don't have the right words to express my joy for you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :crying: Your post was so touching. There just aren't enough words to explain how awesome you are. So happy for you and your dd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Aw. I am in tears reading your post. What an amazing breakthrough for her and for you. :grouphug: :iagree: This post needs a tissue warning! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 Yes, my dd as well! She told me things about her finding time, which I didn't know. Later, when I finally ordered her finding ad, I got to do the translation myself, and what she said was verified that way. One of the many books we had to read in prep for our adoption talked about how normal events don't imprint on babies, because everything is, well, normal. However, if something traumatic happens, it can be remembered. The book (gosh I wish I remember which one) also talked about how most babies are born with a certain understanding of what is right/normal. do you think those finding ads are real and accurate for everyone? Obviously yours was validated, but I've often wondered............. Can you actually find the bm by the finding ad? I was always so skeptical that I never pursued the finding ad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 :crying::crying::crying: I wish I could personally hug each and every one of you!!! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I am so very happy for you all. I have read many of your posts in the past, and I know you have experienced great pain during this journey. It is so very wonderful that your daughter is making such progress, and that you are able to share in it. You so deserve happiness together. Thank you for sharing your joy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug: This is wonderful news! I'm so happy for you Denise! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so happy for your dd's breakthrough. Prayers & hugs for both of you!!! Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :party: HUGE, just huge! I'm so happy for your family. I've got a big ol' lump in my throat :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I just read the first post and have tears in my eyes. I'm so very happy for her and for you. May your love and union as a family continue to grow and blossom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 do you think those finding ads are real and accurate for everyone? Obviously yours was validated, but I've often wondered............. Can you actually find the bm by the finding ad? I was always so skeptical that I never pursued the finding ad. NO, I don't think they, or the police reports, are particularly accurate. I think some are downright fiction. There's something strange around my dd's situation. Everything was an anomoly with her case, compared to every other child at the orphanage. I think someone there knows a bit more than they let on. Some folks have been successful at finding birthmothers. Ask around on some yahoo groups. My dd has a strong desire to find hers. She realized one day though that her fantasy of going back to China would mean leaving her life here behind, and it really made her think. I told her there's nothing wrong with havng that fantasy, and that maybe she's just seeing her future, and it helped settle her a bit. I told her that reuniting the parts of her were something probably best pursued once she's done growing here, but that she'd better keep up with her Chinese studies, or it would be hard going once she went back to China! ;) I sure hope it's possible for her some day! It's been a hole in her heart since day 1. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 (edited) NO, I don't think they, or the police reports, are particularly accurate. I think some are downright fiction. There's something strange around my dd's situation. Everything was an anomoly with her case, compared to every other child at the orphanage. I think someone there knows a bit more than they let on. Some folks have been successful at finding birthmothers. Ask around on some yahoo groups. My dd has a strong desire to find hers. She realized one day though that her fantasy of going back to China would mean leaving her life here behind, and it really made her think. I told her there's nothing wrong with havng that fantasy, and that maybe she's just seeing her future, and it helped settle her a bit. I told her that reuniting the parts of her were something probably best pursued once she's done growing here, but that she'd better keep up with her Chinese studies, or it would be hard going once she went back to China! ;) I sure hope it's possible for her some day! It's been a hole in her heart since day 1. HUGE.HUGE!!! That's intriguing about your dd. I wish someone would come forward so your dd can have peace. Edited because this is a HAPPY, HAPPY thread! :) Edited October 14, 2011 by Denisemomof4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 (edited) I am so, so, so happy for all of you!!!!!!! God is so good and works in mysterious ways for sure!!! It's waterworks over here - very happy tears. I hope that your experience is encouraging for other families in a similar situation, not necessarily that all will have a breakthrough of this kind, but realizing that all the love you've poured into her has been received even if it wasn't outwardly acknowledged. As for an answer to the question of why her mother gave her up, sometimes that is the most loving thing they could possibly do for their child. Explain the realities of their one child policy and maybe let her know that many mothers abort their children, or worse (you may want to wait a few years on this). Explain that it's actually against the law there to give up their child, so those brave enough to do that, have to hide their pregnancy and bring their child in the cover of night, to where they will be found. Explain that her mom loved her so much that she was willing to give her up to allow her to have a better life and to have the love of her new family. Let her know that she can love her birth mother and pray for her too. What her birth mom would want most is for her to be happy. Just some thoughts. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! :001_smile: ETA: Denise I was writing this post when your post above posted. So now I can see that my suggestions on the answer to her question aren't at all helpful as her situation was different since she was 2 yo. :grouphug: Edited October 14, 2011 by Teachin'Mine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 (edited) ... Edited October 14, 2011 by nono Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 Denise, your mailbox is full. ;) all set now. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Denise, your original post has got to be the best thing I'll read all month. Congratulations and look what you did!!! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Thats wonderful Denise. I'm so thrilled for you, and your dd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 That is fantastic news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatA Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I'm celebrating with you too! I hope you this is just the beginning! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaz Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I look new but I've been reading the boards for quite a while. I'm so happy for you! :) What a blessing for your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tangomoon Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Thank you so much for sharing this breakthrough with us. Treasure this beautiful gift and help it sustain you when you need it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I am so happy for you and her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 That is just SO wonderful!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelle l Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I'm so glad for both of you. What a huge step for her to let you in like that. Just huge. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astrid Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Oh Denise, I just have no words! What a beautiful post! I am SO happy for you and your family, and will be holding you all in the light for continued healing and happiness. :001_smile: Bless that dear girl. astrid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so happy for you and DD! I know you've had a long, difficult road with her. I hope this is your light at the end of the tunnel! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bug's Mom Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 What wonderful news! It reminded me of this photo of a towel that I took while at Goodwill one day...:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :thumbup: That is wonderful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 How uplifting! I hope she continues on the path of opening up to love and trust. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 You have me sitting here in tears... You are such a good Mamma...and what a lucky, blessed little rad-ish you have. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn&charles Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I'm SO happy for you both!!!!!!!!!!!! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I'm so happy for you, Denise! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melodiya99 Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Your post made me cry...I'm sure things won't be easy, but it really is a huge breakthrough! I'm sure it's wonderful watching her blossom under your care! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheApprentice Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Wow! what a terrific time for you. That's so special.:party::party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Oh wow! :party: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Awwwww. I'm so happy to read this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catherine Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I'm SO happy for both of you. I can't imagine what you've lived with, and I can't truly imagine what you're living with now. ((hugs)) to you and your daughter!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alyeska Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 :party: Praise God that she opened the door of her heart! Wow! That is an amazing breakthrough! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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