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  1. Yes, it was done under local anesthesia in doctor's office.
  2. My husband's lipoma was on his back. It had grown to about the size and dimensions of a McDonald's regular size hamburger. Was removed in dermatologist's office.
  3. The dog's plate was in addition to her own leftovers plate. Indeed she herself will eat only the turkey breast.
  4. More of my dismay had to do with the relative's attitude than the dish. She *asked* if she could bring something, so I said to bring whatever she wanted. That was not sufficient apparently, so she insisted that I tell her what to bring. When she arrived with the dish, she complained about how much trouble it was (deviled eggs) and huffily tossed it on countertop with such force that most of the eggs bounced up against the lid or sides. No one went hungry for want of a deviled egg; I had enough to feed army. I often make doggie bags with little plastic bone stickers on them for guests' dogs. Naturally I tend to use the less desirable but still edible parts of the turkey and ham for doggie bags. She made her own doggie takeout plate densely stacked about 2 inches high with white turkey meat because her little dog was "allergic" to the dark meat. We had a good laugh after she left.
  5. We usually host somewhere between 12 to 18 for Thanksgiving. Our home has two fully equipped kitchens. I do not request that anyone bring anything. If they ask what they should bring, I tell them to bring whatever they would like. Adopted this policy since a passive aggressive relative brought what should have been an easy dish that was not even edible. Wondered if it was intentional on her part. I also had people who brought an item and wanted to finish prepping it at my home, which was rather inconvenient for me. Another person could not be counted on to remember to bring dish if they even decided to show up. Others drive or fly in. If I needed financial help, of course, I would not have adopted the policy. If they show up with a dish or drinks or wine, I thank them and put item on the buffet counter. It is less stress for me to handle *all* meal preparations and shopping than to coordinate what each person should bring. After all these years experience hosting, I have a mental flowchart / timetable for getting everything on the buffet line at same time. My younger sister usually brings a delicious brownie truffle dessert. Brother in law brings soft drinks. This year a new guest brought couple nice bottles wine. Husband always roasts the turkey. I make all except frozen apple pies from scratch. This year we had turkey, dressing, cranberry sauce, spiral glazed ham, mashed potatoes, cheesy potatoes, mashed sweet potatoes, steamed green beans, broccoli casserole, corn, spinach, yeast rolls, fruit salad, apple pies and brownie dessert. We also served a fruit tray and bacon-wrapped beef with blue cheese appetizers. I offer guests leftovers to take home if they wish.
  6. I worked throughout treatment but on a reduced schedule. Actually it was helpful and centering to have a purpose other than tending to medical issues. Interestingly, the Arimidex temporarily was the death knell for work. I was on it 4 1/2 months until I decided could no longer live that way. Side effects were debilitating so that I barely work for two months. Switched to Tamoxifen and have been working regularly ever since. I worked full time until eldest child was two and a half. Then stayed home full time three years and had two more kids. Then worked part to full time during busy season. After kids older, returned to work year round.
  7. I should have clearly stated that I do not believe marijuana is especially harmful, which is primarily why I would pass. Of course, financial distress would not be a deterrent to a crime I would report. We have no solid information from original poster that subpar father/officer is involved in the marijuana sales. With nationwide eternal electronic records, a drug conviction for a drug I consider harmless could affect the young adult's ability to get loans for college, to get gainful employment and complicate his life in general. Plus the father and sons could lose their apartment depending upon lease terms. I would not want to complicate someone's life by calling about this situation but would definitely not allow my child to hang out there. I understand why others may have a strong viewpoint the other way.
  8. Older son is the one dealing pot, not the policeman father. Are police required to report their children's crimes to authorities?
  9. I would pass on reporting to any agency out of fear father will lose his job and retirement. Family probably already stressed financially from divorce so job loss would be devastating for the entire family. No indication that father is abusing his sons but just making some poor parenting decisions. Agree with you on forbidding your son to go to their apartment.
  10. The real estate and any other assets owned by decedent will pass in accordance with applicable state law when person dies intestate. In my state, that would be 1/3 to spouse and remaining 2/3 to decedent's issue (children) to be spit equally among the issue. You would have to confirm applicable state's law, but generally states would then look at decedent's parents or siblings as next in line. Of course, any heir can disclaim property. The disclaimant's property would then pass as if disclaimant were deceased.
  11. You are being paid from petty cash. Based upon information provided, it sounds like you are a statutory employee. If that is accurate, the company should be withholding income tax and social security taxes from your pay and issuing you a W-2. If you are an independent contractor and if company issues you a 1099MISC for non-employee compensation, you will be liable for all income and self employment taxes.
  12. annandatje


    I would say that the majority of the do-not-copy-cut-or-paste-because-will-delete-later threads follow the same path. If the post has to be deleted later, should it be posted in first place? Original posters understandably want sympathy. When members' speculations or questions get uncomfortable for original posters, original posters mete out details in effort to support their position on matter while basically remaining mum on the whole story. Advice cannot be given in a vacuum.
  13. annandatje


    When the teachings of a faith drive a wedge between parent and child, for me, the relationship with child takes precedence. Honestly, if I were Scarlett's son and learned of various people giving their sympathies to her in regards to my behavior (which sounded like "concern trolling" to me), I would high tail it out of that town and probably that faith first chance I get. Hopefully son will let bygones be bygones and work on restoring the relationship.
  14. No, it is not helpful at all. However, I assume that person saying it is doing so out of kindness and concern unless there is overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
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