charlotteb Posted September 21, 2017 Share Posted September 21, 2017 DH and I made the decision several years ago, that when our kids turned 18, they are adults and can pay for all their own expenses. We even made them pay for a few things when they turned 16 (cell phone, car insurance if they want their license. If they want to get their license, get a part time job and pay for your own insurance.). We got married very young, right out of high school. We got jobs and paid for 100% of our own bills and sent DH through college without asking for anything from our parents. We raised children during an age much younger than most, and did it all on our own. We definitely learned the value of hard work and being independent. So, even now- we have one adult son, who is in full time college. We have given him zero dollars towards college. It is his job to fill out his FAFSA, apply for scholarships, or pay for the remaining money if there is more. He has a job, where he works about 30 hours a week. He bought his own cheap car, after saving for a while. He even moved out and rents a small house with two of his friends and they all pay their own bills (his choice). He has never been bitter with us for not helping him out, and actually seems thankful that he is learning true financial responsibility.. We will do the exact same thing with our daughters too. Our older daughter has had her permit for over a year. Not because she's a bad daughter, its because she hasn't found a part time job yet to pay for her car insurance. Are we the only ones?? I often feel like I am. Not trying to judge others at all, because I'm not in their situation. Just want to find others like me :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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