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  1. Thank you to all for responding and sharing your experiences. Good stuff. Looks like the biggies are physical exercise, limiting video games, coaching/tutoring, diet, and supplements and/or medication. Some of these we have tried to institute but with limited success because ds is incredibly stubborn and unwilling to do them (i.e., diet) or will try and then give up. I have to pick my battles with him and proceed carefully or he shuts down. He does like being physically active, so we will look into joining a gym. I can't really think of another way to get exercise. He usually plays hockey three seasons, but this year he had an engineering mentorship program he chose to do instead. He did spring track, but his event was javelin--not so grueling, lol. He's also receptive to supplements, and I recently purchased Finally Focused (haven't read it yet) so I'm happy to hear that's worked for Calming Tea. We try to limit gaming. He's never had gaming systems, but he does use a required iPad for school and will play on there. Unfortunately unless I'm sitting alongside him, there's no way to shut it down. He can get on Safari and play games. If he's not actively working on school I can take the iPad away, but it's a constant struggle and source of friction dealing with that thing. We are looking at colleges with support services, but everything I've read says the student still has to be the instigator and advocate for him/herself. Plus two of the best programs either don't have his major or are too big a reach for him. Our thought is to keep him very close, maybe even commuting, if he doesn't show improvement/maturation over the next year.
  2. Seeking advice on how to best handle a kid who has ADHD and exec functioning issues. My son (finishing up his jr year in hs) had a full neuropsych workup sophomore year that showed while he's incredibly bright, he does have ADHD and EF issues. He did not want to medicate. We fully supported that. He recently started EF coaching, which is helping, but progress is slow and costly, and at this point I don't know what the outcome will be. I'm at a loss as to what else to do to help him. Dh and I are strongly considering medication at this point because he's barely at a 3.0 gpa and the only thing he wants to do is become a civil engineer. We (husband, myself and son) are aware of how difficult that will be and have had conversations with him about alternate plans. I very much struggle with whether to be supportive or realistic with him about his future. Dh and I considered putting him on meds for the rest of this school year (about 3 weeks left) to see if that makes a difference, but how quickly do they even take effect? I only have a couple of acquaintances IRL whose children have ADHD, and they have been greatly helped by medication. Any advice as to how we handle senior year and college with this kid would be very much appreciated!
  3. Thanks, Beach Gal. I will check this out. We love good sushi and don't have a lot of good options near us at home! And that cocktail sounds yummy as well. And you're right. Everything is so beautiful right now - and it's a gorgeous day.
  4. Any cuisine. Looking for somewhere to eat tonight. Will check Yelp and/or Trip Advisor but wondered if any hivers had recommendations. TIA!
  5. DD will be back at the same job she had last year, hostessing/waitressing. They hire a lot of people so she doesn't get as many hours as she wants, but there aren't a ton of opportunities around here. She's taking a summer class at a local college because she has decided to double major, so this will allow her time to work on that.
  6. For us it was spot on for all 13 schools, like within $1000, even though some of the schools asked for much more detailed information than others. And that was both FAFSA and CSS profile schools. We didn't know what portions of that aid would come in as merit vs financial, but were pleasantly surprised that most of it was merit.
  7. Thank you to all who've responded, great input to help with my planning! For those who added info on Ireland, I am debating whether to add in a visit there. DH and kids are interested. I guess I would like to keep the trip to three countries. Thoughts on Ireland vs Scotland? How do you travel between GB and Ireland? Are there ferries? What's quickest/cheapest? I haven't looked into this at all.
  8. The park is so large that we stayed a few days in two different areas. We stayed at the Old Faithful Inn (traditional old park lodge) and Mammoth Springs Hotel (no frills, reminded me of a college dorm, but was really fine and I would recommend). We did the Grand Canyon at Yellowstone, which was pretty cool, and did a lot of hiking in both areas. In the Old Faithful Inn area it is more walking on the boardwalks and checking out the different thermal pools, but we did more traditional hiking in the north. Beaver Pond Trail was nice. We started our trip the day they opened (early May) and lucked out with the weather and crowds. The hotels were full but there was not a logjam of traffic anywhere, which is what the summers are like, I've heard. If you have time, Cody, Wyoming, is worth a visit and not too far from the East entrance of the park.
  9. Wow, thanks for all the great information so far! We did three countries last year (5 days in each) and needed to train to each one, which took considerable time, so I'm hoping 5 days in each of these countries (maybe 4 in Wales and/or Scotland and more in England) will work. DH spent a month in London on business before we were married, so he figures 3 days in London. We like the cultural aspect of being in a city but after a few days we're done. He agrees with a PP on getting out of London to rent a car, and that's is coming from someone who loves driving in NYC. I did some quick Google searches and it looks like England to Scotland can be anywhere from 7-10 hours drive time. Is that not correct? To me it seemed like it would be easy to tour those three countries. Maybe that is wrong. We did a 6 week trip out west when we were still homeschooling and did several 8-9 hour days driving in the car, so that is not a problem for us, lol. Laura, this would definitely be in June, looking at leaving around the 6th. What type of weather should we expect? And how would the crowds be around that time? We definitely want to rent a car, but dh is comfortable in any driving situation and loves his standard, so that should be no problem. Good advice on getting all the mileage/drive time down once we have a set itinerary, and thank you for the Rick Steves link. Also, in your opinion, where is the best hiking in Great Britain? And when you visit these types of areas, is parking at those locations also an issue?
  10. I am considering a trip to Great Britain for next June. Would like to visit England, Scotland, and Wales, hoping to do two weeks. We are a family of four that likes to mix up historical sites, cities/museums, countryside and also like to hike. After initial research I am thinking we will fly into London and spend a few days there. Would like to do the Cotswolds, Bath, either Exmoor or Peak National Park as well as the lakes/Hadrian's Wall area. In Wales we'd go to Snowdonia NP. In Scotland hit the Highlands. Is there anyone on here that's been there done that and can provide some recommendations like must do's, in what order to visit each country, places to stay, really any advice you can provide. Thank you in advance for any help!
  11. Any University of Rochester student can take free music lessons at the Eastman School.
  12. Has he considered taking the ACT? My son has applied for accommodations for SAT and ACT (ADHD) and heard back from the ACT within two days of the request. (still waiting to hear on SAT) My daughter got a much much higher score on the ACT vs SAT - some kids just do better with one over the other.
  13. Your state uni isn't always the least expensive option. My daughter (and actually my son as well) have no interest in our state uni. Neither of them want to attend that large a school. And I agree, for them . My dd applied to 13 schools, all but one was private. With the merit aid she received, at least five of them were the same or less than what we'd pay at our state uni. There is a LOT of merit out there. My daughter was not an academic superstar; she probably wasn't even in the top 10 or 15% of her class, but she got some great merit at schools in the top 100-150. University of ME has reciprocal tuition with a lot of states as well, so that's another option for inexpensive yet out of state.
  14. I'll admit that I did almost all the research and planning for dd (a freshman in college now) and am doing it for my son as well. Neither were self motivated to do the research but their expectation was that they would go to college. My kids are busy with school, activities, jobs. I like doing the research so I did. I scheduled the tours and traveled with them (great, great quality time) Maybe that was enabling? Idk. But I'm not sorry I did it. I was not a hovering kind of parent in any other area of their lives, but I felt I had the time and desire so why not. DD has admitted that while she wasn't super motivated academically in high school, she sure is now. She's doing really well and spends a lot of time planning and researching different majors (still not sure what she wants to do) and meeting with her advisor. She is loving just taking classes that interest her and building strong relationships with her professors, is involved in a lot of groups on campus. Dh and I are totally hands off. I have a lot of parents come to me and pick my brain on how to start/go through the process - it's daunting even to them! So I can see where maybe a busy teenager who doesn't really know what they want is clueless or apathetic about beginning the college search process.
  15. I haven't read through all the responses, so this may have been mentioned, but do you have any state directional colleges? That would be my suggestion, a step above cc in the sense that she can live on campus and get the full "college experience" but still very reasonably priced with a broad offering of majors. This is what I am considering for my ds. He knows what he wants to do (civil engineering, which is not offered at any cc's) but he's not very academically motivated. He does okay (around a B- average) but could do better. I know how difficult engineering is, and I'm not sure I want to chance a lot of money on tuition if it doesn't work out. So we are thinking maybe he starts there and we see how he does. If he does well, great. He can stay and complete his degree or transfer if he wishes. But it's a lower risk option for us.
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