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  1. Last year I started teaching physics at a local catholic high school as my post-homeschooling career. I made my students write a formal lab report each quarter and in both the 3rd and 4th quarter I received lab reports exactly like this. It wasn't like they were copied and pasted from somewhere but rather like they had been copied and pasted and run through a thesaurus. The words were correct on the surface but the gradiations of meaning were totally wrong. I spent way too much time on the internet searching for a website or program that did this but I couldn't find anything. I went and talked to our English teachers and they didn't have any clue what had happened either but I was sure. And now it looks like I was right.
  2. I would be very concerned that your daughter has anorexia. My daughter has anorexia and is in the middle of recovery from her 3rd relapse. She started off with a very restrictive diet and, yep refused to eat healthy fruits and vegetables because she was afraid she would "binge" on them. She was eating 300 calories max on week days and 500 on weekends. Anorexia causes all these problems. When you stop eating (and 1000 calories a day does not count as eating) your body stops producing the enzymes needed to digest food. When you start again it takes months for these symptoms to disappear. Someone mentioned upthread that recovery eating is 3000+ calories a day. That has been true all three times for us. My daughter reached that threshold in about March and she is still dealing with gas, bloating, water retention and stomach pain after every meal. She usually experiences nausea about 15 minutes after eating when her blood sugar starts to rise. Her blood sugar was so low that she had a seizure and from October until March she started shaking every time her blood sugar dropped which was about every two hours. Gas-x and miralax are our friends. Anorexia is NOT glamorous. These are also symptoms of malnutrition. One year ago this week, I came back from a two week long training class to find that my daughter hadn't eaten anything at all during the week for the last two weeks, she only ate on weekends and the was a max of 300 calories. She had lost 50 ponds. She was freezing all the time and wore a sweater through our humid Virginia summer, her hair was falling out and she took multiple naps a day. We were on relapse number 3. Today she weighs 40 pounds more, she is happy. She is still scared of many foods and situations. She sees her therapist twice a week and her dietician once a week. Get good ones that are known for eating disorders. They won't take insurance, none of the good ones do. I file out of network claims. It is expensive but it is saving my daughter's life. Said gently, find a new doctor. Walk away from the special diet. People with a predisposition to eating disorders cannot eat restrictive diets, especially early in recovery. Excluding any food group gives their brain "permission" to restrict. Your daughter needs to eat carbs, and fat and protein and sugar. She needs to eat 3000+ calories a day and she needs doctors and support staff tat understand that.
  3. My family member currently has four different providers, an EMDR therapist, a psychologist, a dietician and a psychiatrist. All are specialists on their field, very well known and respected in our area and non are listed on psychology today. We found ours by word of mouth.
  4. The EMDR Institute has a "find a clinician" link on their website
  5. Judgemental much? Yep, its all fat peoples' fault for being so stupid. And sugar is not addictive. The study that said it was, yeah they hadn't fed the rats for 12 hours and then gave them a choice of cocaine or sugar. One is non-nutritive.
  6. There was a consensus on fat in the 80's and 90's and consensus on cholesterol too. I remember hearing on the news, that no one should eat more than one egg a week. We are now beginning to realize that fat isn't so bad and that most people filled the place fats had held with sugar. Eggs are no longer vilified either. I do not believe the "consensus" No food is bad or evil, especially if it is not made in a lab. Food is not moral or immoral.
  7. I second this. A loved one did have a suicide attempt due to unresolved trauma (PTSD), after 2, 12-week sessions of EMDR over the last 18 month I can honestly say that it has saved her life.
  8. This is the only thing that needs to be said on this topic, ever. I live with a loved one who struggles with anorexia and I am so tired of hearing everyone and their brother have an opinion about what anyone eats. I am tired of hearing that 1200-1500 calories a day is reasonable for women. Go read about the Minnesota Starvation Experiments. Food choices are NOT moral choices. Food has no morality. The diet industry is evil and is preying on our insecurities. Follow the money. Free yourself, buy this book.
  9. You once mentioned a religion book (catholic) that you used with your early elementary kids. I remember it being pretty old and when I looked at the link you provided, I really liked it. I thought that I had saved the link, but I cant find it. Can you remind me of the textbook/curriculum? Thank You Tania
  10. My son is a fourth (freshman) at Virginia Military Institute. He loves the school and we have been very impressed by everything about it, but its marketing phrase "No ordinary college, no ordinary life." could not be more true. It is an extremely spartan, regimented life, full of close friendships, tight-knit community and school spirit. Definitely go visit. The first 6-7 months of school are dominated by the rat line. Extremely strict, military life style, no cell phone etc. Sports are a huge deal at VMI. Club sports have dedicated practice time each week and the school has 16 Div 1 NCAA teams. They have one of the few women's water polo teams on the east coast and a number of women come out from California just for that reason. Overall VMI is about 85% male and 15% female. Do you have specific questions about VMI?
  11. Virginia Military Institute has an Arabic language program
  12. You are not overthinking this. Do not comment on a person's weight...ever. I have a daughter with anorexia, I can't tell you how much it triggers her when people comment on her weight (usually complimentary) because while Americans think thinner is better it is not true and she actually needs to and is gaining weight and it kills her when people mention her weight because she worries that if she looks great now she will look bad when she reaches the weight that her doctor and dietician have decided is healthy for her.
  13. Do not listen to a single person here. They do not have any training in eating disorders or recovery. My daughter is back in treatment for her third relapse for anorexia. Her dietician has her eating 2800 calories per day and she is still increasing her. Due to restricting during the day, it is not at all unusual for my daughter to eat 500-1000 of that after dinner. It is not binging. Years of restricting really messes up your endocrine system. My daughter struggles with blood sugar regulation right now and frequently shakes uncontrollably from low blood sugar when she needs to eat (and she eats every two hours). Cutting carbs etc, as recommended above is all bad advice. You need a dietician and a good therapist. Both need to be experienced with eating disorders. The people that are do not take insurance. I file for out-of-network benefits. My daughter sees her therapist twice a week and her dietician once. It costs a lot of money but when we tried to use in-network before they really didn't know what they were doing and her we are again, in relapse.
  14. Thank You everyone for your thoughts. To answer a few questions: I began the year teaching much the same way I homeschooled. No homework was graded. I only teach 1 lesson out of 7, the rest of the days are collaborative work; concept and math development exercises; virtual labs; full-blown fancy lab equipment labs; demonstrations etc. Tests were open-note to encourage them to learn to take good notes. The first problem that I ran in to was that nothing got accomplished that wasn't graded. The first thing that I heard every time I introduced a concept or handed out a page was "how many points is this worth?" Then if I said none, nothing got done. They would chat with each other, stare in to space, do homework for other classes. In frustration, I began grading everything. The one day that I "lecture" and introduce the new concepts and equations in the chapter, the kids would literally sleep through the class. No one paid any attention at all. I started giving them a multiple choice quiz on the lecture immediately after the lecture. They knew it was coming, no one paid attention. I have about 4 students per class that get A's, 8 that fail and a bunch in the middle. I also have 33 out of 135 students on IEPs (primarily for ADD) that require that I give them class notes, so I started using the power points provided by the textbook (Conceptual Physics, by Paul Hewitt). Then students were showing up for the test with printouts of the slides. They weren't studying, just sitting there and searching their notes for the answers. So tests became closed-book, no notes. I would have the students solve problems in class, and then I would provide the answers on the board immediately and walk through the solutions so that they would understand and they would sit there and do nothing until I gave the answer. I am a big fan of collaborative learning, the day after I introduced a new chapter, I gave them a concept development worksheet by the publisher to complete in groups in class. My class looked like a commercial for collaborative learning, students working in small groups, talking about physics. I collected the sheets to spot check them, every single one was wrong. They taught each other the wrong answers, And here I am. I still believe in providing quick feedback so that they know whether or not they understand what I am teaching, I grade work for 2-3 hours every night. I have quit reading and sewing because I am grading. The cheating is as bad as ever and if they were learning the material, I could probably reach a zen state about it, but their test scores just keep falling. We just finished momentum and the average test score was 12/30. Two of the test problems they needed to solve were on their homework, word-for-word. This is the second test I have done that on. No one even noticed. Many students got the homework question right and then failed the test questions. They really believe that after a chapter is done they should never need to see the information again. I had a revolt when work, energy and power questions )our current chapter) required them to use the momentum equation from last chapter. And this is why I am frustrated and exhausted. I don't spend my life trying to catch cheating, it is so obvious that I can't avoid seeing it. My administration is good about letting us run our classes. I do not have to use specific tests or anything like that. I do need to use the Conceptual Physics textbook but I like the text. I think that I am going to go with Regentrude and Pippen's suggestion and go back to ungraded homework, with a quiz each unit with questions directly from the homework. The quiz grade will count as their homework grade.
  15. I do make my own materials pretty regularly but as a first-time teacher it can be time consuming and overwhelming so using some of the publisher produced materials helps. Physics is required for graduation. I think my biggest frustration has to do with that fact that they do not understand what they are doing. (The test average on the last test was 13/30) but they persist in cheating rather than learning the material.
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