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  1. My family member currently has four different providers, an EMDR therapist, a psychologist, a dietician and a psychiatrist. All are specialists on their field, very well known and respected in our area and non are listed on psychology today. We found ours by word of mouth.
  2. The EMDR Institute has a "find a clinician" link on their website
  3. Judgemental much? Yep, its all fat peoples' fault for being so stupid. And sugar is not addictive. The study that said it was, yeah they hadn't fed the rats for 12 hours and then gave them a choice of cocaine or sugar. One is non-nutritive.
  4. There was a consensus on fat in the 80's and 90's and consensus on cholesterol too. I remember hearing on the news, that no one should eat more than one egg a week. We are now beginning to realize that fat isn't so bad and that most people filled the place fats had held with sugar. Eggs are no longer vilified either. I do not believe the "consensus" No food is bad or evil, especially if it is not made in a lab. Food is not moral or immoral.
  5. I second this. A loved one did have a suicide attempt due to unresolved trauma (PTSD), after 2, 12-week sessions of EMDR over the last 18 month I can honestly say that it has saved her life.
  6. This is the only thing that needs to be said on this topic, ever. I live with a loved one who struggles with anorexia and I am so tired of hearing everyone and their brother have an opinion about what anyone eats. I am tired of hearing that 1200-1500 calories a day is reasonable for women. Go read about the Minnesota Starvation Experiments. Food choices are NOT moral choices. Food has no morality. The diet industry is evil and is preying on our insecurities. Follow the money. Free yourself, buy this book.
  7. You once mentioned a religion book (catholic) that you used with your early elementary kids. I remember it being pretty old and when I looked at the link you provided, I really liked it. I thought that I had saved the link, but I cant find it. Can you remind me of the textbook/curriculum? Thank You Tania
  8. My son is a fourth (freshman) at Virginia Military Institute. He loves the school and we have been very impressed by everything about it, but its marketing phrase "No ordinary college, no ordinary life." could not be more true. It is an extremely spartan, regimented life, full of close friendships, tight-knit community and school spirit. Definitely go visit. The first 6-7 months of school are dominated by the rat line. Extremely strict, military life style, no cell phone etc. Sports are a huge deal at VMI. Club sports have dedicated practice time each week and the school has 16 Div 1 NCAA teams. They have one of the few women's water polo teams on the east coast and a number of women come out from California just for that reason. Overall VMI is about 85% male and 15% female. Do you have specific questions about VMI?
  9. Virginia Military Institute has an Arabic language program
  10. You are not overthinking this. Do not comment on a person's weight...ever. I have a daughter with anorexia, I can't tell you how much it triggers her when people comment on her weight (usually complimentary) because while Americans think thinner is better it is not true and she actually needs to and is gaining weight and it kills her when people mention her weight because she worries that if she looks great now she will look bad when she reaches the weight that her doctor and dietician have decided is healthy for her.
  11. Do not listen to a single person here. They do not have any training in eating disorders or recovery. My daughter is back in treatment for her third relapse for anorexia. Her dietician has her eating 2800 calories per day and she is still increasing her. Due to restricting during the day, it is not at all unusual for my daughter to eat 500-1000 of that after dinner. It is not binging. Years of restricting really messes up your endocrine system. My daughter struggles with blood sugar regulation right now and frequently shakes uncontrollably from low blood sugar when she needs to eat (and she eats every two hours). Cutting carbs etc, as recommended above is all bad advice. You need a dietician and a good therapist. Both need to be experienced with eating disorders. The people that are do not take insurance. I file for out-of-network benefits. My daughter sees her therapist twice a week and her dietician once. It costs a lot of money but when we tried to use in-network before they really didn't know what they were doing and her we are again, in relapse.
  12. Thank You everyone for your thoughts. To answer a few questions: I began the year teaching much the same way I homeschooled. No homework was graded. I only teach 1 lesson out of 7, the rest of the days are collaborative work; concept and math development exercises; virtual labs; full-blown fancy lab equipment labs; demonstrations etc. Tests were open-note to encourage them to learn to take good notes. The first problem that I ran in to was that nothing got accomplished that wasn't graded. The first thing that I heard every time I introduced a concept or handed out a page was "how many points is this worth?" Then if I said none, nothing got done. They would chat with each other, stare in to space, do homework for other classes. In frustration, I began grading everything. The one day that I "lecture" and introduce the new concepts and equations in the chapter, the kids would literally sleep through the class. No one paid any attention at all. I started giving them a multiple choice quiz on the lecture immediately after the lecture. They knew it was coming, no one paid attention. I have about 4 students per class that get A's, 8 that fail and a bunch in the middle. I also have 33 out of 135 students on IEPs (primarily for ADD) that require that I give them class notes, so I started using the power points provided by the textbook (Conceptual Physics, by Paul Hewitt). Then students were showing up for the test with printouts of the slides. They weren't studying, just sitting there and searching their notes for the answers. So tests became closed-book, no notes. I would have the students solve problems in class, and then I would provide the answers on the board immediately and walk through the solutions so that they would understand and they would sit there and do nothing until I gave the answer. I am a big fan of collaborative learning, the day after I introduced a new chapter, I gave them a concept development worksheet by the publisher to complete in groups in class. My class looked like a commercial for collaborative learning, students working in small groups, talking about physics. I collected the sheets to spot check them, every single one was wrong. They taught each other the wrong answers, And here I am. I still believe in providing quick feedback so that they know whether or not they understand what I am teaching, I grade work for 2-3 hours every night. I have quit reading and sewing because I am grading. The cheating is as bad as ever and if they were learning the material, I could probably reach a zen state about it, but their test scores just keep falling. We just finished momentum and the average test score was 12/30. Two of the test problems they needed to solve were on their homework, word-for-word. This is the second test I have done that on. No one even noticed. Many students got the homework question right and then failed the test questions. They really believe that after a chapter is done they should never need to see the information again. I had a revolt when work, energy and power questions )our current chapter) required them to use the momentum equation from last chapter. And this is why I am frustrated and exhausted. I don't spend my life trying to catch cheating, it is so obvious that I can't avoid seeing it. My administration is good about letting us run our classes. I do not have to use specific tests or anything like that. I do need to use the Conceptual Physics textbook but I like the text. I think that I am going to go with Regentrude and Pippen's suggestion and go back to ungraded homework, with a quiz each unit with questions directly from the homework. The quiz grade will count as their homework grade.
  13. I do make my own materials pretty regularly but as a first-time teacher it can be time consuming and overwhelming so using some of the publisher produced materials helps. Physics is required for graduation. I think my biggest frustration has to do with that fact that they do not understand what they are doing. (The test average on the last test was 13/30) but they persist in cheating rather than learning the material.
  14. I can turn them in to the honor council (their decision is a recommendation, I can do what I will to punish the transgression) and I do every time. I am just overwhelmed though with the frequency.
  15. Help! I graduated my youngest from high school in June and started a teaching job in August. I teach physics at a parochial school in the metro area of a large city. I teach 135 regular students each day, no honors or AP and the cheating is going to send me over the edge. In September I caught 60 of my students cheating on a homework assignment by copying the answers from a website. The answers on the website were wrong, so I caught them. The next week one student cheated on an extra-credit assignment. It was a video with a question at the end. The student copied the answer from the comments section on the video on another website (I had embedded the video on my class website) Then I had quite a few copy the homework answers from each other. Last week one student took a picture of another students work right in front of me. Then, tonight, I am grading an assignment that was completed in class, and 12 out of 18 copied the answers directly out of an online copy of the answer key. 2 definitely didn't cheat and 4 probably did but they were smart enough to change their wording. I am frustrated and tired. I am seriously considering collecting all their phones on Monday and then passing out a copy of the worksheet and having them complete it as test grade. Any ideas on how to stop them from cheating or reaching a zen state where I just don't care?
  16. My college degree is in engineering. I homeschooled all three of my children through high school with my youngest graduating this last June. In January of this year I decided that I wanted to substitute teach or teach small classes in the homeschool community. Our local public schools pay subs $100/day. A lady that I had co-taught a co-op class with taught at a local catholic high school, I met with her to go over how to word my co-op classes on my resume. She asked me to apply for a job opening at her school in her department. I did and was hired a few weeks later to fill a different position at the school. In August I began my first year teaching high school physics and engineering at a catholic high school. I teach 143 students each day in five physics classes and one project lead the way engineering class. I love my job. I love my co-workers. The kids are great. They are polite and bright and kind. It is also very challenging. I spend a lot of time planning and have a lot to learn all the time. I do need to earn a certificate. I can choose to get a state certificate or a Catholic schools certificate. The catholic schools certificate requires fewer hours so that is my current plan. the most challenging aspect of my job has been that most of my students aren’t reall that interested in learning. They want to do the minimum required to get a good grade. I had a problem at the beginning of the year with a large group cheating on a homework assignment. Many that I caught were apologetic but all said that they figured it was better to cheat than to turn in an incomplete homework assignment. Dealing with the lack of intellectual curiosity has been emotionally challenging for me. I want to teach and I want them to be excited to learn. The family adjustment to having me at work rather than at hone has been better than I expected. I still cook dinner most nights but my husband has taken over laundry. It is harder to shop on weekends and sad that I cannot just hop in the car next Friday morning to pick up my son from college for thanksgiving break. We are having to arrange a car pool. i see myself being in this job for quite some time. I am 46 and really do enjoy teaching. I do not see myself in the public schools. I make $47,700 each year. I do not regret homeschooling my children through high school and if I had another child I would do it again, but I am where I was meant to be right now. I never even considered teaching when I was growing up but I love it now.
  17. Our doctor wanted genetic testing for medicine decisions. She used a company called genomind. The company filed with our insurance (who doesn't cover genetic testing) and then appealed their refusal for the maximum number of appeals and when it still wasn't covered they gave us a "scholarship" that covered all but $300. They believe that all patients should have access to genetic testing for health reasons.
  18. I love learning to make new things. I have made: shampoo bars (didn't like them, I have curly hair and it is very picky) lye soap (fun to make and not really that hard to do) bath bombs (lots of fun to make and use) herbal salve (a favorite with everyone. Everyone I give it to, wants more) Bath tea (a great gift) homemade salt scrub Willow and Sage magazine has great recipes for bath and beauty products and is beautiful homemade cheese (I have never been successful with mozzarella but I make paneer and ricotta regularly) cultured butter (delicious) I make my own cultured buttermilk all the time italian sausage and breakfast sausage beef jerky cocktail cherries (homemade maraschino cherries, like luxardo cherries but a lot less expensive) vanilla raspberry cordial ( the recipe said raspberry micronutrients, and I realized about two steps in that I was making alcohol, its delicious) homemade lysol wipes laundry detergent (we have hard water and it just didn't work as well as Tide) I can my own jam, applesauce and canned peach slices most years I have canned cherry pie filling, chicken, beans (pinto and garbanzo), diced tomatoes, spaghetti sauce and green beans one or more times. I make and can my own chicken broth periodically I know there are other things. Like I said, I love to try new things
  19. Last week I was at training for my new teaching job (post homeschool career) and was surprised to discover, in my small sample of engineering and technology teachers, that the primary cook in all of their families except mine was the husband. My brother and his wife both work full-time and he does all the cooking and frankly most of the childcare (and I am not criticizing my SIL, I really like her) Who does 75% or more of the dinner cooking at your house?
  20. The book A Can, A Man and a Microwave is full of microwave recipes that were featured in the magazine, Men's Health over the years. My husband has used them many times while deployed or on military business travel in hotels with a microwave and refrigerator.
  21. Yep, that's what we use.
  22. I am sorry. First of all I would say that the best option will probably be a combination of all the plans that you laid out. Find more clients use student loans cut expenses keep the house, you are very close to having it paid off have your son drop down to one instrument, lessons are great but expensive. He is only 11 and will be fine just studying one formally right now keep the chickens, they provide free food, but id you can adopt out some to cut down your feed costs that would help. pets are expensive. I recently calculated that our 2 guinea pigs and 1 rabbit have cost us $130/month over the last two years. Can you cut down to just one or two pets rather than 7?
  23. I finished a rocking chair with Varethane (water based) 22 years ago in a satin finish. It still looks great today. We have used varethane on all of our wood working projects since then and beeb pleased every time. Use a separate wood stain, do not use in all-in-one.
  24. My son's favorite daypack is the REI flash 18. It holds just enough, has comfortable straps and can hold a water bladder if you want one.
  25. ringworm Its fungal and can be treated with lotramin cream
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