Haiku Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 ... or do they not have them to begin with? I just went to pick my kids up from day camp. Another mother started talking to me as we waited for our kids. She asked me which kids were mine. I pointed out my son and daughter, and she asked how old they are. I gave her their ages. The kids are less than a year apart and are of different races. This women looked at me, laughed, and said, "You must have been busy and not overly picky!" :blink: I'm not mad or anything, because I don't care what she thinks (and clearly adoption is not a familiar concept for her), but I'm just ... gobsmacked ... that someone would say something that effing stupid! Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dansamy Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 ROFL! I think I'd have died laughing on the spot! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I'm stunned. I was going to say that was unbelievable...but, unfortunately, it's not. Meh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RamonaQ Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Offensive. And to answer your question, yes, both!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 What an idiot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 ROFL! I think I'd have died laughing on the spot! :iagree: I think I would have asked her did she realize what she just said?!?!?!:lol: Or I could have come up with something really snarky to say but said it in such a way that the person thought I was serious...:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Yeah, gobsmacked is what I would have been. Did you tell her the kids were adopted? That should have shut her down and turned her a variety of pinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Is it possible that she meant you were lucky to adopt twice, so close together? I know that's a stretch, but otherwise...gosh, I'd be gobsmacked, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mejane Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I pick the second choice, no brain at all. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I do!! I have a brain model that I use for my classes. I got to school the other day, opened my bag and said "Aw, man, I left my brain at home." Not the thing to say in front of 19 college students. --- I am so sorry she said that to you. How rude!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan in SC Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Holy_____, Batman!! That is the craziest thing I have ever heard!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emzhengjiu Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 "You must have been busy and not overly picky!" Wow, I hope she didn't really mean what she said. I wouldn't find the "busy" comment an issue and would have probably laughed but the "not overly picky" part would have raised my momma bear spirit. It's just ugly and could be overheard by the children. It's hurtful and of course totally unnecessary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Seriously? That actually surprises me.... you mean she's so stupid?? If it were true... it's rude.... and it would look like adoption to a smart person :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kahlanne Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 LOL! I wasn't expecting the overly picky comment. People will say the dumbest things without batting an eyelash. I get similar comments to the busy one you got. My favorite is "Don't you know what causes that?" Which I reply, "Sure do and its fun! Maybe you should try it sometimes." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen in CO Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 So what did you say to her? I think either my mouth would have just hung open, or I might have been able to say said, "Wow." I'm pretty sure something that amazingly rude would have left me mostly speechless. Make sure you don't let her know they are adopted. :) I have this whole scenario in my head..... Imagine what some sane person in her life is going to tell her when she tells them about this. Are we taking bets on her avoiding you in the future? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Warning: snark to follow. Click away now. Her: "You must not have been overly picky." You: "Obviously pickier than you were with yours." Sorry. Don't know what's got me this morning. Afternoon. Jeepers, it's not a coffee problem anymore...I better go before I get in trouble w/ my fingers. :leaving: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 So what did you say to her? Unfortunately, I didn't say anything to her because my son ran up right then and started chattering at me. I think I just looked at her in shock and walked away. Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen in CO Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Her: "You must not have been overly picky."You: "Obviously pickier than you were with yours." :leaving: :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Holy. cow. I am flabbergasted. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Dang, Aubrey beat me to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy at Home Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I don't get it:confused: What was that supposed to mean, busy and not picky? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 I don't get it:confused: What was that supposed to mean, busy and not picky? Well, I took it to mean that I was sexually busy and not picky about whom I slept with. She didn't say, "You must BE busy." She said, "You must have BEEN busy." And the way she said it was not exactly complimentary. Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Well, I took it to mean that I was sexually busy and not picky about whom I slept with. She didn't say, "You must BE busy." She said, "You must have BEEN busy." And the way she said it was not exactly complimentary. Tara Oh. That hadn't occurred to me. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Brains are optiional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehogs4 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 i think i would have looked at her long and hard without cracking an expression and said, "they're adopted." then turned around and walked away to leave her standing in her puddle of stupidity all by herself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Wow. I don't even know what to say. How RUDE!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3littlekeets Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Wowsa,,,,next time you see her I'd be tempted to tell her that her comment really bothered you and note that your children were very wanted and very much a product of great thought and great CHOICE...not haste and oversight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 That leaves me pretty much speechless....seriously, what is wrong with people?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LNC Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can top that! We adopted a medically fragile african american baby when we already had our my profoundly disabled oldest son.. When our oldest was 7 and in a wheelchair and our adopted son was 3, they both were on O2. We also had a 18 month old and a newborn and attracted lots of interest whenever we went anywhere. The best story was an elderly lady was flustered and asked if my two oldest were "TWINS":lol:. The comment made to you was just mean though.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nrg Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 A useful riposte: "I'm sorry. I don't quite understand. Could you explain that to me?" or "What makes you say that?" said with wide-eyed innocence and charm. She should be the one squirming, not you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mrsjamiesouth Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 A useful riposte: "I'm sorry. I don't quite understand. Could you explain that to me?" . I like this one. I often use being Blonde to my advantage, though.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I think that may be the rudest comment ever made. What a horrible thing to say to someone! Normal people could spend weeks trying to come up with something half as crappy and not get there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy at Home Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Well, I took it to mean that I was sexually busy and not picky about whom I slept with. She didn't say, "You must BE busy." She said, "You must have BEEN busy." And the way she said it was not exactly complimentary. Tara :w00t: Tara, how does one deal with such ignorance? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Stupid, yes. Also boundary-less, tactless, and really rude. :ack2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 ... or do they not have them to begin with? I just went to pick my kids up from day camp. Another mother started talking to me as we waited for our kids. She asked me which kids were mine. I pointed out my son and daughter, and she asked how old they are. I gave her their ages. The kids are less than a year apart and are of different races. This women looked at me, laughed, and said, "You must have been busy and not overly picky!" :blink: I'm not mad or anything, because I don't care what she thinks (and clearly adoption is not a familiar concept for her), but I'm just ... gobsmacked ... that someone would say something that effing stupid! Tara :lol::lol::lol:Oh my! Thank you. Best laugh I've had all day. Okay, that is about the most rude, ridiculous comment I have ever heard. It beats every stupid twin question I ever encountered!!!:lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Wow. I mean, just... wow. I think I'd have been flabbergasted, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Well, I took it to mean that I was sexually busy and not picky about whom I slept with. She didn't say, "You must BE busy." She said, "You must have BEEN busy." And the way she said it was not exactly complimentary. Tara That was my first thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 :glare: It must be the heat. Idiotic comment. Hindsight, and if I thought I'd never see her again I might have said, "Well a girls got to earn a living somehow." Okay, I would never have the guts to say it, but I would think it as a snarky response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rookie Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Not some. A lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 A useful riposte: "I'm sorry. I don't quite understand. Could you explain that to me?" or "What makes you say that?" said with wide-eyed innocence and charm. She should be the one squirming, not you. This would be my approach, if not a really clear, "WHAT did you just say?" I honestly would have persisted until she was forced to explain herself. Maybe that would save someone else from her joke first, ask questions later method. I am sorry you even had to hear that. Even ignorance doesn't excuse a statement like that. How could she have thought it even remotely funny? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom25girls Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 OH MY! Our 4 youngest daughters are very close in age. Three of our daughters are of a different race (they were adopted). Now that they are older, I've had to think of something to say when confronted with particularly ignorant or offensive comments. I've had much success with putting on my sweetest face and innocently remarking "Oh dear, how embarrassing for you." Goodness..some people really don't think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Her: "You must not have been overly picky." You: "Obviously pickier than you were with yours." Sorry. Don't know what's got me this morning. Afternoon. Jeepers, it's not a coffee problem anymore...I better go before I get in trouble w/ my fingers. :leaving: :iagree::iagree::iagree: :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 i think i would have looked at her long and hard without cracking an expression and said, "they're adopted." then turned around and walked away to leave her standing in her puddle of stupidity all by herself. ok, this is going to be my new favorite saying. Everyone I know is going to get sick of it. I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I think that may be the rudest comment ever made. What a horrible thing to say to someone! Normal people could spend weeks trying to come up with something half as crappy and not get there. :grouphug: When you see her next you should mention the comment she made, and then use the exact words above. That will shut her up. My youngest has had to deal with rude people with their idiotic comments and questions, but I don't think an adult has ever been as stupid as the woman you encountered. I'm really sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 It's rude, for sure. Stupid and rude. "Well, honey, there's this thing called adoption. That doesn't mean I'm not still busy, though!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I am in a bad mood anyway, but this is really p*ssing me off. What a jerk. I am so sorry that you had to deal with that idiotface. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kym Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 :glare: It must be the heat. Idiotic comment. Hindsight, and if I thought I'd never see her again I might have said, "Well a girls got to earn a living somehow." Okay, I would never have the guts to say it, but I would think it as a snarky response. :lol::lol: I'd never be able to come up with something that good off-the-cuff, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 so you gotta know what my answer to such a loaded question is going to be!! :D As for this woman's comment to you, I think other posters have hit the nail on the head -- rude and thoughtless (in the absolute literal meaning of the word). And Aubrey and E.L. -- loved the retorts. I'm too will remember the puddle of stupidity comment - so many applications... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 What an idiot. :iagree: Wow. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 "Oh dear, how embarrassing for you." I. Love. This. Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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