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  1. would you stay outside of philly and drive in each day or stay in the city near the historic district? I need CLEAN and CHEAP. (I am totally OCD about cleanliness - a real germophobe)
  2. I am so grateful for the replies. I do not want to control my dd. I want her to learn, to live, to love, to be free. My fear is that she will "lose" herself in this relationship. I am not sure that she has enough sense of herself and may focus on the boy to her own disadvantage. I also know that the boy has lied to his parents about this. They do not approve of any romantic notions AT ALL until he is much, much older. I understand why he lied to them when confronted but it is dishonoring to my daughter. She ends up looking like the besotted girl chasing after him! And, she has been brave enough to speak openly with me about everything while he pursues her on the sly. How do I handle these particular issues? Please keep the help and good advice coming. I'm a newbie at this and was raised by barbarians.
  3. either your own or your dc, please share how. This is not going away. It has gone from long-term crush to full blown "we're in love" and they are 14. If you were these kids or have kids who went through this and came out okay on the other side, please share your story. Thanks.
  4. Can someone tell me about visiting Philadelphia? I've never been there and can't wrap my brain around it: what to see, where to stay, how long to stay.... I know it's a big city and there's lots to do but I am just interested in the colonial/revolutionary sites, a clean and safe place to stay, and some good eats. Thanks.
  5. thanks! please others chime in too. are there any special places to stay while visiting these attractions? any great places to eat local specialties?
  6. I need help. :001_smile: Please share your ONE favorite read aloud for ages 8-12 on: Colonial America Revolutionary America Louisiana Purchase War of 1812 Oregon Trail Santa Fe Trail Civil War Yep, we are studying American History and I want one read aloud for each topic. They will do their individual recommended readings. I find reading aloud difficult for me - they LOVE it. Please share your favorites and maybe I will find it easier! :001_smile:
  7. What are the: must-dos must-sees must-eats must-experience must-stays? What's the weather like late September/ Early October?
  8. This is what I am learning and doing now too. I wish I would have learned this earlier. I also think that when our dc are acting up and we want them to change, it is time to start looking at ourselves and seeing how we have to change.
  9. my poor ds (8) lost his all-star game today. this is the third time he has made the team and then lost the big game. he LOVES baseball. he LIVES baseball. he is MISERABLE. what do I say? what do I do? :sad:
  10. I never said that or implied it. My friend has always been anxious that her son NOT become romantically involved before he is 25! She has told me time and again that he is not allowed to have any intimacy, at all, until he is in his twenties. She found out that he liked my dd because she read his private emails. She informed me. THEN, I stated that I loved them both and understood that they would be attracted to each other. That since they had feelings for each other we really could not be on the one hand telling them to wait and on the other throwing them together into close quarters. I wish everything could stay as it was but that is not reality. If they are attracted to each other, is it wise to be having sleep-overs? So, I was basically supporting what she says she wants for her ds. Regarding the rest of your post about friendship - it is good for me to think about this. Thank you for sharing.
  11. Thank you for all of the helpful replies! Just wanted to let you know that the teens are young and we live in separate states.... they have spent a lot of time together because we have traveled to see each other and they email/write to each other. It is not dating but they have gone beyond just being friends. My friend and her family just spent 10 days in my home. We had a great time. At no time did I sense any problem. I made every effort to show them a great time. My mom's intuition about possible feelings between the two dc was on alert this trip and it ended up being right. Nothing serious happened but they do like each other and are interested in each other. That is why when my friend emailed me saying that she thought her ds and my dd were interested in each other I thought it important to say that we really had to stop staying in each others' homes and leaving them alone as we have in the past. I love both of these kids. They are great. Just young and I know - from personal experience - that you do not leave hormonally driven teens who like each other alone! That's all. I cannot believe this is happening. I suppose you are all right that there must be something else. I just wish I knew what it was so that I could address it! I think that I will follow the advice to go ahead and feel sad but give her time and space. I never, ever imagined this would happen between us. :sad:
  12. Thank you for all of the replies. I will tell you exactly what happened and you tell me where I went wrong.... We have two opposite gender teens. Growing up, we have always stayed in each other's home during trips and allowed t he dc to hang out without much supervision. Well, they have grown fond of each other. I said that we would have to stop staying in the same house together and leaving them unsupervised together in order to avoid any "problems." That's all. She says that she agrees with the decision but does not like that I was so "insensitive" in the way I said it. :confused: She only told me after I asked several times why she was talking to me as if she was mad at me. I did apologize. She is still mad.
  13. A close friend is mad at me. I have no idea why. I asked and asked, she told me that I had been insensitive in an email. I apologized and explained that what I meant and what she heard were totally different but I would try to be more careful when communicating by email in the future. She kept being mad. Now she is not talking to me. I did not actually do anything wrong, I just communicated something we both agree on too "boardroom - like" for her communication style. Again, I apologized. She was not direct with me when she felt hurt - I had to ask and ask - and was very sharp in her manner when she finally told me what I had "done wrong." I can honestly say that I have been very dedicated, loving, and attentive in this relationship and am completely floored by her actions. I do not want to call and try to "fix" it again as I already tried that, apologized for the mistake, and feel that she is not treating me like a friend. But I still cannot wrap my mind around this and wish she would call and be straight with me so that we can work it out. What would you do?
  14. Has anyone sold their house on their own. If so, please share how you did it from marketing to closing. What do I need to be aware of? Plan for? Ask for? How do I advertise it? Etc. All info. appreciated. Feeling overwhelmed. :(
  15. The problem is that it's this weird space that you cannot get into. It's like a crawl space between the two floors of the house and there is no entrance. Short of taking down entire walls/ceilings there is no way to get to the area.
  16. I NEED quiet. Noise makes me cranky. I have to declare periods of silence at home or I would not be able to function.
  17. This is so disgusting and nightmarish that if you are at all squeamish, please exit this thread now. Something - maybe a rat or possum - has died in a totally inaccessible crawl space in my ceiling. The stink has been atrocious and now there are ENOURMOUS flies streaming out of the air vents. This is straight out of Exodus or Amityville Horror. We can't spray bug spray into the vent because it will travel through the air system. I have been killing flies as they emerge for three days - we're talking dozens and dozens of flies. I think I am going to have a nervous breakdown. My kids are traumatized. I don't know what to do. If you do, will you help me? PS - This has nothing to do with cleanliness - the house is SUPER CLEAN. There is nothing to attract the flies. They must of hatched in whatever died in the crawl space.
  18. Situation out of my control. Cannot change it. Must live through it. Want to run away. It's not health or safety, so, I can intellectually tell myself that it is okay. But my heart keeps racing. What do you do when you find yourself like this?
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