Home'scool Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 (edited) IDK who remembers my never-ending divorce (5 years, every slimy move he could make .... good times....🙄). We finally got our judgement of divorce in December 2019. Part of the divorce agreement was that we would file taxes as "married" for 2017 & 2018. He then stayed true to form and APPEALED the divorce agreement. No one does that! Then again, no one appeals a temporary support order either, but he did that. He wanted to file taxes for those years as "single" so he could claim the deduction of alimony payments and make me claim the alimony and pay more in taxes. We literally had to go to our state's Supreme Court for the appeal. He lost the appeal. I had my lawyer send his lawyer a letter saying that he already has my tax paperwork but if he needs something else from me to make this happen to let us know. Crickets ...... no response. Finally we get a response from his attorney saying "My client is considering his options and will be in touch soon." WHAT?! What does that even mean? So now I will probably have to bring him to court for contempt again. I already checked with my attorney and if I try to file single for those years I will have to claim the alimony and I will get buried in taxes. Remember, this is the guy who WANTED the divorce, who had the affair, who makes over $250K a year, not including bonuses of $100k a year. I got a decent settlement but certainly no windfall. I still work full time to make ends meet. I cannot recover from financial hits as quickly as he can. I seriously do not know if I will ever be rid of him. Edited July 28, 2021 by Home'scool 39 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Ugh. I'm sorry. He sounds like pure evil. What a vindictive a$$hat. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 I’m so sorry you have to keep dealing with that jerk!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 I am so very sorry that you are still entangled with this garbage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted July 28, 2021 Author Share Posted July 28, 2021 Thank you for your virtual support. I always worry the people in my life are sick of hearing about my dance with the devil. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Oh gosh, I'm so sorry about this. It must feel like it will never end. 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 7 minutes ago, Home'scool said: Thank you for your virtual support. I always worry the people in my life are sick of hearing about my dance with the devil. Big Hugs. We are here anytime if you feel like your in-person support needs a break. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 So sorry this is dragging out and that he's continued to be so difficult. You said he has your tax info. Do you have HIS tax info? Could you file on behalf of both of you, instead of him doing it? Alternatively, is there anything the IRS could do to help you? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Ugh, how atrocious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 For the love of Pete. I’m sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 I am so very sorry. I do wonder if "married, filing separately" can work? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 (edited) What a total asshole, even worse that the system lets him to continue on with this. Any decent judge should have already handed you over a huge 'ol check just for dealing with his sorry ass. Edited July 28, 2021 by Soror 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Can you consult a CPA? Perhaps Married Filing Separately for those years is a good option for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted July 28, 2021 Author Share Posted July 28, 2021 I asked my accountant about Married Filing Separately but because we were living apart during 2017 & 2018 I would have to claim the alimony payments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 So, the taxes are all done, right... Since it was a for 2017 and 2018? What does he want, to change them retroactively? I don't see how that would be allowed since he lost the appeal. Sorry, it stinks 😕 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Sometimes you look at people and think "I couldn't be this much of a jerk even if I brainstormed with all my least favourite people." That's how I'm looking at your ex! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 What a douche 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa Louise Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 It's unbelievable, isn't it ?! I'm so sorry. Pp was right - he's using the courts to punish you - for his own actions! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 What @Rosie_0801 said. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 That man needs a hobby! Something other than harrassing you! Someone get him some paint by numbers kits or something, lol. In all seriousness I'm so sorry. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Tiggywinkle Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 Do you have a friendly local assassin by chance? I’m kidding. Really. 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaVT Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 3 hours ago, Rosie_0801 said: Sometimes you look at people and think "I couldn't be this much of a jerk even if I brainstormed with all my least favourite people." That's how I'm looking at your ex! This! I was so hoping that he would have left you to live in peace by now. Are you "done" with him after this? Or will you have to have more dealings with him in the future, aside from maybe seeing him at a wedding or funeral? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootAnn Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 5 hours ago, Seasider too said: Can you file a harassment suit against him? He is just doing this to torture you. I wish you could do this & include that he has to also pay all your attorney fees from the beginning since it was all his fault. Grr!! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Home'scool Posted July 29, 2021 Author Share Posted July 29, 2021 Just to answer some questions: The taxes for 2017 & 2018 were never filed. That was always his job in the marriage and he always screwed it up. Once I was officially divorced I found a great CPA and filed my taxes for 2019 and 2020 ON TIME and simply paid what I had to. So we are looking at having to pay whatever taxes are owed as well as any penalties. I was just trying to get him to sell the house and pay me support during this time and the taxes was just another thing he wasn't doing. I "should" be done with him after this but I probably am not. I am waiting for him to file that he cannot pay the alimony or something like that. He is supposed to pay me until 2030 but I cannot imagine he will pay for all that time. Since the actual divorce decree has has paid alimony every week on time but that will probably be his next thing. When we got word that he was "considering his options" my lawyer sent back that the divorce decree has been affirmed as well as his appeal with the state's Supreme Court and that we will be filing a contempt charge by next week seeking all costs, etc. I have been down that road before ... my experience has been that the court just splits things down the middle. Considering he has already spent over $100K on 4 different lawyers he seems to be willing to keep throwing money at this. I've looked into harassment charges but it seems like he has the right to keep doing this stuff. It's his right to use the courts. I just wish a judge would catch onto what he is doing. I do have a "friendly local assassin" haha! I work with a huge, intimidating looking guy (think Mr. T) who also works as a Constable on the side. He is the one I always choose to serve my Ex any papers. Maybe I should "activate the asset" haha 😁 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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