kentuckymom Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 DH was out in the living room with him while he went through his final convulsions for over two hours. I was in the bedroom trying to sleep but I never did get to sleep, and now I can't either. The cat was 15 years old and had a good, happy life. I actually never even liked him that much in practice. He was DH's cat before we got married, and he had the loyalty of a dog. He would meow for attention when DH was at work and completely ignore me when I tried to pet him. Even tonight, when he was obviously in pain every time he moved, he met DH at the door when he got home. We're now down to one cat, from four two years ago. The two cats that came into the marriage with me died two months apart just under two years ago. Now the sister of the cat who just died is still with us and seems healthy for a 15 year old cat. I hope she hangs around for awhile. I hope the kids aren't too upset tomorrow morning. I didn't think I'd be upset when this cat died, but it turns out I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 If he was going through convulsions and suffering for hours, wasn't there any way to get him to an emergency clinic so he could be euthanized? I'm so sorry about your cat, and I have to say that I also feel terrible for your dh, having to stay alone with his cat while it suffered and died. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snow Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :( Sorry to hear that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milovany Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I'm sorry. I can feel the sadness in your words and know you did what you felt was best for your feline. Our cat is nine and the time has flown. It will be a sad day here, too, when she passes. Hopefully we have a few more years, but she's indoor/outdoor, too, so it could be sooner rather than later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasperstone Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Oh, poor cat! I hate when animals suffer. :’( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne115 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I'm so sorry about your cat, Suzanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I'm sorry about the loss of your cat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 My cat is 15, too. I know it's hard. I have become more aware of my words around her, and she has taught me to be sweeter--because I don't want to constantly be annoyed at her for being a 15yo cat (accidents, hairballs, etc...) and then have her die and leave me feeling guilty. My status on FB the other day was: Why do I get up at 5am with my cat? Because I, too, am small and in need of Mercy. I'm sorry for the loss and hope your kids get through it without too much pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kentuckymom Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 Thanks, everyone. As for euthanizing him, we talked about that weeks ago after DH took him to the vet and learned that his death would come sooner rather than later, but DH just couldn't bring himself to end an animal's life before it ended naturally. Perhaps convulsions was too strong a word to use. He never moved from the cushion he lay down on around dinnertime. Kittygirl's first question when I told her this morning was, "But, our other cat didn't die?" I assured her that the other cat is alive and well and took her in to pet said cat. She'll probably talk about the dead cat for a few weeks but she's only three and I don't think she'll be greatly affected. Squirrelboy cried for a few minutes and I'm sure he'll be sad on and off for weeks or months as he was when the other cats died. He got his very own pet, a hamster, for Christmas, so that will help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-M- Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Our cat was also fifteen when he died last year. I did love him but was unprepared for how much his death would affect me. Sending you and your family good thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Why do I get up at 5am with my cat? Because I, too, am small and in need of Mercy. Pets can teach us a lot about grace and mercy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 A coyote killed our cat last week, so I know how you feel. :( :( :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I'm sorry to hear that. It's hard for such a drastic change to occur in the home. You were used to that cat being around. It may not affect you as much as your DH but it's understandable that you feel sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milovany Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 If he was going through convulsions and suffering for hours, wasn't there any way to get him to an emergency clinic so he could be euthanized? I'm so sorry about your cat, and I have to say that I also feel terrible for your dh, having to stay alone with his cat while it suffered and died. :( I thought maybe after I slept on it, this post wouldn't seem so unnecessary. Nope, still does even after a night's sleep. Two digs when it's too late to change either situation and after someone has expressed sorrow. I don't get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I'm so sorry about your cat - our sixteen year old cat died last month. It is so hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kentuckymom Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 Why did DH stay alone with the cat? He wanted to. The cat was his special pet and he wanted to say goodbye alone, so please don't pity him sharing his cat's last moments by himself. I did the same when one of my cats died two years ago. I've been married to the man for 11 years now and known him for 16, it's not like I abandoned him when he told me to go to bed. I didn't even manage to fall asleep. Thanks to everyone for your kind thoughts and words. I'm sure we'll be looking for Razook in his favorite places for quite awhile yet. Tonight or tomorrow we'll plant a tree in his honor and bury him under it. There's already a pear tree in our yard that memorializes two other cats. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I thought maybe after I slept on it, this post wouldn't seem so unnecessary. Nope, still does even after a night's sleep. Two digs when it's too late to change either situation and after someone has expressed sorrow. I don't get it. :iagree: I don't get it either. It's unkind and judgmental. Sometimes it's best to follow the wisdom Thumper's Dad taught him: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all", no matter how right you might think you are. OP, I'm very sorry about your cat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 So sorry for your family's loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: I'm sorry :grouphug: It was hard when our 17 year old cat died a few years ago. Like you, we were trying to decide if we should have him euthanized, but his death came before we could make the difficult decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: I'm sorry for the loss of your pet. Those little critters sure can worm their way into our hearts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Hugs, OP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 There's a children's book by Cynthia Rylant called "Cat Heaven" which my friend who worked in a vet office for years used to recommend for adults and kids. I'm sorry for your family's loss. It was a wonderful thing for your DH to stay with your kitty during his last moments. I'm sure that the cat knew how much he was loved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 A coyote killed our cat last week, so I know how you feel. :( :( :( I'm so sorry, trulycrabby. We lost a beloved cat to a coyote as well. :grouphug: OP, I am sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 i'm so sorry for your loss :grouphug: Our pets can bring great pleasure and substance to our lives and it is hard to lose them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kentuckymom Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 Trulycrabby: I'm sorry for the loss of your cat. Thanks again to those who have offered hugs and condolences. The silver lining is that today I've really been appreciating our remaining cat. She can get on my nerves because of some bad habits she has, but I'm remembering that she's really a sweet cat overall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I am so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Why did DH stay alone with the cat? He wanted to. The cat was his special pet and he wanted to say goodbye alone, so please don't pity him sharing his cat's last moments by himself. I did the same when one of my cats died two years ago. I've been married to the man for 11 years now and known him for 16, it's not like I abandoned him when he told me to go to bed. I didn't even manage to fall asleep. Wise of you and kind to understand the needs of those around you. If it were my cat, this is how I hope it would be. At home and not stressed out at the vets, and with me alone, who loves him best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Laurie Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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