Annie G Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Oldest dd and her husband were matched with a birthmom and the little baby was born in the wee hours yesterday. They spent the past 36 hours taking care of the baby, and the birthmom just told them she's decided to parent. Sigh. I know all of this is in God's hands, but it's still hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I will pray for your daughter. My husband and I went through an adoption loss 7 years ago, and I still remember the deep, deep sadness. I felt so alone and empty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oakblossoms Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Oh wow that is difficult Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanna Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Really sorry to hear. Similar adoption-failures have happened to friends of mine over the years. I will pray for comfort and rest in the Lord for your dd and her hubby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: DH and I are trying to adopt and that's one of our fears. I'm so sorry for your DD. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I am so sorry for their pain. That is heartbreaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In2why Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I am so sorry this happened to your family. We also had an adoption fall apart. The best consolation is when I look at my son who we adopted a few months later. I can't imagine life without him, and if that adoption had happened we wouldn't have him in our lives. God, the universe, fate, or whatever you believe knows the child meant for your family. Hugs to all of you though, because I know how hard it is to hold on to that thought in the midst of the moment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 OH I am so very, very sorry for all of you. ((((Hugs)))) Praying for healing for your daughter and son-in-law as they mourn the loss of this child who isn't going to be theirs after all. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mama2cntrykids Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: How difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommee & Baba Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: I can't imagine the heartbreak they must feel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 What a heartache. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted January 24, 2012 Author Share Posted January 24, 2012 Thanks, everyone. I needed the support. When my kids got past the Terrible Twos, I thought I was home free. Then I found out the teen years can be quite the challenge. And now I'm seeing that adult children can be the most emotionally challenging of them all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 That is so hard.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: And, yes, even when they are adults, it continues.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cin Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I am so sorry. Such tremendous heartache. :grouphug: This is why we went international. The parents have surrendered their parental rights before the child is matched with a family. We didn't set eyes on our daughters until they were in total custody of the orphanage. And we knew the orphanage wouldn't want to keep them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Oh, that's so hard. :crying: :grouphug: Praying for heart healing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrappyhappymama Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I am so sorry this happened to your family. We also had an adoption fall apart. The best consolation is when I look at my son who we adopted a few months later. I can't imagine life without him, and if that adoption had happened we wouldn't have him in our lives. God, the universe, fate, or whatever you believe knows the child meant for your family. Hugs to all of you though, because I know how hard it is to hold on to that thought in the midst of the moment. ^^ This same situation has happened to several of our friends. An adoption fell through, some of them truly heartbreaking, but a short time later their forever child(ren) were placed with them. I know it doesn't make it easier NOW, but in retrospect it did offer some comfort to my friends to know there was another plan for them. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: to all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhotoGal Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry to hear this. It must be heartbreaking. Sending lots of positive thoughts to your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fhjmom Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I'm so sorry! Stories like that are the main reason I chose international adoption. It's hard not to feel in your heart that baby is yours once it's in your arms. I knew that was a heartache I couldn't bear. I hope your DD and her husband are matched again soon, everything goes through, and they heal from this experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I'm so sorry! Stories like that are the main reason I chose international adoption. Us too. My friend had TWO adoptions be called off at the last minute and after the baby was born. I could not cope with that. My heart breaks for your dd. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug: What a heartache. God's will be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2denj Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I'm sorry. That is a really tough situation, and I would be heartbroken.:crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Very sad :(Wishing them comfort.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiebird Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 How heartwrenching for everyone involved! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasda Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Wow, that must be so hard for them. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZooRho Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 We had several failed adoptions or ones that fell through. I'm so very sorry for your family. I do tell people that it part of the adoption process. those that make it through and persevere are the ones that end up with children. We did domestic adoptions. We worked through an agency. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bensmom Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I am so sorry. We had a failed adoption over two years ago. I never saw or held our baby though. I can't imagine how much harder that would be! I still think of her and wonder if her birthmom is happy with her decision and if she is well cared for and loved. Praying for your family in this time of sorrow :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LarlaB Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Oldest dd and her husband were matched with a birthmom and the little baby was born in the wee hours yesterday. They spent the past 36 hours taking care of the baby, and the birthmom just told them she's decided to parent. Sigh. I know all of this is in God's hands, but it's still hard. Praying for them in their loss and grief :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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