lvbnhome Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 What would be the best advice you would give yourself, now that you are older? and have lived a little. :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 What a good question. :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Element Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 (edited) You do not need a "boyfriend" right now or any time soon. Do your math homework. Every night. ETA: Stop worrying about your weight. You are beautiful. Edited January 5, 2012 by Element Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
profmom Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Totally ignore the boys -- or, at least, only be friends! What a waste of time and emotions! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAutumnOak Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 First thing that comes to mind is to take school seriously and never let your credit score slip...I never drank, smoked, or tried any drugs, so I wouldn't have to tell myself that ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie in VA Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Read more books. Watch less (or NO) TV. Watch less movies. Listen to classical music instead of the popular stuff. Oh, and what Allison is wearing is no big deal in life. Really! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evergreen State Sue Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Work hard at school and develop close friendships. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy1k Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. ENJOY childhood, it's a fantastic time and one you can never get back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murmer Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Every one does and says stupid things...get over it quickly and don't dwell on the embarassment.................................................................... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yes, you are being abused and no, you're not crazy. Tell someone and keep saying it until they listen! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yes, you are being abused and no, you're not crazy. Tell someone and keep saying it until they listen! :grouphug: i'm sorry :(:( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 "this too shall pass" and "every day you decide who you are going to be. just practice being who you want to be as much as you can, and that is who you will become. really." and "this too shall pass". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Don't be ashamed of your love of reading. Pay attention in P.E. class! Someday you will wish you knew the rules to those sports. :lol: It's okay if you are the only one of your friends who doesn't have a boyfriend and a date to the dance. In a couple of years you will meet the love of your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bugs Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 "Your leg hairs are blonde - don't do it! Don't start shaving." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yes, you are being abused and no, you're not crazy. Tell someone and keep saying it until they listen! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorrainejmc Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Do not dye your hair!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 You are quite right that your aunts are incorrect about school being the best days of your life. Don't listen to anything else they tell you either. Mum is wrong about family always being there for you so you have no reason to listen to those aunts. Mum is right that you need to learn some tact, but most of the problem is she doesn't really like you. She doesn't know that, so don't hold it against her. Just keep your head down. You'll be moving out of home two weeks after you turn 20. Join the SCA. That's where you're going to finds friends with your levels of tact. ;) Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jennsmile Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Start taking music lessons from a local college. Wish I had know I could start college early as a homeschooler. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Enjoy it! Enjoy having time to pursue your interests without having too many responsibilities. Enjoy having time to figure out who you are. Don't be impatient to grow up. (Of course, this advice is wasted on any 13 y/o) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelly in IL Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Nobody is really looking at you like you are an ugly dork, get out there and be friendly and have some fun. It is ok to be smart Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Work harder. Study harder. Play harder. Do one nice thing for someone every day. Be nice to the nerds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 First thing that comes to mind is to take school seriously and never let your credit score slip...I never drank, smoked, or tried any drugs, so I wouldn't have to tell myself that ;) :lol: I'm just imagining telling my 13 yo self, "Watch your credit rating!" I'm going to go with, "Invest in mobile phone technology." Or maybe "Buy stock in Google." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy1k Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 I'm going to go with, "Invest in mobile phone technology." Or maybe "Buy stock in Google." DUH! :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 (edited) -- Edited November 10, 2021 by prairiewindmomma Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenneinCA Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 It will get better. Eighth grade was probably the worst year I dealt with bullying-wise. After that school year I never saw those kids again. Ever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessReplanted Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Totally ignore the boys -- or, at least, only be friends! What a waste of time and emotions! :iagree: And: Don't worry so much about what people think. Laugh more. Have fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 You don't have to follow societies normals. Get out there and do your own thing and don't be afraid to take chances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
butterflymommy Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 That is so hard. Most of the lessons I've learned came the hard way. So I don't think any advice would have helped me. Except, maybe "study harder, study like your life depends on it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosyl Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 You have options. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melora in NC Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Don't be so self-conscious! Mostly people Aren't watching you to see what idiot thing you'll do next or thinking about how stupid you look with your big nose and your geeky clothes. And the ones who Are watching and thinking those things aren't worth stressing about anyway! Keep reading and dreaming, enjoy all the nice people (and Most people really Are nice, once you get to know them), and be happy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaSheep Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) You're not the one who's crazy. It's the dang town. It's ok to be smart, even if you're a girl. Listen to your father. Do not intentionally dumb down your schoolwork so as to not stand out. You are not ugly. Your big brother and his buddies are messing with your head. Stand up straight and smile. Nobody in the sane world cares if you can't play basketball. Find some other way to get exercise and tell the abusive coach to shove it. Don't wait another two years. More people like you than you realize. [Edited to remove oversharing. :) ] Edited January 5, 2012 by MamaSheep Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorganClassicalPrep Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Nothing. Really. Butterfly theorist over here. Considering DD was conceived when I was 19 and making many, many, many, MANY bad decisions (and wouldn't have been conceived if not for my bad choices), I can't take anything back. Well, maybe I'd tell my 13 year old self not to go crazy with the credit cards at 18 and preserve my credit rating... :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Nyssa Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Having a boyfriend is not the cure for all life's problems. You're actually not ugly. You actually aren't going to grow up to be severely mentally ill like your mother, so don't spend so much time thinking that you are crazy!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Don't start drinking and smoking at 14. Enroll in the harder classes, don't skate for easy As. Don't be so hard on yourself. Take more science classes (I loved science but only took the requirements) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurelia Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Do not give up. Don't let people walk all over you because you're afraid to be seen as rude. Be rude if you have to, but stand up for yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Nobody is really looking at you like you are an ugly dork, get out there and be friendly and have some fun. It is ok to be smart Lol, yeah. But if they are really looking at you as though you are an ugly dork, it is only because they are bored. It's not as personal as it seems. You're going to bump into some of those same people when you are in your 20s and they'll greet you as though you've always been good mates. School was so much fun. :rolleyes: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Stop being mad at your mom Live up to your word Forgive your father he won't be here much longer and you won't ever get to tell him you loved him you will regret this your entire life Do not smoke you will regret this as well Be kinder to people who need a little extra help one day your son will be one of those people and how the world treats him will keep you up at night crying Be the person you started out to be before you let the anger control your every choice. Be nice to your step dad as a teen he may be a monster but it will take years to have a good relationship and when you do you won't wanna trade it for nothing. Then I would hug that little tough 13 year old and tell her no matter what she thinks she is loved Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BearWallowSchool Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Boys will lie to make teA!!!! :glare:(I wish someone would have told me that between 15-17, not really 13! However, 13 isn't too early!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 You do not need a "boyfriend" right now or any time soon. I was seriously just looking for the LIKE button. I totally agree! :iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AppleGreen Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Fun thread! In 20 years the drama club will be cool, you love it and are pretty good at the whole stage thing...so just do it! Mom is actually not a great fountain of wisdom, she's got some issues and they needn't be your burden. You are smarter, prettier and stronger than you give yourself credit for. In 20 years when you realize it, you'll wonder why you wasted any time believing otherwise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Follow your heart even if no one else takes your desires seriously. You don't have to live a "status quo" life. The things you dream about doing are not just those "things other people grow up and do" like you were told. Someday there will be this thing called the internet that will show you the world is much smaller than you realize. Get out of your comfort zone and live YOUR life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kathymuggle Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) This state of being is temporary - and these are not the best years of your life. You have so much to look forward to! also: you make good choices, ARE pretty, are NOT fat, be easier on yourself, and seek out a bit more fun! Edited January 5, 2012 by kathymuggle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 I think I'd just give myself a hug and tell me that I will survive :grouphug: and it will be all that I've ever dreamed it would be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 The title of this thread is giving me nightmares. I never ever want think about being 13. I guess I'd give myself a hug and say it will get better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Stop being a jerk to your mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kathymuggle Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Stop being a jerk to your mother. Yes! But given how unhappy many of us seem to have been at 13 was it any wonder? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 ask your Dad to give you stock in Microsoft as a graduation gift. In fact, ask him if you can borrow $10,000. You will be able to pay it back. Really. You will. It will be ok for both of you if you do this. then when you are ready to marry, skip the wedding. Ask your Dad to give you $15,000 and invest it in Starbucks instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaichiki Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 I think I'd just give myself a hug and tell me that I will survive. :iagree: I would tell myself that ALL of those other 13 year olds who seem to be so lucky and so perfect have issues... every single one of them. Some of them have the same issues I have, and some of them have WORSE problems. I'd tell myself that my future is BETTER than I was even daring to hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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