mazakaal Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 (edited) My mom called this morning to tell me that my dad passed away in the night. I just can't believe it. He was 78 years old, so I knew it was a possibility, but he's very healthy. I spoke with him yesterday and he was fine. My mom said that he went to bed last night feeling fine. When she woke in the night, she realised that he was gone. It's times like these that I hate being so far away. Mom's in North Carolina, I'm in England. I can't let people in real life know yet because my brother is in California and so it's the middle of the night there. I told my mom that I'd get over there right away, but I've got a terrible cold right now and she said that she'd rather that I not fly right now, but wait a week and come over with my kids so I can stay for a few weeks. I was planning a trip with the kids at the end of the summer so this will take the place of that which is really depressing when you start to think about all the plans that we had to do things and now even if we do the same things they won't be the same because dad won't be there. I just can't believe it. I've never had a loss of someone this close. I lost my grandparents and have been through miscarriages, but this is different. I was around lots of family when my grandparents passed, and, though mourning an unborn child is difficult, this is just very different. I guess that it doesn't help that anyone that knew him is in America and asleep right now, so I can't talk to anyone in real life. I have friends here, and one is coming over later, but I just really want family now. I don't even know why I'm writing this. I'm not looking for advice really. I guess I just needed to send it 'out there'. Virtual hugs would be appreciated. Thanks for 'listening'. eta: Thank you all so much for the hugs, prayers, and well-wishes. I've spoken with my brother. He's flying over on Monday for a week. A friend will spend the weekend with Mom until he arrives. I'm trying to get a flight for Wednesday and will stay for a month. The kids will enjoy experiencing Fourth of July in America. We're still supposed to be homeschooling until July 21 (we follow the British school schedule). I'm bringing math with us so the kids can keep up with that, and I'll bring some history books to read, but it looks like the kids will only get a brief overview of the second half of the nineteenth century of American history, no writing assignments, no projects. They'll live, right? Everything else we'll finish up over the summer or push off until September. My oldest will have to stay here with my husband because I can't have him miss so much school and he doesn't want to fly back by himself after a week. I just hope they don't die of malnutrition. This will be a great opportunity for dh to expand his cooking repertoire beyond pasta and eggs. ;-) Thanks again for all the posts. I'm feeling a lot better now, aside from the fact that it's 4:53am. I'm sure sleeplessness is part of the grieving process or something. Thanks again. Edited June 4, 2010 by MeganP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm sorry for your loss. My father died when I was in China. I had a lot of warning, but it was still very hard to be so far away. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiobrain Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing my dad, tho he's getting up there and it often crosses my mind. Lots and lots of hugs. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmh Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm very sorry for your loss. I will lift your family in my prayers.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate in Arabia Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss... it is one thing I am also very worried about, living so far from home. You and your family are in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jld Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm sorry, Megan. I'll be thinking of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I am so sorry for your loss. I've been there, too. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccm Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug:Megan:grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyThreeSons Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: Megan :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad almost 8 years ago. Even with knowing it was coming, it wasn't easy. Spend some time in the next few days telling your children stories about your Dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 So sorry:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
novagirl Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Oh man, here I am sitting at home cryin' for ya! I am sorry to hear of your loss, especially the way it came. I am glad you did get to talk to him yesterday. I will pray for peace and comfort for your family today okay?:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConnieB Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Country Mouse Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Oh, Megan. I am so, so sorry :grouphug::grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanie Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Megan, I know your heart must be breaking. I am praying for you, your mom, and the rest of your family. I am so sorry....:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oak Knoll Mom Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. I think I remember that your parents are near me. If they are, and I can do anything to help, please let me know. We're done with school for the summer, so I have lots of extra time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted June 3, 2010 Author Share Posted June 3, 2010 Thank you to everyone for the hugs, prayers, and encouragement. And thank you, Oak Knoll Mom. Mom has lots of good friends around her, but if I can think of anything, I will let you know. Where are you? They're in Tryon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Megan, I am so sorry. :grouphug: I wish I could do more than say I am praying for you. You're not alone. Many women here have lost their parents and can commiserate with your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry. I can't begin to imagine. I'm in tears right now with the thought of losing my daddy. And, to lose him so suddenly. Is there any comfort in the fact that he went so peacefully? No suffering? :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom25girls Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I'm a Daddy's girl and my father is 78. I'm really sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gpsings Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I don't know you, but :hugs: anyway. You're family will be in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HerdingCats Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: So very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Megan, I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: It's so hard to lose Daddy. I am so sorry.....:grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4kids4me Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug:My heart and prayers go out to and for you and your family.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JEJE Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I am so sorry for your loss :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FeFe Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: I am so very sorry. Praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Hen Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 ((((MeganP)))) Carole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Oak Knoll Mom Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 And thank you, Oak Knoll Mom. Mom has lots of good friends around her, but if I can think of anything, I will let you know. Where are you? They're in Tryon. I'm in Asheville...not far at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug:I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mbeaser Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: So sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olan719 Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I lost my daddy at 16. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EarleneW Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I'm so, so sorry. Losing my dad was probably the hardest thing I have ever been through. You are in My thoughts and prayers. Again, I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue in WI Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug:I am sorry for your loss. It is definately different to lose a parent. I felt the same when my dad passed away 10 years ago. I am sorry that you are so far away from your mom at this time. Also, I hope your cold gets better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I told my mom that I'd get over there right away, but I've got a terrible cold right now and she said that she'd rather that I not fly right now, but wait a week and come over with my kids so I can stay for a few weeks. :grouphug::grouphug: How lucky you are to have capable mom who can tell you such things. When my father died, we kids "staggered" our visits, particularly telling one brother to go a little later and roll up his sleeves to help her (she was 88). When my aunt died similarly, my father brightened up. He was so happy it was like that. I know sudden deaths are hardest on those left behind, but I would comfort yourself in knowing he went without suffering, without the indignity of dementia and debility, in his own home, and not in the care of strangers. We should all be so lucky. :grouphug::grouphug: "I'll be seeing you in every lovely summer's day, In everything that's bright and gay, I'll always think of you that way. I'll find you in the morning sun And when the night is new, I'll be looking at the moon, But I'll be seeing you." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m4given Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 My mom called this morning to tell me that my dad passed away in the night. Virtual hugs would be appreciated. Thanks for 'listening'. Here's a :grouphug: -- wish it could be a live hug. How difficult. I read every word you wrote. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: thinking of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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