Little backround info. DH decided that first dc would go to school this year. I was okay with that at first the extra time was "DREAMY" but then....I got bored.. I didn't know what to do with myself..I always pictured myself as a sahm and homeschooler. Dc2 is still at home for one more year and we "DO" do learning activities together...but I'm especially worried about next year. I just don't know what to do with myself! I'm already bored at home and feel like I want to/need to get a job. The problem is...aside of working at a school which is out of the question....who has summers off and a schedule where you can come in late and leave early???:glare: With DH's decision I feel like I've been thrown a curve ball and don't know what to do with it! I suppose I could take classes.. but honestly...I'm not even interested in anything. Always thought I'd be at home with my kids....help! Lost Mom!

Read it. Did it. Didnt get great results. Any diet will work as long as you are willing to stick with it in the long run.

Dust bunnies reproduce rapidly at my house.:001_smile:

School could be a very good thing for him. Not when his attitude is like it is though. My dd6 went to school this year. DHs leading. Its worked out wonderfully for her. She didn't ask to go but we could tell she needed more socialization than she was getting at home. Sorry everyone, don't egg me for sayin' that. Anywho. Your child is what, 7? He/She could be told (with your husband and your decisions to do so) that when he/she starts doing the work at home and is respectful that you can talk about school but it wouldn't be an option until the right behaviors are learned. JMHO.

Deadlifts help make a good lookin booty as well!

ZUMBA at the Ymca----loved it, didn't realize I was working out...more like dancing at a club:D:tongue_smilie: with no sleazy guys trying to pick you up:lol:

:iagree::iagree:Yes this exactly! If I don't spell something out for my husband I can just expect disappointment. It's not that he is uncaring..it's just that he doesn't always "get it".

I am not a mother of a teen yet but you are handling it so well. Just keep lovin' on that girl. :grouphug::grouphug:

do you have alot available for your dd as far as homeschool activities? I live in an area where the is alot of activities....yet NOT MANY of them were geared towards her age. Mostly for middle school and high school. MY dd6 is a social butterfly..this is her first year in a formal school...she just loves it..Not trying to discredit homeschooling or sway your choice in any way but we had lots of problems with things like this. Even if I were to join the local co-op I was told that my 6 yr old could not join in on the science class even though I would have to be there to watch her the whole time and 7 yr olds were participating. If it wasn't an appropriate class I would have taken her out in the first place yet I am told she is too young even before classes started. I think I'd know the maturity of my own child but oh well, not my rules so we let it go. We also wouldn't have fit in the other co-op because we are not a "skirts and dresses only" kind of Christian.Oh well. We tried. Many times we've tried.

We have had this problem for three years. I have tried and tried and TRIED to get things going in 3 homeschool groups and there just wasn't alot of interest or just tons of time conflicts, heck lots of times people would say they'd show up and they never did! This year we sent my dd to a very small private school. PLEASE DONT SHOOT ME FOR SAYING THIS because it was my husbands decision to send her to school and I was nervous about doing it because she has never been to school but so far she is just thriving! She is alot more social than I am and this way she is getting to be around children more often than she would being schooled at home. You need to do what is right for your own family but for us so far this has been a very good thing for her.

He he he! You're funny! I'm quite happy on my own as well. People seem to drain me and I get tired when I have to be "too social". When I said to pray for a friend..I also should have said that I meant for my children as well because the neighbors were our childrens only friends except for a casual friend or two that they'd see from time to time. I guess I never thought to branch out and meet other people when we had such great friends next door. No driving kids around or dropping them off anywhere.. just open the door and let 'em go!

:grouphug:Gee, had to check to see if I wrote this post in my sleep or something. We are very much alike. I don't make friends easily..especially girls...and that doesn't help when you are married! My best friend and neighbor moved to Texas this past October. We are slowly getting back to meeting people and movin' on. Don't know if you are a christian or not but I had to pray about it and ask God to send like minded people my way because on my own...I just wouldn't see it happening! Keep on going..things will get better.Pm me anytime if you'd like!

Very clever!!

TOTALLY AGREE WITH ALL OF THIS. I threw out my scale. I've lost about 40 lbs but you know, that darn scale always goes up or down a little and I won't base my feelings for the day on how the scale says I'm doing. I just use a tape measure. This is coming from someone who went from a size 14 down to a 4. I've almost got a 4 pack as well. If you workout with weights as well as cardio muscle is going to weigh just the same as fat but you take up less room. Take pictures of yourself, use a tape measure or a pair of jeans that you'd like to get into. I would have saved myself many CRABBBY days if I would have followed my own advice.

EXACTLY!!

Oh you guys are all right..I should just say thanks and drop it...but for some reason I stew over it...thinking things like "Well, would she rather I be overweight again?" or wondering if she thinks that this is something I'll eventually stop doing and be a couch potato again. Then I will get asked by family members how I lost the weight and when I tell them that it was just watching what I eat and moving more...they aren't interested. SIGH...I just don't get it.

I can stop working out now because I'm "skinny enough"! :glare: Hmm what do you say to something like this? Shouldn't I be the one who decides when to be happy with myself? By the way, I am. I know I can always improve in any area of my life but to stop? What shall I stop doing...eating healthy foods in correct portions? Getting some aerobic exercise and lifting weights? My husband thinks (and I am going to say this nicely...not like he did) that because she is obese that she can't stand to see other people losing weight because she isn't. Yikes. Let me say it again..he said it not me!:tongue_smilie: I used to count calories but I stopped doing that two months ago. I know pretty much about how much and what to eat so why get all ocd about it....for me..I would get ocd about it and thats why I stopped counting. Right now I am adding a bit of muscle which means about two or three pounds added but still losing inches even in spite of not counting anymore. To me it just seems like I've FINALLY found the happy way of eating and exercise that fits my life. So now I feel like I have people monitoring how I look and what I eat. What do you say to someone like this??

Can you give yourself some kind of reward for finishing the hard part?? Don't know what that would be for you, but I'd sure love a new outfit, a few new books or money down on a trip I'd like to take. Sorry you have to go through this. Just try not to think of what you can't have ....I know its hard, but the more you think about how hard it is...the worse it will seem.

Thank you for saying this--I too am working hard on this....just because we do homeschool and I know my childrens needs ..good to know I am not alone!

Thanks! This is helpful!!!

sure! http://www.piepalace.ca/blog/asperger-test-aq-test/ Of course they say not to use the test as a diagnosis...but it is somewhere to start I guess

Someone was talking to me about Aspergers Syndrome and some of the symptoms seemed awefully like my life....so..I found an online test and took it and I scored at the threshold of an extreme score. I do have some mild ocd tendencies as well as terrible social skills that are getting better now that I am an adult among a few other similiarities. Well, I guess what I am asking is what can I do as an adult? I am not the type who would really go and see a mental health professional, you know? I just wondered if there were any other adults with apergers out there and what they did.

Yo!

Yes, I'd love to do a Medditerranian (sp) cruise as well. Sigh--maybe someday. Jennifer, we are headed out on the Disney Dream this February!!!! Just a 4 day though. Wanted to do a 7 day--but really wanted to be on the NEW BOAT and try out the slide that goes around the cruise ship and all the new restaurants and such!!!! Oh I am so excited!!!! We plan on a 7 day for when the Fantasy comes out in 2012. This thread is great, two things I love Disney cruises and TJs!

Jennifer, we would make good neighbors too as I believe you are the other "Disney Cruise fan" on this board as well, right???