Joanne Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 The forensic Dr. of Psychology does not think my son should move and live with his Dad. He does want me to consider public school because going to public school is a significant percentage of the reasons Andrew wanted to move and because he feels it's age-expected for him to wonder and want to go. He did not say, however, that if I want to continue to homeschool, he'd recommend my son move. He'd want to talk with me. Other interesting issues: 1) I tested well on the tests. Only one elevation, and it was expected to be elevated due to the situation. 2) XH had several elevations. 3) There was no evidence of neglect, abuse, or concern for my home. 4) The family visit for my home was "real". The family visit for the other home was "stiff" and a monologue. 5) The Dr. does not believe that xh would step up to the plate in terms of engaged parenting and does not buy his geographic reasons. (Since he chose to live far). 6) He is worried about my schedule and if Andrew is in public school, how much time I'd get with him. Yea, this is the schedule made necessary buy the xh. 7) Any moments of concern in my home the Dr. saw was an anomoly, not my norm. 8) The Dr. is concerned with how much conversation goes on in the other home about my home - it's not appropriate. There's more......but that's enough to post. We are hoping for a settlement offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :grouphug: It sounds like it went well. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Nice!!! I'm relieved for you!!! Does your d.s. know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :grouphug: Glad it is finally starting to look up for you, Joanne. Here's hoping the settlement offer comes through soon!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 ...this sounds VERY encouraging! Good, good, good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Here's hoping for that settlement! The report sounded very promising in your favor. Cheers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 This sounds like good news! Please continue to keep us posted. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :):grouphug: You and yours have been through a lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :party: Hurray for some good news!!! Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mejane Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 What an ordeal. I'm glad it will soon be over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Yeah! This sounds encouraging...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 It sounds encouraging, Joanne!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoPlaceLikeHome Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Here's to it all being well settled soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in AUS Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 That sounds encouraging. I hope it can be sorted soon for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 I'm so glad, Joanne! I will be praying for the settlement to come through soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :party: Hurray for some good news!!! :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :party: So proud of you for sticking it out. Many women would have given up by now on a child that old and let him go live where he wanted---heartbreaking tho it may be. You are my inspiration for my belief that if I ever lose my ds10 to his sorry father my son son will AT THE LEAST know I fought for him in every way possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 You are a strong woman and a wonderfully devoted mother. Keep it up. (It is a good thing you and I do not know each other IRL, 'cause I would be totally willing to slash his tires for you.;)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 I was just thinking about you yesterday and sending happy thoughts your way.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabelen Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Really encouraging news. I hope everything resolves favorably very soon, hold on tight! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 :iagree: Here's to it all being well settled soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Thanks for the update Joanne. It sounds favorable. I pray for resolution, soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 WHat a good report. Glad it went well. Hope the negotiations or the resolution come out in your favor. Prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cillakat Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 TThere's more......but that's enough to post. . Sending hugs to you and hoping soon that this is over so that you and your son can move on. Best, Katherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 (It is a good thing you and I do not know each other IRL, 'cause I would be totally willing to slash his tires for you.;)) Aim higher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 'bout 3 feet? Oh my, I did not just write that. Good news, Joanne. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 I'm glad things are looking better! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 hugs and prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Wow, that's an amazing amount of turmoil you've been navigating and I'm so happy this is turning out well for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mad Jenny Flint Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 :grouphug:, Joanne. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConnieB Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 because he feels it's age-expected for him to wonder and want to go. . Congrats! As far as the above quote....well, yeah, it's age appropriate to wonder about a lot of things at that age, but doesn't mean those things are good for the kid! Time to figure out how to make both of you happy.....in other words, what specifically is your son wondering about public school and what can you do to make his homeschool experience include those elements. Not always possible, of course, but I still remember my 6 year old begging to go to public school everyday for weeks, to the point I was in tears, because I couldn't imagine why she seemed to hate homeschool but only first thing in the morning...she was fine once we got going and doing things. Turned out, she could see the school bus stop and pick up the neighbor girl each morning and wanted to ride a bus! So...we went on a city bus to the library one day...and she hated it, smelly, sticky seats, lurching ride, and took forever. No more desire for public school. I'm not saying that your son's needs are quite as easy to resolve, but if you (and/or the Dr.) can narrow down what they are, it may have a similiar solution. If it's a specific class or subject, maybe finding a co-op....if it's friends, then find a support group with kids his age to bond with....if it's getting away from mom then time to work on the relationship....if it's challenge, time for some upper level course work...whatever. There is so little that can't be done at home in a more positive atmosphere than at school. Often I think homeschool teens have "the grass is always greener" syndrome. Good luck to you! This was a very good beginning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazzyfizzle Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 You are a strong woman and a wonderfully devoted mother. Keep it up. (It is a good thing you and I do not know each other IRL, 'cause I would be totally willing to slash his tires for you.;)) :iagree: :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 Congrats! As far as the above quote....well, yeah, it's age appropriate to wonder about a lot of things at that age, but doesn't mean those things are good for the kid! Time to figure out how to make both of you happy.....in other words, what specifically is your son wondering about public school and what can you do to make his homeschool experience include those elements. Not always possible, of course, but I still remember my 6 year old begging to go to public school everyday for weeks, to the point I was in tears, because I couldn't imagine why she seemed to hate homeschool but only first thing in the morning...she was fine once we got going and doing things. Turned out, she could see the school bus stop and pick up the neighbor girl each morning and wanted to ride a bus! So...we went on a city bus to the library one day...and she hated it, smelly, sticky seats, lurching ride, and took forever. No more desire for public school. I'm not saying that your son's needs are quite as easy to resolve, but if you (and/or the Dr.) can narrow down what they are, it may have a similiar solution. If it's a specific class or subject, maybe finding a co-op....if it's friends, then find a support group with kids his age to bond with....if it's getting away from mom then time to work on the relationship....if it's challenge, time for some upper level course work...whatever. There is so little that can't be done at home in a more positive atmosphere than at school. Often I think homeschool teens have "the grass is always greener" syndrome. Good luck to you! This was a very good beginning. Great post! I agree with you. Andrew has been taking outsourced classes the last 2 years - math last year and science this year. Honestly, he's feeling mixed/both. He wants to try public school and he doesn't. The problem is that his Dad capitilizes on the "wants to go" part and Andrew magnifies that for his Dad and the Dr. I had actually had an arrangement with Andrew this year that if he showed me in his outside class he will follow through, plan and get the grades appropriate for his intelligene, I'd *consider* public school. He agreed and said it was a fair arrangement. He dropped the ball. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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