Ottakee Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 Last Friday things turned very very nasty on our local area FB group. Someone posted warning others to NOT buy my house (due to my ex husband's criminal activities) and no moral person could raise a family here, etc. and from there progressed to mentions of a bullet to his head, trying to implicate me, questioning the ethics and license of my realtor, etc. It was cyber er bullying at the very least and very likely crossed the lines into legal action as it was designed to hurt me financial and my realtor. I was with my kids running errands and upset that I didn't think to screen shot it all. Now the posts were removed. Is there any way to prove it existed and who said what? Oh, and to make it worse, the person that started the thread had her realtor call mine yesterday and ask to be the back up offer. NO WAY would I ever sell to her now. The whole thread might have been motivated to get the buyer to back out and then she could get it as I had multiple offers within 48 hours of listing and had just chosen someone else's offer. 23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 (edited) If you - or anyone in the group - gets email notifications of posts, you can get a copy of the original post anyway. If anyone commented on the thread and they have their email notifications turned on, they should have received copies of at least some of the comments. That is horrible. I am so sorry that happened to you. That person must have some very real problems. ETA: I'd contact the admins of the group too. They may have those email notifications (I'm an admin and I make sure I get those, I only get the original one unless I make comments). If this happened on my group, that post would have been documented and immediately removed and I would have done my very best to convince the other admins to remove that person from the group. Anyone who commented in any fashion other than rebuking the OP and supporters would be warned as well. Edited September 18, 2018 by Bambam 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 Unbelievable. I am sorry that you are having to add stuff like that to an already heavy, heavy burden. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 I have no idea if you can get them back personally but I bet if you get your attorney involved there is a way. I’m sorry you are dealing with this and people are being so ridiculous! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 "progressed to mentions of a bullet to his head" Your local Police Department or Sheriffs Department or FBI office can probably contact Facebook. That may constitute a crime. 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 I’m so sorry, that is shocking and appalling behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted September 18, 2018 Author Share Posted September 18, 2018 48 minutes ago, Lanny said: "progressed to mentions of a bullet to his head" Your local Police Department or Sheriffs Department or FBI office can probably contact Facebook. That may constitute a crime. He is incarcerated out of this area so this actually happening are almost nil. Amazing the things people will post in FB. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 Shocking. I mean, to the point my stomach rolled as I was reading your post. I am with AM, what the heck?! I think probably the high road is your best bet. Just hold your head hig and move on. Except I would report what happened to the realtors broker or if she is the broker report it to the state board.of realtors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 2 hours ago, Arctic Mama said: I’m sorry but what the hell?! What on earth? That person is HORRID and I hope they get shunned for daring to imply a house is tainted just because someone happened to live there and do something wicked, as though the people being hurt by that aren’t TOTALLY INNOCENT. This makes me so mad for you. And I have no idea how to recover those posts except maybe trying to get a screenshot via the way back machine or something similar? GOOD FOR YOU for telling your realtor to not sell to them. That is absolutely underhanded nonsense and God will judge them for it, victimizing your family like that. It’s pretty much slander and extortion. Hopefully the community will too. Dang, girl. I want you in MY corner when something bad happens! ? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 I am so sorry about what you are going threw. Dear God, it could have been removed by Facebook, for all you know. I have never seen a post like this but I would have reported it if I had. Certainly to the moderators of the group if not Facebook too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 And I believe that threatening violence is a crime even if the act is considered nearly impossible like you imply it would be. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 You can contact FB, provide as many details about the thread as possible. If you are planning to report to law enforcement then they may help you out. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeppermintPattie Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 12 minutes ago, PinkyandtheBrains. said: You can contact FB, provide as many details about the thread as possible. If you are planning to report to law enforcement then they may help you out. Yes, contact fb right away and then the police. What kind of group was this posted in? I'm horrified that someone would be that cruel, and I hope that others called her on it! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 I am SO SORRY! What the heck is wrong with people?? Did you recognize any of the other people in the thread? Because yes, there would be email notifications of the posts if people get those. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted September 18, 2018 Author Share Posted September 18, 2018 There were 2 very nasty threads. The moderator of the FB group did say it could be found. Now to decide if I want to. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 2 minutes ago, Ottakee said: There were 2 very nasty threads. The moderator of the FB group did say it could be found. Now to decide if I want to. I can see going either way. I’m not a litigious person, I have never filed a lawsuit in my life. However, if this prevents the sale of your house, or prevents you from getting a fair price, I would be tempted to sue. If anything, just to get people to understand that their words do cause actual damage to actual people. On the other hand, I could see ignoring it and trying to get past it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted September 18, 2018 Author Share Posted September 18, 2018 22 minutes ago, Rachel said: I can see going either way. I’m not a litigious person, I have never filed a lawsuit in my life. However, if this prevents the sale of your house, or prevents you from getting a fair price, I would be tempted to sue. If anything, just to get people to understand that their words do cause actual damage to actual people. On the other hand, I could see ignoring it and trying to get past it. I am leaving it up to the realtor to decide. Just to put such hateful things out there and then ask to be the backup for the sale of the house is pretty suspicious. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 I would report it to police. If a person is making threats like that in an attempt to benefit monetarily (by being a backup buyer) then I can't see how that is legal. (I just don't know what to call it. Is there such a thing as libel for profit?) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 (edited) 41 minutes ago, Ottakee said: There were 2 very nasty threads. The moderator of the FB group did say it could be found. Now to decide if I want to. Get it if you can for documentation in case there is further harassment. Also, I would leave any group that didn’t block/ban people who engaged in that sort of behavior. Filing a police report would also be a good idea. My blood is boiling for you. I hope whatever house that woman ends up buying has extensive damage that is not discovered during the inspection. Edited September 18, 2018 by LucyStoner 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 There is NOTHING worse than a “righteous’ bully. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 Huge hugs! FWIW, You need to get copies and at a minimum save them. Someday you might be glad. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 1 hour ago, Ottakee said: I am leaving it up to the realtor to decide. Just to put such hateful things out there and then ask to be the backup for the sale of the house is pretty suspicious. I am glad you can get a copy of it. I revise my earlier opinion. I would get a copy, file a police report, and then do nothing else unless the sale of your house is affected. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shoeless Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 I would get a copy while you can. I admin a facebook group, and I think there is a time limit for undeleting a post, (maybe 30 days? I don't remember). You don't have to act on the information after you receive it. It may be better to have the info and not use it than to need the info and not be able to get it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 no advice but "hugs" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 At the very least, get a copy of it. If you have any future problems, you’ll want a record of past problems. I would be tempted to out her offer on the FB group (but I wouldn’t) (but I’d want to). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 I also think you should get a copy now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 I think you should try to get a copy. People who do awful things like that *might* do other awful things like vandalism to a mailbox, etc. so please stay safe. Mean people suck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamaraby Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 I would get a copy and once the copy was in hand, I would file a police report. I would not expect anything to happen from that report, but I would want it on record in case anything happened in the future. A lot of times people wait and want the LEO to do something , but options mfor action may be limitd because while that incident is one of many, as far as the LEO is concerned, it’s the first report. Better to get it on record now, imo. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 I agree with those who say get a copy in case you need it. If your house sells satisfactorily you can always delete it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 Geez, I must be petty. Not only would I get copies of the offending posts, but I'd let the FB group know I'd done so "in case legal action is needed." And I'd out her for her sneaky ulterior motives. I'd probably not pursue legal action...but I'd be glad to make her sweat a bit. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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