Halcyon Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 More business drama. I don't want to post the details, but truly I cannot believe that someone I trusted and thought was my friend would behave this way. He has done something utterly, completely inexcusable and I am so livid and sad and angry all at the same time. I have 10 more days in the space. I am considering asking if I can move into the space sooner. I just dont know if I can work in the same physical space as this person. I have tried very, very hard to stay professional, keep good karma going, good intentions, keep things amicable. I don't know what to do now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I have been following your ordeal. I would get out ASAP. Sorry you are going through this! (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Uggh_sorry you have to deal with crappola your last ten days there. I guess, underneath any other response you might have, you can be grateful you don't have to stay partners with this guy anymore. What he did doesn't jeopardize your moving, does it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Try to move now. If you can't get into your new office yet, reschedule your appointments until you are settled in your new place. Either way, pack up and leave your old office today. You don't need this drama. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 19, 2013 Author Share Posted August 19, 2013 Uggh_sorry you have to deal with crappola your last ten days there. I guess, underneath any other response you might have, you can be grateful you don't have to stay partners with this guy anymore. What he did doesn't jeopardize your moving, does it? No, it doesn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I'm sorry...I guess it validates your wanting to move on. I would do something to let off some steam and then proceed professionally, but not letting him take advantage of you. Or, just cut your losses and move on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 19, 2013 Author Share Posted August 19, 2013 Try to move now. If you can't get into your new office yet, reschedule your appointments until you are settled in your new place. Either way, pack up and leave your old office today. You don't need this drama. :grouphug: Well, i see most of my patients 2-3 times a week, so I can't reschedule them. I am going to ask if I can move into the space early, however. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Well, i see most of my patients 2-3 times a week, so I can't reschedule them. I am going to ask if I can move into the space early, however. I hope you're able to get into your new space early, then -- it's so uncomfortable being stuck in an office when there's conflict. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I don't know the story, but I'm so sorry you're going through this. At the end of each work day, can you tell yourself, one day closer to the day you move? Would that help at all? I hope the time somehow flies for you and the move is smooth and drama free. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I haven't posted, but have been following your problem. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Hang in there. I hope you can move early, but if not, each day gets you one day closer to when you can move. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 More business drama. I don't want to post the details, but truly I cannot believe that someone I trusted and thought was my friend would behave this way. He has done something utterly, completely inexcusable and I am so livid and sad and angry all at the same time. I have 10 more days in the space. I am considering asking if I can move into the space sooner. I just dont know if I can work in the same physical space as this person. I have tried very, very hard to stay professional, keep good karma going, good intentions, keep things amicable. I don't know what to do now. I'm sorry. I'd move early if possible. It's the people we trust that can hurt us more than random sh!tbags off the streets, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Can you suffer through this week, and take an unscheduled "vacation" next week and get the heck out? If your patients are repeats each week, you can tell them you are moving (personally, which is a good idea) and need next week to physically move. Then you can move, and be ready in your new place. And get away from the jerk! Best wishes, and this too shall pass... quickly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Agreeing with everyone else. Move out today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Halcyon, I'm so sorry. Thinking good thoughts for your situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I hope he isn't jeopardizing your future with your clients. :grouphug: Hang in there. It won't be too much longer even if you can't get out of the space sooner than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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hillfarm Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 1. Call the new landlord and ask her if you can move in immediately. If you can, then do whatever it takes to set up a basic treatment room so you can start practicing out of there immediately. 2. If so, contact your scheduled appointments and tell them to come see you in your new location. You may need to watch for them as they park and perhaps even have a volunteer helper escort them to the new location for a week or 2 so they don't even set foot in the other office again. 3. If anything he did is illegal, such as violating patient confidentiality, or taking liberties with records to which he has no legal access, or billing issues, write a formal letter of complaint to him, and copy his licensing authorities. 4. Remove any and all items of value that belong to you from his premises. This includes furniture, products, office supplies, linens, etc. If you are not able to move yet, treat your patients from a suitcase, basically. Get all your stuff out asap. Carry it around in plastic bins in your vehicle for a week or two if you have to, rather than leaving it in the current location. 5. Vent your emotions here and be a stone cold practitioner to him. Don't be emotional or petty. Don't get drawn in to any conversations or arguments. Be professional to a fault. Ignore him completely if possible. If he tries to engage you in any further squabbles, tell him, "I'm sorry, but I am not interested in this interaction. Please direct all future communications you wish to have with me through my attorney." (You do need to have an attorney available in case he asks for the address.)In essence, he is dead to you now. 6. Look forward, not back. He's a chump, too bad he has to live with himself. You, OTOH, are moving on to bigger and better things. Focus on happy, exciting stuff. Your new location, new promotions and business ideas. Focus on your patients and ways to give them even better service. Let the petty little man stew in his own juices, you are free of him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I'm so sorry. I hope you can move in sooner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Yep, see if you can move in early. Good thing you found out the real deal while it was still a trial period... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I am so sorry. I would get out asap because he may be trying to turn your clients against you, stealing information, or reporting you to some local regulatory board for no good reason but could nevertheless make your life misreable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 If it were me, I'd prep up the new space and then announce that you're leaving. I would not ask permission. Unless it were illegal to do otherwise, I would perkily announce, "I'm all set up at Y and today is my last day here. I have so loved working here. Thank you so much! Goodby." I'd be cheerful and pleasant and LEAVE!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 20, 2013 Author Share Posted August 20, 2013 Thank you all. I am talking to the woman I am going to share space with tomorrow to see if I can move in early. I know she is travelling next week so she just might be amenable. I am sick in the heart over this. Ex-partner and I are finalizing the bank account tomorrow (he hasn't touched the money, thank god-i don't think he'd go that far, but you never know) and I am getting a check of moneys owed to me. Luckily, it's not a ton--a good amount, but nothing that would devastate us if I didn't see. I never thought someone in the healing arts would be capable of doing this to another practitioner. Nothing he has done has so far affected my current patients and that's all I care about, to be honest. But I am taking my patient files out of the office tomorrow. That's the most important thing to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree Frog Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 reported. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Oh my word. OK, I take back the things I said a thread or two ago about him not being crazy, and not expecting him to be a lunatic, or whatever other stupid things I said. You're on the right road. Just move on as quickly as you can, and it'll all blow over. Run anything that worries you by your attorney, now, as he's obviously off his rocker. Sometimes a firm "cease and desist" letter from an attorney can work wonders, if what he is doing/did is along the lines of bad mouthing you. (((((hugs))))) I hope your new space works out beautifully for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Am I the only one who cannot go to sleep for wondering what he did? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reflections Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 I know you are a healing practitioner, but would it be real bad to wish him a boil on his backside?? :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelly1730 Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 I hope that today is a MUCH better day and brings some closure to this entire ordeal for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 I would pack up and walk away. It's seriously not worth the drama and stress. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Agreeing with everyone else. Leave now if you can and protect your assets (furniture, client list, etc). I hope you hear back with a positive answer from your new business partner. You may also want to photograph the old space as you leave behind so the jerk can't claim you damaged something. I'm sorry he has disappointed you this way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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