plain jane Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Ds has a once in a life time event coming up in June. I really want to go. Dh and I have been really working with him towards for months this and he's so excited. I'm so excited & proud. This is a big deal. I really want to be there (obviously) but can't because of baby. :( So I asked a family member if they would babysit and after a lame excuse of, oh, I have a meeting at ___. Whoops! Wrong, time, function is over 2 hours before then. ;) Then they just flat out said, "no, *I* want to see ____ do _____. :glare: Then I said the reserved seats are for family only (this is true :)). To which they said, well I am family since you won't be there, there will be a spot. :glare: :cursing: I'm mad, disappointed and hurt. I know that I have no right to expect family to babysit my kids. I had just really hoped that they would recognize that as the mother, perhaps I would like to be there. :( Wah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Just this once? Surely you know someone who knows someone who is safe, reliable sitter. Is it for an overnight or just for a day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Wow, and call me petty, but if for some reason you can't find another sitter, I still wouldn't let that person attend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Ds has a once in a life time event coming up in June. I really want to go. Dh and I have been really working with him towards for months this and he's so excited. I'm so excited & proud. This is a big deal. I really want to be there (obviously) but can't because of baby. :( So I asked a family member if they would babysit and after a lame excuse of, oh, I have a meeting at ___. Whoops! Wrong, time, function is over 2 hours before then. ;) Then they just flat out said, "no, *I* want to see ____ do _____. :glare: Then I said the reserved seats are for family only (this is true :)). To which they said, well I am family since you won't be there, there will be a spot. :glare: :cursing: I'm mad, disappointed and hurt. I know that I have no right to expect family to babysit my kids. I had just really hoped that they would recognize that as the mother, perhaps I would like to be there. :( Wah. Tell that family member, No.... I want to go. That reserved seat is for me. I am trying to find a way to go. I'm sorry you won't be able to see him. I'll take some pictures for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 Just this once? Surely you know someone who knows someone who is safe, reliable sitter. Is it for an overnight or just for a day? Yes, I'll probably find a sitter. Baby will likely hate it and scream most of the time, but at least I have time to prepare. :tongue_smilie: I'm just annoyed by this ATM and need to vent. Again, I know i have no right to expect babysitting. I'm just hurt and mad about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T'smom Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Ds has a once in a life time event coming up in June. I really want to go. Dh and I have been really working with him towards for months this and he's so excited. I'm so excited & proud. This is a big deal. I really want to be there (obviously) but can't because of baby. :( So I asked a family member if they would babysit and after a lame excuse of, oh, I have a meeting at ___. Whoops! Wrong, time, function is over 2 hours before then. ;) Then they just flat out said, "no, *I* want to see ____ do _____. :glare: Then I said the reserved seats are for family only (this is true :)). To which they said, well I am family since you won't be there, there will be a spot. :glare: :cursing: I'm mad, disappointed and hurt. I know that I have no right to expect family to babysit my kids. I had just really hoped that they would recognize that as the mother, perhaps I would like to be there. :( Wah. That's awful. Really awful. I can't believe your family member is so selfish. (Is it a MIL?) Is there NO ONE else you can ask to babysit? I know that I would bend over backwards to help a friend attend an event for their child. Even something that was not once-in-a-lifetime. How old is baby? How long would you need to be away from baby? If the event isn't too long, maybe you could hire a teen to carry baby around outside during the event so you could nurse or whatever directly before and after. I don't know- I'm just trying to brainstorm ideas for a difficult situation. I know this would be a petty and immature reaction, but I would NOT let that particular family member have my seat.....I'd give it to someone else if there was NO possible way for me to attend. ETA: Others posted while I was typing. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who would NOT let that family member have that ticket! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2myboys Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I am taken aback by the fact that this person thought that they could take your seat at the event! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 I am taken aback by the fact that this person thought that they could take your seat at the event! I know. :willy_nilly: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Ds has a once in a life time event coming up in June. I really want to go. Dh and I have been really working with him towards for months this and he's so excited. I'm so excited & proud. This is a big deal. I really want to be there (obviously) but can't because of baby. :( So I asked a family member if they would babysit and after a lame excuse of, oh, I have a meeting at ___. Whoops! Wrong, time, function is over 2 hours before then. ;) Then they just flat out said, "no, *I* want to see ____ do _____. :glare: Then I said the reserved seats are for family only (this is true :)). To which they said, well I am family since you won't be there, there will be a spot. :glare: :cursing: I'm mad, disappointed and hurt. I know that I have no right to expect family to babysit my kids. I had just really hoped that they would recognize that as the mother, perhaps I would like to be there. :( Wah. Wow!! Rude!! I would tell them that I would find other arrangements and they do not have a seat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 You have every right to be hurt by this. That person, family or not, was rude and selfish. Get a different babysitter and let them know YOU will be attending. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 You have until June right? There must be some way to find SOMEONE! I think it is pretty lousy your family is willing to snatch up your seat. That's pretty selfish. :grouphug: Yes, I'll work to find someone. We don't have anyone else currently and this person knows that. But I'm not completely out of luck. It just makes things more complicated. At least I have time to figure it out. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'll babysit. Where are you???? Lara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'll babysit. Where are you???? Lara That's what I was thinking! If you're anywhere near me or Lara, we have you covered! I can't believe the nerve of some people. They definitely would not get my seat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Again, I know i have no right to expect babysitting. I'm just hurt and mad about it. the way the person said that was sort of mean! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'll babysit. Where are you???? Lara :iagree: Me, three (or four). I don't mind a screaming baby. And I promise not to want your seat if you turn me down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Wow- that's really mean for the family member to say something like that. Can this person attend if you don't allow it? Like, do you have the tickets or something? Because even with a sitter, seeing this person near you is going to sap the joy out of this event. My extended family members said/done some pretty mean things but nothing like this. So sorry for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) Wow, and call me petty, but if for some reason you can't find another sitter, I still wouldn't let that person attend. :iagree: Add me to the Petty Club. There is NO POSSIBLE WAY that person would be attending if I couldn't. I would prefer to leave the seat empty or offer it to another family who could use it. BTW, if you're in a real pinch, could you bring the baby? It's not like the baby would need a separate seat, so taking the chance that the baby might get fussy would still be a better option than not going at all. I'm so sorry you have such a nervy, inconsiderate family member. They don't have to babysit, but to come right out and say that they won't babysit so they can see your ds do something really special instead of you being there for him... :angry: :angry: :angry: Edited March 30, 2012 by Catwoman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Just get said baby use to an Ergo :) Then... have the sitter wear baby in Ergo.... It'll be really fine... I shared a baby at co-op and since he was use to being worn, after a minute he was fine.... (Never mind the mama and I weren't the same size or anything!! :)) Even if he/she screams for a bit, it's nothing compared to you being able to have the memory. Find someone who'll keep the baby safe... and go :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Again, I know i have no right to expect babysitting. I'm just hurt and mad about it. It's one thing to expect/plan/hope-for family to babysit, it's another for them to say, "you can't go anyway, so I'm going." :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'll babysit. Where are you???? Lara :iagree: :D That's what I was thinking! If you're anywhere near me or Lara, we have you covered! I can't believe the nerve of some people. They definitely would not get my seat. :iagree: Me, three (or four). I don't mind a screaming baby. And I promise not to want your seat if you turn me down. :iagree: I'll babysit :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 You are correct that you can't really expect family to be obligated to babysit. But you should have the expectation that people will not be a butt head. Wow, no way would that person be attending. They are like a vulture, swooping in to take advantage of someone's difficulty. Yuck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cougarmom4 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 My first thought was, I'll babysit for you! And then I kept reading all of the offers! Do you live near anybody from the hive? It sounds like something my MIL would do. Seriously. She can't bear to miss anything like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 You are correct that you can't really expect family to be obligated to babysit. But you should have the expectation that people will not be a butt head. Wow, no way would that person be attending. They are like a vulture, swooping in to take advantage of someone's difficulty. Yuck. Totally! It would be one thing if that person just wasn't available, it's quite another to refuse so they can have your seat. Appalling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondeviolin Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 If you're in OK, I can help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruby Rose Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Uh, over my dead body would (sorry excuse for) family member get MY seat. I'm proud of you for having enough composure to not rip them a new one. Dang, this makes me so mad FOR you. You've gotten some great suggestions. You will find an alternative sitter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'll sit ...if you are in northern Illinois. Seriously, you must live near ONE of us, right? WTM-Sitters Incorporated, that's us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Just this once? Surely you know someone who knows someone who is safe, reliable sitter. Is it for an overnight or just for a day? Yes, do this. Or ask a friend, who wouldn't presume to take your place at the event. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeslieAnneLevine Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I thought it was nice that the family member wanted to see your DS do whatever it is he'll be doing. Even when they said they wouldn't babysit in order for you to go, because they wanted to go so badly, I could still see how it's nice for your son to have that support. BUT, when they said they were planning on taking your seat :svengo: I really hope you get to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'm astounded. (And I would babysit if you were in cruising range. Are you?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Add me to the list of people who will babysit if you live reasonably close. I can handle a screaming baby for quite awhile, with a smile.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KirstenH Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'm in Virginia and I'd babysit, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 That is just bizarre. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Just this once? Surely you know someone who knows someone who is safe, reliable sitter. Is it for an overnight or just for a day? This! And as to your family member - I will refrain from typing out my opinion here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 If it were me and I couldn't find any sitter at all, I'd find another person who was attending the same event and needed another ticket for their family to give the ticket to. No way would my mean family member get the ticket. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Add me to the WTMama Babysitter Bunch. Not sure where you are, but one of us must be close! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Trying to steal the mama's seat at an event with her kid is appalling!!! Add me to the babysitting list! I hope you get a sitter, that you thoroughly enjoy yourself, and gush and show tons of pics to the evil family member. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 YOU GET TO GO!! Yes, I'm yelling. For heaven's sake, you're the Mommy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty Social Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwg Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 :thumbdown::angry::mad: What did dh say about all this? I will watch the baby too :D I miss 'em! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Oh my gosh! I'd be mad and hurt, too! Unbelievable! Definitely find another sitter and YOU go! And if you're near me in PA, I'd babysit for you, too! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KirstenH Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 This! And as to your family member - I will refrain from typing out my opinion here. I won't. My first thought was of the evil stepmother and stepsisters from Cinderella, specifically the "Ever After" version. I totally saw the Baroness in my mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jallison25 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 offer from ohio to babysit :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah C. Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 In case none of the WTM babysitters work out, there are websites which exist solely to connect reputable babysitters and parents. My mother used them to find babysitters for several graduations. Unfortunately I don't have more details, but Google may be helpful..or maybe my mother will notice this post. ;) Add me to the list of people who would uninvite rude family member. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I am taken aback by the fact that this person thought that they could take your seat at the event! :iagree: This is unbelievably, over-the-top RUDE, self-centered, and really, really inconsiderate. I would be tempted to not extend the ticket to that person just on general principle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwg Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 :iagree: This is unbelievably, over-the-top RUDE, self-centered, and really, really inconsiderate. I would be tempted to not extend the ticket to that person just on general principle. :iagree: I didn't say that earlier but of course that person lost their seat! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Yeah, no way would that person be going. I would take baby with if I had to. Crazy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrdinaryTime Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 You have a total right to feel hurt. What terribly selfish behavior! If you are in Northern Va/D.C. area, I'd love to help you out with babysitting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Heck, I'll say it: You better believe I would EXPECT a family member to babysit in this situation! In turn, they would expect it of me, and none of us would let the other person down. That stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Wow... you've got offers from all over... I think Anne in OR lives around me... but if she doesn't.... I would sit, too. Seriously, a baby crying or happy for a day is no big deal :) (If nothing else, strolling around the mall till they fall asleep :)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I'm really hoping that there is a physical ticket, and that the person won't be able to just show up and claim that reserved seat as a family member before you get there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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