Live2Ride Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 . . . . that cancer really bites dust....it's been a really long day...that is all....:crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbabe Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: It TOTALLY does!!! I'm so sorry. Is it your cancer or a loved one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :iagree::crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milovany Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Lord, have mercy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquinas Academy Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akmommy Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newlifemom Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I agree. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 Its my dearest friend...it came on fast and hard. They aren't sure what she's actually got and chemo didn't work on much of it. She had bit of cancer here and there in her body. She's got a couple of tumors, one quite large, in her abdomen. It's bad. Hospice came today to deliver her bed, chair, oxygen....that sort of stuff. The nurse is not giving her long. Those of you who've been there know what I mean...her poor husband is just trying to be stoic, but he's just crushed...and it's hard to be sad and just be able to spend time just the two of them, when so many people are coming in. She is loved by many. We moved here almost 10 years ago and she was so excited when she found out I was into horses and was bringing one with me. We became the best of friends. We have such similar interests and just got along smashingly. I don't have another friend like her or one that is into horses and gardening like we were. This really stinks. I told her she just had to get better because otherwise I wouldn't have a riding partner anymore and quite frankly I was being selfish and didn't want to be left without someone who I could hang out with all the time...she's like an aunt to my kids too. It just really bites...There is a lot to do tomorrow. He and I are going to be moving some things around before people get there. I'm trying to make sure he eats and gets some rest. His daughter is coming to stay the rest of this week to help. She's a nurse and loves my friend, who was like another mother to her.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm so sorry. That sounds trite but truly, I am very sorry for your friend and for you. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jbemom Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :iagree: Lost my dad to cancer six years ago! So sorry to hear about your friend! :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 I just went through this with my grandpa a few years ago as well. I helped care for him the last two weeks he was with us... Thanks ya'll for the hugs and kind thoughts/prayers. Saying sorry is not trite I promise you that. She is a great friend and things will be harder without her here... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelaughs_times_three Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :crying: I don't know you or your friend, but just hearing about her and how wonderful your friendship is........I want to cry. I am soooo sad and sorry for you and for her dh! My prayers and love are with you all! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Sorry you are going through this. I wish you all peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Cancer is just pure evil. I've never hated anything worse in my life as I do this disease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry...my heart hurts for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoPlaceLikeHome Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSmomNY Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Yes it does :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm so sorry. We just went through this with a dear friend. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duckabell Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm sorry.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: I'm sorry. I lost a friend at 32 to colon cancer. It's a *^#*^@ thing. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeekingSimplicity Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: I lost my mom to cancer. It does bite a really big one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm so, so sorry. These things are so hard to understand... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 Cancer is indeed hard to comprehend. Her husbands dd just wants to know 'when' so she can be 'prepared'. I looked across the bed as we were making it and told her that she won't really know when, but that she needs to just spend time now talking to her while she's still coherent. That's what is really important. The next week or so is going to really bite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Its my dearest friend...it came on fast and hard. They aren't sure what she's actually got and chemo didn't work on much of it. She had bit of cancer here and there in her body. She's got a couple of tumors, one quite large, in her abdomen. It's bad. Hospice came today to deliver her bed, chair, oxygen....that sort of stuff. The nurse is not giving her long. Those of you who've been there know what I mean...her poor husband is just trying to be stoic, but he's just crushed...and it's hard to be sad and just be able to spend time just the two of them, when so many people are coming in. She is loved by many. We moved here almost 10 years ago and she was so excited when she found out I was into horses and was bringing one with me. We became the best of friends. We have such similar interests and just got along smashingly. I don't have another friend like her or one that is into horses and gardening like we were. This really stinks. I told her she just had to get better because otherwise I wouldn't have a riding partner anymore and quite frankly I was being selfish and didn't want to be left without someone who I could hang out with all the time...she's like an aunt to my kids too. It just really bites...There is a lot to do tomorrow. He and I are going to be moving some things around before people get there. I'm trying to make sure he eats and gets some rest. His daughter is coming to stay the rest of this week to help. She's a nurse and loves my friend, who was like another mother to her.... :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I'm so sorry - I pray God's peace and comfort for all of you :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Its my dearest friend...it came on fast and hard. They aren't sure what she's actually got and chemo didn't work on much of it. She had bit of cancer here and there in her body. She's got a couple of tumors, one quite large, in her abdomen. It's bad. Hospice came today to deliver her bed, chair, oxygen....that sort of stuff. The nurse is not giving her long. Those of you who've been there know what I mean...her poor husband is just trying to be stoic, but he's just crushed...and it's hard to be sad and just be able to spend time just the two of them, when so many people are coming in. She is loved by many. I lost a much loved friend to cancer. I was best friends with his wife. They got to a point where they truly needed to LIMIT visitors. He had so many people who loved him and it was constant, round the clock visitors. As he deteriorated, he truly cherished time ALONE with his wife and kids. I decided to set a schedule for visitors. It was fall time and I made a scarecrow. I typed out a lovely letter telling everyone he LOVED visitors but was becoming extremely weak and wanted to make sure he had devoted plenty of time to be with his family. I had the scarecrow hold the note, and in the lap was a guest book for people to sign. I would make phone calls from that guest book to set up a schedule for visitors. Maybe this family would benefit from something like this? I'm so sorry for your friend, her family, you, everyone. It's awful to lose someone before their time, and ALWAYS hard to lose someone you love.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiberia Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm so sorry. I just went through this with my mom in April. I agree with the above poster about limiting people's time or making a schedule for visits. My mom got to where a short visit would wipe her out completely, so we asked for no visitors. But we did tell people that we read every card to her out loud and told her of every phone call. Even if she wasn't able to respond, my dad read every card. It's hard though, because people want to come say goodbye. Friends are also in shock and want to do something. I'm so sorry for your pain. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbabe Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I have a friendship just like you described. We're so close it's like we're sisters. I would be lost without her and my heart is breaking for you and for her/her family. Sending hugs your way because words won't help.:grouphug: God bless you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Sorry... Cancer does stink. I think that all of my mom's and dad's siblings had some sort of cancer take them. (so over 10+ siblings together) Now my mom has it :( So sorry for you... for her husband... kids... your kids.... all those who will miss her :( Cancer stinks! :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southcarolinamom Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: It does, it SO does. xo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizzyBee Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 .. . . that cancer really bites dust....it's been a really long day...that is all....:crying: :iagree: I lost a cousin to breast cancer in May, then I was diagnosed with leukemia in June. Fortunately, the kind of leukemia I have is treatable; but I will have it for the rest of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DusksAngel Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: My best friend has stage 2 brain cancer. Luckily it's in remission right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blessed2fosteradopt Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 HATE, HATE, HATE cancer. It took my precious aunt in 6 months. Lung cancer and she never smoked a day in her life. I am so sorry that you are going through this and especially for your friend's dh. I will pray for all involved. Blessings, Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thia Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I'm sorry. Said a prayer for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I hate cancer too! sending love.. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 4, 2011 Author Share Posted September 4, 2011 Thank you to everyone for the prayers. Red Cross got the message to her brother yesterday, who is overseas, so he's on his way home. She had a lot of family there today. I try and visit in the morning and evening when it's quiet. She and I had a laugh tonight about something I told her the other day. I hoped she had heard me as that day she was in and out a good bit. Then she said, 'It's quiet' and I knew what she meant...she is a pretty private person...she likes to visit her family, but short visits really. I also teased her that the next time she wanted her chapstick, she might be getting lipstick instead, :tongue_smilie:. She laughed because she is not a makeup person at all. She'll put a little bit on if she goes to dinner with her husband...but even that is very light. But she knows that I like to get made up when I go out :D and would sometimes tease me about it. I told her I'd be back in the morning and she told me, not too early, lol. I guess she's planning on sleeping in, I told her and she just smiled, :001_smile: . It was a tough day today for her husband...It hit me more today too... On to tomorrow.... Thanks again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 I'm so sorry. How awful :( I've lost a number of loved ones to cancer too, and it stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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