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#1 Scarlett

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:33 PM

I asked him for ideas the other day.  I believe he came up with bamboo sheets.  A homemade quilt. 

 

Seriously.  He doesn't want anything.  No class ring.  No watch.  Nothing.  

 

 


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:34 PM

Get him the sheets or make him the quilt.


What is the point of a class ring or a watch?
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:35 PM

I gave my nephew who just graduated a gas card.  But, he's signed up for the Navy, and THINGS were low on his list.  He received a brand new custom built computer from his parents, and most other gifts were just cash. 



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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:37 PM

Get him the sheets or make him the quilt.


What is the point of a class ring or a watch?

 

 

No point I guess.  What is the point of anything?  High school graduation is a milestone and I want to mark it for him.

 

My mom might make him a quilt....I don't sew....and yes  can buy him sheets...but it isn't like a keep sake.


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:39 PM

We do a graduation party of their choice and a senior pic session. That's the gift

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:42 PM

No point I guess.  What is the point of anything?  High school graduation is a milestone and I want to mark it for him.

 

My mom might make him a quilt....I don't sew....and yes  can buy him sheets...but it isn't like a keep sake.

 

My keepsake was my class ring....but part of the reason it was a keepsake for me was I bought it myself....after I got pregnant my senior year.

 

DD22 didn't want any sort of keepsake.

 

And I have never met a BOY who cared about high school grad keepsake. 


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:43 PM

A celebratory dinner and a college education.

 

I don't get class rings. 

 


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#8 Scarlett

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:44 PM

We do a graduation party of their choice and a senior pic session. That's the gift

 

He doesn't want a party either.  But I think we can talk him into a small pool party here at the house.  I already paid for  his pics. Which he fought me tooth and nail on.  



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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:45 PM

A celebratory dinner and a college education.

 

I don't get class rings. 

 

 

Well his dad is paying for his college education.  I guess I am helping by supplying room and board.



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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:46 PM

A celebratory dinner and a college education.

 

I don't get class rings. 

 

For me, the class ring was a symbol of the fact that although I did have a baby in high school, I graduated on time.  I had it engraved with my name, and the year only.  The design was such that it could be worn in any situation....no chunky black antiquy stuff, real stones etc.

 

BUT, again, it carried meaning for me beyond what it carries for most. 


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:48 PM

Well, back in the day, my parents gave each child a set of luggage as their graduation gift.  Perhaps a not so subtle hint that it was time to get out!


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:49 PM

My DH is 47.  His memories of high school are mostly neutral at best.  He never went to prom, and doesn't care.  He walked at his HS graduation but honestly, I haven't never seen a graduation pic.  His parents did senior pics but even after going through his mom's hope chest, there's NOTHING from his high school graduation specifically.  He had no party.  He did join the military the week after he graduated, and there's a pic of when he signed.  That's about it.

 

And...he still doesn't care.


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 07:51 PM

We bought a 12x12" scrapbook & put favorite pix, certificates, drawings, etc.

One child got a small treasure box (at Hobby Lobby) for his keepsakes.

I would just go heavy on the sentimental, & give cash!


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 08:16 PM

I plan on doing some picture books for my kid when he graduates.  That's a nice keepsake that he might not appreciate immediately, but if he goes on to have a family later it will be enjoyed for years. 


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 08:32 PM

What about college gear from the school he plans to attend?
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 08:47 PM

In my limited experience, high school graduation becomes less of a big deal if there's college to follow. Everyone talks about high school their first semester of college, then no one cares anymore. High school rings, letter jackets and sometimes boyfriends (lol) are left behind. Pictures are for parents.
Give him something he can use for college, like a new computer, a super nice backpack,sheets...or a trip to celebrate. Then let it go.
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 08:49 PM

I'm getting my son a new iPhone (his is at least 5 years old)

We will go out to fancy restaurant to celebrate.
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 09:02 PM

Class rings are usually purchased sophomore year here. Interesting. I'd want to get something meaningful - maybe a watch or some other gift that could be worn (or not) for years.


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 09:13 PM

Some nice gifts my high school graduates received:

Leatherman tool
Small Repair kit if living in a dorm - hammer, screwdrivers, duct tape
Backpack or Messenger bag - a nice one that fits well with a padded slot for a laptop
Contigo water bottle and Thermos set (for hot drinks)
Noise canceling head phones (great for commuting and plane rides)
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 09:14 PM

Class rings come in handy years down the road when you're broke and gold is priced well enough to make it worth selling.

 

Guess what happened to mine?


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 09:21 PM

Mine didn't want a class ring or a graduation party. He wanted a sleeping bag and tent. So that is what I got him
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 09:25 PM

Ds will be getting money. That’s all he ever wants. I’ll probably put some in his savings acct and give him cash.
Oh, and take him and friends out to eat. He loves to eat, lol.
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:06 PM


Perhaps a check in the amount you would spend on something into his savings account. Does he need a suit? That could be a practical gift. Is there some kind of lessons or thing he has talked about that he won’t get himself you could surprise him with.
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:18 PM

Perhaps a check in the amount you would spend on something into his savings account. Does he need a suit? That could be a practical gift. Is there some kind of lessons or thing he has talked about that he won’t get himself you could surprise him with.


He wears suits 3 times a week. I just bought him a new one. He has two. And his dad gave him $500 for new clothes. He was hard pressed to spend 250 of it.

His dad also bought him a new lap top.

Ds just spent a good portion of his savings on a nice desk top computer for gaming.

A lesson......maybe. But he stopped piano lessons several years ago. He loves his piano though.....a nice keyboard actually.

I wish I could afford to buy him a real piano. THAT is a gift he would enjoy.

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:19 PM

I'm getting my son a new iPhone (his is at least 5 years old)

We will go out to fancy restaurant to celebrate.


Just family?

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:22 PM

I'm not a big one on high school graduation - my girls both recevied luggage because they were going to school across the country and would be traveling a lot.

I don't remember what i gave my sons.  cameras? computer equip?

 

 

if he wants sheets and a quilt - great.   give them to him.  you can make (or find) a nice quilt.


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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:44 PM

I wish I could afford to buy him a real piano. THAT is a gift he would enjoy.


I would hold on about buying a piano though. I only bought upright pianos because I prefer condos to any homes with staircases or yards/lawns (ETA: as in no space for a grand piano). Moving an upright piano from house to house cost at least $200 here and tuning a piano is at least $80 if done annually. Also pianos don’t have headphone jacks unlike keyboards or digital pianos so it can be annoying to listen to a piano piece played daily for more than a year (which is what my husband did).

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Posted 12 February 2018 - 10:45 PM

Quilts can be keepsakes, I have several that hold a lot of sentimental value. I bought ds a passport and a t-shirt from his college.
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Posted 12 February 2018 - 11:11 PM

Nice frame for the photo you will take or have taken. You can place it on a shelf and take care of it for him until he is grown up enough to want it himself ;-)
Otherwise, here one kid got a laptop for college, another a decent carry-on suitcase. Oldest kid got a passport (still unused alas, so much for study abroad).

They also all got a thermal mug to keep that morning coffee or tea hot with a logo from their chosen college. Filled with their fav candy.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 06:47 AM

Graduation cars are nice.
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#31 Scarlett

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:27 AM

Graduation cars are nice.


He has a car.

I do feel better knowing I should probably just stop worrying about it.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:23 AM

A trip.
Tuition or books for college/trade school.
Uniforms/shoes for work (if they aren't covered by employer).

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:45 AM

Is this DSS? How about chef knives?

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:53 AM

No this is my son.  

 

His dad wants to take him on a trip.  He doesn't want to go .

 

If he could go with friends he would like it.  



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:06 AM

Is he commuting or living in the dorm?  If commuting, you could get his car detailed.  It's not sentimental at all, but it does have a "let me do something special for you because you graduated" vibe to it.   Up grade his floor mats.  Give him a gas card.  But it starts off the next part of his life all fresh and clean.

 

 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:12 AM

Is he commuting or living in the dorm?  If commuting, you could get his car detailed.  It's not sentimental at all, but it does have a "let me do something special for you because you graduated" vibe to it.   Up grade his floor mats.  Give him a gas card.  But it starts off the next part of his life all fresh and clean.

 

That is a good idea.  I will get him a gift certificate to have his car detailed...and buy him new mats.  I actually asked him if he wanted new mats and he said no!  But I think he will be glad to have them.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:15 AM

That is a good idea.  I will get him a gift certificate to have his car detailed...and buy him new mats.  I actually asked him if he wanted new mats and he said no!  But I think he will be glad to have them.

 

If he doesn't want the mats, maybe skip those and get him a car kit?  Something like jumper cables, flash light with batteries, a couple of basic tools, phone number for a tow company etc etc. 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:33 AM

No this is my son.

His dad wants to take him on a trip. He doesn't want to go .

If he could go with friends he would like it.


I don't know what the relationship between your ex and your DS is (I know between you and ex is not great). If the son and dad relationship is OK, I might suggest to do that going on a small trip with Dad would be a nice thing to do for his dad since this may be the last time they can do something like this. Then I'd say no more. If the relationship is problematic I'd say nothing.

I get a car related gift, based on your other details.
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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:58 AM

I don't know what the relationship between your ex and your DS is (I know between you and ex is not great). If the son and dad relationship is OK, I might suggest to do that going on a small trip with Dad would be a nice thing to do for his dad since this may be the last time they can do something like this. Then I'd say no more. If the relationship is problematic I'd say nothing.

I get a car related gift, based on your other details.

 

 

My XH and I get along fine.  And he and ds get along ok.  They just have very different lives.  I did some looking at Alaskan cruises and showed to ds and he said, 'would be fun if I was doing it with my friends.'  So he will just have to decide what he wants to do about that.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:00 AM

If he doesn't want the mats, maybe skip those and get him a car kit?  Something like jumper cables, flash light with batteries, a couple of basic tools, phone number for a tow company etc etc. 

 

Car kit is another excellent idea.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:18 AM

My kids have opted for cash. I believe in getting people what they ask for. A keepsake for one is clutter for another.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:56 AM

That is a good idea.  I will get him a gift certificate to have his car detailed...and buy him new mats.  I actually asked him if he wanted new mats and he said no!  But I think he will be glad to have them.

 

I'm thinking you live in snow land. The Weather Tech and ones like that with all the little compartments to catch mud and melted snow are nice.  Also works well when someone drops a soda on the floor.  You can just pick it up level and then flip the liquid out. 



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:39 PM

I just wanted to add that I'm sorry if I came across mean in any way. 

My girl is leaving for college this fall, and I do understand that high school graduation is a rite of passage.

And it is for you (and me), too. 

 

So...hugs to you. Scarlett. 



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:26 PM

I'm thinking you live in snow land. The Weather Tech and ones like that with all the little compartments to catch mud and melted snow are nice. Also works well when someone drops a soda on the floor. You can just pick it up level and then flip the liquid out.


They can hold a 64oz drink really well.....
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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:35 PM

My keepsake was my class ring....but part of the reason it was a keepsake for me was I bought it myself....after I got pregnant my senior year.

 

DD22 didn't want any sort of keepsake.

 

And I have never met a BOY who cared about high school grad keepsake. 

Such a cool gift. The ultimate gift that keeps on giving. My son came way after after HS, but he is the most precious gift of all.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:42 PM

No this is my son.

His dad wants to take him on a trip. He doesn't want to go .

If he could go with friends he would like it.

We gave our son a plane ticket to be used to go anywhere sometime in the future. He ended up using it to go backpacking with friends in Europe the summer after his junior year of college.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:47 PM

Class rings come in handy years down the road when you're broke and gold is priced well enough to make it worth selling.

Guess what happened to mine?


Or when your housekeeper swipes it and sells it for the gold.

Guess what happened to mine? Lol

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:48 PM

Does he already have his own laptop computer?

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:08 PM

I think mine is getting a nice guitar. His was a starter. He recently picked out a guitar for dad and noticed the difference in sound.

I've already been asked what he wants by a family member. I have to say something inexpensive, but memorable to this person so I'm following this.

PS both me and my dad lost our class rings at the beach. I'm not even going to bother with one for him. He would like a more rock and roll type ring anyway.

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 01:30 AM

I asked him for ideas the other day.  I believe he came up with bamboo sheets.  A homemade quilt. 
 
Seriously.  He doesn't want anything.  No class ring.  No watch.  Nothing.

 
 
Tee shirt quilts make great graduation presents. I'm planning to make DS a quilt with all of his fencing shirts from competitions and camps. If your DS has a bunch of graphic tees, maybe you could ask your mom to make a quilt with them? Even if he only has a few, you can add strips of fabric in between and a wide border, or add some blank blocks for friends to sign in fabric marker. 
 
Here are a couple of (randomly googled) examples. For a twin size, obviously you wouldn't need as many shirts.
 
Block style:
 
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