JennifersLost Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Grrr! If my dh is the passenger while I'm driving he jerks his head around, watching the roads, tells me when to go, etc, and just all around drives me nuts! I start second-guessing everything I do, and then of course I do something stupid. I'm perfectly fine when he's NOT in the car. Does this happen to anyone else? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 No, which is lucky since he doesn't have a licence so I'm the only driver around. I can't back into my driveway properly if anyone is looking though. Truth be told, I can't always do it when no one is looking either! :) Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I refuse to drive my husband anywhere, unless it's a dire emergency. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 No. I love driving & dh is a good passenger. If he weren't, I wouldn't let him be a passenger. :001_smile: Plus, in my car, the driver rules. (Of course, if I'm the passenger, then the passenger rules. LOL.) ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Grrr! If my dh is the passenger while I'm driving he jerks his head around, watching the roads, tells me when to go, etc, and just all around drives me nuts! I start second-guessing everything I do, and then of course I do something stupid. I'm perfectly fine when he's NOT in the car. Does this happen to anyone else? Only when he starts the sudden gasping. You know, the intake of breath, as if death or dismemberment are imminent. One day my oldest, who is not yet driving, was correcting every single thing I did. ("Mom. Hand over hand for that turn.") Finally, I said, "You're starting make me nervous. What is up?" Then he confessed that he'd read the entire driver's manual the night before and had apparently committed it to memory. "I see. If you could not correct my every move, that would make the drive a little less stressful for us both," I said. My youngest, from the back of the van shouted, "Yeah! And anyway, you're just supposed to go [terrible, agonized gasp!] when she does something wrong." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I hate that!! I have once or twice pulled over, gotten out of the car and refused to drive any further with my dh.....:glare: Now, when he starts that kind of behavior, I ask him if he'd like to drive and that usually takes care of the problem. Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkpan Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Grrr! If my dh is the passenger while I'm driving he jerks his head around, watching the roads, tells me when to go, etc, and just all around drives me nuts! I start second-guessing everything I do, and then of course I do something stupid. I'm perfectly fine when he's NOT in the car. Does this happen to anyone else? Except that this happens to dh when he is driving and I am in the passenger seat ... thats why he prefers me driving.:blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 This used to happen ALL THE TIME. He would tell me when to shift. He'd remind me to set the hand brake. He'd correct every little thing I did (too fast, too slow, wrong lane, etc.) I swear, every single minute of the drive he'd say something. It drove me absolutely up the wall. And, I'd start making mistakes that I normally didn't make. What made it worse is that I believe I really am a better driver than he is, in may ways. I'm smoother. I don't jerk people around when I turn, or stop, or accelerate. I signal. I stop fully at stop signs. I don't tailgate. I slow down when approaching a stop (rather than accelerating, then slamming on the brakes). I slow down if there is traffic is in front of me (rather than bearing down on them because I have an aversion to using the brakes). *I* don't do any of these things. ARGHHHHH! I can't even remember all the things he used to correct me about (all in the interest of making me a better driver, because (in his words), "Everyone should want to improve themselves." I almost never say anything about his driving. I just shut my eyes, and try to relax, so that if we run into somebody, I won't be all stiff, making it harder to recover. LOL. Anyway, about two years ago, I got so mad I simply refused to drive with him in the car. Since then, I have only driven him on two occasions: once when he sprained his knee and had to go to the emergency room, and once when he was as sick as a dog and we were traveling, and needed to get home. I made him promise on both occasions to keep his mouth shut. He literally had to bite his tongue to keep from saying anything. I don't know how long my ban on driving him will be in effect, but it has done wonders for our marriage. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Dh almost always drives. I definitely feel self-conscious and make stupid mistakes if I'm driving with him watching. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I usually drive the car when my dh has to preach (he's studying in the passenger seat). It doesn't bother me and it doesn't bother him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Grrr! If my dh is the passenger while I'm driving he jerks his head around, watching the roads, tells me when to go, etc, and just all around drives me nuts! I start second-guessing everything I do, and then of course I do something stupid. I'm perfectly fine when he's NOT in the car. Does this happen to anyone else? Yup. Sometimes I look at him and say, "It is really amazing I have managed to drive without you for all these years!!" It drives me CRAZY when he does that and it does make me more nervous. Usually he drives, but I pick him up from work a couple days a week, and I don't really like driving him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I could probably run a red light and narrowly avoid hitting a tractor-trailer and my husband wouldn't bat an eye. On the other hand, being the passenger while he drives (even though he's a perfectly good driver) can set me on edge. Let's just say I like to be in the driver's seat.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I drive ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My dh drives 95% of the time when we are together. He doesn't actually comment on my driving, he just likes having something to do while in the car. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My dh drives 95% of the time when we are together. He doesn't actually comment on my driving, he just likes having something to do while in the car. So does mine. He hand stitched two pairs of Roman socks, has made chainmail and yards of lucetted cord while sitting in the passenger seat. Funnily enough, he does go through phases of "front seat driving" but usually stops when I point out he's never had a licence! :) Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melanie Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I think the last time my husband sat in the passenger seat was 16 years ago, when he was teaching me to drive. If we're together, he drives and I keep my eyes on my knitting. Knitting relaxes me. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Just me and my right foot, repeatedly slamming the floorboards in front of me. :auto: Sometimes, when in the city, I have been known to actually duck so my gasps don't annoy him. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Grrr! If my dh is the passenger while I'm driving he jerks his head around, watching the roads, tells me when to go, etc, and just all around drives me nuts! I start second-guessing everything I do, and then of course I do something stupid. I'm perfectly fine when he's NOT in the car. Does this happen to anyone else? That sounds to me like a recipe for not driving with him. His behavior is distracting. And if something that you call stupid could also be classified as dangerous, I'd stop driving with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I think it must be a guy thing. I do most of the driving when the family is all together. For one, I like driving. For two, DH is an aggressive driver and I do not like that. And he's always telling me what to do, how to drive....he drives me nuts!!!!!! I'm a GREAT driver. Never gotten a ticket or anything. Yet he feels the need to warn me that the driver ahead of me is braking, or that there's a stop sign ahead, or that I need to get over in the next lane. Sometimes I just look at him and say, with as much surprise and sarcasm as I can must, "WOW....I wonder how in the world I ever manage driving around when you are not here in the car with me? I just dont know how I do it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 No, my husband sits quietly or reads and lets me drive. I, on the other hand, do the foot braking, air sucking stuff, etc. I can't seem to help it. It drives him CRAZY!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I think the last time my husband sat in the passenger seat was 16 years ago, when he was teaching me to drive. If we're together, he drives and I keep my eyes on my knitting. Knitting relaxes me. :D I've been married 18 years and I can count on one hand the number of times I've driven my dh anywhere. Most instances were on road trips when he needed a rest. Of course, he slept with one eye open...:auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fivetails Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 If dh is in the van, he's driving. I think I've driven him maybe three times...I think it's a total man-thing with him - can't have the wife driving him anywhere. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsdash Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My dh wont get in a car with me. In MY opinion, that's ridiculous. In his, it's a matter of life or death. There is nothing wrong with my driving, he's just being male. I also hate to drive when he is following behind me. He critiques me when we arrive..."you took that corner too sharp", or "OK, Mario, slow down on the way home, this isn't nascar"....:auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I don't drive any more stupidly, I just drive the way I drive, but yes, he make s me nuts when I drive. If we are on a road trip and I need to drive, I prefer and have often insisted he take a nap in the 3rd seat of the suburban! I can drive thru Chicago much more calmly than he does, but he needs to be someplace other than the front seat when I am driving. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My dh and I probably split the driving 50/50. Neither of us do the gasping, "chicken braking", offering unsolicited driving advice thing. I think he actually prefers me to drive. The only time he's been known to say anything is when I "forget" that I'm in my POV and not the ambulance. He just cocks an eyebrow and says, "You know you're not on duty, right?" [Nobody get their knickers in a twist -- I don't actually run red lights or drive into oncoming traffic. I just assume people will get out of my way - which is utterly ridiculous as no one gets out of my way even when I am on duty and have the whoo-whoo's on. Sigh.] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutor Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I just let dh drive when we are together. Much less aggravating for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Except that this happens to dh when he is driving and I am in the passenger seat ... thats why he prefers me driving.:blushing: ditto. I hate the way my dh drives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamom3 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 to drive. I tell him all the time to be quite or he can drive. Last week I had had ENOUGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Nope, dh doesn't say a word about my driving. Until we moved to the mountains I never said a word about his driving. He takes those curves too fast for my comfort. My dh and I probably split the driving 50/50. Neither of us do the gasping, "chicken braking", offering unsolicited driving advice thing. I think he actually prefers me to drive. The only time he's been known to say anything is when I "forget" that I'm in my POV and not the ambulance. He just cocks an eyebrow and says, "You know you're not on duty, right?" [Nobody get their knickers in a twist -- I don't actually run red lights or drive into oncoming traffic. I just assume people will get out of my way - which is utterly ridiculous as no one gets out of my way even when I am on duty and have the whoo-whoo's on. Sigh.] I know what you mean. There are times I still want to drive my little red Nissan pick up like it is a big red fire engine. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I almost never say anything about his driving. I just shut my eyes, and try to relax, so that if we run into somebody, I won't be all stiff, making it harder to recover. LOL. This is hilarious! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 yes :glare: And he taught me how to drive. He doesn't like being the passenger AT ALL. He makes me nervous because he likes to poke fun at my driving. But ask me who has totaled two cars? :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 No, I'm a good driver. Dh has nothing to complain about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I almost never say anything about his driving. I just shut my eyes, and try to relax, so that if we run into somebody, I won't be all stiff, making it harder to recover. LOL. This is hilarious! That's exactly what I do! Dh always drives when we're together. I keep myself from back seat driving by shutting my eyes. I have the superior driving record (no accidents or tickets compared to 3 accidents and 3 tickets in the last 3 years), so it's more about keeping the peace than who actually drives better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Nope. We both enjoy driving & our usual rule of thumb is that one of us drives TO a place and the other drives HOME. The only thing is that dh has been taking transit to work for over 20 years now & he's totally not used to driving in traffic; he's lost that "aggressive driving" edge. He's fine in the city on weekends but on the odd time that he's driving there during a weekday, I'm the one who want to mutter. Things like "Honey, if I were that person, I'd be flipping you the bird." and "Um, you might want to go a bit quicker. Quicker. Quicker. Oh for the love of.... you could have made that light!" I think I usually manage to bite my tongue though...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 This definitely helped to read. I am the better driver. I'm the one who knows how to drive in snow. He's spun us around on the ice, fallen asleep at the wheel, etc. We've both agreed that when we're 65 we're moving to a small town somewhere warm and giving away our car all together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Sort-of related.... A few years ago, a friend of mine said that whenever her family played the game of Life, her kids (and always her dds) put the guy in the driver's seat of the car. Every single time. She said that was a real eye-opener because she drove the kids around a lot -- when she was the only adult. But, when her dh was along, he always drove. So in the interest of equal opportunity driving, be sure to model that moms can drive while dads ride. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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