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  1. Well, the gist of what I said was that person A needs to understand that their obligations to their spouse and children outweigh any obligations to their mother (who is an adult and presumably is not financially dependent on person A or their family). The happiness and and financial needs of the spouse and children should come first.
  2. nevermind, I just saw the last post so sharing my opinion is REALLY not necessary at this point. :)
  3. Oh my, I missed your news (I've been sporadically reading between bouts of packing and painting and all the other everyday stuff). Congratulations! What month are you due? I hope all goes well and that for some freak reason this delivery will set your body back to 'normal' and you don't have ANY more pain EVER. :) Sorry you are still dealing with MIL crap constantly. What the world needs now is a giant Mr. Clean Magic Crap Eraser :)
  4. I drive an automatic and a manual, so: when driving the automatic I usually wear shoes and I drive only with my right foot- I hardly ever use cruise control because I don't drive on long trips in my 'truck'. when driving the stick I am usually barefoot and obviously use both feet, when using cruise control my foot isn't on the pedal and I don't keep my left foot on the clutch either (whether using cruise control or not).
  5. That's fine. You know, it seems to me that all the threads you've started that I have read have you asking for opinions and advice, and people try to give that to you respectfully. Maybe with terminology you don't like or don't want to hear, maybe a viewpoint you find offensive in and of itself. We don't live in your home with you, we don't know anything about your life or your situations except what you tell us. You ALWAYS use LOTS OF CAPS when you are responding to points that YOU DON'T SEEM TO LIKE AT ALL, and you ALWAYS make a point of REPLYING AND QUOTING POSTS just to say that you find them absurd and you WILL NOT RESPOND. :001_huh: If you don't want to hear different PsOV about your situations, and you do NOT WANT ADVICE then STOP ASKING FOR IT. It's terribly rude of you to ask for input and then say that everyone you disagree with simply CANNOT UNDERSTAND your situation and OBVIOUSLY does NOT UNDERSTAND what you were TRYING to convey in your OP and subsequent posts in your threads. If you DON'T WANT PEOPLE TO RESPOND then WHY POST??????? (all the caps are meant slightly as emphasis but mostly as tongue in cheek cheekyness, that is meant to make my point in a friendly banter sort of way, I don't know how else to convey that except for writing this disclaimer ;)) Honestly, your disagreeing with me does not bother me in the least. I do want to point out that I did not say that you 'made' your daughter lie. I asked you WHY you asked her IF she did something that YOU KNEW she did in the first place? WHAT WAS THE POINT in ASKING that QUESTION? YOU DON'T seem to answer questions you don't like. *shrugs* That's fine, no one is FORCING you to do so. We're just trying to have a CONVERSATION here. I don't know why I came back to this thread. I think I'll do you a favor and never reply to your posts again. I mean you no disrespect, and I'm sure no one else in this thread did either. :grouphug: I just think it's obvious that you always know the answer, or you always figure it out on your own anyway so I won't bother answering any more of your questions from now on. Peace, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your trip.
  6. :confused:when and where did I imply that expecting her not to sneak the candy was unreasonable? Since you asked, for MY kids, yes that would be an unreasonable expectation but MY kids have some 'issues' which I don't care to discuss here. I have no idea if the OP's kids have any issues that would make such an expectation unreasonable. I don't get where your question to me is coming from. I was addressing what *I* think is an unreasonable expectation of expecting the child not to lie to avoid being in trouble. I don't know why I bother posting here really. I wish the OP the best of luck in future dealings with her DC. I'm out of here- have fun.
  7. I haven't read the other replies but here's my take. I think you set her up in the first place, you already KNEW she had gotten into the candy, and you've already said that wasn't a big deal to you. Why the heck did you ask her if she had? You already knew the answer, so were you 'testing' her to see if she would tell the truth or lie? I think you overreacted to the eating of the candy (by setting her up to lie) and also about the lying (which you set her up to do). You do NOT have to stick to the punishment you've chosen, there is still a choice to make here. You can apologize for setting her up and for overreacting and then decide where to go from there. Or you can choose to stay where you are (punishing child for your mistake, IMO) or something else entirely. :grouphug: We all mess up now and then, and it's very humbling to apologize to a child and admit our mistakes. I would be working on myself, honestly- trying to train myself to not ask such questions in the future. In such situations it is always better to say, "I see/smell that you've had some of the sesame seed candy. I bought that for our trip so let's make sure we put it away and save it for the trip, okay?".
  8. My standard stain remover for hard surfaces is either baking soda rubbed on with a damp cloth (lots of elbow grease) or the same method using Bon Ami.
  9. I think I would, and I would see if I could find a spot for a wardrobe near the entrance area to put the coats and shoes in, or at least a coat rack and one of those benches that opens up and you can store shoes underneath the seat (KWIM?). Then again, if space is premium and I was already accustomed to showering in the small space I'd probably end up saying leave well enough alone.
  10. Actually, one CAN generalize them in such a manner. That is one's prerogative. ;)
  11. you can't take away a thumb or fingers. you can throw away a pacifier. of course, my thumb sucker and fingers sucker wouldn't take a pacifier ever, so it wasn't really any sort of choice.
  12. Then it would be a different situation. :) I don't allow my kids to ride with other people, and we don't do sleepovers. Gosh, with four kids every night is a sleepover :lol: Some people make decisions that others disagree with, and sometimes that changes relationships or prevents any relationship from forming and that's okay. I don't go to church, cause I'm an atheist and I'm not interested. That's okay. I invite the neighbor kids to play at our house, but do NOT allow my kids to play in the neighbors houses and that's okay. If the neighbors don't like it they sure haven't complained. It's really hard to separate the three youngest though, and it's just easier for everyone if the other kids come here. Plus the behavior of the neighborhood kids here is... questionable... if they aren't supervised (harassing wildlife, harassing pets, constant lying (my quirky kid can't always tell if someone is lying so it's nice to be able to hear what's being said and butt in when that's happening), and just plain bullying each other. They don't HAVE to come here, and their parents don't HAVE to allow them to come here. The 'other' mom in the OP may decide to stop allowing her dd to spend the night with Nakia's dd. I don't think Nakia will be crushed by such a decision. I don't see rational adults deciding to end their child's friendship over such a small detail (no sleepovers at other people's homes).
  13. Yeh, that would be a mess. I would just go out and buy some more (more than one) so I have backups in the future. :)
  14. I have no suggestions but thanks for the great idea. Could you put a decorating tip in it instead? I don't know what the nails are made of, I was thinking they are the same as the tips
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