Ginevra Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Just found out that the son of a family friend killed himself by gunshot wound yesterday. I am not sure of his exact age but I estimate 22. I am so devastated for them. I can only think of the impact this will have on the mom (well, everyone of course, but I know the mom best) for years and years and...ever. This was her only biological child (she has s stepson too), which is not to say it would be "better" if she had other children, but just that there is something uniquely hurtful about being a mother with no living children. And this happened just after Mother's Day! Why?! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Mousie Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Oh, how horrible! :crying: I hope no one in that family had to be the one to discover it.... I just can't imagine such a horror. :grouphug: to you and your friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Oh no! I am so sorry! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 I'm so, so sorry. There are no words... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 I'm sorry. It is horrible. My friend's son killed himself by gunshot when he was 15. My dd - they were good friends - still has difficult times when we talk about him. I can't imagine the grief his family has gone through and how they have survived. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UCF612 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 So sad. :( I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 This breaks my heart. One of my girls was suicidal this past autumn. It was the scariest time of my life. There was absolutely no reasoning with her and she felt no hope whatsoever. I felt like we were fighting a battle with our hands tied behind our backs. There is no good answer to the question "why?" DH's brother died in January (possible suicide) and we had his parents out for dinner on Mother's Day. It was tough. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 So sorry!! (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 :sad: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SorrelZG Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 There are no easy answers. We just did a 3 month stint with a suicidal foster boy. It is very difficult. I would suggest that you be there for her both now and in the weeks and months to come. Let her talk of her son...the good and the struggles. She will likely blame herself for not noticing the signs, not doing enough, etc. There is often a lot of guilt after a suicide. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Oh, Quill. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Many, many prayers for your friend and her family! I'm so sorry!!! That's so sad!! Our oldest is 20...I just can't imagine :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Oh, how horrible! :crying: I hope no one in that family had to be the one to discover it.... I just can't imagine such a horror. :grouphug: to you and your friends. I did just learn that his mother found him, in her own house. Oh my God, my heart is breaking for her! She will never be okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 I lost my cousin this way when I was pregnant. Devastating. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocolatechip Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 I'm so sorry. ((Quill and boy's family)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Heartbreaking :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 We went through this last year with a 16 yo friend. Mom found him. An absolute nightmare. Wish there was something to say or some answer but there is nothing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 I am so, so sorry. A friend's son just committed suicide a month ago. He had some deep depression and mental illness and couldn't rid himself of his demons. It is still raw and fresh and will never fully heal. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 So sorry Quill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 The worst. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 That is so horrible. I can't fathom going through something like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplejackmama Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Oh no. Sigh. No words. Wow. Ugh!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Just found out that the son of a family friend killed himself by gunshot wound yesterday. I am not sure of his exact age but I estimate 22. I am so devastated for them. I can only think of the impact this will have on the mom (well, everyone of course, but I know the mom best) for years and years and...ever. This was her only biological child (she has s stepson too), which is not to say it would be "better" if she had other children, but just that there is something uniquely hurtful about being a mother with no living children. And this happened just after Mother's Day! Why?! how awful. Prayers for them in this time of unspeakable grief. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 How horrible and sad. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 I don't know what to say. This is so utterly horrible. I've had two close family/friend child suicides, and both were young men around that age. So horrible. Neither family ever became whole again, but the remaining family members have each survived in their own way. Each family was utterly devastated and forever wounded. Honestly, if there weren't other children in each of the families, I don't know that they'd have survived. It is utterly horrifying. I don't think there is a right way to survive it. IME, the parents of both children desired to speak of their lost son regularly over the years, and they were hurt by those who wouldn't speak of him and comforted by remembering and speaking of him. Nonetheless, it is always painful for *me* when I mention their sons, even now, almost 20 years and 15 years after their deaths . . . I imagine it must still be painful each time for their parents, but perhaps in their cases, the sweetness is there, too, and maybe experiencing that pain with that sweetness is worth it, as they simply can NOT go on without thinking of their lost sons each day, where I, from my bit of a distance, can go days or weeks without thinking of Sean or Ryan . . . (((Hugs))) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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