TranquilMind Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Some of you will recall the difficulties we have experienced with our oldest, which I attribute in large part to the very undesirable exposure she had in a local downtown classical charter school. Big mistake that has taken us a couple of years to repair. Anyway, I posted recently about her letting some kid color her hair a vivid color, and how I wasn't going to say a WORD when she came home (I had wanted her to wait until Christmas and first round of grading in this school staffed by oldish, conservative teachers). I didn't say a word! I'm proud of myself. She finally asked me, "So what do you think of my hair?" I said, "It's cool." I stayed calm all week, and while we had a couple of tense moments when she started bossing me around, we got past it. It was the best week we have had in two years. I post this just to say to anyone going through it...there IS HOPE! I don't presume we are done with the problems, though I'm cautiously optimistic that we have moved to a new, more calm and mature phase. We shall see. Someone rejoice with me! :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 I will rejoice with you!!!! :party: This is wonderful. :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Yay! :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's wonderful! Good job mom! :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 I am SO happy for you, and her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 I will rejoice with you!!!! :party: This is wonderful. :thumbup: Thank you! I'm really praying she doesn't fall in with the same types of people at her current school, but at least there aren't quite as many of them. Praying hedges of protection, and that she just does well, gets out and moves on to a good life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's wonderful! Good job mom! :hurray: Thanks. It's HARD to keep your mouth shut with teens. HARD. That's all I've got to say about that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's fantastic! So glad to read your good news! :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Ack! The dreaded double post finally got me. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's great. :) You're very strong for not saying something when I know you had plenty to say on the topic. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 I am SO happy for you, and her! Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's great. :) You're very strong for not saying something when I know you had plenty to say on the topic. ;) Um, who...me? No. I never have opinions on anything. :coolgleamA: I guess I get to offer them again when I am really old and have earned the right to say any (*(*&( thing I want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's wonderful news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 I'm so happy for you both! :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 :party: yay! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Hooray! That is fantastic! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Some of you will recall the difficulties we have experienced with our oldest, which I attribute in large part to the very undesirable exposure she had in a local downtown classical charter school. Big mistake that has taken us a couple of years to repair. Anyway, I posted recently about her letting some kid color her hair a vivid color, and how I wasn't going to say a WORD when she came home (I had wanted her to wait until Christmas and first round of grading in this school staffed by oldish, conservative teachers). I didn't say a word! I'm proud of myself. She finally asked me, "So what do you think of my hair?" I said, "It's cool." I stayed calm all week, and while we had a couple of tense moments when she started bossing me around, we got past it. It was the best week we have had in two years. I post this just to say to anyone going through it...there IS HOPE! I don't presume we are done with the problems, though I'm cautiously optimistic that we have moved to a new, more calm and mature phase. We shall see. Someone rejoice with me! :hurray: Awesome news. Good for you for remaining calm cool and collected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 TM, that is *really* good news. Yes, I'm sure you'll still have conflicts down the road... people with strong personalities on both sides can probably not escape that. (I mean that in a good way... I consider myself one of those strong personalities, LOL!) But the fact that you had an enjoyable week together has to lift BOTH your spirits!! :grouphug: Glad it went so well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Upward Journey Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 TM that's great!!! I'm so happy for you (and her) :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 That's definitely worth celebrating!! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CountitallJoy Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Aww, this IS great news! :hurray: So happy for the both of you :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Rejoicing! Rejoicing! Rejoicing!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Thanks. It's HARD to keep your mouth shut with teens. HARD. That's all I've got to say about that. It is. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Yay! Glad everything went o.k. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Ack! Double post! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Great news! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :party: :party: :party: I'm so happy for you!!! So I guess maybe you're not the rotten mom a few people thought you were... ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I am so happy for you! What a great update! And I admire your ability to keep quiet. I have such a hard time with that and have started practicing now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 That's great news! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Fabulous! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :cheers2: I'm glad it went (and is going) well. Hang in there, you're doing great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyforlatin Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Oh, I remember your post! You have some self-control there. I know it's hard and you did it admirably. I need to remember to post issues here once Dd is a teen because she's just the type to do something that will cause me to rant and rave. I'm assuming the general consensus of the Hive was to make it a non-issue, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I'm so happy for you!!!!!! You did awesome!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I am glad things are getting much better. I didn't get into real trouble, but I gave my mom lots of headaches. After my first year of college things were much better and have been ever since. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southcarolinamom Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Yesssss! :hurray: You handled it beautifully! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 You give me hope. I'm so happy things are good!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 :party: :party: :party: I'm so happy for you!!! So I guess maybe you're not the rotten mom a few people thought you were... ;) Ha ha. Yeah, I hope not. I do have some redeeming qualities, I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Great job. Pass me some of your cool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 Oh, I remember your post! You have some self-control there. I know it's hard and you did it admirably. I need to remember to post issues here once Dd is a teen because she's just the type to do something that will cause me to rant and rave. I'm assuming the general consensus of the Hive was to make it a non-issue, right? Right, but it really was never about the hair at all. I don't care if she colors her hair, and indeed, I did it for her last spring (and did a lot better job than this kid did!) It's really about some longstanding tension that was exacerbated when she got immersed in a social structure with kids who were doing drugs, getting expelled, having sexual activity in the school, and all the other things that never seemed to be real when she was a homeschooler. Rebellion seemed like an interesting experiment then, but I truly pray it was just an experiment that was ending, as she only got around the fringes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 Another double post! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 Oh, I remember your post! You have some self-control there. I know it's hard and you did it admirably. I need to remember to post issues here once Dd is a teen because she's just the type to do something that will cause me to rant and rave. I'm assuming the general consensus of the Hive was to make it a non-issue, right? Right, but it really was never about the hair at all. I don't care if she colors her hair, and indeed, I did it for her last spring (and did a lot better job than this kid did!) It's really about some longstanding tension that was exacerbated when she got immersed in a social structure with kids who were doing drugs, getting expelled, having sexual activity in the school, and all the other things that never seemed to be real when she was a homeschooler. Rebellion seemed like an interesting experiment then, but I truly pray it was just an experiment that is ending, as she only got around the fringes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 Great job. Pass me some of your cool. It's only ephemeral and by the grace of God. If I could bottle it, I would! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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