dangermom Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 No, because as mentioned there isn't an aisle, or a walk, or a giving away bit in an LDS temple ceremony, which is how we got married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 (edited) My father did that, more or less (I think we might have changed the wording a bit so he didn't actually "give me away"). I regret agreeing to it now, as I do think it's a similar sort of thing. If I were getting married now, I would either have both of us walk in ourselves, from different directions, then leave together, or I would have each partner escorted in by both of his/her parents. No way would I allow just my father to walk me in. But I was married fairly young, and I let my father emotionally blackmail me into agreeing to it by getting all upset and claiming that he'd been waiting to walk me down the aisle ever since I was born. I figured it was a small sacrifice to make him happy. Edited October 9, 2011 by Hotdrink Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dh DID go and ask for my father's blessing before he proposed AND my father DID walk me down the aisle. And he lifted my veil, kissed me on the forehead and passed my hand to my husband. When the pastor said "who gives this woman to be married?" my father answered "Her mother and I and those who love her." I thought it was beautiful and I don't regret a moment of it and I would do it exactly the same way again. :D And anyone who knows me would laugh at the idea of me being a meek, little submissive wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YLVD Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Nope, I dislike it just as much as asking my father for "permission". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I thought it odd that my aunt's third husband asked permission to marry her. It'll be interesting to see what happens with my sister's wedding next year. She's marrying a Kenyan fellow. All that has been determined so far is that Dad said he didn't need the goats. :lol: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 DH didn't ask for my dad's blessing/permission/whatever, but dad did walk me down the aisle. In complete honesty, the thought of being front and center of attention still wigs me out, and the wedding was six years ago. I didn't want to walk down the aisle by myself, because I didn't want all eyes on *just me*. Since my dad and I have always had a rocky relationship, he wasn't giving me away. It was his last time to really BE there for me, so I didn't have to be alone, before that role passed on to my husband. My parents divorced when I was young and I wasn't close to my father. My dad was at the wedding but I had my brother walk me down the aisle. I also hated being the center of attention. I should have skipped that part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My father died when I was 13 so he wasn't there. Faith and Imp, I am sorry what you all went through with your weddings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GypsieFamily Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My father is ill in hospital. Has been since I was 12, so since he only sometimes knows he has a daughter there would've been no point in asking. He still walked me down the isle, but that was really important to me as I wanted to show I was very proud to be his daughter no matter how disabled he is. My uncle gave the father-of-the-bride speech, but referenced my father often in it to give respect to him. His involvement and other people's acceptance of him was such a special part of the day to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My father did walk me down the isle. DH did not ask him for permission to marry him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 We eloped, but even if we had a traditional wedding, my father would not have been invited. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dad walked me down the aisle and dh's mother walked him down. No "Who gives this woman?". We did have the part of the ceremony with arras, so dh handed over all his worldy goods ;). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applesing Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dad walked me down the aisle, but we did not have him do the traditional "who gives this woman?" routine. Instead, dh's parents and my parents gave a blessing for our marriage. The four of them said it together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dad walked me down the aisle, but we did not have him do the traditional "who gives this woman?" routine. Instead, dh's parents and my parents gave a blessing for our marriage. The four of them said it together. That is a REALLY beautiful idea!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 no don't have a relationship with my dad.....and didn't "think" about asking brother to do it so I just kinda walked down by myself.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dad did walk me down the "aisle" when I got married the first time. I had the ceremony at my sister's house and my aisle was from the master bedroom, down the hall, and into the living room. It is one of the most precious memories in my life. My dad died 2 years later. I didn't have an "aisle" for my 2nd marriage. It was a courthouse ceremony. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiveOaksAcademy Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 (edited) My dh DID go and ask for my father's blessing before he proposed AND my father DID walk me down the aisle. And he lifted my veil, kissed me on the forehead and passed my hand to my husband. When the pastor said "who gives this woman to be married?" my father answered "Her mother and I and those who love her." I thought it was beautiful and I don't regret a moment of it and I would do it exactly the same way again. :D :iagree:Us too!!! I'm so thankful and so very proud to have walked down the aisle with and to have been "given away" by my father. I'm also unwaveringly proud of the fact that my husband asked my father for his PERMISSION to marry me!! It is a beautiful thing!!! :) I'm also thankful that we are raising children with that same mindset. Edited October 9, 2011 by FiveOaksAcademy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 And what a relief it was, when I was wedding planning, to not have to worry about pew bows. :lol: :lol::lol::lol: Another LDS temple wedding here, so no aisle :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 He did not ask my dad, my step-dad, or my Ganddad who all played the dad role in my life. I walked down the aisle by myself. My dad and step-dad were careful to never put me in a position where I had to choose one over the other and I chose not to choose one over the other to walk me down the aisle. I went by myself. We did not have the pastor ask "Who gives this woman...?" either. I wanted to elope because I wanted to enjoy getting married to my husband rather than having to deal with my very complicated family relationships. My husband refused and insisted on at least a small immediate-friends-and-family wedding of 45 at his parents' house. I don't care at all about the "fluff" parts of a wedding: dresses, flower/napkin colors, party favors, etc. I let the maid of honor pick out their outfits. It was a short ceremony (about 15 minutes) with the vows from the book of Ruth "Where you go I will go....God deal with me ever so severely if anything but death separates you from me..." 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen. We had cake and punch and left two hours after it started. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alenee Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 My dad was a dead-beat dad and not in my life at the time, not that he would've earned the right to give me away. My mom walked me down the aisle and did so for my sister as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrixieB Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 No, my dad didn't walk me down the aisle. Our parents didn't find out about the wedding until after the fact. Dh and I went on vacation and returned married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Nope, just my hubby and me at the JP with my MIL and DD as witnesses. I do believe that my first SIL asked my dd's father for her hand but he is a pretty traditional Christian. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 My husband didn't ask my father, but since I was already pg it wasn't a surprise. LOL My father did walk me the 10feet from the back of the room to the podium. We were married by a JP but in an office that had seating. We had 16-20 guests there. So it was like a little wedding in a strip mall. LOL We planned our wedding in 3 days so it was a very informal affair. I don't think of my father walking me, the same as my husband asking his permission. My dad and dh often teased each other about who should pay who the dowry...they weren't sure if I was a worth more coming...or going. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rivka Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 The symbolism of having your father walk you down the aisle is supposed to be that you are leaving his protection and household and entering your husband's. When I got married, I hadn't lived with my parents for eight years. I was a self-supporting graduate student who lived 1000 miles away from them. The symbolism just didn't fit. I walked myself down the aisle, but I made sure to lavish plenty of love on my parents so that they didn't think it was personal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 We eloped. We got married in a restaurant's garden. My mom was my witness and my dad was DH's witness. No other guests. No giving away. no walking down the aisle. However my dad did pick up the tab for dinner. :001_smile: He said he got off easy on that part. Dinner for 4 at a nice French restaurant instead of a reception for the whole family... Dh's family were told after the fact, about two or three years later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Both my parents walked with me down the aisle. Nobody gave me away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Both my parents walked me down the aisle. There was no giving away the bride. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TinaBlue Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 I had both my parents walk me down the aisle. There was no, "who gives this woman..." as part of the service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leav97 Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 No, DH didn't ask my Dad. Both my Mom and my Dad walked me down the isle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
historically accurate Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Dh didn't ask for my hand. My father walked me down the aisle, which was actually down a hill to a garden. I'm glad that I didn't have to have all eyes on just me, and he made sure I didn't go tumbling head over heels down the hill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holly IN Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 ... did your father walk you down the aisle to "give you away"? This seems like the exact same sort of "patriarchal tradition" as asking the father for permission/blessing to marry the daughter, yet I've never seen any vitriol spewed at this tradition like I did in the "permission" thread. :confused: :D My dh never asked my father for my hand. He did walk me down the aisle though since it is tradition. My father did recommend that we get married before I go off to college which we did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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