Sue G in PA Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I am heartbroken. We put him in a day program yesterday and last night his behavior was just so violent that we had to call his psych and ask about full hospitalization. I know it's the best thing for him and for us all, but my momma's heart is breaking. I'm afraid for him. I'm afraid for us. I'm feeling tremendous amounts of guilt. I can't function today except to make the necessary phone calls for him and take him a change of clothes and such. I, myself, just want to curl up and pretend this is all a nightmare and I'll wake up tomorrow. :crying::crying::crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Oh, Sue, I'm so sorry! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElizabethB Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: And prayers for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dobela Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I am so sorry! I will pray for you and your child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: sometimes things like this are a catalyst for healing. I'll be praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Wendi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeidiD Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I am heartbroken. We put him in a day program yesterday and last night his behavior was just so violent that we had to call his psych and ask about full hospitalization. I know it's the best thing for him and for us all, but my momma's heart is breaking. I'm afraid for him. I'm afraid for us. I'm feeling tremendous amounts of guilt. I can't function today except to make the necessary phone calls for him and take him a change of clothes and such. I, myself, just want to curl up and pretend this is all a nightmare and I'll wake up tomorrow. :crying::crying::crying: :angelsad2: It's so hard, I know. Try not to feel guilty, though. You're doing what you need to do for now, and hopefully this will provide the catalyst for things to get better. You'll get through this. Praying that things get better for you soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I'm sorry for this trial. May he get his full health back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MangoMama Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest momk2000 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 We went through the same thing with our dd(9yrs) last year. I was also full of guilt and absolutely heartbroken when we had to admit her. Although it was a very difficult time for all of us, it was absolutely the best thing we could have done for her. The psych team was able to get to the root of her problem, and she is now doing wonderfully. I will keep you in my prayers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 So sorry :( Prayers for that peace ... when you know it's the right thing, but it's... just...so... hard :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heart'sjoy Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 May the stabilizer of the universe, stabilize and strengthen you in your minute by minute need. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwickimom Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindyz Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug::001_unsure::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RamonaQ Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 praying with the others :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I am heartbroken. We put him in a day program yesterday and last night his behavior was just so violent that we had to call his psych and ask about full hospitalization. I know it's the best thing for him and for us all, but my momma's heart is breaking. I'm afraid for him. I'm afraid for us. I'm feeling tremendous amounts of guilt. I can't function today except to make the necessary phone calls for him and take him a change of clothes and such. I, myself, just want to curl up and pretend this is all a nightmare and I'll wake up tomorrow. :crying::crying::crying: Oh honey, I am so so sorry. I cannot even imagine what you are feeling. It's so hard having special kiddos. Lots of hugs to you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~cindy~ Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry:grouphug: I can't even begin to imagine your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Praying for you. You ARE doing what is best for him right now. I know it is extremely difficult but it is for the best. In the hospital they can get to the root of his problem and treat this the best way possible. Hang in there and don't be afraid to ask for help/support from those around you locally that offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Adding my :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessAriel Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :grouphug: Praying for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoyfulMama Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 So sorry :( Prayers for that peace ... when you know it's the right thing, but it's... just...so... hard :( Said beautifully, I echo the above. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :-( I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Praying for you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 I am sorry it has come to this, Sue. I hope he can get the help he needs. You are all in my prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homemama Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: Praying for you and your family. I'm sure he'll be on the road to recovery soon, I'm sure. homemama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccmom Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 My heart goes out to you. You are in my prayers.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paisley Hedgehog Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 nm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosaicmind Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 It's so hard when we are faced with not being able to "fix" all their problems. BUT...there is One who can fix it all. Lean on him. I will be praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celia Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonor Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: and praying for you. your son and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MangoMama Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 You are on my heart. Just checking on you... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
at the beach Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: I am so sorry, Sue. I've been reading about your son on these boards for a long time as you have shared your struggles. I hope that this is the beginning of better times for your little boy. God Bless you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrisC Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 I don't know much of your story yet, but I am here to offer my sincere prayers that this will be the beginning of healing. Lots of love, Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iammommy Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 :grouphug: Sue, I also live in Pa, and my best friend (in Pa.) had to hospitalize her then 10/11 year old ds for similar issues a few summers ago. If it would be helpful to correspond with another parent who's BTDT, please email me here and I can connect you two. She's a wonderful, supportive lady, and will understand what you're going through. I wish you and your family the best. Nan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MerryAtHope Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Oh Sue, I'm so sorry, ((((Hugs)))) and praying for you. How is he doing today? How are you? Merry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted January 8, 2011 Author Share Posted January 8, 2011 Thank you everyone. Sorry I haven't updated. It's been a whirlwind. I took clothes to him last night and couldn't see him b/c he was having a real tough time adjusting (tantrum, crying, screaming, etc.). He was really upset. It took everything I had not to break down the door and run to him. :crying: I spoke to him on the phone when I got home and he sounded better. He was watching a movie and had cake and ice cream for some other child's bday. He made a friend. I was so encouraged. Dh went to visit him this am and said that after only 1/2 hour ds9 said he should get back to his group. I'll go see him later this afternoon. Sounds like it is a good place. The staff has been great. Still don't know what's wrong, but somebody there mentioned mood disorder. I've always sustected bi-polar but just couldn't wrap my brain around a 9yo having bi-polar...MY 9yo having bi-polar. Somehow ADHD or ODD or something like that was easier to swallow. Bi-polar (undiagnosed) runs in my family I think. My Dad likely has it (undiagnosed). I likely have it although have always been treated for uni-polar depressions...wrongly I suspect. I now have to call my OWN psych to discuss more vehemently the possibility that I do have bi-polar and start correct meds. Ugh. It's a struggle and I am tired. Thanks for all your prayers and hugs and encouragement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiramisu Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Thanks for the update. You are in my thoughts and prayers. It sounds as though God is already bringing His Light into your current suffering. May He bless you all. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MangoMama Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Thank you for the update, Sue. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 I am heartbroken. We put him in a day program yesterday and last night his behavior was just so violent that we had to call his psych and ask about full hospitalization. I know it's the best thing for him and for us all, but my momma's heart is breaking. I'm afraid for him. I'm afraid for us. I'm feeling tremendous amounts of guilt. I can't function today except to make the necessary phone calls for him and take him a change of clothes and such. I, myself, just want to curl up and pretend this is all a nightmare and I'll wake up tomorrow. :crying::crying::crying: Oh sweetie, so sorry!! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Sheryl <>< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2myboys Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 :grouphug: and prayers for you. I hope that this is the beginning of healing for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReneeK Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry, my prayers are with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCW Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 Certainly have been thinking of and praying for you and your family during this time. Wishing you all light, clarity, and treatment that is effective, leading to peace...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted January 11, 2011 Author Share Posted January 11, 2011 Just an update. He is doing well there..as we suspected...b/c his behavior is typically only an at-home behavior. :glare: We suspect that he has food problems going on..as in he is sooo picky and doesn't take in enough calories to function well and thus any behavior problems are exacerbated. It is a 2 part issue, kwim? The social worker thought we were crazy...that ds was "playing us" but we as the parents just KNEW. The kids was STARVING himself b/c he hated the hospital food. Maslov's hierarchy, ya know? He needed to eat before he could focus on his "feelings". ANd he hadn't eaten all day b/c he hates the food there. AND they had him on restricted diet for some crazy reason! :glare: Once we got that taken care of, he was ok. Dh got him an emergency meal from McDs (not our first choice, but it was realy an emergency). Once he ate he was FINE! We see him today for a sign-out on the campus! :D Hopefully he can come home Fri. Thanks for the prayers and encouragement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Oh, Sue, I just saw this! I'll be keeping ya'll in prayer, hon. Let me know if you need to talk; I can always call. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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