Rebecca VA Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 and you read in tomorrow's New York Times that your husband promised to marry his mistress after your death, how would you react? (The news is reporting that that *will* be in there.) I'm not a fighter normally, but I'd make very sure there were no assets left in that marriage. I'd divorce him and take every last dollar, burn the house to a crisp, and chop every tree on the property down before I'd let THAT WOMAN live in my home with my husband. (If you knew me IRL, you'd be laughing at the thought of my doing those things!) I would hope I wouldn't just give up and die. But I might. This whole horrible situation would be too embarrassing and heartbreaking to deal with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saille Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Oh my gosh. Do they mean back in the day, or more recently? Never mind. It doesn't matter. I sure hope she already knew, is all I can say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 If I were Elizabeth, that cretin wouldn't matter anymore. We'd either be separarted or divorced, for more reasons than just the affair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BamaTanya Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 I cannot CANNOT imagine Elizabeth's having to deal with this. There has been SO MUCH grief -- losing their son -- the affair -- Is it too awful to hope that she's so ill and so sedated she wouldn't know? Yes, I know it is. I just can't imagine how painful it would be. I'd hope that I would be tough and would fight-fight-fight, but terminal cancer takes so much of the fight . . . :angry: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 If I were Elizabeth, that cretin wouldn't matter anymore. We'd either be separarted or divorced, for more reasons than just the affair. Were I her, he would probably already be with the mistress. Don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Were I her, he would probably already be with the mistress. Don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out!! Yep, it isn't even the affair. It's his lack of caring about anyone except himself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 I'm not a fighter normally, but I'd make very sure there were no assets left in that marriage. I'd divorce him and take every last dollar, burn the house to a crisp, and chop every tree on the property down before I'd let THAT WOMAN live in my home with my husband. (If you knew me IRL, you'd be laughing at the thought of my doing those things!) I would hope I wouldn't just give up and die. But I might. This whole horrible situation would be too embarrassing and heartbreaking to deal with. :iagree: What you said. And since I am a fighter, a little more. :sneaky2: And then I'd happily saunter on my merry little way (to jail, probably, but whatever). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petepie2 Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 I would think nothing surprises her anymore.....but the last I heard, she is managing her cancer well, and she just opened a furniture shop in Chapel Hill, NC last month..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 After she dies her children will be left with him. There isn't a darn thing she can do about that and I would guess that is what she fears more than some scamp and being married to a cheating good for nothing. Everything she has done has been to help her kids deal. Sigh. He's a right bastard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Sorry, I would have never been attracted to that man in the first place. Yuck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 After she dies her children will be left with him. There isn't a darn thing she can do about that and I would guess that is what she fears more than some scamp and being married to a cheating good for nothing. Everything she has done has been to help her kids deal. I don't know what her prognosis is but if it were me and I was doing well, he would get a run for his money. You said it much better than I!! I cannot imagine being in that situation . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirtroad Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Did they ever finalize a divorce? I would & I would negotiate a contract with some super fine outdoors kind of guy & marry him! Just enjoy myself & let that bum sit and watch.:lol: He is such trash. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Sigh. He's a right bastard. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 I think I'd die tomorrow and come back and start haunting his sorry ^&& immediately. Esp. when he's trying to get back to cozy with her... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2cents Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 I can't imagine his mistress is much better. It is so slimy to have him making promises to her on the condition his wife dies. If she was smart and had any compassion, she would be running in the opposite direction. He is creepy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Supertechmom Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 The whole situation is a mess but we are assuming that Elizabeth is the darling loving doting wife. One never knows what arrangment the two had and that the arrangement got exposed. Could be a different story than what is being told. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirth Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 and you read in tomorrow's New York Times that your husband promised to marry his mistress after your death, how would you react? (The news is reporting that that *will* be in there.) I'm not a fighter normally, but I'd make very sure there were no assets left in that marriage. I'd divorce him and take every last dollar, burn the house to a crisp, and chop every tree on the property down before I'd let THAT WOMAN live in my home with my husband. (If you knew me IRL, you'd be laughing at the thought of my doing those things!) I would hope I wouldn't just give up and die. But I might. This whole horrible situation would be too embarrassing and heartbreaking to deal with. Get out! I think my jaw just dropped to the floor. This is so sordid I can't bear to actually read about it. I will have to wait for tomorrow's interpretation here ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 :D:D:D I'd make sure to call him close for a last kiss..... and chop it off. Oops... Did I just say that?? And, I wouldn't spend the money early, but it'd be in a trust... and not be able to be used by him... Let him enjoy being green with his own money.... The guy isn't a good guy. (Since when does it matter what kind of wife she is?) And more...:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Dominion Heather Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 She did and looked good... and her husband was right there with her to join in the open house. Yuck. I like Patty Joanna's ideas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda in TX Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Divorce him now and take half of everything (and anything else she can). No point in letting him and the mistress have it all. What a class-A jerk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnandtinagilbert Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 If I were Elizabeth Edwards, I would do as much as I could to live as long and as well as I possibly could. Give thousands of dollars to charities, pre-pay the medical for hundreds of years of cancer therapies of all kinds, alternative or whatever, set up well endowed trust funds for my children, prepay for years of high school boarding schools abroad, and demand to be buried with every. single. piece of jewelry I could purchase between now and the ultimate end of us all. with each post of yours I read, I like you more.....that dirty rotten #(*)!@#(*&%)@*##*%#&%)@#(*_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Sigh. He's a right bastard. :iagree: A rat's ass, too. I never could stand him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizabeth Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 He is the slimiest lawyer I have ever met. That is saying something as I have met hundreds and he takes the slimeball cake. I am thrilled to see that castration remains to be named as an option so with that small offering as to the query of what Elizabeth Edwards should do. I offer also this joke about my bretheren some of whom are beneath the ****on my shoes.:lol: Seriously how very lily livered of him I cannot believe the spineless wimp actually got a woman to sleep with him.Ever. What is the difference between a dead lawyer in the road and a dead dog in the road?? There are skidmarks in front of the dog.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 (edited) So Young just signed a big book deal, which makes him seem to have a motive to exaggerate and pretend to know things he doesn't really know or to outright lie. He wants to sell books. He also took money to lie about being the father of the child himself - a father of three kids. Can you imagine? Young has lied. Edwards has lied. Is Young lying about this? I don't know. If I were Elizabeth I'm not sure I would trust John OR Young. Ick. But honestly, I wouldn't believe something just because this lying creep said it. I have no idea what I would do if I were EE. She has just had the hardest time. Maybe I would insist on John suing for visitation with the baby so that I could have some time getting to know my childrens' half brother and have them get to know each other under MY roof. Edited September 19, 2009 by Danestress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 At this point, I'm sure she's entirely focused on her children and preparing them for after she's gone. A divorce wouldn't do them any good, so if I were her I wouldn't do it; I'd do whatever I thought would be best for the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tangerine Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 At this point, I'm sure she's entirely focused on her children and preparing them for after she's gone. A divorce wouldn't do them any good, so if I were her I wouldn't do it; I'd do whatever I thought would be best for the kids. :iagree:I think the time for punishing John may have passed (not that I think he doesn't need punishing). We'll have to hope karma comes for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca VA Posted September 19, 2009 Author Share Posted September 19, 2009 Well, I would want to make sure THAT WOMAN never got near my children's inheritance. The only way I could ensure that would be to take it via divorce and leave it directly to the kids. I had heard rumors about J.E. making that promise to her a year or more ago. What I heard then was that she was content to stay in the background for the time being, because he had promised her that after Elizabeth's death they could marry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizabeth Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090919/ap_on_re_us/us_edwards_affair_4 from the ap wire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 Elizabeth Edwards and Jenny Sanford seem to be doing an amazing job handling these weak and damaged men that they are married to. We can't know what their private situation is, but if I were Elizabeth Edwards, I would keep doing whatever would be best for my kids long-term. I would try to teach those children grace, maturity, and strength of character, because they will need those attributes when dealing with their father for the rest of their lives. I would not acknowledge any marriage intentions for the future, since it may never come to pass anyway. I wish Elizabeth could acknowledge the baby and let this innocent child meet her siblings and father, but I can't judge her on her position knowing all the other grief she is dealing with. Thank God the child is too young to know what she is missing right now. Could John Edwards and Rielle Hunter have any kind of public relationship even after Elizabeth is gone? I would think they would be absolutely reviled. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 Here's from the NYT article: In the proposal, which The New York Times examined, Mr. Young asserts that he assisted the affair by setting up private meetings between Mr. Edwards and Ms. Hunter. He wrote that Mr. Edwards once calmed an anxious Ms. Hunter by promising her that after his wife died, he would marry her in a rooftop ceremony in New York with an appearance by the Dave Matthews Band. I think all that shows is that Edwards will say anything to get out of a situation he doesn't like. I would be very surprised indeed to actually see them get married, and I bet it will never happen. It's the equivalent of "my wife doesn't understand me, and I can't get a divorce now, but someday I will and then we'll get married." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I'd probably pay his dentist to really mess up his pearly whites in some manner. That way when he smiled at the one person he cares about (himself in the mirror) it wouldn't be pretty staring back at him. :D I can think of other things, but I wouldn't post them here. I had a mild form of cancer many years ago and I can tell you the support of a spouse is paramount during that time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 He woulda been out of the house and out of all his money long before now if I were she..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 Its actually an aide is making this claim in his book http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/09/19/john-edwards-close-to-dec_n_292380.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 You know... even if you don't get along anymore, even if you don't really love each other anymore, when your spouse is dying that is not the time to go swinging your d*ck around another chick. Have a little humanity, be there until the end, then go do whatever you think you need to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowperch Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 Andrew Young--what a horrible creature he must be. He's the father of three young kids himself and took the fall for JE when the scandal first broke, claiming to have been the baby's father. I wonder what kind of arrangment he made with JE and his own wife. Good heavens. In any case, Andrew Young made these assertions in a book proposal--which is essentially a piece of sales writing presented to get a lucrative book deal. Which he did. Does this mean it is true? No, but I wouldn't put much past either of these men. If I were EE I would be sobbing now--imagine it is true and JE does marry this woman and she and he raise EE's children and their child together. What a horrible thought for any woman who has suffered through infidelity, nevermind one who is also facing terminal cancer and the rest. Then I hope I'd have the strength to focus on my children as others have said. What a dreadful, dreadful and sad situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I wonder if he's thought about his future with his children (by Elizabeth) when they'll be grown -- so very soon -- and remember the things he did to their mother. He's very short-sighted, IMO. If I were Elizabeth, I'd take good care of myself. Maybe she'll outlive him. LOL. Regardless, I feel so sorry for the kids especially. Ugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I wonder if he's thought about his future with his children (by Elizabeth) when they'll be grown -- so very soon -- and remember the things he did to their mother. He's very short-sighted, IMO. If I were Elizabeth, I'd take good care of myself. Maybe she'll outlive him. LOL. Regardless, I feel so sorry for the kids especially. Ugh. Maybe she'll outlive him because she murders him in his sleep??? :D I've always loved what Ruth Bell Graham said when asked during an interview if she ever considered divorce... Divorce, no, she answered. Murder, yes. ;) It's amazing someone as classy as EE has ended up with such a scumbag as JE. I sincerely hope the assertion is not true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 If this is true, this is just a terribly sad situation for her, their children, their extended family, and their friends. What a horrible thing for her to have to deal with right now. Her last days should be peaceful and happy. I really hope this isn't true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean too Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 and you read in tomorrow's New York Times that your husband promised to marry his mistress after your death, how would you react? (The news is reporting that that *will* be in there.) I'm not a fighter normally, but I'd make very sure there were no assets left in that marriage. I'd divorce him and take every last dollar, burn the house to a crisp, and chop every tree on the property down before I'd let THAT WOMAN live in my home with my husband. (If you knew me IRL, you'd be laughing at the thought of my doing those things!) I would hope I wouldn't just give up and die. But I might. This whole horrible situation would be too embarrassing and heartbreaking to deal with. That sounds like a good start. :LOL: I think he's supposed to admit to the paternity of the baby also. It is so very sad and humiliating for Elizabeth. I watched Oprah's interview with her awhile back. It seemed to me that in her heart of hearts she knew the baby was his. She tried to say that it didn't matter in her life if the child was his or not. It was evident that it matter greatly though. JE is an arrogant horse's a$$ and never deserved Elizabeth to begin with. The scumbag told Elizabeth of his affair right before kicking off his campaign. Shortly afterwards Elizabeth's cancer returned and she was given a terminal prognosis. And yet, this sack of pooh expected Elizabeth to put on her happy face and campaign for him, knowing that he had hardly begun to tell her the full truth about the affair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindyg Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 and you read in tomorrow's New York Times that your husband promised to marry his mistress after your death, how would you react? I'd be sure to sleep with one eye open! How is he so sure that his wife will die before he does? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 This woman had her last child at 50. FIFTY. Don't count her out just yet - she has buried a son already - she IS a fighter. Bless her soul! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cammie Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 How is he so sure that his wife will die before he does? :iagree: I don't generally condone violence but if it was me I would be VERY tempted to make sure he died first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meet me in paris Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I think I'd die tomorrow and come back and start haunting his sorry ^&& immediately. Esp. when he's trying to get back to cozy with her... :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meet me in paris Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 :iagree: A rat's ass, too. I never could stand him. I gave money to that guy's campaign! How dumb do I feel? :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I gave money to that guy's campaign! How dumb do I feel? :glare: You're in good company. I know other people who did also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I just read the article on Fox news and honestly it just turned my stomach. What ever happen to keeping our vows, intergity and honor? I'm totally disgusted with John Edwards! I feel really sorry for the children who have to endure this and his wife. Bless her heart. She is a much better person than I. I would make his life a living hell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I gave money to that guy's campaign! How dumb do I feel? :glare: __________________ Susan The Homeschool Librarian I believe there is a federal election campaign investigation ongoing about misppropriation of funds. We may yet see a trial. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I believe she has terminal cancer. I'm pretty sure Cindy was insinuating that he would probably not outlive Cindy if he was her husband, terminal cancer or no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 I think I wouldn't care what some newspaper article said. He is marrying her after I am dead. I'm dead. Why should I care what he does after I am gone. My relationship with my husband and the decisions I make are my business alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMary2 Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 (edited) Sorry, I would have never been attracted to that man in the first place. Yuck! Ditto. He gives me the creeps. As for Elizabeth, I really feel bad for her with all she is dealing with healthwise, the loss of a child and not thinking enough of herself to leave the scumbag. I lost some respect for her when I found out she stood next to him supporting his campaign for President, knowing he was a liar and a cheater. Edited September 20, 2009 by TXMary2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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