What does this phrase mean to you?

[Scarlett]

Mojo.

Specifically if a man referred to a woman as ‘Mojo’ as a nickname…..

 

Edited November 23, 2023 by Scarlett

[PeterPan]

I've always heard mojo as energy. Jo is slang for coffee, some more jo, mojo, drinking your coffee, getting your mojo. 

I would assume it's a sign of respect, that she brings a lot of energy to what she does. I would also sort of quietly assume it means horizontally. But hey, who knows. If the woman likes it, it's fine. 

Oh look, Oxford say it's slang for magic charm, talisman.

Edited November 23, 2023 by PeterPan

[chocolate-chip chooky]

To me, mojo is energy or spark or charm. I see it as positive.

[Elizabeth86]

1 minute ago, chocolate-chip chooky said:

To me, mojo is energy or spark or charm. I see it as positive.

This

[Scarlett]

So how would you feel if your husband said it to another woman?

[SKL]

Kickass?

[itsheresomewhere]

16 minutes ago, Scarlett said:

So how would you feel if your husband said it to another woman?

I wouldn’t have a problem with it.

[Rosie_0801]

I would assume it meant muse, and as long as hypothetical spouse wasn't leering, I'd assume it meant she was the reliable one in the office. I'd probably also think cutesy nicknames aren't as rewarding as a pay rise.

[El...]

It wouldn't have a sexual or overly intimate connotation for me. I'd think that person is very motivational and keeps others moving forward. 

[Lecka]

I would honestly assume it was her nickname she liked to be called.  
 

I would wonder if she was good at soccer and called Mojo because she made plays.

 

Just my thought.  

[Lecka]

Context would be everything for what I would think about my husband using it.  

[Scarlett]

Ok, thanks y’all.  To me it has a sexual connotation.   Glad to see it doesn’t for everyone.

Ftr, isn’t my husband saying this to another woman.,

[dirty ethel rackham]

25 minutes ago, Scarlett said:

Ok, thanks y’all.  To me it has a sexual connotation.   Glad to see it doesn’t for everyone.

Ftr, isn’t my husband saying this to another woman.,

I didn't think about a sexual connotation until you mentioned it.  Now I can't get Austin Powers out of my head.  😂

[regentrude]

Doesn't have a sexual connotation to me. It embodies positive energy, a bit weird as a nickname, but wouldn't raise flags.

[Drama Llama]

To me, it means like an ability that seems like magic.  So someone could definitely have mojo in the form of being supernaturally attractive, but there’s also this guy in my office who has copy machine mojo and can clear any jam.  I have mad respect for his copy machine mojo but I am not at all attracted.

[mmasc]

No sexual connotation to me either. Like @chocolate-chip chooky I think energy or spark. So positive, but not sexual. 

[Katy]

I googled because it has a connotation to me too. The first definition is personal magnetism or charm. The second is sex appeal or sex drive. I think this might be one of those things that isn’t okay in the South (Bible Belt) or in religious communities but depends on context everywhere else. I’d be pretty offended if my DH was calling a woman that. 

[Halftime Hope]

We don't know, from context, whether that's the given name or the nickname of the woman; it could also be a nickname she earned, for whatever reason, in the context that this guy knows her. 

 

[Danae]

9 hours ago, Scarlett said:

Ok, thanks y’all.  To me it has a sexual connotation.   Glad to see it doesn’t for everyone.

Ftr, isn’t my husband saying this to another woman.,

While I know of the sexual connotation that’s not where my mind would go if I heard it as a nickname.  No more than when a guy named Richard goes by Dick.  

[Lecka]

I think of it as very sporty, to the point I’m surprised to see the dictionary definition.  
 

Like — I feel like I’ve seen cheerleaders hold up signs saying “mo” and “jo” to get half the crowd to yell each part.  
 

I feel like I hear announcers say “let’s see some mojo on the field.”  
 

I do remember Austin Powers but I don’t think I have heard it used that way.  

[Scarlett]

1 hour ago, Katy said:

I googled because it has a connotation to me too. The first definition is personal magnetism or charm. The second is sex appeal or sex drive. I think this might be one of those things that isn’t okay in the South (Bible Belt) or in religious communities but depends on context everywhere else. I’d be pretty offended if my DH was calling a woman that. 

Me too.  And he said it in text with a heart face.  ‘My little Mojo’. 

[WildflowerMom]

7 minutes ago, Scarlett said:

Me too.  And he said it in text with a heart face.  ‘My little Mojo’. 

Yeah, that changes things.  I would not be happy about that if my spouse did that.  

[regentrude]

20 minutes ago, Scarlett said:

Me too.  And he said it in text with a heart face.  ‘My little Mojo’. 

It's the "My little " that would give me pause, whatever the next word.

[knitgrl]

2 hours ago, Katy said:

I googled because it has a connotation to me too. The first definition is personal magnetism or charm. The second is sex appeal or sex drive. I think this might be one of those things that isn’t okay in the South (Bible Belt) or in religious communities but depends on context everywhere else. I’d be pretty offended if my DH was calling a woman that. 

My initial experience with the phrase goes to blues music, as in Muddy Waters, "I got my mojo workin' but it don't work on you." Also Jim Morrison with the anagram of his own name "Mr. Mojo risin'" in the Doors' song LA Woman, which I always thought had sexual overtones to it.

Edited November 23, 2023 by knitgrl

[maize]

I was unaware of any sexual connotation to mojo. I associate it with energy/drive/gumption.

Edited November 23, 2023 by maize

[knitgrl]

Obviously, the phrase has been around awhile, and has morphed into something a step or two away from its original meaning. It is interesting how English words can change meanings so quickly.

[Lecka]

“My little” is not okay!!!!!

[KungFuPanda]

1 hour ago, Scarlett said:

Me too.  And he said it in text with a heart face.  ‘My little Mojo’. 

Way to bury the lead. “Mojo” is the least problematic thing about that text. 

[Scarlett]

21 minutes ago, KungFuPanda said:

Way to bury the lead. “Mojo” is the least problematic thing about that text. 

I didn’t notice the heart face at first. 
Very disturbing. 

[Ginevra]

15 hours ago, Scarlett said:

So how would you feel if your husband said it to another woman?

🤷🏻‍♀️ Absent other clues that he’s exceptionally fond of her, I would just think he admires the energy she brings to things. 
 

ETA: that’s what I get for responding before I’ve read it all. Though my post still makes sense, but with emphasis on “Absent other clues…”. 

Edited November 23, 2023 by Ginevra

[mmasc]

Are you saying YOUR dh did this? Or *someone’s* dh, just not yours? I’m confused, but whatever the case is, I definitely wouldn’t like my husband texting “My little Mojo” with heart face to another woman. Or my little anything to another woman. Or a heart face to another woman. 

[Scarlett]

Not my husband. The wife did not know the word and asked me about it. To to me it has a sexual connotation. With the added detail of heart face and ‘my little’ it way crosses a line. 

[JustEm]

With the added context, if I saw my dh did that I'd be hurt and not know how to move forward with the situation. I'd likely stay quiet and investigate if it is more than a budding emotional affair.

[Tap]

Mojo is innocent to me. The rest of the text is problematic!! 
 

Unless it is just a silly joke between them. Not meaning it like it reads, more sarcastic in tone that you can’t read in a text. 
 

BF pats me on the head and says “good girl” just to tease me. (Like you would do to a dog). I told him one that I hated being treated that way metaphorically…. So he does it literally….as a joke. 🤣If someone saw him do that, they would be appalled, but to us, it is just a silly joke. He will text it to me sometimes but no-one would know the story if they read it. 

[Scarlett]

It was not a silly joke IMO. It was flirty.  Wife called him on it and he apologized. 

[Catwoman]

2 hours ago, Scarlett said:

It was not a silly joke IMO. It was flirty.  Wife called him on it and he apologized. 

Is this the same friend you've told us about (the one who is having all the trouble with her dh,) or is this a different friend?

If it's your best friend and she saw that text, I think it's well past time she hired a private investigator to see what he's up to. 

[pinball]

The whole thing sounds like an awkward plot point for a rom-com that flopped

🤣

[PeterPan]

7 hours ago, Scarlett said:

It was not a silly joke IMO. It was flirty.  Wife called him on it and he apologized. 

That's one way to get an honest answer. Not. 

Now he'll just take what he's doing underground. 

He's already moved passed flirting when he's thanking someone for the energy they brings to their interactions. Your friend needs more than a dictionary.

[PeterPan]

7 hours ago, Scarlett said:

It was not a silly joke IMO. It was flirty.  Wife called him on it and he apologized. 

Btw, make it a little more fun. If it's all so innocent, call the other woman up. 😉

[Scarlett]

2 hours ago, pinball said:

The whole thing sounds like an awkward plot point for a rom-com that flopped

🤣

Sometimes people’s lives be like that 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Clarita]

On 11/23/2023 at 7:45 AM, Scarlett said:

Me too.  And he said it in text with a heart face.  ‘My little Mojo’. 

Mojo was not the problem of the text. Any other word replaced in that text would be problematic.