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  1. There might be something to that. For everyone else's babies DH is more the babies person. He wants to hold and snuggle them all, and I like to just look from afar. When it came to my own babies, it was definitely an unnatural amount of desire on my part to snuggle and be with them (it felt very hormonal).
  2. Reminds me of my daughter's swim instructor when she was 3, he looked like the guys from those old Abercrombie and Fitch bags. DH even made a comment. DD, though hated men with a passion at that age would spend the entire swim lesson telling him how ugly he was, badly he smelled and how she wanted someone squishier. If you cat-call him then you move into creepy category. Just thinking he's good looking doesn't mean a person is going to have an affair with the person or really even consider it.
  3. Ugh. I'd block his number. My bank advertises stuff to me. I've had someone from the bank let me know about perks should I upgrade (they only tell me once, then that's it and I was in their office doing stuff). I did have one bank be really pushy about things, I'm no longer with that bank but even before then I started running my bank business through a different branch (so I wouldn't have to work with that guy).
  4. I would add that when you are left with a crying student to say something to the student along the lines of he didn't need to yell and that he was overreacting. He crossed over from being "just a guy with a loud voice" to being mean when he caused someone to cry. If one is routinely causing others to cry no matter their intentions they need to do something different. Although in your shoes I'd let the principal talk to him about his behavior toward students. It's one thing for you (his equal) to talk to him about his behavior towards you, but unless you are his really good friend it'll be "easier" for him to hear how to do his job better from a superior. Places that I've worked for usually say speak to the person directly first if it's grievance against you, if a 3rd party is involved it goes to supervisor.
  5. I walked out because there was no part time option too. Not an engineer. I do wonder though if things changed overall because back in my day most well paid corporate jobs didn’t have part time options. In fact the only people we knew who could do that were doctors who owned their own practices. I was offered flexible hours and part remote but still they wanted 40 hours/week. (This was to me like a unicorn job because my previous job I felt I was leaving early when I worked a 9-10 hour day, my typical was 11-12 hours/day and during push time 12-14 hours and occasionally was going for 15-17 hours 3-6 days straight. Logistically, they fed me at work.) My mom was an accountant, part-time work existed for her. My dad could get contracting work as an engineer, but it seems you can only do that when you fully established yourself as an expert and if you want consistent work that way you have to have a lot of connections (my dad did those as side hustles). One of my co-workers was originally hired as an hourly employee, they had moved him to salary because he clocked in too much overtime all the time. This was us. I mean I chose to stay home with the kids instead of my husband. It was a discussion we had and it could have gone either way. In fact it was 100% my choice that it was me based on my own wants (even though I loved my job I wanted to snuggle my babies more and it was an option for us) .
  6. I'm good at taking someone's vision/idea and making it a reality. Which is just a combination of being able to put my opinions aside to understand what someone else wants, and not being afraid of what I don't know yet.
  7. I think that is true of most high paying professions. Medicine for sure as well. Women are still flocking to it. I think it’s ok to study what one is finding interesting. Couldn’t pay me enough to be an engineer. Some types of Doctors and nurses can still choose to go part-time. (Surgeons have a harder time because of how long surgeries take and the need to be on-call.) Not to mention some of those umbrella term professions when you get to the highest paid levels get back to being male-dominated because of working hours. A company I worked for did a study of why they were unable to retain female engineers. The conclusion was overwhelmingly lack of part-time options. Since a lot of engineering firms are opened to offering flexible working hours, remote work, etc. Then as a side note (I don't think you meant anything by your statement), but I remember feeling very ostracized as a girl when other girls would say things like "couldn't pay me enough to be an engineer." I basically kept my desire to be an engineer a don't ask don't tell sort of thing since I was also very much a girly girl aside from my apparent interest in math and science. Makes me wonder how many girls would be interested if it weren't so OK to poo-poo it.
  8. I really like The Well Trained Mind, Why Don't Students Like School and Brave Learner for basic across the board. In an almost totally different perspective read How Children Learn by John Gatto, even if you are completely against unschooling. For subject specific: Language Arts: The Writing Revolution (this is for an anti-creative writing child), Karen Glass Know and Tell, borrow Phonics from A to Z by Wiley Blevins (don't buy this book it's for educators and administrators you'll likely just go and get a phonics/spelling/reading curriculum but it gives a great overview of what your future curriculum is doing). There is actually a few writing talks on The Well Trained Mind website you can get and those give really good overviews, plus insight as to what it really looks like when you are working with a child because often examples in the book assume super compliant children. Math: I highly suggest Knowing And Teaching Elementary Mathematics (Ma). Then when my kids struggle with particular math concepts especially in arithmetic I like to look up Montessori method for teaching ___, most of it you don't really have to buy the materials, the materials printed on paper is pretty much enough for most children.
  9. You just can't care about their perception. For us it's opposite, we spend money to make our home better because we don't travel. Then people make comments about my "fancy" cabinets or whatever. I smile and move on with those people. I tried justifying it once to someone like that and there really is no reasoning with them. If you prove to them they are the bigger spender or a similar spender, then they'll just be mad at you for judging them, when they started the whole stupid conversation.
  10. I will tell you I went for Electrical Engineering at a UC. Peter's writing skills look fantastic. For English/writing course in college I had to take like an English 101 (you know how they have science and math for non-science majors well they had the equivalent English course for engineers, so we didn't have to compete with the humanities students). Then I had to take an technical writing course, which is all expository writing (email, business, there was a speech). I had to take a few classes in the humanities which require some writing but there were classes to choose from that weren't literature. I've never done any of these things past high school. My literary analysis work in high school just trained me to quickly outline something and write a decent page quickly. Unexpectedly being able to hit word counts and page counts came in really handy professionally. Of the stuff he doesn't do well I would prioritize (for college) 1) lab reports, 2) narrative prose, 3) public speaking and 4) professional emails. They will train him more in 3 and 4 when he is in college and at his job. I know people talk about certain majors as "hard" because they are impacted (lots of required units/courses to graduate), but sometimes depending on the person those can also be the easier majors. I didn't think my major was a walk in the park, but the amount of writing some of the other majors had to do I don't think I would have been able to complete college.
  11. This year I decided to go with fluffier/lighter science as our planned science. My kids love science so a lot of the field trips and fun things we do end up being science-y, science museums, STEM summer camps, fun science box subscriptions. My son reads science magazines, encyclopedias, etc. Having a light science means we have time to indulge in those experiences more instead of me stressing out over completing our science lessons. That's just my thoughts with my particular circumstance. If I didn't have so many science resources available to me I'd probably go with more science.
  12. What's the difference between core knowledge science and memoria press? I would look at what the kids and I like in both and see if I could use the best parts of both and take out the parts I didn't enjoy.
  13. It seems like the charters are the big competition for public schools here. Yes us too. Although in my area people don't view going to a public charter school as taking amazing students or money away from public schools. It seems the feeling is that both those things are "public schools". We have quite a few of those in my area serving a multitude of services. Hmm that makes me think though. I'm currently homeschooling through a charter school. I wonder if I get grilled more if I were independently homeschooling...
  14. We switched from Singapore to Beast Academy for my son and he loves it.
  15. Probably in my city the homeschooling loss is a drop in the bucket compared to private school.
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