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In a clause like

 

Each worker will enrich his own life,

 

editor struck through *his* and inserted *their*. 

 

I don't think I can write like that.

 

argh.

 

It is a thing now, because in our politically correct world, we cannot write "his." I usually resort to rewording such that I can usual plural pronouns.

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I cringe when I see this. It is a clumsy attempt to be inclusive, because using "his" as default is inappropriate if there are females among the workers. Use of the male pronoun should be reserved for situations where there are only males involved: "Each man will enrich his own life" would be a perfectly acceptable sentence.

Being a grammar stickler, I refuse to use "their" as a singular gender neutral pronoun and rephrase my sentences so that they use a plural subject which makes use of "their" as a plural pronoun grammatically correct.

 

ETA: I disagree with many things that are done in the name of "political correctness", but the need for language that includes females is not one of those. Unfortunately, there is currently no gender neutral singular pronoun in English. Language evolves; so as much as it saddens me, I expect the use of "their"/"they" as a gender neutral singular pronoun to become prevalent, since "his or hers"/"she or he" are clumsy and still do not have parity (i.e. which comes first?). Using the male pronoun per default for mixed gendered groups is somewhat of anachronism.

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We need a gender-neutral third person singular pronoun and people have been using "their" that way for a long time.  I think it's good that English can accommodate that.  

 

Rephrasing  works and so do other different gender-neutral third person singular pronouns, but I'm not at all happy with using a masculine pronoun to refer to people who aren't male. Since people actually use "their" this way, and since I think grammar rules should be allowed to evolve according to real-life usage, I think "their" is the best option.

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From your username I assume you are a woman. Would you feel included by language like "A homeschooling parent educates his children at home", just to name an example?

 

 

let's put it this way  - it would NOT bother me. and it's called being grammatically correct.

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Yes, and I fully support the gender-neutral third person singular pronoun. His refers to a male person. In vernacular speech, "their" has already been adopted to denote the third person in the singular and I really like it. I hope it continues to develop, as opposed to artificial pronouns such as "ze". 

 

I also support the loss of the formal "You" in English, with "you" replacing "Thou" and "You", as well as replacing "you [ plural, but not formal]" with "y'all" or "you guys" and "all y'all" for "you [more than two]". I would support a gender-neutral third person singular that was not the same as any other pronoun, I suppose, but I believe what will happen is that "all" will be added on to singular pronouns:

 

I / We

You / You all

They / They all

 

Please note that at present, ONLY the third person singular is gendered. All the other ones are already gender neutral.

 

 

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I also support the loss of the formal "You" in English, with "you" replacing "Thou" and "You", as well as replacing "you [ plural, but not formal]" with "y'all" or "you guys" and "all y'all" for "you [more than two]".

 

oh, another can of worms opened with the bolded...

 

(I am not a Southerner and will not let anybody make me say "y'all" or, heaven forbid "all y'all". Shudder. "You" works just fine.)

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 I'd say it is over-the-top PC.

 

From Merriam Webster, PC is:

 

: agreeing with the idea that people should be careful to not use language or behave in a way that could offend a particular group of people

 

I do not agree that the reason to adopt a gender-neutral third-person singular pronoun is to avoid offending people. It does not merely offend me when the male sex is considered the default sex. It puts me at disadvantage. Also, "he" is not truly gender neutral. Traditional use of "he" would never use it to refer to a person in a female-dominated sphere. This implies to me that "he" means a male person, but "women could do it to if they wanted". It creates a linguistic bias towards men.

 

So to reiterate: making the male the default is not just offensive, but harmful.

 

The gray stuff is coming from the copy-paste job I did. Sorry about that.

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Hah! Great point. Okay, Texas wins this one.

 

"you guys" is incredibly pervasive, and I catch myself using it for mixed groups, even though I know better - it is still hard not to.

 

"their" as a singular pronoun is also very pervasive. I never have trouble avoiding it when I am writing, but when I speak and have to think on my feet, it takes an effort not to say things like "has everybody handed in their quiz?"  and rephrase it in a way that avoids the need for a gender neutral singular pronoun. (But I know that this is  a situation where I have to watch out for this, LOL)

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I'm pro-singular-their, myself :leaving: .  To me, it's the least obtrusive solution to the lack of a singular gender-neutral pronoun.  This site argues that the singular-their has been in use since the late 1300s and didn't cause waves till nearly 1800, and that Jane Austen herself used it multiple times in her novels (and it wasn't just her uneducated characters who used it).  If it's good enough for Jane Austen... ;)

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I correct ds23's papers from "their" to "his or her" when asked, but remind him that I am old and to check it over to make sure it sounds okay for his intended audience.

 

ds7 hasn't asked me to proofread anything for him yet so I'll deal with that when I have to.

 

Yes, it's a thing.

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This isn't 'pc' or anything like that. It has a very long history. 

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they

 

https://motivatedgrammar.wordpress.com/2009/09/10/singular-they-and-the-many-reasons-why-its-correct/

 

http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/tomchiversscience/100184652/if-someone-tells-you-singular-they-is-wrong-please-do-tell-them-to-get-stuffed/

 

http://www.economist.com/blogs/johnson/2013/01/grammar

 

 

 

Shakespeare, Austen, Dickens, etc etc have all done it.  And it looks like using 'he' as 'gender neutral' is a 19th century guideline. One could argue that 'he' is the new kid on the block

 

It's really not that big a deal, nor is it new.

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It's always been a thing, as posters upthread point out. If it was good enough for Shakespeare, then it most definitely should be good enough for youse guys* too :)

 

Now, "been a thing" or "is this a thing" is recent. How recent, I'm not sure.

 

* Yinz? You-uns?

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I think the differences is that the current usage is particularly in order to attempt to be gender neutral. 

 

I don't really like it, mainly because it isn't a natural change, its one being imposed based on an agenda.  I have no problem being a "he" because I consider "he" to be gender inclusive.  Though another possibility that I prefer to "their" with a singular subject is to sometimes use "she" when it's a person of unspecified sex.

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I think the differences is that the current usage is particularly in order to attempt to be gender neutral. 

 

I don't really like it, mainly because it isn't a natural change, its one being imposed based on an agenda.  I have no problem being a "he" because I consider "he" to be gender inclusive.  Though another possibility that I prefer to "their" with a singular subject is to sometimes use "she" when it's a person of unspecified sex.

 

When I use it, I don't use it with an agenda. It fits the situation when I am trying to communicate.  Honestly, I don't even think about it.

 

If I am trying, actually trying to be 'gender neutral' I will use 'she' because if 'he' can count for both, then so can she.  There isn't anything particular to men that makes them the obvious neutral stand-in, so I simply use the 'universal she.' 

 

 

And there is nothing 'new' about attempts to make the English language inclusive. It has been going on for longer than I have been alive. 

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I teach English, and I will mark an error on the paper if a student uses the plural "they" or "their" with a singular antecedent.  The student can use "he," "she," or "he/she," but not "they."  Nope, nope, nope.

 

I think you're my new best friend. :cheers2:

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It's just a general statement. English does not have a neutral pronoun, so when we don't know specifically, we use the male. It's no one's fault; it just is what it is.

 

What do you mean "we"? Speak for yourself, Ellie!

 

As for being "no one's fault", given how recently the prohibition on singular they was invented, I think it is most definitely "somebody's fault". We may not have a specific name, but somebody came up with this zombie rule and heedlessly perpetuated it. It did not invent itself straight out of the ether.

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I might agree with Austen, well never thought that would happen. (ducks the tomatoes) We need a gender neutral singular pronoun, is it really all that difficult to see? I don't like the newer construction of ze either, although it makes more sense. Their is already in use, it's much easier to adopt. I hate writing he/she or he or she unless I specifically discussing male or female. We need a neuter pronoun. 

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I don't find that people use "ze" in the same context that they use "they".

 

I've witnessed singular they in the wild in such contexts as "when the new Pope is invested*, they will do this and that" where quite obviously the new Pope is gonna be a "he" (and lo and behold, he did turn out to be male after all). This suggests to me that, for many speakers, singular they is analyzed as referring to somebody indeterminate. An unknown Pope is guaranteed to be male, but we don't know exactly which Catholic male he's gonna be until it's done.

 

New pronouns such as ze or xe are generally used to refer to a specific known somebody whose gender is unknown, or who doesn't identify along the gender binary in the first place. So if for some reason I had no idea if the current Pope was Francis or Frances, I might refer to said Pope as "ze". Except I probably wouldn't - I only use those pronouns upon request, finding them a bit ugly. (This is a matter of personal preference, not a matter of "correctness".)

 

* For some reason, that's the word springing to mind, and I'm not sure it's the right word at all, or even a reasonable one.

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"You" was formerly used only in a plural sense, but today no one has any objection to using it as both a singular and plural pronoun. I don't like singular "they" either and will recast a sentence to avoid using it when possible. However, I think it's time to let this one go--and I have been doing just that more in the past year or so while editing.

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I think the differences is that the current usage is particularly in order to attempt to be gender neutral. 

 

I don't really like it, mainly because it isn't a natural change, its one being imposed based on an agenda.  I have no problem being a "he" because I consider "he" to be gender inclusive.  Though another possibility that I prefer to "their" with a singular subject is to sometimes use "she" when it's a person of unspecified sex.

 

I guess my question is... in what way is "he" gender inclusive?

 

I don't feel included by "he" at all. I'm not a "he". To me, "he" sounds archaic and stilted and just plain wrong.

 

He/she alternation is impractical. It's the hyphenated last name of the pronoun world. It's what I was asked to do as an undergrad and that's why we all lobbied for "they" because "he" was incorrect, masculine, and "he or she" and "he/she [alternating]" becomes confusing.

 

 

 

It's no one's fault; it just is what it is... I see no reason for it to change.

 

Precisely. Which is to say, in my dialect, "they" is the third person gender neutral pronoun. It may not be in your dialect, but it is in mine. And I like it. Let's just keep it as it is. They. :)

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I see no reason for it to change.

 

It's not changing. Singular they has a long pedigree, and was never actually incorrect. "Use he if you don't know the gender!" is just another made up zombie rule. There was no reason for that change. It wasn't, to quote Bluegoat here, a "natural change".

 

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I was taught to never use a plural pronoun for a singular antecedent. I can't do it when writing and when I read it, I cringe. In speaking, I admit I sometimes say it. 

 

I was never taught to use he as the generic pronoun for an unknown person. I was actually taught that using he as if it were gender neutral was archaic and inappropriate and it's been over 10yrs since I've been in any kind of college class. I was told to either use he or she, which really doesn't bother me at all, to reword the sentence so that the antecedent is plural, or to alternate. If there's no need to assume that the general unknown person is the same individual throughout the paper, I was told to mix it up so that he and she were used about equally. Alternating every other one is too formulaic, but we were supposed to keep it in mind that we wanted balance. 

 

 

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It's kind of silly because in Spanish you would call a group of cats "gatos" by default. If you discover they are all female then you would change it to the feminine. I never thought to get offended over the Spanish use of masculine default, though I suppose I could start.

 

Really just be consistent within the paragraph or article and I probably won't care either way. "Their" just looks incorrect. Though I'm not sure it bothers me. I can be fickle.

Yes, in Spanish you use the male pronoun if there's at least one male species...and as far as I know the cats (or anyone) gets offended :) So tired of having to make changes to make sure everyone feels "included"
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I was taught to never use a plural pronoun for a singular antecedent. I can't do it when writing and when I read it, I cringe. In speaking, I admit I sometimes say it. 

 

I was never taught to use he as the generic pronoun for an unknown person. I was actually taught that using he as if it were gender neutral was archaic and inappropriate and it's been over 10yrs since I've been in any kind of college class. I was told to either use he or she, which really doesn't bother me at all, to reword the sentence so that the antecedent is plural, or to alternate. If there's no need to assume that the general unknown person is the same individual throughout the paper, I was told to mix it up so that he and she were used about equally. Alternating every other one is too formulaic, but we were supposed to keep it in mind that we wanted balance. 

 

I was told at university to have everything in third person. so there was no he or she at all. it was always something vague like the reader , or the student or vague language that implied someone but didn't actually state it.

 

Graduated end of last year.

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I was told at university to have everything in third person. so there was no he or she at all. it was always something vague like the reader , or the student or vague language that implied someone but didn't actually state it.

 

Graduated end of last year.

Are you saying "he or she" is not third person.

 

"He or she" is third person. With the "or" the phrasing doesn't refer to a specific gender and remains singular. "He" , "she", or "it" can all be third person singular. When writing about people "it " is not used.

 

"They" is third person plural.

 

When speaking many people use a dialect that uses "they" in third person singular. As others have stated I was taught to match pronouns to antecedents. My children, who attended a very rigorous IB program for high school were taught this as well. So, in writing, anywhere I might have spoken "they" I use "he or she" for third person singular.

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Are you saying "he or she" is not third person.

 

"He or she" is third person. With the "or" the phrasing doesn't refer to a specific gender and remains singular. "He" , "she", or "it" can all be third person singular. When writing about people "it " is not used.

 

"They" is third person plural.

 

When speaking many people use a dialect that uses "they" in third person singular. As others have stated I was taught to match pronouns to antecedents. My children, who attended a very rigorous IB program for high school were taught this as well. So, in writing, anywhere I might have spoken "they" I use "he or she" for third person singular.

Well I thought he or she was second person, or something like that, not first person but not third person. For third person one had to be move vague- like the reader, or the student or something along those lines.

 Could be I have it all wrong and was writing complete nonsense in all my assignments. I freely admit I have dyslexia and my grasp on written text can be somewhat lacking.

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