HUGE grin as I read this. So happy for you.

My friend, a surgeon, just passed 12 years after receiving a cancer diagnosis with a 5% five-year survival (or was it 3-year?) rate. The last few years were hard but really only the last year was really hard, so he stopped treatment and was gone very quickly. A relative died young of a cancer with a similar survival rate. She fought hard but was gone within a year. Really hard to know what to do, but everyone hopes to be in the 5%.

Another relevant Cloud/Townsend book is Safe People.

We had a situation like this with a sneaky child, who was already seeing a therapist out of our concerns about deceitfulness. Consequences were difficult and not short-lived, but the medium-term outcome seems great. Our situation was different in that we found the rogue phone in the child's hand. If I had found the phone as you describe, I would probably have waited for her to come and ask me about it. If that didn't happen within 24 hours, I would confront her. If she refuses to unlock the phone for you, that's another level of trouble. She then would likely try to access it behind your back so she can clean it up before you see it. Storing it off site, like at Dad's workplace, might be appropriate. Does she go to school? If so, this will be harder to scope out. She can clean up accounts using someone else's phone.

That's all. Thank you.

Is there something I can do about this? Thank you.

I have taken up knitting small utilitarian items during these times. The materials fit in my purse. Very little skill is needed at the start, and I am still knitting at that level about half the time. Over time I have been able to progress to more advanced stitch patterns and now enjoy learning how different patterns work or not for a given use. Sometimes at the start of a project I have to invest some time at home planning. I can knit while talking to other parents in hang-out areas, so it's a versatile pastime.

It's not foregone that he won't do the business plan. I'd say the probability is 0.50. I am working on being better informed to evaluate any such plan.

I received such helpful response to my vision therapy woo query that I am back for more help. A very close relative would like me to spot him some capital to start an internet business in which he sells things, as yet of an unidentified nature, through a web site. The items are drop shipped by someone else, also as yet unidentified, so the relative doesn't actually handle any of the merchandise. I understand in principle how this could be profitable, but I imagine that the field is crowded with many strivers and that few are likely to really be glad they invested in this. Right? Is success or not just dumb luck here? Where can I find out about the scams and pitfalls ready to ensnare young people who are looking for an income stream without doing much? I mean, I know the universal type of stuff and a fool and his money yadda yadda. I mean particular hazards in the context of ecommerce. Thank you

If anyone can chime in about height for the wearers of these leggings, I am interested. At nearly five feet tall, our girl has a very hard time finding suitable leggings.

What info sources do you recommend? I don't think we will buy a purebred animal. There are mixes I like, but we are open to a mutt. I welcome any advice from those more experienced.

This has given me a lot to work with. Thanks, everyone.

This teen reads fluently but does not enjoy it, has some learning difficulties, complains of eye pain when reading, and after two years of glasses--most recently trifocals--cannot find a prescription that allows her to read comfortably. I am looking at VT as part of a leave-no-stone-unturned approach to helping, but I am put off by the woo I read about. The practitioners I have found locally refer to themselves as behavioral optometrists. ETA: she's good with racquet sports.

Midnight is in the middle and has a nice, concise ring to it.

I am just starting to look into this. It isn't clear that the methods are evidence based. Does anyone have quality info to point me to?