Halftime Hope Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 Mom passed away this afternoon, we're through all the logistical stuff, and my brother is about to give my Dad his nightly back rub. (Dad has horrible osteoporosis/scoliosis, and my "little" brother is "growing up" into the most amazing caregiver. I'm so proud of him!) Anyhow, C____ (brother) has to be as exhausted as I am, but he came in and sat on dad's bed after dinner, and the three of us talked, laughing, sniffling, and reminiscing over the last couple of years since Dad and Mom moved in with my bro. It was an amazing convo, all things considered...the first in which Dad wasn't dissolving into puddles of tears. I know the tears will come again and again, but I know Dad is relieved that her suffering is over. We were at the table eating dinner that a friend had brought, and the guys from the funeral home came. My SIL and I answered the door, talked to them, and then went back to the table, preferring not to watch while they did their "removal" (their euphemism). Both were dressed in black suits and formal long black woolen overcoats. It didn't take more than three minutes, and then one came to the breakfast nook to say goodbye. My nephew (12) who had been dragging all day, muttered under his breath, "All he needs is sunglasses," cracking all of us up, because that what we were thinking, too. We coulda had our own MIB movie going on! Anyhow, thanks to all who chimed in so helpfully on the other thread. Much appreciated! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiffnkids Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 ((Hugs)). So sorry you lost your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 Thank you for taking the time to update us. Sorry that you lost your mom, but very glad that there have been some better moments today. Best wishes and big hugs.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: i am glad you and your brother had some good time with your dad, and that you were able to be with your mom in her end-time. it is a hard and holy time. ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I am so sorry for your loss, Halftime Hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to be with your mom and be there for your dad during her passing. Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 So sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 < hugs > and love at this difficult time. Sorry for the loss of your Mom. I think she is extremely proud of you and your brother. <3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Heatherwith4 Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Mousie Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I'm so sorry for your loss. And at the same time I'm happy for the strength, togetherness and love that is your family. May you continue to guide and support each other as you move along this hard road. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I'm sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrookValley. Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 Sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. :crying: Many prayers for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mother. (((hugs))) When my mom passed away, she had donated her body to medical science, and the medical school sent a man to pick up her body. It was late August in Texas, well over 100 degrees, and I was struck by the fact that the man was in a suit, complete with coat and tie. I know they did that to be respectful, and I appreciated it. The poor man was sweating bullets, and yet he paused in the driveway to ask if we were ready for him to take her body. It was a small act of kindness which I will always remember. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted February 12, 2014 Author Share Posted February 12, 2014 Thank you all so much for your kindnesses. It did strike me that as a family, we had been given the mercy of being able to prepare for this and things were perhaps not as raw as they are for some families who are dealing with something unexpectedly and devastatingly tragic. The guys from the funeral home probably have no idea what they will walk into--what a thankless job. Thanks again for letting me process here. :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 Thank you all so much for your kindnesses. It did strike me that as a family, we had been given the mercy of being able to prepare for this and things were perhaps not as raw as they are for some families who are dealing with something unexpectedly and devastatingly tragic. The guys from the funeral home probably have no idea what they will walk into--what a thankless job. Thanks again for letting me process here. :o At some point in our lives, I think we all get there with someone we love and I doubt it's ever easy. At that point, friends are worth their weight in gold. Process here all you want and plenty of eyes/ears will be here to share this time with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mothersweets Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 I am sorry for your loss. May your family draw even closer together as you move forward. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 Just saw this--adding my condolences and hugs. What grace you've shown. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 So sorry for your loss. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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