Debbi in Texas Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 I think I am right on this, but wanted to get other opinions. My son graduated from high school in May. He received several gifts of money and sent thank you cards out to all Except to four people in our church. He kept putting these four off and now it is October and the cards were not sent. He thinks that if he sends them now, it will just remind people that he didn't send them when he should have. Dh and I say he should send them anyway. Who is correct? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 You are. He should send the cards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 In this case better late than never. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea1 Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Yes, he should send the cards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send them now. Even if they've forgotten (which is doubtful), they will appreciate his courtesy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Aother vote for send the cards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plansrme Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 It is never too late to do the right thing. People will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Never too late. I will bet these people have not forgotten that your ds did not thank them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send them anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Definitely send. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Absolutely SEND! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GSOchristie Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripley Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 I think you're both right. But his being right doesn't negate YOUR being right, so ... send them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 He should still send them. Failing to properly thank people for the gifts he received is a much bigger faux pas than sending the cards a few months late. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Absolutely send the cards. No question about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send them. And I will admit...I once did this...and dirtied up the envelope and folded it a bit to make it look like maybe it had gotten lost in the mail, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Absolutely, send them. (But skip the bending and dirtying trick...the post mark will give him away :tongue_smilie: ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send them........ now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Add an apology for being so slack then send them or hand deliver them. It will draw attention to his not doing it before but it will also make him seem humble enough to admit it. And you won't both feel bad every time you see them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Which reminds me, I need to check status of ds' graduation TU notes. That got lost in my summer madness. Thanks, OP. Here's the way I told it to my kids: if you plan on cashing the check, a thank you note shall follow. (Please don't nit-pick me on checks vs. gift cards, etc.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 :iagree: Nodding my head in agreement...Send them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathmarm Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Send a nice thank you note and include an apologetic remark acknowledging the tardiness of the thanks. Send them today, if at all possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 I would love to be the voice of dissent, because we so rarely have everyone in complete agreement, but I can't. Agreeing with everyone else, he should send them a thank you card! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saw Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Tell him to send it or maybe one of them will do what someone did to my dh -- an aunt of his had sent a check for $10 when our twins were born. xDH and I had agreed that he would do thank-yous for his family, I for mine, so this was his responsibility. He didn't write the thank you. Several months later he got a really nasty note from this aunt basically telling him how horrible he was not to have sent a thank-you note to her. It was awful. I felt so bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 what shows the greatest love to those who gave gifts? right/wrong are absolutes, but the Right choice (if there is one) has already come and gone. (ie. sending them out promptly). so now to choose the least bad choice..... for them, not for him. (but of course the least bad for them becomes the least bad for him, IYKWIM) fwiw, ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Tell him to send it or maybe one of them will do what someone did to my dh -- an aunt of his had sent a check for $10 when our twins were born. xDH and I had agreed that he would do thank-yous for his family, I for mine, so this was his responsibility. He didn't write the thank you. Several months later he got a really nasty note from this aunt basically telling him how horrible he was not to have sent a thank-you note to her. It was awful. I felt so bad. And this is exactly why I hate thank you cards. Being hurt and then putting another person down because they didn't send you a silly little card is just stupid. I do not send thank you cards. I always make it a point to thank the person in person when they give me something and then be done with it. Anyone who bases our relationship on whether I give them a thank you note or not is not worth my time. Its not the idea of them I don't like because showing your thanks in a card can be a great idea. Its the obligation behind it and that people get offended when that silly obligation is not met. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted October 27, 2013 Author Share Posted October 27, 2013 I really appreciate all the replies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 I did the same thing once. My mom rightly insisted that I send them no matter how late they were. I felt a lot better after they went out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted October 27, 2013 Share Posted October 27, 2013 Send them and apologize for being late. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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