athena1277 Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I hope she is found soon, Imp. Is there any other family she hasn't annoyed, I mean visited lately? I'm praying that she is found safe and quick. Also, what will your plans be if she does show up on your doorstep? You and Wolf need a plan. This is what I am thinking. Start to plan for if she shows up at your house. Or if she calls with some major drama she wants to involve you in. In the meantime, I'll join with everyone in praying she is found safe and sound. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 This is what I am thinking. Start to plan for if she shows up at your house. Or if she calls with some major drama she wants to involve you in. In the meantime, I'll join with everyone in praying she is found safe and sound. :grouphug: You really do need a plan. If she turns up there, can you just return her to the RCMP? Like a found wallet? Sigh. (I realize that sounds insane to people with normal relatives, but Imp isn't dealing with any standard variation of normal) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A.Balaban Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 praying. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Hope everything turns out o.k. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 I've tracked down some ph#s, and made some calls, still making more. Only thing we know is that she was last seen, stuff packed, waiting for a ride. And apparently, her ride was an 80 yo woman. Nobody has a clue who that may have been. Family members I've spoken to agree that it's totally w/in her personality to take a jaunt, not tell anyone, then be surprised that everyone is doing a nut over her not being home when she was supposed to have been. Praying that's the case. WHY she would get a ride w/another 80 yo (MIL is 84-85 this nov) is beyond us, considering there were other family members there in their 40s. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoggirl Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers. Hope she is found soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lacie Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I hope that it turns out she just forgot to inform family of her plans. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Am I the only one who sort of things, "Well, you've reported it to the police, just let them handle it and not worry about what's happened to her as long as she isn't on your doorstep?" Or is that just showing what an awful person I am? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xuzi Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Am I the only one who sort of things, "Well, you've reported it to the police, just let them handle it and not worry about what's happened to her as long as she isn't on your doorstep?" Or is that just showing what an awful person I am? I'll join you in the "awful person" corner. I'd let the RCMP handle it from here on out and just call every so often for updates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Am I the only one who sort of things, "Well, you've reported it to the police, just let them handle it and not worry about what's happened to her as long as she isn't on your doorstep?" Or is that just showing what an awful person I am? Honestly, I don't think quite that way, but I do find myself thinking that it's a bit ironic.... We fight for the freedom to be treated like adults by our parents. But often times when parents do the kind of things we once anticipated (or occasionally still fantasize about!) the freedom of doing - like taking off on a spontaneous road trip with a BFF - we get all flustered that they aren't acting like our parents! Imp, I understand there are many complex layers which make your situation with your MIL a bit different. I am mostly thinking about my own folks, who I often cannot reach for days at a time. They usually return my call when they get back, "Oh, we just took a little trip to see such-n-such..." They live cross country, so they don't advise all their friends and family of their plans. That's perfectly reasonable for an unfettered set of grown-ups. But I confess, when I ring a couple of days in a row with no answer, I get that squicky feeling, kwim? Anyway, I do hope she is found safe. But she is an adult, so hopefully she is off at a casino or somewhere with a friend and just didn't want to tell anyone she was going to feed a slot machine and overindulge at the buffet. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: You've done all you can, all that could be reasonably expected of you. Try to keep yourself busy with your beautiful kids while you wait for further news. Hope you get some soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 Can't get any updates from RCMP until officer is back on shift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4kiddies Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Since it is two elderly ladies in the car I would worry that they are off the road in the woods somewhere . Has anyone driven the road to the camp and looked for them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I've tracked down some ph#s, and made some calls, still making more. Only thing we know is that she was last seen, stuff packed, waiting for a ride. And apparently, her ride was an 80 yo woman. Nobody has a clue who that may have been. Family members I've spoken to agree that it's totally w/in her personality to take a jaunt, not tell anyone, then be surprised that everyone is doing a nut over her not being home when she was supposed to have been. Praying that's the case. WHY she would get a ride w/another 80 yo (MIL is 84-85 this nov) is beyond us, considering there were other family members there in their 40s. :glare: Old people can be crazy-stubborn and impossible to understand. kiwm? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 Honestly, I don't think quite that way, but I do find myself thinking that it's a bit ironic.... We fight for the freedom to be treated like adults by our parents. But often times when parents do the kind of things we once anticipated (or occasionally still fantasize about!) the freedom of doing - like taking off on a spontaneous road trip with a BFF - we get all flustered that they aren't acting like our parents! Imp, I understand there are many complex layers which make your situation with your MIL a bit different. I am mostly thinking about my own folks, who I often cannot reach for days at a time. They usually return my call when they get back, "Oh, we just took a little trip to see such-n-such..." They live cross country, so they don't advise all their friends and family of their plans. That's perfectly reasonable for an unfettered set of grown-ups. But I confess, when I ring a couple of days in a row with no answer, I get that squicky feeling, kwim? Anyway, I do hope she is found safe. But she is an adult, so hopefully she is off at a casino or somewhere with a friend and just didn't want to tell anyone she was going to feed a slot machine and overindulge at the buffet. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: You've done all you can, all that could be reasonably expected of you. Try to keep yourself busy with your beautiful kids while you wait for further news. Hope you get some soon. She has someone staying w/her, asolutely NONE of the ppl she'd normally check in w/has heard from her, incl the woman staying at her place. That's where the concern comes from. I really hope that she's out visiting, and it didn't occur to her that her stating she'd be home Sun, and not turning up would be a concern. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Old people can be crazy-stubborn and impossible to understand. kiwm? Anyone else thinking Thelma & Louise? Sorry Imp,I know you won't hear from RCMP until later, but hopefully a relative will call or update fb soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 She has someone staying w/her, asolutely NONE of the ppl she'd normally check in w/has heard from her, incl the woman staying at her place. That's where the concern comes from. I really hope that she's out visiting, and it didn't occur to her that her stating she'd be home Sun, and not turning up would be a concern. Well, this is a longshot, but - any chance she & your mom are conspiring, perhaps planning an intervention? IIRC you recently went no contact with your mom? Also, I apologize for my Thelma and Louise comment - I was really just thinking that when my kids are grown and gone I'll be prone to such jaunts myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug: My elderly aunt, who frequently took off and acted all surprised when people told her they were worried, finally ended up in a doozy. She drove from Florida to the middle of Georgia and got confused. Nobody knew where she was for 4 days. The police finally found her at a coffee shop. In the States we have a Silver Alert, which is like an Amber Alert for the elderly. Does your province have something similar? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silver_Alert Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug: My elderly aunt, who frequently took off and acted all surprised when people told her they were worried, finally ended up in a doozy. She drove from Florida to the middle of Georgia and got confused. Nobody knew where she was for 4 days. The police finally found her at a coffee shop. In the States we have a Silver Alert, which is like an Amber Alert for the elderly. Does your province have something similar? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silver_Alert I'm still trying to track down *exactly* where she was last seen, and by whom. It's all 3rd, 4th hand info at this point. One cousin is apparently looking for Wolf's work ph#, rather than talking to me. WHY?! He doesn't even always have cell service, for pity sakes. I guess everyone wants first hand feeding off of the son's worry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I get the two moms mixed up, but is there any chance that this is a retaliation since they are so dramatic? :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 I honestly have no freaking clue what is going on. I'm HOPING that she's just decided to visit someone w/out telling anybody, and will be shocked to discover that ppl were spazzing out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 WHY she would get a ride w/another 80 yo (MIL is 84-85 this nov) is beyond us, considering there were other family members there in their 40s. :glare: Because they don't have to argue about what to listen to on the radio? ;) Hoping it all turns out positive, which could be a variety of answers...don't let it make you crazy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I honestly have no freaking clue what is going on. I'm HOPING that she's just decided to visit someone w/out telling anybody, and will be shocked to discover that ppl were spazzing out. I do get not wishing her ill and being concerned, but I don't get why you seem to be in such a hectic state over it? I have an uber controlling, toxic mother, from whom I managed to separate, so I know where you are coming from, but it seems to me you're making it way more dramatic than it deserves. She's missing. The police are looking. Your primary concern should be on how not to let her back into your life when she shows up on your doorstep. With the frenzy you're creating in your mind you'll be tempted to take her in and restart the drama, which exactly what she wants. I'm not a callous person. I do care about the elderly, and I wish her to be safely found. But I don't think this deserves such a drama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I do get not wishing her ill and being concerned, but I don't get why you seem to be in such a hectic state over it? I have an uber controlling, toxic mother, from whom I managed to separate, so I know where you are coming from, but it seems to me you're making it way more dramatic than it deserves. She's missing. The police are looking. Your primary concern should be on how not to let her back into your life when she shows up on your doorstep. With the frenzy you're creating in your mind you'll be tempted to take her in and restart the drama, which exactly what she wants. I'm not a callous person. I do care about the elderly, and I wish her to be safely found. But I don't think this deserves such a drama. This is the MIL, not her mother whom she has cut-off contact with...the mother-in-law, while a real piece of work, is still in their lives. Also, whatever the fall-out, they are likely to deal with it because Wolf's sibs aren't exactly on top of the mom stuff. That's the problem. MIL, no matter what, will not be living with them, but she's been exhibiting some signs of possible dementia or something. Basically, Wolf could easily get stuck calling the shots and from 5 provinces away. That's why this is so difficult for IMP to deal with...were this IMP's mother, who is literally becoming dangerous, it would be a no brainer because it is a ZERO contact allowed situation. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 This is the MIL, not her mother whom she has cut-off contact with...the mother-in-law, while a real piece of work, is still in their lives. Also, whatever the fall-out, they are likely to deal with it because Wolf's sibs aren't exactly on top of the mom stuff. Faith I thought wolf was an only. Imp, one thought I had, to check with the rcmp - has another 80 woman also been reported missing in that area? they probably wouldn't give you a name, but maybe a yea/nay. if she went off with another older woman, I would think it would be likely they disappeared together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 This is the MIL, not her mother whom she has cut-off contact with...the mother-in-law, while a real piece of work, is still in their lives. Also, whatever the fall-out, they are likely to deal with it because Wolf's sibs aren't exactly on top of the mom stuff. That's the problem. MIL, no matter what, will not be living with them, but she's been exhibiting some signs of possible dementia or something. Basically, Wolf could easily get stuck calling the shots and from 5 provinces away. That's why this is so difficult for IMP to deal with...were this IMP's mother, who is literally becoming dangerous, it would be a no brainer because it is a ZERO contact allowed situation. Faith My bad. Got them confused. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dansamy Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 She's been missing since Sunday ?!? Crazy, psycho drama-prone or not, I would be worried sick! There's no love lost between my MIL & I, but I would be worried too if his mom went MIA for 3+ days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKidAcademy Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 (edited) (deleting because my post was inappropriate) Praying.... Edited August 7, 2012 by TammyH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 She's been missing since Sunday ?!? Crazy, psycho drama-prone or not, I would be worried sick! There's no love lost between my MIL & I, but I would be worried too if his mom went MIA for 3+ days. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 She's been missing since Sunday ?!? Crazy, psycho drama-prone or not, I would be worried sick! There's no love lost between my MIL & I, but I would be worried too if his mom went MIA for 3+ days. :iagree: Me either. Someone may drive me crazy, but I would never wish them any harm. I do hope she is okay. Poor woman. I'm praying for her Imp. Please keep us updated. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 MIL is home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 MIL is home. Whew! What a relief! Looking forward to hearing her story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 MIL is home. Oh good!! . . . I think :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 I thought wolf was an only. Imp, one thought I had, to check with the rcmp - has another 80 woman also been reported missing in that area? they probably wouldn't give you a name, but maybe a yea/nay. if she went off with another older woman, I would think it would be likely they disappeared together. He's her only child, but Wolf has birth sibs, which is probably where Faith got confused. He as adopted by her, raised as an only, didn't meet birth sibs til he was in his 30s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 I don't have the full story. What I do know is that the person MIL was supposed to get a ride home w/on Sun couldn't get her til Mon...then that changed to today. So, she stayed w/another friend, waiting for a ride (it's an hr from where camp mtg was) and didn't bother to let anyone know. That's as much of the story as I have at this point. I thought it was her roommate calling, so let it go to vm, as I was already informed MIL had been located at the friend's and was talking to Wolf. He's calling her from work, and will let me know any details. I need a drink, and it's not even 130pm. *headdesk* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Whew! What a relief! Looking forward to hearing her story. :iagree::iagree: What she said. I'm sure it will be a doozy! I'm glad she's safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 As frustrating as it all sounds, I'm very glad she was found safe and sound. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I need a drink, and it's not even 130pm. *headdesk* Glad you have an answer. You know, it's 5:00 somewhere;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Glad you have an answer. You know, it's 5:00 somewhere;) That's what I was going to say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I'm glad she's home, enjoy that drink. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I am glad you have answers. ITA, it is 5:00 somewhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 As frustrating as it all sounds, I'm very glad she was found safe and sound. Oh me too! i'm just...boggled, not quite sure exactly what all I'm feeling. Glad you have an answer. You know, it's 5:00 somewhere;) If Wolf was home, I would...but since I'm the only adult here, I'll wait. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Oh me too! i'm just...boggled, not quite sure exactly what all I'm feeling. If Wolf was home, I would...but since I'm the only adult here, I'll wait. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry Imp, but glad she is safe. I can't even imagine that conversation between her and Wolf. Enjoy that drink when you get it. I'll have one in your honor! :D hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Element Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 MIL is home. Oh, wow. Whew! I'm really glad she's okay and hope you can sort out the story so that this kind of thing doesn't happen again for your family. I'm really glad this thread has a happy ending! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Oh me too! i'm just...boggled, not quite sure exactly what all I'm feeling. If Wolf was home, I would...but since I'm the only adult here, I'll wait. Unfortunately he may be even more in need of a drink when he gets home than you are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 So glad she's safe. Will switch my prayers from her to you and Wolf. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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