ktgrok Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Or really, how would you handle this? My younger sister is a vice principal at a highschool, and has been in competition with me all my life. I have no idea why. I don't have a competitive bone in my body, but she has told me many times she feels that I am smarter/superior, etc. Whatever. We usually can get along for about 24 hours. We went over that this weekend :( She and her husband and daughter showed up at my parents' house right after my family did. But her daughter had a cold....runny nose and fever, feeling cranky. She apparantly came down with the fever as they were packing the car, but they came anyway as they "couldn't miss Christmas." Fine...I realized there was no way to keep my kids away from the germs and just let it go. (and washed hands a lot). But various comments she made were grating on me, and my husband more than me. Whatever. This morning my Aspie 12 year old was in rare form. He was very ungrateful for his gifts and got in trouble with me. Later he got into a big argument with my husband, blatantly defying him to his face. At this point my husband told him something along the lines of "I'm going to get your mom before I end up punching you!" and went to get me to deal with him. He bumped into him, knocking into his shoulder a bit as he walked by. (my son demonstrated to me later...it was a bump because my son was blocking his path being all "tough."). Son stormed off when I didn't take his side and slammed into the guest bedroom at my parents. My mom and sister apparently went in there to talk to him, while i was loading gifts and packing up. He told them somehting about what happend, at which point my sister questions my husband as to whether he "pushed Michael", then after he says no comes to me to question me as to if he "pushed him to the ground" and "threatened him" as she is "a mandatory reporter to DCF and could lose her job for not reporting this, even if it didn't happen she is supposed to report a child's statement." I was upset before this, but being interrogated by my sister, who KNOWS the child is not abused, and her even MENTIONING she would report us to DCF has me beyond angry!! She then backtracked and said "of course I'm not GOING to report it, but I have to talk to you about it and check into it, since I'm not reporting it, and could lose my job, etc." Seriously????? You are my SISTER!!! The kid is FINE! Yes, husband yelled at him and lost his temper. It's his first Christmas since his mother died, his first as an orphan really, and now his step son is acting like a brat, and yeah, he yelled, but to bring up DCF? NOw I don't think I ever want to be around her for fear of what she will do. I don't think she will report this, and she called me again and said she wouldn't, and asked if I was speaking to her. I told her yes, but I'm really stressed out and having DCF mentioned really didn't help. I don't know what to do about this. My husband is furious. FURIOUS. He never wants to see her again. Oh, and miss by the books sister isn't always such a stickler for rules. She told me the Ipod Touch her 1 year old is playing with was stolen property turned in at a school she was Dean at years ago, that went unclaimed. Rather than turn it in to the police she kept it all this time. So I don't for one minute believe she is just a rules all the time person. Ugh. So...any thoughts? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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