Mom in High Heels Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 At least I'm taking it was a compliment. The other day Indy and I were at the commissary (military grocery store) during the middle of the day. A lady parked next to us was loading her groceries at the same time we were. She looked at Indy and said something like not in school today? He told her that he was homeschooled. She looked at me and asked if I was his mom (why would he be with someone else?) and I said that I was. She looked me up and down (weird) and said "Well, you don't look like a homeschooling mom." I didn't know what to say, so I just said "Thanks" and got in the car. I was wearing jeans (nice, dark jeans with a large cuff-about 6"-that hit me just above the ankles), a solid color t-shirt, scarf and of course heels (pointy toed black pumps with a 2.5" heel). I wasn't dressed up, just decent. What do you think people think hs moms look like? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I do not own a single jumper. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I do not own a single jumper. :lol::lol::lol: Me either. I also do not go to the grocery in sweats. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 What do you think people think hs moms look like? Denim jumpers or ankle length solid color skirts with "practical" shoes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I've heard that from people more than once. In our area, homeschooling is associated with dresses and long hair. I believe I was wearing a cute t-shirt from a microbrewery and jeans the last time I heard it :D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpedIntoTheDeepEndFirst Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I think that folks like the woman you ran into don't actually know what homeschoolers look like--since so many of them look like everyone else. She's probably seen lots of them and never noticed. Not every homeschooling family looks like the Duggars. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 18, 2011 Author Share Posted September 18, 2011 . Not every homeschooling family looks like the Duggars. I think this is the idea she had. It was still weird. BTW, in our hsing group there are a few who wear jumpers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I had no idea about the jumper thing until I went to a convention. Most of the moms in the hs group we used to be part of wore slacks and nice blouses. A few schlepped around in jeans and t shirts like me. But man, at least every third woman at the convention wore a jumper, and about half the rest wore long skirts. Being in FL in June, the rest of course wore shorts and tank tops. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I've heard that from people more than once. In our area, homeschooling is associated with dresses and long hair. I believe I was wearing a cute t-shirt from a microbrewery and jeans the last time I heard it :D. :lol: I have long hair because I'm too cheap to go get it cut, and I wear long dresses because I'm too fat for pants and I don't shave my legs. I sort of enjoy breaking a few stereotypes by being a godless humanist with one child and a career. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I homeschool with a faux 'hawk :lol:. (When I get my hair trimmed again. I let it get too long & it's starting to look... normal. Aaaah! :p ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsrevmeg Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Denim jumpers or ankle length solid color skirts with "practical" shoes. Would you believe that the only person I know in real life who dresses like that is a public school teacher?!??! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 You should have told her that today wasn't a uniform (jumper) day. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 and of course heels (pointy toed black pumps with a 2.5" heel). I wasn't dressed up, just decent. What do you think people think hs moms look like? I learned about the jumper requirement online. I had no idea. Maybe homeschoolers in my area are rebels? I do take issue with the quoted statement. I'm all for looking hip, but raising the bar with the heels at the grocery store is uncalled for! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I do not own a single jumper. :lol::lol::lol:me neither. It's sad that most people have that impression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamauk Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I do own a very cute denim skirt. I often wear it with a hoody and flip flops ~ but that is the normal attire for SAHMs in this area, not just the hsing ones. I do admit, though, that since becoming a hs'er, I'm much more self conscious when I wear it :D Everytime I put it on, DH says "I see you're wearing your uniform today" :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Denim jumpers or ankle length solid color skirts with "practical" shoes. Would you believe that the only person I know in real life who dresses like that is a public school teacher?!??! Yep, my neighbor wears this uniform every day it seems. She's a middle school teacher. I once had a man say to me when he found out I home school, "You home school your boys? Those boys in there? But, but.....they're so normal!" Um, thanks? :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 18, 2011 Author Share Posted September 18, 2011 I do take issue with the quoted statement. I'm all for looking hip, but raising the bar with the heels at the grocery store is uncalled for! *SNORT* Do you not see my user name? I wear heels almost everywhere. Heels are my thang. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asta Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 There are two 'groups' in our area. One is a jumper group. The other dresses more or less like you. Maybe she'd only seen a jumper group. Jumper group. That sounds suicidal. I should go to bed. a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seraphina Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Most of the homeschooling moms I know are pretty young and could be described as hipsters, haven't seen any of the where jumpers and I haven't worn one since the early 90's. I don't think my kids would be caught in public with me if I was wearing a jumper. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LAS in LA Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Practical shoes rock!!! :D ~LAS (who lives in Birkenstocks and doesn't care what anybody thinks) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali in OR Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 So where do you even by a jumper nowadays? They've been out of style for 20-some years. Those jumper homeschoolers probably make their own. Who has time for that??? Jeans and a tee shirt here. And given it rains 9 months of the year, that's a long-sleeved, somewhat fitted tee. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curlylocks Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Practical shoes rock!!! :D ~LAS (who lives in Birkenstocks and doesn't care what anybody thinks) :iagree: -- *love* my Birkis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertmum Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I wear jumpers in the UK. But I think the UK is so cold that you pretty much have to. We used to have the thermostat in the house turned down to 16 degrees (celsius) to keep the heating costs down! Worse than that I like wearing my dh because they are thicker and warmer than mine. All right, now you can shoot me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I wear jumpers in the UK. But I think the UK is so cold that you pretty much have to. We used to have the thermostat in the house turned down to 16 degrees (celsius) to keep the heating costs down! Worse than that I like wearing my dh because they are thicker and warmer than mine. All right, now you can shoot me... Wait a sec...by jumper do mean what Americans call sweaters or do you mean the long (usually denim) dress with wide shoulder straps under which one might find a white shirt? And, as to the bolded, I'd like wearing my dh, too; but, I find him too heavy to carry around no matter how warm he might be. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jplain Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I wear jumpers in the UK. Ha! Jumper means something quite different in the US. What you call jumpers we call sweaters. :D I'd like wearing my dh, too; but, I find him too heavy to carry around no matter how warm he might be. :lol: *spitting water on keyboard* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Wait a sec...by jumper do mean what Americans call sweaters or do you mean the long (usually denim) dress with wide shoulder straps under which one might find a white shirt? And, as to the bolded, I'd like wearing my dh, too; but, I find him too heavy to carry around no matter how warm he might be. :lol: :lol::lol::lol::lol: Sweaters we like. Jumpers, as in the wide, A-line, usually denim dresses, no way. Dh, even better. :lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 18, 2011 Author Share Posted September 18, 2011 I wear jumpers in the UK. But I think the UK is so cold that you pretty much have to. We used to have the thermostat in the house turned down to 16 degrees (celsius) to keep the heating costs down! Worse than that I like wearing my dh because they are thicker and warmer than mine. All right, now you can shoot me... LOL. Jumpers are sweaters in the US. I know this from reading Harry Potter. :D This is more what we're talking about, only the ones some hs moms wear are far less fashionable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 We have some VERY unfashionable HS moms in the large group in our area. We're talking ankle length denim jumpers with white turtlenecks, no makeup of any kind, no jewelry, and long unstyled hair. We also have a bunch of "medium" type moms like me who do the khakis and classic shoes like Borns and an easy tunic or dress shirt. And we've got one mom who wears three inch heels to park day and expects everyone else to go traipsing after her DC because she cannot go off the path. So I've seen the scary unfashionable moms too and whew, they scare me a little bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 18, 2011 Author Share Posted September 18, 2011 And we've got one mom who wears three inch heels to park day and expects everyone else to go traipsing after her DC because she cannot go off the path. Well she's just a slacker. :glare: I can totally walk out onto the grass in my heels. The trick is to lean forward a bit (a big no-no on flat surfaces BTW) so your weight is on the balls of your feet and not the heels. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jplain Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 ...no makeup of any kind, no jewelry, and long unstyled hair... Darn it, now you've got me worried about being unfashionable. But wait, I do wear a sparkly gem in my new nostril piercing! I bet that makes me fashionable. Or maybe it just makes me weird. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Well she's just a slacker. :glare: I can totally walk out onto the grass in my heels. The trick is to lean forward a bit (a big no-no on flat surfaces BTW) so your weight is on the balls of your feet and not the heels. She likes to play the part of the helpless princess and it doesn't work in our group. We have two dads. One is a lumberjack type who lives to take his family on extreme camping trips and the other is a good friend of mine who is full on Aspie to the nth degree. He does not "get" her at all and it cracks me up to watch her do the eyelid flutter thing at him. He never catches it and she might as well be flirting with the park bench for all the good it does her. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarreymere Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Hey! I like denim skirts! -Chubby people with strange waist to hip ratios fit better in skirts! -Skirts are cooler in the summer and warmer in the winter (you can wear leggings and things underneath). -Skirts force people to notice more of my weird homemade socks. -With the right skirt, you can pretend you are a governess in a romance novel and only teaching all of these kids until a rich, handsome, titled guy sweeps you off your feet and takes you away to a life of leisure and luxury. -The other soccer moms leave you alone if you wear a skirt. Of course, they would leave you alone if they know you homeschool, too. And I do own a denim jumper, but it is above-the-knee and not A-line. It looks nice with a t-shirt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 At least I'm taking it was a compliment. The other day Indy and I were at the commissary (military grocery store) during the middle of the day. A lady parked next to us was loading her groceries at the same time we were. She looked at Indy and said something like not in school today? He told her that he was homeschooled. She looked at me and asked if I was his mom (why would he be with someone else?) and I said that I was. She looked me up and down (weird) and said "Well, you don't look like a homeschooling mom." I didn't know what to say, so I just said "Thanks" and got in the car. I was wearing jeans (nice, dark jeans with a large cuff-about 6"-that hit me just above the ankles), a solid color t-shirt, scarf and of course heels (pointy toed black pumps with a 2.5" heel). I wasn't dressed up, just decent. What do you think people think hs moms look like? :lol: I have heard something similar before! When it was said to me, I was wearing tan boot-leg chinos with a fitted red long-sleeve tee and black boots with a heel. I think shoes with a heel really throws 'em. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 The jumper in question usually looks more like the attached. And I have no idea where you'd find one in this decade. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I don't think we have those kind of jumpers in Australia. They probably get removed from suitcases when all the American homeschoolers are coming through Customs. :p Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I'm assuming she had the Duggars in mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Hey! I like denim skirts! -Chubby people with strange waist to hip ratios fit better in skirts! -Skirts are cooler in the summer and warmer in the winter (you can wear leggings and things underneath). -Skirts force people to notice more of my weird homemade socks. -With the right skirt, you can pretend you are a governess in a romance novel and only teaching all of these kids until a rich, handsome, titled guy sweeps you off your feet and takes you away to a life of leisure and luxury. -The other soccer moms leave you alone if you wear a skirt. Of course, they would leave you alone if they know you homeschool, too. And I do own a denim jumper, but it is above-the-knee and not A-line. It looks nice with a t-shirt. :lol::lol: I love long skirts, too, and for most of these reasons. Reason #4 was why I got a beautiful, long, light blue skirt that made me feel like Jane in Tarzan (the Walt Disney movie version) when I was 13 :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcgonczi Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 *SNORT* Do you not see my user name? I wear heels almost everywhere. Heels are my thang. :D Well I have a few questions for you! I love the look of heels. I need some serious shoe help and you sound like the woman to help me! :) I own several pairs, but usually only wear them to church, etc. because they just aren't comfortable. How and where do you buy high heels comfortable enough to wear on a regular basis and even go grocery shopping in? And do they make heels with arch support? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElizabethB Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I do not own a jumper. My MIL does...maybe that is the reason she taught my kids when they watched them for us while we were at our 20 year reunion recently!! :lol::lol::lol: It was nice, though, our reunion came at a bad time for a break, so it was good to keep them working instead of doing school for a week, then a break, then start up again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maus Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 :iagree: -- *love* my Birkis.I'm a Naot fan myself. This is my "dressy" pair, for church: Gerda, and this is my every day pair: Mikaela. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 This thread is funny to me. :lol: About 2 weeks ago, I got complimented at the local school district office. I walked in with my oldest, we were both laughing, and the gal working looked up, grinned, and said, "You must be homeschoolers! You look like homeschoolers!" She clearly thought we were cool!!! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Hey! I like denim skirts! -Chubby people with strange waist to hip ratios fit better in skirts! -Skirts are cooler in the summer and warmer in the winter (you can wear leggings and things underneath). -Skirts force people to notice more of my weird homemade socks. -With the right skirt, you can pretend you are a governess in a romance novel and only teaching all of these kids until a rich, handsome, titled guy sweeps you off your feet and takes you away to a life of leisure and luxury. -The other soccer moms leave you alone if you wear a skirt. Of course, they would leave you alone if they know you homeschool, too. And I do own a denim jumper, but it is above-the-knee and not A-line. It looks nice with a t-shirt. You know, we're going to need to see pictures of those socks. BTW, is there a starter shoe for moms who realize their sneakers aren't fashionable, but aren't willing to wear heels every day? One that lets you wear socks (boughten or homemade)? One that FEELS like running shoes but looks like something else? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pie Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I like jumpers and long skirts! I don't still own any, but I'll buy them whenever they come back in style....and you KNOW they'll be back! lol I live in the country and don't know any homeschoolers IRL. Wouldn't know one if I saw one! I wear shorts and t shirts or tank tops. flip flops, sandals, tennis shoes daily. It is hot and humid here most of the year. When it's cold, I like long sleeve t's and jeans or sweaters. would love to see the socks, too! :) Asta is so funny! good night, ladies! pie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asta Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Well I have a few questions for you! I love the look of heels. I need some serious shoe help and you sound like the woman to help me! :) I own several pairs, but usually only wear them to church, etc. because they just aren't comfortable. How and where do you buy high heels comfortable enough to wear on a regular basis and even go grocery shopping in? And do they make heels with arch support? No kidding! I have a C forefoot and a AAA heel. Shoes don't fit in general, but heels - urg. I constantly feel like I am walking either on my toes or the ball of my foot. I know I can put those little pads in the back to make the heel stay put, but nothing helps the whole "kill the ball of the foot" thing. My hubby would be SO happy if I wasn't wandering around in crunchy granola shoes all of the time... a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aelwydd Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I think my dh might divorce me if I wore a denim jumper. As it is, he is highly suspicious of the khaki ankle-length skirt hanging innocuously in the closet. Too many negative associations in his mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EthiopianFood Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 You know, we're going to need to see pictures of those socks. :iagree::iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 ohhhh you have NO idea how glad I am that this thread has been disambiguated. I was seriously wondering if things were so very different in your part of the world that I was committing some kind of shocking fashion faux pas by wearing jumpers/sweaters/jerseys out side my own four walls. I don't think I've ever seen a real life person wear a dress like those ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Well I have a few questions for you! I love the look of heels. I need some serious shoe help and you sound like the woman to help me! :) I own several pairs, but usually only wear them to church, etc. because they just aren't comfortable. How and where do you buy high heels comfortable enough to wear on a regular basis and even go grocery shopping in? And do they make heels with arch support? Crikey, I wrote and entire post and lost it. Grrr. To answer your question, to get comfy heels you have to spend a bit more than you would at say Payless. Not that there's anything wrong with Payless, but if you want comfy shoes that last more than a few months, you need to spend more. If you have a DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse) near you, they have nice shoes and aren't too expensive. Bakers has surprisingly comfortable shoes too. If you want to find a comfy shoe, you need to buy shoes in the late afternoon or early evening, when you feet are slightly bigger (I don't know why they are, they just are). If they fit you in the evening, they'll be comfy during the day. Try them on and wear them around the store for at least 20 minutes. Walk in them, site down and stand up in them and crouch down, like you would if you were trying to be eye to with a small child, and then stand up without holding on to something. If you can do all that and they don't hurt, you're good. Yes, you can put arch support in heels. Dr. Scholls makes special inserts for heels, including arch support, heel liners (if the shoe rubs your heel), ball of the foot inserts and rub relief strips, which IMO is genius. You can put it on the underside of any part of the shoe that rubs you the wrong way. I usually don't wear stockings with my shoes unless it's for a dress up or formal event so these are important. They keep down the friction and the straps or edges of the shoes from causing blisters. Many women don't know how to walk in heels and this can make them uncomfortable and painful. Many women lean forward in heels, but you have to lean slightly back (pull your shoulders back and stand up straight) and make sure you're hitting heel then toe. This will make a big difference in how they feel. Also the height of the heels will determine how you move your legs. If you're wearing 3-4" heels (and yes, I have some), you have to lift your leg a little bit higher when you walk. If the heels are high, it doesn't look weird, I promise. If you want to see some of my shoes, you can see them here: Fall/winter shoe sampling Red, white and shoes Shoe show (Scroll down and ignore all the stuff at the top of the page if you like-though I am terribly witty if you want a laugh :D ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Crikey, I wrote and entire post and lost it. Grrr. To answer your question, to get comfy heels you have to spend a bit more than you would at say Payless. Not that there's anything wrong with Payless, but if you want comfy shoes that last more than a few months, you need to spend more. If you have a DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse) near you, they have nice shoes and aren't too expensive. Bakers has surprisingly comfortable shoes too. If you want to find a comfy shoe, you need to buy shoes in the late afternoon or early evening, when you feet are slightly bigger (I don't know why they are, they just are). If they fit you in the evening, they'll be comfy during the day. Try them on and wear them around the store for at least 20 minutes. Walk in them, site down and stand up in them and crouch down, like you would if you were trying to be eye to with a small child, and then stand up without holding on to something. If you can do all that and they don't hurt, you're good. Yes, you can put arch support in heels. Dr. Scholls makes special inserts for heels, including arch support, heel liners (if the shoe rubs your heel), ball of the foot inserts and rub relief strips, which IMO is genius. You can put it on the underside of any part of the shoe that rubs you the wrong way. I usually don't wear stockings with my shoes unless it's for a dress up or formal event so these are important. They keep down the friction and the straps or edges of the shoes from causing blisters. Many women don't know how to walk in heels and this can make them uncomfortable and painful. Many women lean forward in heels, but you have to lean slightly back (pull your shoulders back and stand up straight) and make sure you're hitting heel then toe. This will make a big difference in how they feel. Also the height of the heels will determine how you move your legs. If you're wearing 3-4" heels (and yes, I have some), you have to lift your leg a little bit higher when you walk. If the heels are high, it doesn't look weird, I promise. If you want to see some of my shoes, you can see them here: Fall/winter shoe sampling Red, white and shoes Shoe show (Scroll down and ignore all the stuff at the top of the page if you like-though I am terribly witty if you want a laugh :D ) I am in awe.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 20, 2011 Author Share Posted September 20, 2011 I am in awe.... Of all the insanity I wrote above or my shoes? Aren't they pretty???? ♥♥♥ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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