I knew several "mature" girls this age who dated older guys. Mostly they were guys they met at work.
In every case the girls outgrew the guys. The guys would seem more mature compared to 15--year-old boys; and would have a car and more money than a 15-year-old boy.
They would have their own place, not have parents involved like a 15-year-old.
It would seem very desirable to them!
But these girls at 19 were so far beyond these guys. The other guys grew up. Having a car and some money didn't seem as big of a deal.
Because ultimately -- for the girls I knew, the older guys interested in them were not desirable to women their own age, and that was a reason they were looking for younger women.
I do think they did involve talking and had decent relationships in a lot of ways, but the girls just outmatured the boys and that was it.
I have always wondered to if any of them lost respect for the guys just based on getting a little older and seeing how they would think of someone dating a 15-year-old.
Edit: I am from Oklahoma and I don't find it a big taboo; I find it more pathetic and unlikely to last. And also I have seen the same guy cycle through a few 15-year-old girls, and they outgrow him after 2 years, but he is still getting along great with the 15-year-old age range.
And really -- the car, the income, the apartment ------ to a 15-year-old this would be huge, when I was 15. It would seem awesome, and so much better than mid-high boys. But by age 17 even and moving up to senior high, this would just not be impressive anymore, and senior high boys would be more mature too.
Edited by Lecka, 16 October 2017 - 06:49 AM.