Kanin Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm not close with my father, either. We're not estranged or anything, but a few phone calls a year (nice, pleasant) and that's it. I sometimes wonder what I'll feel like when his time comes. I still have resentment from my younger years when he - from my point of view - didn't try very hard to have a closer relationship with me. It's hard. I hope you can be gentle with yourself. It's so difficult to know the right thing to do, sometimes. (often!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I’m so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitestavern Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I’m so sorry 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I’m so sorry. Watching a parent suffer and die is a horrible experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 ❤️I’m so sorry for your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I am sorry for your loss. Praying for you ad you struggle through this hard time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachaheart Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I’m so sorry for your loss. 💜 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I am so sorry to hear. And he was young! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted November 14, 2023 Share Posted November 14, 2023 I'm so sorry. Losing a parent changes a person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertflower Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 So sorry for your loss. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eos Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 Holding you and your family in the Light. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I’m so sorry for your pain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeachGal Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I am so sorry, Ting Tang. ((( ))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I am just so incredibly sorry! And the fact that he waited until you were safe might be the sweetest thing I have ever heard. I'm glad you have that to hold in your heart. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CTVKath Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I'm sorry for your loss. Praying for peace for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
***** Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 9 hours ago, Corbster98 said: I am so sorry for your loss and that you did not get to see him before he passed. I agree with others that once you were at the hospital and safe, he felt comfortable leaving this world alone, on his own terms. I agree with Corbster98. Her story was very similar to when my dad died also. Be glad you were there, even to support the others. I'm sorry for your loss. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 10 hours ago, Corbster98 said: I am so sorry for your loss and that you did not get to see him before he passed. I agree with others that once you were at the hospital and safe, he felt comfortable leaving this world alone, on his own terms. My father did the same when he passed from ALS. All of us were at the house, as we knew he was nearing the end, and it was only after I left to take my son to swim training, Mom and my sister had run to the store, and my brother had stepped into the kitchen to prepare his next dose of morphine. Dad wanted to leave on his own and that was hard but I know that's common. Try and not let guilt creep in right now. Having your kids earlier would not have guaranteed that life would have gone the way you hoped. My boys were young when Dad passed and I agree it's hard to be with your children and aging parents at the same time, especially when our Dad's are not old themselves by any measure. My Dad was just 65. Hugs to you. Grief is hard and takes time. Be gentle on yourself. It was similar with my dad as well. My sister was driving from about 3 hours away when my dad was dying. He held on until she got there. My brothers took me to get a bite to eat and my dad passed while we were out of the room. My mom passed after most of my family left for the evening. {{Ting Tang}} Praying for you as you absorb this loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KSera Posted November 15, 2023 Share Posted November 15, 2023 I’m very sorry. That is so young. I’m glad you were able to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted November 16, 2023 Share Posted November 16, 2023 I’m so very sorry, Ting Tang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted November 16, 2023 Share Posted November 16, 2023 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ting Tang Posted November 18, 2023 Author Share Posted November 18, 2023 Thank you all so, so very much. I feel bad I didn’t make the effort to visit him. He really did try to be better in these last years. He suffered, probably most of the time, alone. Even my husband would say to go, but it was just easier not to. I really think my mother was the root of his problems. My brother still speaks to her at times, out of guilt. He told me she referred to me as staring like an “idiot” when reminiscing on a kindergarten evaluation. So maybe the wall I built wasn’t because he was bad; it was because she made life unbearable for him. Anyway, when I did see him, I never took pictures of him. He took many of us. I just feel so sad. Yes, a counselor may be in order. I can never go back. 😞 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 18, 2023 Share Posted November 18, 2023 Death is so hard. I’m so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeLovePassion Posted November 18, 2023 Share Posted November 18, 2023 I'm so sorry. Grief brings up so many things. Be gentle with yourself. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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