Mrs Tiggywinkle Again Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 I thought the 8-4 salaried office thing would be easier than working two 24 hour shifts a week. but it’s only Wednesday and I am mentally exhausted. And I left at 3:30 today. I work in an office that’s not on campus, we rent training facilities elsewhere so that’s where my office is. I have no supervision, direction, or oversight. Once I get settled I can frequently work from home but until then, there is a lot to get used to. Fortunately this is the job I have wanted for twenty years and there’s only an opening about every fifteen years, so it’s awesome that I was asked to do it. But I am drained and it’s only Wednesday. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 New jobs are hard! Give yourself time to adjust to the different pace. Next week will be easier, and the week after that easier yet. It's cool that you finally get to do this! 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 It’s new, and you are probably still grieving. It will get better. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 Transitions are *hard*, even if they are positive. Give yourself time to process and get used to it. I'm 9 months into a new job and just starting to be okay with it. It's really different (harder) now, vs when we were 20 and could just do whatever. Sending you strength. But also, you are nothing but strong and will get through this transition and thrive. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 New jobs are hard and it's perfectly normal to be drained. Hang in there...the weekend is almost here and hopefully each week will get easier. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Tiggywinkle Again Posted November 8, 2023 Author Share Posted November 8, 2023 There’s only 20 of these positions in my state and they’re hard to get. I was fortunate to first be recruited and then to be the most desired candidate so they were willing to negotiate(I negotiated a flexible salaried position even though I probably caused myself a pay cut doing it). And the previous person frankly checked out about nine months ago and has left me a dumpster fire right in time for our reaccreditation in the spring. I can take my homeschooled youngest sometimes, I can work from home sometimes, it’s not as overwhelming as I’m making it in my head. But still it is a huge adjustment. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 2 minutes ago, Mrs Tiggywinkle Again said: But still it is a huge adjustment. Yes. And it's ALLOWED to be. Even if it's (ultimately) good, you're allowed to feel and acknowledge that it's hard. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 Also...congratulations! It sounds like your new position is quite an honor--goodness knows you've worked for it! 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 Yeah new things are exhausting. We moved this summer. It was an easy move. I love our new place. But I could not believe how exhausted I was for a good six weeks. Nothing is in a groove or automatic. Everything you are doing probably needs five times as much though lt as it will in a month. You’ll adjust. I’m so excited for this new opportunity! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 And it’s time change week so that makes things more tired. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 Full time work plus parenting is hard full stop. I hope it starts feeling easier once you’ve settled in to the new routine. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted November 8, 2023 Share Posted November 8, 2023 New jobs are exhausting. A dear friend of mine once said that if you can PARK and PEE your first week is a success. 7 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 In six weeks or so you’ll start to feel like it’s normal. Give yourself time and try to focus on what’s great about it. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 I think you will eventually be okay. We tend to adjust to what is normal, even if it is really hard. Then when we do an about face kind of change, it is overwhelming and our bodies have to compensate to the new routine, new way of doing life. I am pretty certain it will get better. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 New jobs are hard. You are grieving. You are homeschooling. You inherited a dumpster fire from the person who had the job before you. Being tired seems to be expected. Congratulations on this job! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 Praying for you as you settle in. Echoing the others, it takes time and changes are hard. You are amazing and I am so glad you have this excellent job! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 (edited) This sounds like a job my mom took. It got a lot better in the second and third year! Then it got even better as time went on. But the first year was hard, she was not left with something workable by the previous person. BUT everyone knew this was the situation — that she was coming in to clean up a big mess. I think a lot of people do understand that is what is going on! Not everybody gets it, but a lot of people do. I think — don’t be too hard on yourself. Edited November 9, 2023 by Lecka 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 New stuff is exhausting. You haven't developed any routines or habits yet, so everything requires brain power - even going to the restroom because it's not just an "automatic left turn, 20 steps down the hallway", third stall from the right situation. You still have to pay attention to where you are going so you don't accidentally go into the janitor closet next door to the bathroom. All of that takes energy. So since you've also inherited a dumpster fire at crunch time, you can probably expect to be well and truly tired at the end of your day for awhile. Hopefully though, you'll settle into some routines and systems soon to help take some of the load off. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WendyLady Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 I've been doing an internship for the last 9 weeks. It's just 6 hours a day but I have a long drive to and from making it more like almost 9 hours a day. And it has wrecked me. BUT I'm adjusting and I have really enjoyed it. My house has suffered. My laundry is wild. I can't keep up with shopping and food and cleaning up. Last week I didn't fix a single meal at home. The "extra" of Halloween was way more than I could manage, and I don't even have little kids at home! All I'm saying here is that you are not alone. Big changes are hard! (And I need to find someone to come help me clean up my house before we have company come for the holidays!) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 I think of new jobs as like learning to drive. At first you have to think about every move, and it's exhausting. After a few months, it becomes familiar and partially automatic, so much less tiring. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 I hope that you get into your rhythm and as Laura has said, find things becoming more familiar and automatic soon. It will definitely get better with time! You'll also have your systems set up at home as everyone gets used to your new working schedule. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted November 9, 2023 Share Posted November 9, 2023 Congratulations on the new job!! Not only is it a new job with new hours, you've just come off an exhausting stretch with your past employment (it sounds like from your posts), you are picking up work left for months undone and you don't have direct supervision to help get you trained up. But you're doing it! That's amazing!! You've got this. 😊 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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