You've gotten such great advice. My recommendation would be to go for the new position. Even if you are only in it for a year or two, it will bring some excitement and fulfillment at the end of your career. Then you can retire in 6 months or a year or two and leave knowing that you helped make a little change before you left!!! And maybe it could work into a part time gig if you set yourself up in that way...

I have a young adult with a big diagnosis. Since he started college, we moved, plus he mostly lives at college away from home. That means he has changed medical doctors and therapists a couple of times, and that is so hard - besides the insurance stuff, it is also tricky to get someone up to speed when you have done all of the assessments 6 months ago with a previous provider. It's not that I don't want a new provider to be thorough and have an open mind, but my son doesn't really want to have to start from the beginning again... I have a one page paper with his mental health history laid out in a simple way. I list previous providers and meds, current doctor, current meds, diagnosis. I have a brief summary of his previous issues and any concerns he is noticing now. My son has read the note and is comfortable with me giving it to his providers - which I have done in person and by email, depending on the situation. A good provider would never rely on a document like that for all background info, but I think it s a good place to start when there is a complex history. I wonder if your daughter would be open to something like that? You wouldn't have to attend her session, but you could just give a little background info to the provider that your daughter is comfortable with.

What a beautiful venue!! It sounds like it will be an amazing event and you are such an awesome wedding planner! Your daughter has no idea how lucky she is to have you. I think I would go with one of the less than stellar bbq places. They may not be your top choice, but they will probably be just fine and certainly better than cold fries and nuggets. Check online reviews and order the sides that the reviews seem to think are okay. (I'm not a huge bbq fan but my husband is. We have gone to many places and to me, brisket and pork shoulder are almost the same everywhere. Dh can tell you the best of the best, but I feel like most bbq is about the same...) Order now and you will have a huge amount of relief!

Side sleeper, surrounded by pillows. I like a pillow under my arm and under my knee and behind my back. A cool memory foam pillow is my favorite. I occasionally have problems waking up in the middle of the night having a hard time going back to sleep. When that happens a few days in a row, I take about 1/8th of a unisom for a day or two to get my sleep back on track. If I take more than 1/4th of a unisom I am a zombie the next day. I don't like to take it for more than a few days because I don't want to be dependent on a sleep aid. I'm a light sleeper and would probably sleep better with a sound machine, but I also have some anxiety about scary things at night and feel like I need to be able to hear if there's a ghost 🙂

Trazodone is on the list of meds that we avoid because we have a family history of bipolar disorder (SSRI's can cause issues with bipolar and though trazodone is not generally considered an antidepressant, it is still something to watch.) I don't imagine it's an issue for your family, but I just thought I'd throw that out there.

I was just dropping off an amazon return at UPS yesterday along with about 50 other people. I had the thought that if UPS offered drive through drop off for a small fee they would make a killing!! That doesn't help your situation. Amazon generally offers UPS or one other spot and I only ever do UPS. How strange!! That would be so frustrating!!

My kids are young adults now, and I think their teen years were the busiest of my life. And if we weren't busy, or I wasn't taking them somewhere, or worried about where they might be, then I needed to be home with them. I specifically didn't do much friend stuff because I didn't have time, and my kids needed me. I just wanted to mention that because you are right in the middle of a really busy season! My main barrier to friendships is that we move every 2-3 years. That makes it hard to create and keep connections. Also, I'm socially awkward. I'm not good in a big group. I freeze up. And I work from home, so that limits the people that I meet in my normal life. I have started taking a couple of classes and now that we are a few weeks in, I am enjoying recognizing and chatting with a few people in class. We moved about a year and a half ago and I have made a point of trying to make connections. I don't have a large base of history here and without having kids in sports or school activities, I wasn't sure how to meet people. One thing that I have tried is inviting people (from our church and from my husband's work) over to our home for dinner to help me create those connections. I'm better in a small group. And that has been fun. I feel like I know people better, and feel more a part of the community, but I don't have a bunch of friends. I feel like I have found 1 friend and I am delighted to have her, I don't always have a good friend at each place we live, so I know it can be a rare treasure for me.

Love the series and I almost always hate a movie based on books I love, so I hope I don't try to watch it. I have always read him as male - I keep trying to write why i think that, but it is making me realize how my mind is making very gendered/stereotypical assumptions based on my thoughts of military members (and I have a daughter who is serving in the military!!) so I'll just stop....

A food snack basket either premade or personalized with his favorites is my go-to for my father in law.

It's not a citation generator, but I consult Purdue Owl APA guide every time I have an APA assignment. They have examples and general guides. I can almost always find the answer to my APA questions there (if I look hard enough) though online sources are a little tricky. https://owl.purdue.edu/owl/research_and_citation/apa_style/apa_formatting_and_style_guide/general_format.html I have played with the Grammarly generator but I didn't feel like it was entirely right and I generally do it by hand. Also, the online library at my college lists various citation styles at the top of each article. When I copy those citations, they look strange in a Word document. I often copy the citation and paste it into a google search, the copy it again from the google search bar into my Word document, and any strange highlights or formatting are gone, letting me clean it up and add in a hanging indent and it's good to go!

I'm currently working at a nonprofit organization that works with homeless young adults ages 18 to 24. These are often young people who have aged out of foster care. One aspect of the program is that the youth are required to participate in weekly coaching that involves budgeting, goal setting, and time management. This weekly coaching helps to implement the skills they are learning in their life skills classes. I am coaching one girl right now, I help her plan her budget and we talk about how things went last week with the budget plan that she made. We discuss what she might do differently this week and what expenses are coming up. Then we discuss upcoming appointments and I make sure she has those important dates and times put into her phone with a reminder or an alarm. And last we go over her goals that she is working on (currently getting a license and getting a job to begin saving for a car.) A couple of her goals were set with her case manager, but she has a couple that she is working on herself and we see if she was able to accomplish her plan from last week and we make a plan for the coming week. There's some accountability and a lot of cheering her on each week. I think that my own young adult children could really benefit from something like this to help them manage their money and plan for upcoming expenses. It's a big shift from getting cash from mom and dad for hanging out with friends to having monthly expenses!! If I were working with the foster teen you know, I would encourage their foster family to set up a "coach" for the youth and give them an allowance to budget with. First starting with just money for fun things like snacks, eating out, and other non necessary things (with an expectation of also saving a portion for a reachable goal.) And when the concept of budgeting is established, then increase the budget to cover needed items like clothing and toiletries. Having an outside person coaching would help with any tension if (and when) bad financial decisions are made so that the parent isn't the bad guy, but that the youth is able to see their own responsibility and feel accountable for themselves. I think a weekly check in will be more valuable than a book to read or podcast to listen to. Foster youth often need stable people in their lives who care about them and have faith in them that they can succeed in the future. Maybe this person could be you?

I'm planning to do taco soup with chips and salsa. Simple and a big change from turkey. My recipe uses a ranch packet so you would need to search out a recipe that works for your limitations.

I've been doing an internship for the last 9 weeks. It's just 6 hours a day but I have a long drive to and from making it more like almost 9 hours a day. And it has wrecked me. BUT I'm adjusting and I have really enjoyed it. My house has suffered. My laundry is wild. I can't keep up with shopping and food and cleaning up. Last week I didn't fix a single meal at home. The "extra" of Halloween was way more than I could manage, and I don't even have little kids at home! All I'm saying here is that you are not alone. Big changes are hard! (And I need to find someone to come help me clean up my house before we have company come for the holidays!)

I was born in the 70's and I have 6 sisters. My mom sewed matching pajamas some years for Christmas, though not every year. She only made matching pajamas for all of us including herself and my dad one year (that I can remember). I sewed matching pj's for my own girls and my husband and I in the 90s and new pj's are always a christmas eve tradition for us but I didn't always do exactly matching until about the last 10 years. Now my kids are all young adults and i would be fine not trying to find matching pajamas or sewing them, but our youngest son really enjoys the tradition and so we are keeping it going for at least one more year! I am watching for flannel sales now...

I love this book and it has been helpful for my husband and I. I also enjoy listening to a podcast "The Virtual Couch" by Tony Overbay who is a therapist and has mentioned this book several times. I'm going to try to link to a couple episodes where Tony talks about his rules for a "Connected Conversation" that I really appreciate: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/1660-2/ Here's an episode that talks about Sue Johnson's book and the idea of emotional connection in marriage: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/hold-me-tight-conversations-for-a-lifetime-of-love/ (These links take you to his website but you can find his podcast spotify and apple) Anyway, I've found many of his podcast episodes helpful for myself and communication in my marriage, so if you are okay with his voice, I would suggest searching for more episodes that talk about the different parts of a "connected conversation": 1 - assume good intentions 2 - don't send the message of "you're wrong" or "I don't believe you" even if you are thinking it. 3 - ask questions before making comments (get curious) 4 - stay connected, lean in, do your best to stay out of victim mode We are not always good at using this method, but when we do, it makes a huge difference even with tricky topics. I think i'm so good at communicating, but it turns out I'm horrible at #2 and #3. But I'm learning to be curious!!

My current favorite planner is the Erin Condren planner. The daily duo planner might work well for you, but the teacher planner could also be really good. I wonder if there's a way to combine the two - one as the weekly overview for all separate areas of your life and the other for daily/hourly planning? Linking these so you can get a better look at the pages look, not because I think you need someone to tell you how to use a planner 🙂 https://www.erincondren.com/inspiration-center-how-to-use-a-daily-plannerhttps://www.erincondren.com/inspiration-center-teacher-lesson-planner-101

His music is really nostalgic for me. We had a cassette tape that we listened to on a long cross-country drive, moving from Oregon to Florida when my dh joined the military in 2000. We had two little girls and we sang along to John Denver all across the country. Calypso was so fun to hear as we drove by the ocean for the first time! It was an "oldies" tape from my childhood, even then, and became a tradition for our children as part of our road trip repertoire. Also, my husband plays the guitar and has played some of his songs over the years. Listening to John Denver just brings back memories of that exciting time and is comforting somehow. I don't think of his songs as sad, but maybe I only play his happier songs to sing along to in the car.

When you bake your own bread, you can limit things like high fructose corn syrup, food dyes, and other mysterious ingredients that may be in store-bought bread. You can experiment with different types of flour, including high-protein flour to increase the health benefits. You could also add eggs to increase the protein of your bread. You can increase the health benefits of baking your own bread if you grind the wheat yourself.

One of my girls experienced similar symptoms and would also faint. She described visual problems, dizziness, and stomach pain. It was really scary to see! We went to different specialists and it eventually lead to a series of appointments with a heart doctor in the big city, who ran a series of tests. She wore a holter monitor for a couple of weeks and she did have a concerning rhythm when she experienced a near pass out. That was concerning, but the big recommendation from the heart specialists was for her to drink a large amount of water (2-4 water bottles) each morning before doing anything else. He said that it is not related to blood sugar and the food she had eaten (which is what we had been told by a previous doctor.) He said that it is fairly common with youth between 9 and 16 years old and drinking a large amount of water made a real difference in blood volume which prevented the symptoms of passing out. It seemed too simple, but it made a huge difference. Hopefully you will find a simple solution for your daughter. I'm obviously not a doctor and its a good idea to seek out advice from your medical provider, but perhaps while you are waiting, increase her water and see if that helps at all.

That is so exciting!! Congratulations!! I feel like I have been on the same journey - I married young and didn't go to college. As my youngest neared graduation about 3 years ago, I started taking college classes and will be graduating with my bachelor's degree in December!! I have just one last class and an internship during the fall semester. It has been extremely rewarding. It took me a couple of semesters to remember that I am a good student and to not be terrified at the beginning of each new semester. I am planning to continue on to a masters and maybe more... I hope you love your classes!!

I don't seem to have any issues with dizziness. Generally, any discomfort I am feeling goes away if I distract myself and have some water. I am not a runner, but I enjoy walking/jogging and I haven't noticed feeling worse with fasting. I live in the south and have been playing pickle ball almost every evening in the heat while fasting and I have been okay. I am sure it is an individual thing, though, and I'm sure having dizziness would make it really hard. I do notice that I feel better when I have more protein the day before.

I am doing intermittent fasting now. I have had great success with it in the past but things are moving much slower now. I'm older now and have a history of yoyo-ing and I feel like my body just wants to make sure I'm serious. I have been doing this for about a couple of months - I generally eat one meal a day and I track my fasting using the "Window" app (do not pay for anything, use the free "Manual Plan" version) and fast about 20-23 hours a day. This does not create fast weight loss for me - maybe a pound every 2 weeks. When I started I was glad to not be gaining, but it would be nice to lose faster - I just know I am not ready to make additional changes that create faster loss for me... I previously worked with a weight-loss coach who encouraged fasting, and when my weight loss was not happening, she pushed me to eat more low carb or keto, along with one or two longer fasts of 36-48 hours each week. That combination helped me lose about 30 pounds really quickly but I just don't want to do that right now. I am working toward cutting out sugar, and maybe in a few weeks I can add in a longer fast. Writing that out makes me realize that I am not "all in" for weight loss. I keep hoping that a short eating window, eating whatever I want, will let me lose weight. But in my heart I know that isn't going to work... waaaaaaa! Podcast recommendation: Fasting for Life (Dr. Scott Watier and Tommy Welling). Helpful ideas that help keep me on track. I have listened to Gin Stephens book (mentioned in a couple posts above) and follow her advice of having a "clean" fast, but I don't like her voice and just can't listen to her podcast. All this to say that fasting isn't always the miracle weight loss advertised. You are not alone!

I'm in the same boat. Yesterday my husband was trying to convince me that we should start beekeeping as a new hobby for me. But we are not in a place that we can really do that (plus I'm not really interested.) My husband LOVES hobbies. He loves learning new things and is good at all kinds of interesting and diverse hobbies (he was baking sourdough before it was popular, he plays the guitar, he has won meat smoking competitions, he plays tennis, racketball, and pickleball, he is a talented wood worker, he builds and plays ukuleles, he loves hunting, he runs most mornings, etc.) I enjoy reading and have started playing pickleball recently, but I am not really a hobby person. I will finish my bachelors degree in December and I'm researching grad schools and that's basically all my brain can handle. We were talking about the beekeeping and my lack of hobbies last night and I said that staying in touch with our young adult kids is my hobby. I send memes and texts, I talk on the phone, I try to visit as often as possible. That's the only hobby that matters to me. I am delighted to cheer them on in their hobbies and life successes! If you are interested in beekeeping, my husband has some really interesting ideas!! 🙂

While driving to a Thanksgiving dinner one year, we spilled some juice from a cooked ham into the carpeted trunk of our suburban. We tried everything to clean it out, and nothing seemed to really do the trick. (Enzyme, vinegar, carpet cleaner, baking soda, etc.) Luckily, it had more of a bacon smell than rotten meat. But even years later, we would get a whiff of bacon on a hot day 😂 I wonder if there is some kind of detail shop you could take it to and let them know what happened? They may have better tools and cleaning supplies?

We have 4 kids and each graduated from a different high school in different places around the country (military family). I feel like everywhere we lived most people do professional or semi-professional grad photos. We have done beach photos, downtown DC photos, desert photos, and national park photos. We didn't love the quality of our oldest daughter's photos, so I've been careful to find photographers who have their work up online so we can find one whose style that particular teenager likes. Senior portraits have been replaced on our walls with other photos over the years, but I'm still glad I have some nice photos from our kids' last few months at home as children before they move out and have their next adventure... anyway, my vote is to find a photographer who isn't too crazy expensive and have fun getting some nice photos of your girls before they graduate! Congrats!!