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  1. Trazodone is on the list of meds that we avoid because we have a family history of bipolar disorder (SSRI's can cause issues with bipolar and though trazodone is not generally considered an antidepressant, it is still something to watch.) I don't imagine it's an issue for your family, but I just thought I'd throw that out there.
  2. I was just dropping off an amazon return at UPS yesterday along with about 50 other people. I had the thought that if UPS offered drive through drop off for a small fee they would make a killing!! That doesn't help your situation. Amazon generally offers UPS or one other spot and I only ever do UPS. How strange!! That would be so frustrating!!
  3. My kids are young adults now, and I think their teen years were the busiest of my life. And if we weren't busy, or I wasn't taking them somewhere, or worried about where they might be, then I needed to be home with them. I specifically didn't do much friend stuff because I didn't have time, and my kids needed me. I just wanted to mention that because you are right in the middle of a really busy season! My main barrier to friendships is that we move every 2-3 years. That makes it hard to create and keep connections. Also, I'm socially awkward. I'm not good in a big group. I freeze up. And I work from home, so that limits the people that I meet in my normal life. I have started taking a couple of classes and now that we are a few weeks in, I am enjoying recognizing and chatting with a few people in class. We moved about a year and a half ago and I have made a point of trying to make connections. I don't have a large base of history here and without having kids in sports or school activities, I wasn't sure how to meet people. One thing that I have tried is inviting people (from our church and from my husband's work) over to our home for dinner to help me create those connections. I'm better in a small group. And that has been fun. I feel like I know people better, and feel more a part of the community, but I don't have a bunch of friends. I feel like I have found 1 friend and I am delighted to have her, I don't always have a good friend at each place we live, so I know it can be a rare treasure for me.
  4. Love the series and I almost always hate a movie based on books I love, so I hope I don't try to watch it. I have always read him as male - I keep trying to write why i think that, but it is making me realize how my mind is making very gendered/stereotypical assumptions based on my thoughts of military members (and I have a daughter who is serving in the military!!) so I'll just stop....
  5. A food snack basket either premade or personalized with his favorites is my go-to for my father in law.
  6. It's not a citation generator, but I consult Purdue Owl APA guide every time I have an APA assignment. They have examples and general guides. I can almost always find the answer to my APA questions there (if I look hard enough) though online sources are a little tricky. https://owl.purdue.edu/owl/research_and_citation/apa_style/apa_formatting_and_style_guide/general_format.html I have played with the Grammarly generator but I didn't feel like it was entirely right and I generally do it by hand. Also, the online library at my college lists various citation styles at the top of each article. When I copy those citations, they look strange in a Word document. I often copy the citation and paste it into a google search, the copy it again from the google search bar into my Word document, and any strange highlights or formatting are gone, letting me clean it up and add in a hanging indent and it's good to go!
  7. I'm currently working at a nonprofit organization that works with homeless young adults ages 18 to 24. These are often young people who have aged out of foster care. One aspect of the program is that the youth are required to participate in weekly coaching that involves budgeting, goal setting, and time management. This weekly coaching helps to implement the skills they are learning in their life skills classes. I am coaching one girl right now, I help her plan her budget and we talk about how things went last week with the budget plan that she made. We discuss what she might do differently this week and what expenses are coming up. Then we discuss upcoming appointments and I make sure she has those important dates and times put into her phone with a reminder or an alarm. And last we go over her goals that she is working on (currently getting a license and getting a job to begin saving for a car.) A couple of her goals were set with her case manager, but she has a couple that she is working on herself and we see if she was able to accomplish her plan from last week and we make a plan for the coming week. There's some accountability and a lot of cheering her on each week. I think that my own young adult children could really benefit from something like this to help them manage their money and plan for upcoming expenses. It's a big shift from getting cash from mom and dad for hanging out with friends to having monthly expenses!! If I were working with the foster teen you know, I would encourage their foster family to set up a "coach" for the youth and give them an allowance to budget with. First starting with just money for fun things like snacks, eating out, and other non necessary things (with an expectation of also saving a portion for a reachable goal.) And when the concept of budgeting is established, then increase the budget to cover needed items like clothing and toiletries. Having an outside person coaching would help with any tension if (and when) bad financial decisions are made so that the parent isn't the bad guy, but that the youth is able to see their own responsibility and feel accountable for themselves. I think a weekly check in will be more valuable than a book to read or podcast to listen to. Foster youth often need stable people in their lives who care about them and have faith in them that they can succeed in the future. Maybe this person could be you?
  8. I'm planning to do taco soup with chips and salsa. Simple and a big change from turkey. My recipe uses a ranch packet so you would need to search out a recipe that works for your limitations.
  9. I've been doing an internship for the last 9 weeks. It's just 6 hours a day but I have a long drive to and from making it more like almost 9 hours a day. And it has wrecked me. BUT I'm adjusting and I have really enjoyed it. My house has suffered. My laundry is wild. I can't keep up with shopping and food and cleaning up. Last week I didn't fix a single meal at home. The "extra" of Halloween was way more than I could manage, and I don't even have little kids at home! All I'm saying here is that you are not alone. Big changes are hard! (And I need to find someone to come help me clean up my house before we have company come for the holidays!)
  10. I was born in the 70's and I have 6 sisters. My mom sewed matching pajamas some years for Christmas, though not every year. She only made matching pajamas for all of us including herself and my dad one year (that I can remember). I sewed matching pj's for my own girls and my husband and I in the 90s and new pj's are always a christmas eve tradition for us but I didn't always do exactly matching until about the last 10 years. Now my kids are all young adults and i would be fine not trying to find matching pajamas or sewing them, but our youngest son really enjoys the tradition and so we are keeping it going for at least one more year! I am watching for flannel sales now...
  11. I love this book and it has been helpful for my husband and I. I also enjoy listening to a podcast "The Virtual Couch" by Tony Overbay who is a therapist and has mentioned this book several times. I'm going to try to link to a couple episodes where Tony talks about his rules for a "Connected Conversation" that I really appreciate: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/1660-2/ Here's an episode that talks about Sue Johnson's book and the idea of emotional connection in marriage: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/hold-me-tight-conversations-for-a-lifetime-of-love/ (These links take you to his website but you can find his podcast spotify and apple) Anyway, I've found many of his podcast episodes helpful for myself and communication in my marriage, so if you are okay with his voice, I would suggest searching for more episodes that talk about the different parts of a "connected conversation": 1 - assume good intentions 2 - don't send the message of "you're wrong" or "I don't believe you" even if you are thinking it. 3 - ask questions before making comments (get curious) 4 - stay connected, lean in, do your best to stay out of victim mode We are not always good at using this method, but when we do, it makes a huge difference even with tricky topics. I think i'm so good at communicating, but it turns out I'm horrible at #2 and #3. But I'm learning to be curious!!
  12. My current favorite planner is the Erin Condren planner. The daily duo planner might work well for you, but the teacher planner could also be really good. I wonder if there's a way to combine the two - one as the weekly overview for all separate areas of your life and the other for daily/hourly planning? Linking these so you can get a better look at the pages look, not because I think you need someone to tell you how to use a planner 🙂 https://www.erincondren.com/inspiration-center-how-to-use-a-daily-plannerhttps://www.erincondren.com/inspiration-center-teacher-lesson-planner-101
  13. His music is really nostalgic for me. We had a cassette tape that we listened to on a long cross-country drive, moving from Oregon to Florida when my dh joined the military in 2000. We had two little girls and we sang along to John Denver all across the country. Calypso was so fun to hear as we drove by the ocean for the first time! It was an "oldies" tape from my childhood, even then, and became a tradition for our children as part of our road trip repertoire. Also, my husband plays the guitar and has played some of his songs over the years. Listening to John Denver just brings back memories of that exciting time and is comforting somehow. I don't think of his songs as sad, but maybe I only play his happier songs to sing along to in the car.
  14. When you bake your own bread, you can limit things like high fructose corn syrup, food dyes, and other mysterious ingredients that may be in store-bought bread. You can experiment with different types of flour, including high-protein flour to increase the health benefits. You could also add eggs to increase the protein of your bread. You can increase the health benefits of baking your own bread if you grind the wheat yourself.
  15. One of my girls experienced similar symptoms and would also faint. She described visual problems, dizziness, and stomach pain. It was really scary to see! We went to different specialists and it eventually lead to a series of appointments with a heart doctor in the big city, who ran a series of tests. She wore a holter monitor for a couple of weeks and she did have a concerning rhythm when she experienced a near pass out. That was concerning, but the big recommendation from the heart specialists was for her to drink a large amount of water (2-4 water bottles) each morning before doing anything else. He said that it is not related to blood sugar and the food she had eaten (which is what we had been told by a previous doctor.) He said that it is fairly common with youth between 9 and 16 years old and drinking a large amount of water made a real difference in blood volume which prevented the symptoms of passing out. It seemed too simple, but it made a huge difference. Hopefully you will find a simple solution for your daughter. I'm obviously not a doctor and its a good idea to seek out advice from your medical provider, but perhaps while you are waiting, increase her water and see if that helps at all.
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