Elaine Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 but I am desperate! Please pray, send good thoughts, whatever you can so that our house sells. I am at my limit. I had someone coming to see it today, but the booking company called to cancel. I am so discouraged! My husband is working in NJ, has been since May, and I am doing the single-full-time parent thing. I am so weary. I had to clean up the Hannah storm mess all by myself. I am tired of mowing the lawn. I am tired of fixing the boys bikes. I am tired of childrens endless noise and need for food. I am tired of keeping the house clean. AND! My vacuum cleaner broke on Friday. :willy_nilly: Any minute Alan Funt is going to show up at my front door and tell me to, Smile!! You're on candid camera! I feel like I am living in a practical joke. Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. I'm sorry to drone on and on. :nopity: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraceyS/FL Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I will pray! This must be so very hard. It is so hard to be the one and only one on all the time. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Gotcha covered. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: BTDT. I will be praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 BTDT. Praying for you! {{many hugs}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vida Winter Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh Elaine, I will absolutely pray for your house selling and for your well-being, too. Oh, and when you go to church, don't pretend that everything is fine. Imagine yourself handing each of your problems to Jesus. ~Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdWTMer Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 but I am desperate! Please pray, send good thoughts, whatever you can so that our house sells. I am at my limit. I will pray for you Elaine. You poor thing. Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. Elaine...don't. Let the people in your church know your needs so that they can help. Trust me. Most people are yearning to help, but need to be asked sometimes. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Krista in LA Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Praying for you and the sale of your house. And I agree with Melissa that you shouldn't go to church and pretend everything is okay - let them know you are going through a hard time and what kind of help you could use. I hope the house sells soon for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. Oh, honey, don't do that! Please. Church is supposed to be the place to dump out all those troubles, lay them at the feet of Jesus and lean on our brothers and sisters in Christ for support. Give them the chance to help you, instead of putting on your happy face! I'll just bet there is some young kid there who'd LOVE to mow your lawn/babysit your kids while you go have a coffee, and I'll bet his/her momma would love to have that coffee with you. Just let your needs be known. That said, you have my prayers and :grouphug:! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon in SC Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 but I am desperate! Please pray, send good thoughts, whatever you can so that our house sells. I am at my limit. I had someone coming to see it today, but the booking company called to cancel. I am so discouraged! My husband is working in NJ, has been since May, and I am doing the single-full-time parent thing. I am so weary. I had to clean up the Hannah storm mess all by myself. I am tired of mowing the lawn. I am tired of fixing the boys bikes. I am tired of childrens endless noise and need for food. I am tired of keeping the house clean. AND! My vacuum cleaner broke on Friday. :willy_nilly: Any minute Alan Funt is going to show up at my front door and tell me to, Smile!! You're on candid camera! I feel like I am living in a practical joke. Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. I'm sorry to drone on and on. :nopity: Elaine, how long has your home been on the market? Would you like for us to add your name to the Current WTM Homes for Sale prayer list? http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=42311 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GSMP Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :iagree: Let your community support you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 You poor thing. :grouphug:Sending hugs and prayers your way.:grouphug: but I am desperate! Please pray, send good thoughts, whatever you can so that our house sells. I am at my limit. I had someone coming to see it today, but the booking company called to cancel. I am so discouraged! My husband is working in NJ, has been since May, and I am doing the single-full-time parent thing. I am so weary. I had to clean up the Hannah storm mess all by myself. I am tired of mowing the lawn. I am tired of fixing the boys bikes. I am tired of childrens endless noise and need for food. I am tired of keeping the house clean. AND! My vacuum cleaner broke on Friday. :willy_nilly: Any minute Alan Funt is going to show up at my front door and tell me to, Smile!! You're on candid camera! I feel like I am living in a practical joke. Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. I'm sorry to drone on and on. :nopity: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 That is a lot going on. I didn't realize. Now I'm even more inspired by your running schedule. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Governess Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: And prayers too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diane in CO Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: and prayers coming to you from someone who has also BTDT although in my case it was only a month (though it seemed like forever, so I can only imagine how you are feeling after 4+ months on your own). Please do ask your church community for any help they can provide. I was not very active in mine so I didn't feel comfortable doing this, however I know that it would have been a great relief to have someone help with the lawn (OH how I hated that lawn and edging/trimming just about put me over the edge) Blessings to you in this difficult time! Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 I was so stressed last fall when I had to put my house up for sale while my husband was deployed. I asked several friends from church and/or our circle of friends to help me out and they graciously did so. I did a tremendous amount of work by myself but I would *not* have been able to do it without some help. It's OK to ask for help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tricia Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 These things are hard. Believe me as I have been there. But remember if you can...this too shall pass. Don't you just hate those words? But it is truth. I will pray for peace and comfort for you. Tricia http://www.mommyx12.blogspot.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn E Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Elaine, I have a dear friend who is also enduring this struggle. :grouphug: I am so sorry for your burden. I will be praying for you as I pray for her: that your home will sell quickly so that your family can be reunited and you get some much needed rest. Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Do you have a little St. Joseph buried upside down in the front yard? As long as you promise to dig him up and stick him somewhere in your new home (upright of course) he will help your house sell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: A wise woman once said, "Do a little more each day than you think you possibly can." (That's from your blog). :grouphug: Get rest whenever you can. Ask for help at your church (I hope you go to that kind of church). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Dominion Heather Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Awww. Elaine, I'm sorry. I will pray that you guys can get to NJ and that the house will sell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinag Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Praying for you!! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RebeccaC Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Praying for peace, strength, and the house to sell :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh, Elaine, I'm so sorry. Single parenting stinks. Praying here. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jami Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Wow that sounds rough, Elaine. I knew your dh was working in NJ, but not that you're trying to sell your house. That sounds really stressful. :sad: Jami Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh, Elaine! Hang in there! It's hard! But you can do it. I'll pray for the sale of your house. We just finished with the separation thing. Dh took a new job in April, and I was on my own with the kids for 4 months. (Through tornado season! Yokes!) Before that I had loads of time on my own when he travelled for interviews. Sounds like you could do with a little virtual hot-tubbing to help you relax. (That clip reminds me of you!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andie Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh, you know I know how you feel. (((())))s We're praying for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted September 7, 2008 Author Share Posted September 7, 2008 I can't tell you what it means to come home to these wonderful messages, thank-you all. I do have the kind of church where I can let my needs be known and the needs will be met. I have done that before. I don't know why it is so hard for me to admit that I need, and then accept, help. I had a girl from church come over today and stay with my kids while I took a 3 hour nap.:eek: It's amazing what a little sleep can do for a person. She stayed after that, too while I went to teach my yoga class. Our women's Bible study begins this week as does school so adding some structure to my days will be a good thing. Anyway, I feel greatly encouraged by all of you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 I had a girl from church come over today and stay with my kids while I took a 3 hour nap.:eek: It's amazing what a little sleep can do for a person. She stayed after that, too while I went to teach my yoga class. Sounds great! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jumping In Puddles Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: Good luck, I really hope that house sells...and...and... you're going to move to NJ? What part of the state is your husband working in? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarheel Heather Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 :grouphug: and prayers! Hang in there, it will be worth it in the end! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 :grouphug: and prayers sweetie. BTDT and it is so hard. Pace yourself girl. Take what help you can get now because you will still need your strength on the other end of the move and you might not have a network in place there yet. Wishing you both a quick sale and the reserves to manage the workload. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staci in MO Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in VA Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Aw, Elaine, I am so sorry you're having a rough time. We are praying for you! Maybe you could put a sign like this in your yard: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMomof4 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I will pray for you Elaine. You poor thing. Elaine...don't. Let the people in your church know your needs so that they can help. Trust me. Most people are yearning to help, but need to be asked sometimes. :001_smile: Really, don't. My class at church has taken on the job of mowing our yard while DH is gone. It is such a blessing to me to not have to worry about it. Also, today I couldn't pretend anymore. The kids had made me so angry before church that I couldn't sit and pretend that I am supermom who never has a bad day. A dear friend took the children ALL afternoon so I could get the house clean without kids around to spread destruction while my back was turned. I was also able to go get some new shirts and read part of my book. All I had to do was ask, but I'm not so great at that. Don't let pride and what you think other people's expectations of you are prevent you from receiving the blessings they would be willing to offer. (That last sentence is funky, but you know what I mean.) I have to swallow my pride a LOT these days, but I'm none the worse for it and I'm going to bed in a clean house tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 You've been hit with all the good house-selling thoughts I can muster!! Hang in there, honey. I really am hoping it will resolve soon for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Prayers and happy thoughts and lots of support for you. Dh and i were apart for seven months before we were able to move with him. I feel your pain. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 but I am desperate! Please pray, send good thoughts, whatever you can so that our house sells. I am at my limit. I had someone coming to see it today, but the booking company called to cancel. I am so discouraged! My husband is working in NJ, has been since May, and I am doing the single-full-time parent thing. I am so weary. I had to clean up the Hannah storm mess all by myself. I am tired of mowing the lawn. I am tired of fixing the boys bikes. I am tired of childrens endless noise and need for food. I am tired of keeping the house clean. AND! My vacuum cleaner broke on Friday. :willy_nilly: Any minute Alan Funt is going to show up at my front door and tell me to, Smile!! You're on candid camera! I feel like I am living in a practical joke. Now I have to go to church and pretend that everything is honky-dorey. I'm sorry to drone on and on. :nopity: Praying for you, Elaine. I know it's hard for dh to be away and be everything. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 Really, don't. My class at church has taken on the job of mowing our yard while DH is gone. It is such a blessing to me to not have to worry about it. Also, today I couldn't pretend anymore. The kids had made me so angry before church that I couldn't sit and pretend that I am supermom who never has a bad day. A dear friend took the children ALL afternoon so I could get the house clean without kids around to spread destruction while my back was turned. I was also able to go get some new shirts and read part of my book. All I had to do was ask, but I'm not so great at that. Don't let pride and what you think other people's expectations of you are prevent you from receiving the blessings they would be willing to offer. (That last sentence is funky, but you know what I mean.) I have to swallow my pride a LOT these days, but I'm none the worse for it and I'm going to bed in a clean house tonight. This was me this morning. I yelled at my four year old because he wanted me to make him oatmeal!:glare: Now, I ask you, who is the four year old? Ummm, me. I went to church in a funk which is always nice.:001_rolleyes: Your last sentence was spot on! I am asking for help this week so I can clean out my attic and go to the homeschool store alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Elaine, I'll keep you in my prayers. I hope the house sells SOON and that your family can all be together again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Elaine...don't. Let the people in your church know your needs so that they can help. Trust me. Most people are yearning to help, but need to be asked sometimes. :001_smile: I agree with this. I've spent time with some of those people, and they really do care for you a great deal. Be transparent with them. They love you and want to be there for you. So do we. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Oh, Elaine!!!! I'm so sorry and I will be praying for you!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon in SC Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I can't tell you what it means to come home to these wonderful messages, thank-you all. I do have the kind of church where I can let my needs be known and the needs will be met. I have done that before. I don't know why it is so hard for me to admit that I need, and then accept, help. I had a girl from church come over today and stay with my kids while I took a 3 hour nap.:eek: It's amazing what a little sleep can do for a person. She stayed after that, too while I went to teach my yoga class. Our women's Bible study begins this week as does school so adding some structure to my days will be a good thing. Anyway, I feel greatly encouraged by all of you.:grouphug: Elaine, I don't want to pressure you but, just in case it slipped through the cracks, would you like for me to add your home to the current list of WTM homes for sale prayer list? :) No problem, if you don't. I just wanted to be sure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Camy-7 boybarians 1 lady Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I shall enlist our prayer warriors here. God has been faithful to answer two of our house-sale prayers in the past month. One for my brother, and the other for a friend here on the boards. We will pray, Elaine! Love, Camy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 Elaine, I don't want to pressure you but, just in case it slipped through the cracks, would you like for me to add your home to the current list of WTM homes for sale prayer list? :) No problem, if you don't. I just wanted to be sure! Sharon, I'm sorry, I answered you in the prayer thread.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Elaine, I read this post last night before I went to bed and you have been heavy on my heart since. We are facing similar frustration, but on the flip side. We have been trying to buy with much frustration. You don't know how many times we've heard our realtor say, "Wow, never seen that happen before!" This weekend dh and I both hit a bottom and really had to lay it all out with each other. I have been so angry and frustrated, and although it wasn't really with him or anyone in particular, I was blaming him and everyone else. We had to, again, turn the situation over to the Lord and trust in His plan. It is so frustrating not to understand God's ways, but the Bible does say that His ways are not our ways. I don't know what God has planned for you or for us, but praying that His will is revealed to us both....very soon!!!! Praying for you and :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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