SKL Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I ain't worth a whole thread but I am feeling so left out. Surely I can't be alone. So here are some that come to mind for me. What are yours? Ask a Walmart Shopper. Ask a single adoptive mom. Ask a family that doesn't match. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I have no idea what mine would be... I've never fit into slots well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask a priest's wife Ask a mom of an addict in recovery Ask a dog walker Ask a person with a messy house who just doesn't notice dirt until she's frantically cleaning for company and then gets overwhelmed and becomes bitchy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask a bee-keeper, ask an aspiring fantasy writer, ask a mom of average kids... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snickerdoodle Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask a normal person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I have no idea what mine would be... I've never fit into slots well. me either...I live a very boring life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadeOrchidSong Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask a person whose parents died when she was still a child Ask a person who's married to an American Ask a perso who's married to one who is the only child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I ain't worth a whole thread but I am feeling so left out. Surely I can't be alone. So here are some that come to mind for me. What are yours? Ask a Walmart Shopper. Ask a single adoptive mom. Ask a family that doesn't match. okay, I'll bite. How hard was it to go through the approval process to become a single adoptive mom. What aspect of being a SAM surprised you the most. Okay, so what exactly is a family that doesn't match?? I'm still scratching my head over that one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask a person whose parents died when she was still a child Ask a person who's married to an American oh my goodness.. .both your parents??!! How awful. Who did you go to live with afterwards and how was it decided? Did you get a say in who it would be (or could you change your mind as you grew older?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Ask someone who left teaching to homeschool her own child(ren) Ask a teetotaler Ask one of the last people in America with an old-fashioned flip-phone? :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ameena Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I've toyed with the idea of doing an Ask a Single Mom by Choice thread, but don't know if there is any interest. Ask a Mom who uses a Wheelchair {there are a couple of us here I know} Ask a Low-Income Mom Ask a Work at Home Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a neat freak. Ask a thin woman who gave birth four times and is over 40. Ask a women who is secretary for dh's business. Ask someone writing a book. Ask an early riser. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a 47-year old college freshman Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce while trying to homeschool a high school student Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce while trying to homeschool a high school student and live on student loans and a summer job. Ask an insomniac Ask a cancer survivor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a normal person. What is life like? I've never been there. I've heard it's nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a normal person. Are you sure you're normal? I'm not convinced normal people exist. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 me either...I live a very boring life. Oh, my life's not boring - far from it. I just don't fit into "average for any question" slots well. We travel, but not "typically." I work at our local public high school, but not in a "normal" way. We live on a farm, but are not "normal" farmers. We've been married for over 25 years, but people tell us all the time that our marriage isn't "normal" either. My kids are terrific (according to all who know them), but they've inherited our "not so normal" genes and ways of doing things. I could probably answer all sorts of questions, but anyone else doing similar things would look at the answers, scratch their heads, and say "That's not what usually happens..." We blaze our own path and I kind of like it that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a missionary kid. Ask a PS inner-city teacher/counselor of 17 years. Ask an only child. Ask an adoptive mom. Ask an adopted adult. Ask a mom of an Aspie teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask an underachiever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a bee-keeper, ask an aspiring fantasy writer, ask a mom of average kids... Bee-keeper: i fantasize about keeping bees. I am afraid of them, though. I think it would be great to help avert the bee-death crisis. I have a garden and bees would make so much sense. I pay my friend $10 for nice honey. I'm afraid of bees, though! Fantasy writer: do it! It's such an amazing time to be a writer! If you are not part of a writer's circle, try to find one or start one. My writer peeps are a source of so much info! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Smith Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a homeschooling mom. (Hay, that would be unusual on non homeschooling message boards) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask an underachiever. Do you set goals so that you can fail to meet them? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a person who likes to watch The Good Wife and The Mentalist while folding laundry. (Only 3 more loads to go!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadeOrchidSong Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 oh my goodness.. .both your parents??!! How awful. Who did you go to live with afterwards and how was it decided? Did you get a say in who it would be (or could you change your mind as you grew older?) I chose to live with my sister. I had three brothers older than we two. She was 8 years older than I. My siblings raised me because my mother lost work ability a few years before she died due to chronicle lung disease which eventually caused her death. I have a questions for people whose mom died when they were in their late 20's to late 40's. How did it feel? I believe the grief is very different for a child from an adult who lost a parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Fellow writer: I'm not sure I'd fit in very well in a writer's circle, but I might try it sometime. I've been writing since I was about 14, and have a novel in progress right now that I've been playing with for several years. About the bees-I would put not being afraid of bees as pretty high up on the list of qualities necessary to enjoy bee-keeping. I really thought I would be afraid, until we had a swarm on my front porch and I spent hours out there, feeding them, letting them crawl on me, under my glasses even and thought that is was simply the most amazing feeling ever to be in the middle of them. Time simply slows down in the middle of flying insects. You wouldn't think it, but it seems to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer132 Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a 2x gestational surrogate. I have a few I could share about, but this one is the most unique, I suppose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I ain't worth a whole thread but I am feeling so left out. Surely I can't be alone. So here are some that come to mind for me. What are yours? Ask a Walmart Shopper. Ask a single adoptive mom. Ask a family that doesn't match. I'd like to know what is "a family that doesn't match?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 What was that like, being a gestational surrogate? How did you decide to do it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted May 5, 2014 Author Share Posted May 5, 2014 okay, I'll bite. How hard was it to go through the approval process to become a single adoptive mom. What aspect of being a SAM surprised you the most. Okay, so what exactly is a family that doesn't match?? I'm still scratching my head over that one. I adopted internationally. One of the reasons was because I did not want to have to compete with married couples to be chosen by a birth mother. In the process I went through, I was treated just like a married couple - I had to go through a lot to meet the requirements, but so does everyone else. And then I was placed on the waiting list and when my turn came, it was my turn. :) Of course the birth moms could have looked at my info and said no, but it's not the same as having to court birth moms as is done in the US. What surprised me most? Well, the fact that I was capable of being thoroughly exhausted without even leaving the house all day. :P It took a while to find my rhythm. I was also surprised by how quickly one of my kids bonded to me, and how few of the "expected" issues my kids actually had. What I meant by "doesn't match" is that my kids are a different race from me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I'm thinking we need a writers' circle social group. Anyone want to start one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I adopted internationally. One of the reasons was because I did not want to have to compete with married couples to be chosen by a birth mother. In the process I went through, I was treated just like a married couple - I had to go through a lot to meet the requirements, but so does everyone else. And then I was placed on the waiting list and when my turn came, it was my turn. :) Of course the birth moms could have looked at my info and said no, but it's not the same as having to court birth moms as is done in the US. What surprised me most? Well, the fact that I was capable of being thoroughly exhausted without even leaving the house all day. :p It took a while to find my rhythm. I was also surprised by how quickly one of my kids bonded to me, and how few of the "expected" issues my kids actually had. What I meant by "doesn't match" is that my kids are a different race from me. Do you ever wish you had another adult coparenting with you? There were a few times when I was only too happy to have Dad step in and take kiddo for a while or play games with him while I could catch my breath. Were your girls newborns when they came to live with you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer132 Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 What was that like, being a gestational surrogate? How did you decide to do it? What was it like...? It was rewarding, difficult, time consuming, different. It was many things! :) I first thought of the idea when a friend from my Bible study group was having fertility issues. I researched it, and decided to offer to be a surrogate for her. The second time, it was another friend, who I had met through the first friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I figured there already was a writer's social group. I just never went hunting for one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 You know I have thoroughly enjoyed all the ask a threads, including this one yet still can't think of any that pertain to me lol But it is fun to learn so much about others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I actually thought about doing being a surrogate for, well, really my only friend who was having issues with getting and maintaining a pregnancy. I carried my twins to term, but it was a really rough delivery for me, and my DH and I pretty much decided that I wasn't going to have any more children. I never did offer, and she just had her baby! Very rough delivery for her, though. Never did talk to the DH about it, but...it was really different, just thinking about doing that for somebody I really cared about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask an insomniac.. Ask a brunette...that's all I've got. :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onceuponatime Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask one of the last people in America with an old-fashioned flip-phone? :) Old fashioned? Ha! Ask the last person on earth without any cell phone at all. :coolgleamA: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Old fashioned? Ha! Ask the last person on earth without any cell phone at all. :coolgleamA: You are not along in that one :P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a person with a messy house who just doesn't notice dirt until she's frantically cleaning for company and then gets overwhelmed and becomes bitchy. That was so sweet of you to start a topic I could answer with complete authority. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask an insomniac.. Ask a brunette...that's all I've got. :o I'm an insomniac and a brunette, too, so at least you've got company! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Let's see... Ask a wife of a public school teacher (social studies, special ed literature this year) Ask a middle of 3 girls Ask an aunt of a special needs nephew (epilepsy due to immunization shot) Ask a Christian college graduate Ask a mom of 2 kids, 6 years apart Ask a wife of a participant in a Ray Vanderlaan trip to Israel Ask an Awana Commander (not a ton of experience, though!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 You know I have thoroughly enjoyed all the ask a threads, including this one yet still can't think of any that pertain to me lol But it is fun to learn so much about others. Maybe you could just make something up. It might be hard to top a few of the current threads, but it might be fun to try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 You know I have thoroughly enjoyed all the ask a threads, including this one yet still can't think of any that pertain to me lol But it is fun to learn so much about others. I was thinking about putting up a thread about that. The "Ask a..." Threads are absolutely fascinating to me! I have always enjoyed trying to understand people who have lives very different from mine. Reading those threads, and sometimes asking questions, really scratches that itch for me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Do you set goals so that you can fail to meet them? :D I know you said that n jest, but that is pretty much what happens! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plumshadow Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 A Biracial person An army wife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted May 5, 2014 Author Share Posted May 5, 2014 Do you ever wish you had another adult coparenting with you? There were a few times when I was only too happy to have Dad step in and take kiddo for a while or play games with him while I could catch my breath. Were your girls newborns when they came to live with you? Only on rare occasions I thought, it would be nice to have someone backing me up here! Like when I was almost too sick to get out of bed, but needed to go shopping for milk (with 2 non-walking babies in tow, on a rainy night) because kids gotta eat. But I learned some tricks so that those moments were few and far between. And I remind myself that I save a lot of trouble by not having to negotiate with another adult about parenting decisions. There are times when I wish I didn't have to constantly balance being the "fun parent" and the "strict parent." But on the other hand, it's probably more fun than being the "strict parent" all the time. My girls' ages were 9mos and 12mos when they came home. (They both came into my custody at the same time.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
musicianmom Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a Suzuki music teacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I chose to live with my sister. I had three brothers older than we two. She was 8 years older than I. My siblings raised me because my mother lost work ability a few years before she died due to chronicle lung disease which eventually caused her death. I have a questions for people whose mom died when they were in their late 20's to late 40's. How did it feel? I believe the grief is very different for a child from an adult who lost a parent. My mom just died in February. It has been very, very difficult. I'm fine most of the time, but it can hit me hard. I cried in the car today because of a song on the radio. I watched Call the Midwife with dd, and a mom was dying on it. I broke down. There are so many events coming with the kids growing up, and I know they are going to be bittersweet because she won't be there. I'm afraid I'll never be quite the same again. I have a friend whose parents died when she was 28 and 29, and she thinks it would actually be harder now than it was then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadeOrchidSong Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a 2x gestational surrogate. I have a few I could share about, but this one is the most unique, I suppose. Why and for whom did you do this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadeOrchidSong Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 My mom just died in February. It has been very, very difficult. I'm fine most of the time, but it can hit me hard. I cried in the car today because of a song on the radio. I watched Call the Midwife with dd, and a mom was dying on it. I broke down. There are so many events coming with the kids growing up, and I know they are going to be bittersweet because she won't be there. I'm afraid I'll never be quite the same again. I have a friend whose parents died when she was 28 and 29, and she thinks it would actually be harder now than it was then. I cried for months and years. But it has been 31 years. I didn't share a long life with my mother anyway. My sister died 14 years ago. I miss her very very much because I shared life with her much longer. It is such a pity that she didn't get to see my boys. I believe that the longer you share life with your mom, the more you would miss her when she's gone. You have more memory built in those years. I was a child when my mother died, so my memory of her is one of a child of a very sick, immobile mother. In fact, I took care of her in the last few years by cooking meals, shopping, and washing clothes for her. I even put her to bed before I could sleep by giving her back massage to help her relax and relieve pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Ask a 47-year old college freshman Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce while trying to homeschool a high school student Ask a 47 year old college freshman who is in the midst of a divorce while trying to homeschool a high school student and live on student loans and a summer job. Ask an insomniac Ask a cancer survivor Gosh, sorry. You've been thru a lot, Dear One. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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