WWYD ? Feeling threatened by pediatrician's office

[sbgrace]

Backstory on this is here http://forums.welltr...n-expectations/

 

The resolution (per the business manager) was that I don't have to see that doctor again to remain in the practice. They agreed to refer to pulmonology at the Children's hospital. The pediatrician's office did that.

 

So the following week I canceled the "follow up/work it out with the pediatrician with control or some kind of issues" appointment and we have an appointment with pulmonology this Thursday.

 

I got a call from the business manager. The doctor is "concerned" about my son's care. The business manager asked me what my plan was. I told her we were going to see pulmonology. I told her that my son was doing very well with the nebulizer and so we didn't need a sick visit and that I felt the asthma was beyond the care of general pediatrics anyway. I told her the cough was resolved.

 

She told me then that I needed to call and talk to the Dr.'s nurse about our follow up plan because, again, they are concerned about my son's care.

 

I may be jumping to conclusions but I felt like it was a veiled "warning" that they consider my canceling that appointment/my failure to do what that doctor suggested as neglect. I'm not sure what to do! Do I call and tell them what I told the business manager--that we have a pulmonlogy appointment and he's doing much better so doesn't need pediatrics right now? Do I make an appointment with another pediatrician first?? This is so completely ridiculous.

[Guest inoubliable]

You'e not neglecting your child. You already dismissed the doctor as not being right for you and your child's care, so who cares what he thinks? I mean, really. Make what appointments you need to, with who you feel comfortable with. I wouldn't worry about calling him if you're not planning on going back to him.

[Freckles]

I would make an appt. with a new pedi. and have your childs records requested by the new office. You have the appt. with the pulmonologist that is not neglect. If they call again, you can tell them you are seeing someone else; so, they have no reason to be "worried" about your child's care. IMHO

[DaffodilDreams]

I remember the backstory and posted that I would leave that practice. Your most recent encounter with them just reaffirms my belief that leaving is best. I'd ask for medical records and take them with you as fast as you can to another practice. If you are questioning their motives (and I would also be questioning them in your situation), then the trust is gone. Placing your child in someone else's care when they are most vulnerable requires a huge amt of trust, IMO. I absolutely would not stay with a practice I didn't trust - even if I could see a different ped w/in that group.

[Murphy101]

I would leave that entire office.

I would take my child to another pediatrician for a second opinion/evaluation.

I would keep appt with specialist.

 

As long as you are documenting that your child is indeed receiving care, it's none of that drs business who it is with or what it is anymore bc your child is no longer under his care. If he calls you into CPS, you'll have documentation that you child is being treated and cared for with the new dr and specialist.

 

I would tell the business office that your child is no longer under the care of drX and he needs to stop harassing and intimidating. Frankly they are solidifying every reason you left them. You already told the office what your plans are anyways. It's stupid to say you have to call and tell another person in the office.

[BrookValley.]

I would make an appt. with a new pedi. and have your childs records requested by the new office. You have the appt. with the pulmonologist that is not neglect. If they call again, you can tell them you are seeing someone else; so, they have no reason to be "worried" about your child's care. IMHO

 

:iagree: I would do this today.

 

 

:grouphug:Sorry you are dealing with this. No parent needs to be bullied when they are 1) already doing the right thing by their child and 2) probably already stressed and worried, anyway. I dealt with a smiliar situation when my son was small, though in our case it was about a non-existant weight issue. We ditched the ped, but I understand that feeling of being sublty threatened.

[Lolly]

I would ignore the doctor's office. It is non of their business at this point. If you wish to remain in their practice, you might want to go ahead and schedule a well child check for the next date that he would need one of those. Do it with the doctor of your choosing. Me, I would be out of that office completely.

[Wildcat]

With this new information, I would completely leave that office, but not before getting on with a new ped.

 

Don't worry about "what ifs"..... you *are* taking care of your child and have moved on to a specialist, so that's even "one better" than a 'regular' doctor.

 

In your shoes, I would be questioning any and all communication and motives of future visits and there would be no trust. You don't need trust issues with doctors or their staff.

 

I know you like that other ped, but he's in the same office, and there is just too much 'bad water'. I think staying is a mistake. You can always tell the ped you like to please let you know if he ever leaves the practice. :grouphug:

[Karen A]

I didn't read the backstory, but could it be that the office is calling so they have it on record that THEY are not negligent/following up?

[Kathryn]

I'd completely leave the practice as well. You shouldn't have to put up with that.

[A.Balaban]

Leave the practice.

[Tiramisu]

I didn't read the backstory, but could it be that the office is calling so they have it on record that THEY are not negligent/following up?

 

 

I absolutely agree. I think they are trying to protect themselves.

 

Go to the pulmonologist and then make an appointment with a new ped ASAP so you will be able to get the referrals you need for any future visits.

[Alicia64]

I agree with everyone here who says to leave, see new doctors and document, document, document.

 

One other thing: I have a long background in media relations (TV, newspapers, mags, radio). It's interesting how fast bullies will back off if you let them know that the local news might take a real interest in this story.

 

Normally, I don't ever threaten anyone with using the media against them. But if the doctor's office is seriously calling you on the carpet and stepping outside of their scope -- all bets are off. We don't live in a country where doctors get to act like this. Although that's changing. . .

 

My boys are nine and I'm scrupulous about shots, keeping doctor appoints. etc. But even I've noticed that pediatricians act like they're watching me with very personal questions on their forms that I don't think have anything to do w/ why I'm there.

 

Anyhoo, bring up talking with the media -- just once and very politely -- and get back to your Christmas baking.

 

PM me if you'd like any free help.

 

Alley

[nmoira]

I would leave before you have to deal with this practice during an emergency.

[Laurie4b]

I would be concerned about a CPS referral if I were you. It will not amount to anything, but they stay on your record. When asked, "Have you ever been investigated for abuse or neglect?" on a job application (this is common if you want to volunteer or work with children) you have to answer yes. Then your future employer will have to decide whether or not to investigate to back-up your story. Often it's easier just to move to the next candidate.

 

To circumvent that, I would call the doctor's office and say that you will give them documentation of the visit to pulmonary if that would put their minds at ease. Ask them to document that you have offered it.

 

I would also tell them that you feel that you are being harassed for seeking a second opinion. I would call the state medical board and ask if this is something you can report. If it is, then do it.

 

As others said, find a new ped ASAP and ask to have your records transferred.

[Unicorn.]

I would call his nurse and not so politely inform her that he is no longer your son's pedi, and your son's medical care is no longer their concern. I would also tell her if she or the business manager call you on his behalf, then you will be contacting an attorney and filing harassment charges. I would also start looking for a doc outside of this practice. I agree w/ pp who said to tell other doc to let you know if he ever leaves the practice.

[Joker]

I would be concerned about a CPS referral if I were you. It will not amount to anything, but they stay on your record. When asked, "Have you ever been investigated for abuse or neglect?" on a job application (this is common if you want to volunteer or work with children) you have to answer yes. Then your future employer will have to decide whether or not to investigate to back-up your story. Often it's easier just to move to the next candidate.

 

To circumvent that, I would call the doctor's office and say that you will give them documentation of the visit to pulmonary if that would put their minds at ease. Ask them to document that you have offered it.

 

I would also tell them that you feel that you are being harassed for seeking a second opinion. I would call the state medical board and ask if this is something you can report. If it is, then do it.

 

As others said, find a new ped ASAP and ask to have your records transferred.

 

The bolded isn't always true, or it may just differ by states. We had CPS at our home and after the investigation we received a letter that we could have the whole thing expunged, so it was as if it never happened.

 

OP, I would find a new ped. ASAP and have them request your records. I would probably also let the business manager/office know I had found a new ped. and would be moving on so they need not worry about us anymore.

[kitten18]

I would leave the practice.

I would make an appointment with the new pedi. Then I would send an email/fax/ or certified letter to the old practice stating who your new dr. is, when the appointment is, when the pulmonary appointment is, and that you are leaving their practice.

 

 

Isn't your BIL an M.D.? What does he say about this?

[Laurie4b]

If you can't get into a new ped practice immediately, I would be somewhat concerned about a CPS referral if I were you. It will not amount to anything, but they stay on your record forever. So if there is a future misunderstanding, whatever, then you have a record. Furthermore, when asked, "Have you ever been investigated for abuse or neglect?" on a job application (this is common if you want to volunteer or work with children) you have to answer yes. Then your future employer will have to decide whether or not to investigate to back-up your story. Often it's easier just to move to the next candidate. So I'd be proactive in avoiding it if you think that's what they are implying.

 

Possible tactics:

Call the state medical board and ask if harassment for seeking a second opinion is something you can report.

 

To circumvent the possibility of a potential CPS report, I would call the doctor's office and ask what they mean by "They are concerned about his care. Ask if they are implying that you are negligent or are they just covering themselves. Say that you will give them documentation of the visit to pulmonary appointment on Thursday if that would put their minds at ease. Ask them to document that you have offered it. Ask why an exam by a pulmonary doctor wouldn't be sufficient to determine the child's health.

 

If the situation warrants it (ie they escalate) I would also tell them that you feel that you are being harassed for seeking a second opinion and that you refuse to see that doctor because you think he is controlling and threatened by second opinions. If the medical board says it is reportable, threaten to report it: "And if you keep harassing me to attempt to get me to meet again with that particular doctor, I will report him, his nurse, or any other professional involved to their respective medical boards. "

 

You can also call your insurance company and tell them that this practice is demanding an unnecessary visit.

 

As others said, find a new ped ASAP and ask to have your records transferred. If you can do that this week, then you should be covered.

[laf919]

In most states in the US, a CPS referral that is unfounded (i.e. initial investigation shows no abuse or neglect, what we know would happen in this case) are only kept on file for 6 months or a year. Then, unless there is another referral, they are expunged. I know this is true in Illinois, and several other states.

Doctors are mandated reporters and so if they think there is medical neglect, they don't have a choice, they must call. However, I would not be bullied by this doctor. Keep your pulmonology appointment and maybe ask that specialist who he/she would recommend for a gp for your kid. Good luck!

[Harriet Vane]

Go to a new practice. Then, once you are comfortable with the new doctor, THEN send the old practice a letter detailing the harassment and making it clear that the doctor overstepped appropriate boundaries and made you feel threatened, for which reason you left the practice and cannot recommend their substandard care to others.

[bookfiend]

I see this more as CYA notation in the chart by the ped. I wouldn't worry.

[nmoira]

Do you need to find a new ped, especially if you're going to see outside specialists anyway? We go to a family doctor. When we tried a new doc in a peds office a few years ago (someone closer), I was struck by how uptight and... I'm searching for a word... high strung the office atmosphere was.

[Whereneverever]

Do you need to find a new ped, especially if you're going to see outside specialists anyway? We go to a family doctor. When we tried a new doc in a peds office a few years ago (someone closer), I was struck by how uptight and... I'm searching for a word... high strung the office atmosphere was.

 

 

Yes, this. We all see a family practice doc and my sn kid sees specialists as needed. Every actual pediatrician we've seen has tried to butt into specialized care decisions and I don't like it. That's what the specialist is for!

[sbgrace]

Thank you all for your replies. I just hated to leave this practice as I really like two of the pediatricians and my son's specialists are in the same health care system. It looks like I'm going to have to though. I talked to the nurse from Dr. Yuck and they seem to have accepted that we're seeing pulmonology as follow up but she was rude on the phone. So that sealed it and I made an appointment with a different practice today. I hope they are good. I didn't think of family practice doctors. That opens up some other possibilities. I'll call to transfer his records after we see pulmonology this week and I know those results are in his file. Ugh. This has been so completely unnecessary.

[TranquilMind]

I agree with everyone here who says to leave, see new doctors and document, document, document.

 

One other thing: I have a long background in media relations (TV, newspapers, mags, radio). It's interesting how fast bullies will back off if you let them know that the local news might take a real interest in this story.

 

Normally, I don't ever threaten anyone with using the media against them. But if the doctor's office is seriously calling you on the carpet and stepping outside of their scope -- all bets are off. We don't live in a country where doctors get to act like this. Although that's changing. . .

 

My boys are nine and I'm scrupulous about shots, keeping doctor appoints. etc. But even I've noticed that pediatricians act like they're watching me with very personal questions on their forms that I don't think have anything to do w/ why I'm there.

 

 

Alley

 

I'm so glad we used a Family Practice, instead of a pediatrician, from all the horror stories I hear.

 

I've never experienced any of that, though I have been with this practice since my teens. They know all of us, so they know how we approach medical issues in our family. My kids are third generation.

[jujsky]

I would ignore the doctor's office. It is non of their business at this point. If you wish to remain in their practice, you might want to go ahead and schedule a well child check for the next date that he would need one of those. Do it with the doctor of your choosing. Me, I would be out of that office completely.

 

They can't DO anything to you. Even in the unlikely event they reported you to CPS or something for neglect, you can verify that you have an appointment with the specialist.

[laundrycrisis]

I would feel threatened. Absolutely. I know someone whose original ped called CPS on her just for spite after she decided to get a second opinion and then decided to transfer to the new practice. A worker showed up, a case was opened, and she was able to document very well that the child was already under the care of another doctor. It still took 3 visits from the case worker and a lot of proof of other care to get the case closed.

 

I would take the child to another physician ASAP, while you are waiting for this other appointment. It could be a family practice or an immediate care clinic that is willing to help you document that your child is under medical supervision and receiving appropriate care. When I needed to get myself into a family practice quickly, I found one using the free service ZocDoc.

[Nart]

Did you tell them your BIL is a doctor? I would keep referring to him over and over again. The doctor doesn't like to be challenged by a parent but won't feel threatened by another doctor. I think the insistence on the ped. office visit is due to insurance. They don't like to refer out if it is an HMO.

[Ellie]

Backstory on this is here http://forums.welltr...n-expectations/

 

The resolution (per the business manager) was that I don't have to see that doctor again to remain in the practice. They agreed to refer to pulmonology at the Children's hospital. The pediatrician's office did that.

 

So the following week I canceled the "follow up/work it out with the pediatrician with control or some kind of issues" appointment and we have an appointment with pulmonology this Thursday.

 

I got a call from the business manager. The doctor is "concerned" about my son's care. The business manager asked me what my plan was. I told her we were going to see pulmonology. I told her that my son was doing very well with the nebulizer and so we didn't need a sick visit and that I felt the asthma was beyond the care of general pediatrics anyway. I told her the cough was resolved.

 

She told me then that I needed to call and talk to the Dr.'s nurse about our follow up plan because, again, they are concerned about my son's care.

 

I may be jumping to conclusions but I felt like it was a veiled "warning" that they consider my canceling that appointment/my failure to do what that doctor suggested as neglect. I'm not sure what to do! Do I call and tell them what I told the business manager--that we have a pulmonlogy appointment and he's doing much better so doesn't need pediatrics right now? Do I make an appointment with another pediatrician first?? This is so completely ridiculous.

I'd jump to that same conclusion.

 

I don't think you need to enter into an in-depth conversation with the ped's office, although a conversation with his nurse might be a good idea. That's when you'd remind her that the ped's office made the referral and tell her that there seemed no point in seeing the ped again when you have a referral to a specialist. Seems to me that the referral would be the "follow-up plan," for crying out loud.

 

Keep records. Be prepared. And fire that guy. And it couldn't hurt to be sure that the pulmonologist knows the history.

[sbgrace]

Did you tell them your BIL is a doctor? I would keep referring to him over and over again. The doctor doesn't like to be challenged by a parent but won't feel threatened by another doctor. I think the insistence on the ped. office visit is due to insurance. They don't like to refer out if it is an HMO.

 

 

Weirdly I think that I mentioned the BIL (pediatrician at the major children's hospital in our state) had seen him and recommended a different treatment was part of the problem possibly. On the other hand he didn't seem to listen to a thing in the appointment so he may not have even caught it. But when I talked to the nurse after the appointment and mentioned my BIL it seemed to turn her off that I was questioning the doctor and had talked to someone else. I don't honestly know what this doctor's deal was/is. It's just so strange, and upsetting, to me.

 

Going into this pulmonology appointment I'm incredibly nervous because of this experience! I want to go into it feeling comfortable sharing my own thoughts and my son's history but I'm nervous about how it will be received now. We've had so many medical professionals in our lives since my son was born and I have just never encountered this before. It's made me leery.

[jelbe5]

Glad you are switching to a new practice. Once you are settled in please consider filing a complaint against Dr. Yuck and his practice with the state regulation authority. I am sure you are not the only patient who has been bullied/mistreated. Guys like this one need to be brought to the attention of the authorities.

[jelbe5]

Sorry, double post.

[Harriet Vane]

Did you tell them your BIL is a doctor? I would keep referring to him over and over again. The doctor doesn't like to be challenged by a parent but won't feel threatened by another doctor. I think the insistence on the ped. office visit is due to insurance. They don't like to refer out if it is an HMO.

 

I have to disagree, vehemently. I have several personal friends who are doctors, and a dear friend who is a NICU nurse. It is like nails on a chalkboard when a patient refers to friends or family doctors' opinions. Doing this will alienate the doctor more, I promise.

[Reya]

Tell them that you sought another opinion and are transferring his care to another practice, and that you, too, have concerns, but about the doctor's judgment and that you hope that you won't be needing to contact the state licensing board about his reckless recommendations that go against the general standard of care.

[Reya]

Of course, I tend to fight fire with atomic weapons. :)

[laundrycrisis]

Back to add - at this point IMO your main goal (after caring for you son's health) should be to not further inflame the ped practice, and to document that your son was very quickly under anohter doctor's care. You may need your BIL to document that he saw your son and gave you medical advice. If the first practice calls CPS and a worker shows up, you will need this.

[texasmama]

I would leave that entire office.

I would take my child to another pediatrician for a second opinion/evaluation.

I would keep appt with specialist.

 

As long as you are documenting that your child is indeed receiving care, it's none of that drs business who it is with or what it is anymore bc your child is no longer under his care. If he calls you into CPS, you'll have documentation that you child is being treated and cared for with the new dr and specialist.

 

I would tell the business office that your child is no longer under the care of drX and he needs to stop harassing and intimidating. Frankly they are solidifying every reason you left them. You already told the office what your plans are anyways. It's stupid to say you have to call and tell another person in the office.

 

This. You are at risk for being reported to CPS and having to deal with that, in spite of not being neglectful. As quickly as possible, get your child transferred to the care of another pediatrician and make an appointment to review his history and your plan, not because you have done anything wrong but to demonstrate that there is no basis for validating a CPS report of medical neglect.

[gardenmom5]

Tell them that you sought another opinion and are transferring his care to another practice, and that you, too, have concerns, but about the doctor's judgment and that you hope that you won't be needing to contact the state licensing board about his reckless recommendations that go against the general standard of care.

I think that's likely to just provoke the dr even more.

[QueenCat]

You mentioned calling to have his records transferred. The new doctor normally does this, not the parent. Every time we've moved, it was free for the new doctor to call & get the records. I would have had to pay a huge fee to do it myself.

[kroe1]

Since you mentioned that your family has seen so many physicians, then please consider a family practice physician. That way, your entire family can see the same doctor. I didn't realize how much family dynamics plays into illness and the treatment of it. I am sold now. It is wonderful to see a doctor who took care of grandmother's heart attack on Monday, delivered the baby niece on Friday, and is taking care of the daughter's cold on Sunday. A doctor who is initimately involved in the family dynamics will understand that a particular diagnosis and/or treatment just isn't what is right.

 

Here's a quick story from a friend of mine who is a family physician. She was treating a grandmother for depression and a few other ailments. The depression just wasn't responding to normal treatment. One day the grandmother asked the doctor if she could see her grandson who had cerebral palsy and lived with her. He had been going to a pediatrician across town. When the grandson arrived, he was a beligerent teen, very demanding, very disagreeable, and talked rudely to his grandmother.

 

To make a long story short, the physician took the grandmother off all antidepressants. She helped the grandmother procure a nighttime sitter 3 nights a week. She helped the grandson get into a youth training program. The grandmother's depression vanished, and the grandson shortly moved into a group home and later got a job.

 

I know not every story has such a happy ending, but sometimes understanding the family dynamics makes all the difference in the diagnosis and treatment.

 

I hope you find the perfect doctor for your family.

[mommaduck]

Thank you all for your replies. I just hated to leave this practice as I really like two of the pediatricians and my son's specialists are in the same health care system. It looks like I'm going to have to though. I talked to the nurse from Dr. Yuck and they seem to have accepted that we're seeing pulmonology as follow up but she was rude on the phone. So that sealed it and I made an appointment with a different practice today. I hope they are good. I didn't think of family practice doctors. That opens up some other possibilities. I'll call to transfer his records after we see pulmonology this week and I know those results are in his file. Ugh. This has been so completely unnecessary.

I prefer family practitioners, because they get to know all of us, they take into consideration our lifestyle, and they LISTEN to the parents rather than thinking they are above the parents (of course, you still have the occasional "I am god" personality types that float in here and there, but I've found it to be more balanced with those that are not of the type than in pediatrics). When dealing with a vaccination reaction, selective and delayed vaxes, etc, our doctors took into consideration the fact that we homeschooled, where we lived, our family culture and religious beliefs, personal habits, as well as past medical history from all of us. Two of our previous doctors have gone to church with us and thus could state that they've seen our family in more of a norm and see them weekly so can note anything they are concerned about (speech impediment) as well as the fact that our children are well taken care of. I did run across a couple of doctors in their practice that chose to dismiss the path we were working with the other doctors on, harrassed me, one refused to remove a mole on my daughter's back because he was "uncomfortable" working with an unvaxed/delayed vaxed kid (she's the one that nearly died from a particular vax and has some serious allergy issues that make having certain vaxes impossible)...I had the office put a note on our file that we were NEVER to be scheduled with him again. I had that right as a patient and there were plenty of people in the practice to choose from.

[Anne in CA]

I really like the idea of talking to the state medical board. Many years ago my son was hurt and I was given bad information by his ped. I found out when I switched practices that they had lied about what happened about the incident on my ds's medical records to make me appear negligent and cover their bad advice. I was very upset. People on the old board advised me to contact the nurses association since it was the nurse who noted to false information, but I didn't want to get the nurse in trouble when I was sure that the doctor told her to, and nothing bad had happened anyway. I still feel bad that the doctor got away with it.

[LMV]

Back to add - at this point IMO your main goal (after caring for you son's health) should be to not further inflame the ped practice, and to document that your son was very quickly under anohter doctor's care. You may need your BIL to document that he saw your son and gave you medical advice. If the first practice calls CPS and a worker shows up, you will need this.

 

Before you do this you may also want to check if this would be a valid/appropriate patient relationship in the eyes of your state medical board. Most states have some pretty specific guidelines about what is and is not appropriate in regards to having family members as patients. Other issues may also come up for your BIL in regards to documentation of care and whether or not that care was billed for. [Yes, it may sound ridiculous but as far as the government is concerned it is just as much fraud to not bill for services provided---unless you never bill anyone for the same services ever---as it is to bill for services not provided.]

[Reya]

I think that's likely to just provoke the dr even more.

 

 

So? He's threatening to report you to CPS to try to bully you into doing the stupid thing he wants. You threaten to have his license revoked. Sounds about right to me.

 

Unlike him, YOU'D have a leg to stand on. And if CPS comes knocking, give them the info about your kid's new doctor and tell them that he's just mad that you're reporting him to the state board for his unorthodox and absurd medical recommendations.

[Harriet Vane]

So? He's threatening to report you to CPS to try to bully you into doing the stupid thing he wants. You threaten to have his license revoked. Sounds about right to me.

 

Unlike him, YOU'D have a leg to stand on. And if CPS comes knocking, give them the info about your kid's new doctor and tell them that he's just mad that you're reporting him to the state board for his unorthodox and absurd medical recommendations.

 

 

The OP did not claim in any of her posts that they were threatening to call CPS. Other posters have suggested that possibility, but that is not an actual threat the OP has dealt with from this practice.

[staceyobu]

So? He's threatening to report you to CPS to try to bully you into doing the stupid thing he wants. You threaten to have his license revoked. Sounds about right to me.

 

Unlike him, YOU'D have a leg to stand on. And if CPS comes knocking, give them the info about your kid's new doctor and tell them that he's just mad that you're reporting him to the state board for his unorthodox and absurd medical recommendations.

 

 

It is so hard to hold physicians accountable that I doubt he would feel remotely threatened. I have watched doctors nearly kill people (and some pregnant moms that lost babies) and they faced no consequences whatsoever.

[Reflections]

You mentioned calling to have his records transferred. The new doctor normally does this, not the parent. Every time we've moved, it was free for the new doctor to call & get the records. I would have had to pay a huge fee to do it myself.

 

When I switched peds the old ped office wanted $25 per child for the records and that was with the new ped asking. The only thing they would transfer for free was their shot records.

 

Having said that though, I would still have the new ped office request them so that the old office does not have another chance to be awful to you.

[sbgrace]

We're back from pulmonology. The doctor was terrific and the exact opposite of the yucky pediatrician in her approach to parental input. She was completely in agreement with the decisions we've made in his care. I'm no longer worried about the pediatrician's mess. Pulmonology is sending a report to them. I'll get that in his file and then switch to another doctor (family medicine or pediatrician). Thank all of you who have responded to this thread and the other. This experience had really shaken my confidence and having the thoughts from those of you here has really helped me. I needed the perspectives. This experience today has me back on even keel. It was like all the other experiences I've had with medical professionals in the past.

 

I do think, when we are settled in a new practice, I'll write a formal letter to the office and business manager about my experience. It's not anger as much as they just handled this so unnecessarily horribly. Maybe I'll save someone else grief in the future. As far as this pediatrician, I think he's probably fine as long as no one wants to give input into their child's care or disagrees with his recommendations. That probably won't change but maybe his nurse could learn to respond to things better if it happens with someone else. She could have prevented most of this in my opinion.

[Forget-Me-Not]

Glad things went well with pulmonology. I think your plan sounds spot-on.