LinRTX Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 (edited) Edit: Thank you all for all the love and comfort I feel. The response has been overwhelming!! It has been a whirlwind couple of weeks. As we were leaving for our big summer vacation, my dad was on his way to a doctor's appointment to see if his leaky heart valve could be fixed. As he got out of the car to have coffee before the appointment, he collapsed. He had had another heart attack. After 11 days in the hospital, he has decided to fight this no more. So today I drive one hour to the hospital to bring him home. It has been a hard day. It has been a hard month. It has been a hard year. I'm tired and tomorrow I move my oldest daughter into her apartment to start her senior year at college. Then we start the senior year at home for my next daughter. This is long, thanks for reading; I just needed to write it out. Linda Edited August 25, 2010 by Linda in TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma23peas Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Linda..:grouphug: I am so sad for your Dad and your family..I hope these next weeks/months will be treasured and with little pain..I just want to add that what you are doing by being there for your father is one of the GREATEST lessons any parent can teach a child...while it is hard to go through, it's a grounding rod of love, compassion and commitment...may strength and encouragment follow you on this journey! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmasmommy Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how difficult this must be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BridgeTea Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Hugs for you all, Linda. Take care. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 After 11 days in the hospital, he has decided to fight this no more. So today I drive one hour to the hospital to bring him home. It has been a hard day. Hold his hand in this circle of life, and delight that you are there to do so. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gooblink Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Through tears . . . :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: My dad goes in on thursday to have another tumor removed from his bladder. I'm praying SO hard it's not more cancer. But it's cancer 99% of the time. I'm dreading this day for him . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 We just attended the funeral of my aunt, who was like a second mother to me, on Friday. She had also made the decision not to fight (in her case, cancer) anymore. Hospice did an amazing job keeping her comfortable and treating her with dignity until the very end. Treasure this time with your dad :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgia On My Mind Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Strength, prayers and love to you and your family. Cherish the time you have with him.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iona Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Praying for you. I have been there, personally, and know what that is like. Actually have been there, twice. Hospice is a wonderful program and there is peace in being in your own home and being able to have those around that care so much. It doesn't make things any easier......so my prayers are with you. I am coming up on the two year passing of my dad and it so happened on my birthday, 9/11. Thinking of you and hugs....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MamaT Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 You are a wonderful daughter to respect your dad's wishes on this and bring him home. I know that can't be easy. Praying for peace in the coming days/weeks/months for you and your family. God Bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for you as you go through these trying times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookfiend Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: I walked this road with my Dad three years ago. God grant you peace. It's a hard road, but it leads to a clean grief, and it's an amazing gift to both your Father and yourself. I know you didn't post looking for advice. When you are ready and if you are interested in practical thoughts, I would welcome your PM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Denisemomof4 Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 I have done the same for my mother. She lived with us until she died, in my home, under the care of Hospice. It's going to be one of the hardest things you'll ever do, and one of the most beautiful gifts you can give your father. My mother living in my home for 7 months, 6 before we put her on Hospice. I will always be thankful for the opportunity to give my mother such a beautiful end of life. My father had died shortly before. Please, PM me if you have ANY questions or if I can be of any help At All. Please PM me if you just need a shoulder to cry on. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cjbeach Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 (edited) Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. I have lived that as a daughter and as a hospice nurse. I believe when someone is done fighting, they're done fighting, period. The hardest conversation I ever had with my mom was whether or not she was done fighting, or was I keeping her going beyond her want/wish. It's not easy. It's physically and mentally exhausting, but you'll look back and cherish the days that you were able to "baby" your dad the way he did you as a child. I know my mom received the best care possible when she was at home because I was her caretaker. I did it with every ounce of love within me for the woman who gave me life. I vividly remember spending a lot of time holding her hand and singing along to "her songs" I played on CD - Streisand, Sinatra - my mom's tunes. I hugged her, I cried a lot, but mostly I just loved her. I wanted her to know and feel when she exited this life that she was loved. I think she knew. I say that because she waited until I took my first shower in 4 days to actually start Cheyne Stokes breathing (end of life breathing). Not a minute after I started shampooing my dad knocked on the door yelling "Mom's breathing funny, come look." She passed very quickly after. Knowing my mom and how protective she was of me, I laughed that she wanted to wait until I was out of the room. The same thing happened with my bff and her sister (the first break they took, the 15 minutes they walked out, their mom passed). Love him. Many hugs on this journey. Edited August 25, 2010 by cjbeach Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so very sorry, Linda. I will pray for your family. :grouphug::grouphug: Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Prayers for all of you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 I'm so sorry, Linda. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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