********* Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 The poor thing just lost her husband, and I can't even imagine. Are there any IRL friends of funschooler6 on here who would could co-ordinate sending flowers from the hive? Just an idea. We lost MIL and FIL in the past few years, and it was noticed who sent flowers. I just so grieve for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I'm with you, Bethany. I can't even imagine being in her place. The Hive has done such amazing, wonderful things for people in crisis here. I would love to help her in some little way. I don't even know where she lives. I'd love to clean her house for her. It's kinda what I do. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I have PMed with her (Luke died of what my DH has) but I don't know her IRL. I would like to contribute if something gets organized. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BridgeTea Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 This needs a bump. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I would like to participate I whatever gets organized! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DragonFaerie Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelAR05 Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I was thinking the same thing when I woke up this morning. I'll definitely participate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I want to contribute too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Bump Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenn121 Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 bump. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I don;t know her irl but I did pm her to see if there is a charity she wanted donations to in lieu of flowers, or one of those meal places that puts it all together and then she could just reheat or something. I will coordinate this if/when I hear back from her. I also feel the need to do something, and while nothing will be enough, I feel the call to do something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I'd like to help too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara in AZ Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I don't know her, but I've been thinking about her all week and I'd love to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I'd like to contribute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I would like to contribute to something too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Count me in! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garddwr Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Count me in as well. I was wondering when I first heard the news if something like this might be possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiniBlondes Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 Me too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I'm in too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted March 1, 2013 Share Posted March 1, 2013 I haven't really been on much. I missed the news that he passed. Just devastating. I'm in... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garddwr Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I don;t know her irl but I did pm her to see if there is a charity she wanted donations to in lieu of flowers, or one of those meal places that puts it all together and then she could just reheat or something. I will coordinate this if/when I hear back from her. I also feel the need to do something, and while nothing will be enough, I feel the call to do something. I like the idea of meals. Something practical...flowers are of course nice too, but I feel more like I am doing something if I can see a need being met. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsmamainva Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I like the idea of meals. Something practical...flowers are of course nice too, but I feel more like I am doing something if I can see a need being met. Or if we could find out if she belongs to a homeschool group in her area? We belong to a small homeschool group, but we have a member who coordinates meals for people who have lost a family member, have an ill person in the family, a new baby's arrival, etc. and she collects meals from other members and delivers them for as long as they're needed. Perhaps her homeschool group has such a service? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ravinlunachick Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I like the idea of meals. Something practical...flowers are of course nice too, but I feel more like I am doing something if I can see a need being met. Gift cards to a grocery or restaurant that delivers could be very useful, and they won't wilt or have to find a home after the service. Anyone helping out IRL could use it for her, if need be. Not everyone likes the deli meat tray that seems to be the standby around here. ;) I'll be happy to contribute via Paypal if someone organizes it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I'd also like to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Count me in! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Me too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 IIRC- in a previous post, she said she didn't have many friends IRL, and wasn't a church go-er. I think if we could send her gift cards for meals, it would be helpful. I do think both of their families are close though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I would like to help too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Any news yet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Bump... I wish we knew where she lives. If she were in my town I'd be stocking her freezer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I'd like to pitch in, too. But... just tossing this out there. If she hasn't checked in here, or doesn't choose to... well, sometimes leaving someone alone for a while to grieve privately is the kindest thing you can do. Everyone processes grief differently. Just a thought... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 :iagree: But, I'd also be interested in something if it's done. I'd like to pitch in, too. But... just tossing this out there. If she hasn't checked in here, or doesn't choose to... well, sometimes leaving someone alone for a while to grieve privately is the kindest thing you can do. Everyone processes grief differently. Just a thought... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 That's my thinking too Audrey. I sent the 1 pm but I will not send more. She has enough to focus on right now, without feeling like she *has* to reply to everyone etc. We don't have to do anything immediately. She will get an outpouring right away I am sure for those around her, sometimes getting those flowers, or meals, or whatever 3-6 months later is what is needed more than in the immediate aftermath Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 :iagree: But, I'd also be interested in something if it's done. That's my thinking too Audrey. I sent the 1 pm but I will not send more. She has enough to focus on right now, without feeling like she *has* to reply to everyone etc. We don't have to do anything immediately. She will get an outpouring right away I am sure for those around her, sometimes getting those flowers, or meals, or whatever 3-6 months later is what is needed more than in the immediate aftermath Thank you for understanding my point. I, too, would like to do something, but I hesitate to rush in at times like this, although that is, I believe, a common and natural and caring response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted March 8, 2013 Share Posted March 8, 2013 I heard back from funschooler6 today. It sounds like for the time being the community has really rallied around, they are staying with her folks, and her MIL works with teh fire department and has organized meals to be dropped off daily. His buddies are raising funds for a memorial. And she said people she didn't even know that knew him years ago (like a temp agency) have sent cards. Her dh sounds like an amazing guy that touched a lot of people and those people are responding now in their time of need. I have assured her they will remain in my prayers (and I am sure those of many of you as well) and that the offer will always stand, if she should every need anything we will come through even if it is some time down the road. For the time being as devestating as the loss is I can only hope to be as loved and remembered when I pass as her dh is now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted March 8, 2013 Share Posted March 8, 2013 swellmomma, thanks for the update Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted March 8, 2013 Share Posted March 8, 2013 Thanks for the update! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted March 8, 2013 Share Posted March 8, 2013 yes, thank you for the update. I'm glad she is being so loved and cared for by the community. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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