Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I don't know why this bugs me so much, but every time my son has a friend over, I find the seat up. I didn't have to "train" hubby, and it's one of the few things that my son remembered to do after being told only once -- put the seat down! Now, again, we have a new friend over for the weekend and now, again, I am telling him, "Please put the seat down!" Even repeat visitors have to be told -- again. The first time it happened, the Mom was a good friend and I was able to ask her about it -- in a nice, humorous way, of course. She just laughed and said she was used to it. Ugh. It's becoming pretty obvious that it's Just The Way Things Are Here in our little town. Am I just being ridiculous? Do you expect the men in your life to put the seat down? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Doesn't bug me. When we visit my mom, she's bothered by the seat being left up by my boys. It's just a battle I've chosen not to fight. Funny though, growing up, the seat was ALWAYS left up by my brothers!!! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairie~Phlox Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Yes, and we all put the lid down also. Just always have. Phlox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I voted for going to get them and making them put it down. But, it really doesn't happen like that anymore. Its more like they never even bother to put it up - I still go get them! And, its really not "they"...its just ds :glare:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Governess Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Finding the seat up doesn't bother me. It's finding the toilet rim and underside of the seat covered in yellow spots that bothers me. Although I must say that dh is never the culprit - he is very good at cleaning up after himself. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracey in TX Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 This is filed under the "choose your battles" category in my home. It's annoying, but there are bigger battles to be won. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom42terrificgirls Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Definitely down. I have fallen in before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 My boys are well trained in the art of toilet seat etiquette. Dh came that way, he has two older sisters and a "disciplined" mother. Ds does not know any other way.:001_smile: We have two bathrooms, one is more for the boys, now I could only get them to clean their toilet. :glare: ETA: I just asked my dh why he was thoughtful, he said it was because he was a real man. (tonque-in-cheek smiley here) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Oh, boy. I know I'm up to here with work when I'm taking time explain my theory on toilet etiquette.:tongue_smilie: Here's the deal. Why should a guy have to put the seat down? What if he's the next one to use the toilet? Then he has to lift it right back up. (Or maybe he doesn't, in which case you enjoy the "benefit" of having him leave the seat down the whole time.) Why are women so insistent that their habit takes precedence? My preference is to always have the thing closed, seat and lid. I find an open toilet lid kinda weird and just...gross, even if everything's all clean and tidy. The added benefit of the seat and lid down is that both men and women have equal responsiblity as far as lifting and closing. Speaking of toilets, back to cleaning them...! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Only have one boy/man in my house (dh) and his momma trained him well. She even taught him to go sitting down, which he still does from time-to-time. I'm thankful to her. After growing up with my brothers who thought the whole area near the loo was fair game, it's been very nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Actually, my dh doesn't lift the lid at all. He sits. I'm not sure what ds does in there, but I never find the seat up. I think he just keeps the seat down and aims well (he's only 10, so he's not very tall). I never find a mess, and I never fall in, so I'm happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 My preference is to always have the thing closed, seat and lid. I find an open toilet lid kinda weird and just...gross, even if everything's all clean and tidy. The added benefit of the seat and lid down is that both men and women have equal responsiblity as far as lifting and closing. You go, girl! Yes! The lid needs to be down when flushing since the flushing action tends to send spray into the air and all over my toothbrush, thankyouverymuch. Not to mention that if you leave the lid up the cats tend to play in the toilet. So, lids are down unless the toilet is in use. BTW, I know a woman who insists that all of 3 her sons sit rather than stand. She says she hates to clean around the toilet. But, you know, she has so many issues with her sons, and sometimes you sorta gotta wonder if it all started with the toilet training.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaik76 Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 In the beginning of our marriage I *tried* to get dh to put the seat down on a regular basis. Eventually I came to the conclusion that he had as much right to have it up as I had to have it down. I would say ours ends up down about 50% of the time...this works for me.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 My DH is very neat and and leavin the seat open was wht I grew up and how we started out our marriage... When we had kids, DH insisted we keep them closed to avoid children being adventursome in places he would rather they not be adventuresome! I thought, well, whatever.. Now I think it perfectly gross to find the lid open! My kids and their spouses are all in the same camp, so if the lid is up, we have had guests! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I find an open toilet lid kinda weird and just...gross, even if everything's all clean and tidy. Exactly!! I don't like walking into the bathroom and seeing an open toilet. Ewww. It's lid down around here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I think it is a common courtesy to have the seat put back down. How about a prettily framed sign that says "Be a sweetie, put down the seatie." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Actually, my dh doesn't lift the lid at all. He sits. I'm not sure what ds does in there, but I never find the seat up. I think he just keeps the seat down and aims well (he's only 10, so he's not very tall). I never find a mess, and I never fall in, so I'm happy. Yep. Same here. And we taught the boys to sit too. If I found a mess around the toilet, I'd know someone was standing, and they'd be the ones to clean it. It's only ever a problem with guests. :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I voted I just deal with whatever I find, but I think it's always down. Honestly, at this point in my life, I'm just happy if they pee inside the toilet bowl. Now when I run to the bathroom and step in a puddle of pee because some boy got distracted and didn't watch his aim---that I get upset about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plaid Dad Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 This poll isn't addressed to me, but I grew up with big dogs, so we always closed the lid. (Sorry, but you dog owners know what I'm talking about.) It's a habit I've never lost, and it makes the seat a non-issue. I'm actually pretty grossed out by the idea of flushing with the lid up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siloam Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I have very will full, stubborn kids, so I have bigger fish to fry than the toilet seat. If I see him leave it up I will ask him to put it down, and he does. But I am not going to make him go back and do it an hour later. Though he is only 5. :D By bigger fish to fry I am talking bout the fact that the first time my oldest flushed the toilet it over flowed :glare: We have those NIFTY low flow toilets that plug for no reason at all. She has been terrified of flushing the toilet ever since and passed it on to all of the other 3 kids. They were well versed in the terrors of the toilet well before they potty trained. To the point of putting their hands over their ears and running in the opposite direction, even in a public restroom. To this day. The 8yo, 7yo and 5yo. Grrr.... So at this point I would just like it if they flushed the toilet, instead of my having to go plunge it several times a day. Sigh... Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Is this related to Tarheel Heather's post? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snickerdoodle Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I don't care if the seat is up or down. All I care is that all bodily evacuations are INSIDE the toilet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Funny though, growing up, the seat was ALWAYS left up by my brothers!!! LOL Ah HA! Maybe that's it! I only had one brother -- the poor guy was outnumbered! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 everyone here puts the seat AND the lid down. Bud and I have always done that and the kids just learned to do it that way, too. It's a non-issue, except for some of the neighborhood boys who like to play here. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Finding the seat up doesn't bother me. It's finding the toilet rim and underside of the seat covered in yellow spots that bothers me. Although I must say that dh is never the culprit - he is very good at cleaning up after himself. :001_smile: I obviously need to count my blessings. I guess my guys are good shots. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scuff Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 With DH, I didn't care so much, though he mostly left it down as a courtesy. When DDs came along and started potty training, I instilled in DS the need to put the seat down. The girls weren't as aware. (or more specifically, DD2, since she came first and DS was well aware of what he needed to do by the time DD#3 came along) She would just sit on the rim if he left it up. (ew!) She even fell in a time or two. (ew!!!) Fortunatly DS is a quick learner, though I do have to remind him sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Ever since we had a houseful of babies--the seat and the lid stay down. PERIOD. Yes, I'm yelling. It was/is absolutely non-negotiable. In fact, when I had 5 babies age 7 and under, I had a sign on the wall behind the toilet, saying so! Yuck yuck YUCK to find a tiny toddler playing in the toilet water. Both seat and lid must be closed at all times. My sign did say it much more kindly tho. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 I think it is a common courtesy to have the seat put back down. How about a prettily framed sign that says "Be a sweetie, put down the seatie." I had one of those -- once. Actually, Hubby brought it home! I wonder where that went? :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Only have one boy/man in my house (dh) and his momma trained him well. She even taught him to go sitting down, which he still does from time-to-time. I'm thankful to her. After growing up with my brothers who thought the whole area near the loo was fair game, it's been very nice. You're right there! That hole is so big, it never occurred to me that anyone could miss it! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 This poll isn't addressed to me, but I grew up with big dogs, so we always closed the lid. (Sorry, but you dog owners know what I'm talking about.) It's a habit I've never lost, and it makes the seat a non-issue. I'm actually pretty grossed out by the idea of flushing with the lid up. Sorry -- didn't mean to leave you out. Since it's my first poll, can I get a pass on that? :D We have two big dogs now and I know exactly what you're talking about. They sure can make a big mess in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 So at this point I would just like it if they flushed the toilet, instead of my having to go plunge it several times a day. Sigh... Heather Oy! That *is* worse! I guess the fact that they're inadvertently saving water doesn't help when you're up to your elbows in . . . plunger. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Is this related to Tarheel Heather's post? Hum -- well, that's wasn't the idea. What was her post about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandamom Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 >>> Why are women so insistent that their habit takes precedence? >>>> I agree with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Thanks for all the great replies! From the looks of things, it appears that I am being a bit ridiculous, but only marginally so. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
6packofun Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I don't ask them to come and do it and they don't forget often anyhow. I *do* tell them to clean up right NOW if they leave the bathroom icky. That's not often, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Danestress Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 So he puts the lid down and expects everyone else to as well. He's not a major germ phobe, but it would gross him out to flush with the lid up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle T Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 It should all be closed before toilet is flushed. Otherwise, tons of bacteria are blasted into the air, and it freaks me out to think about that! I'd far prefer to let the lid collect the germs, that way I don't breath it all in. Maybe I'm weird though. Michelle T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siloam Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Oy! That *is* worse! I guess the fact that they're inadvertently saving water doesn't help when you're up to your elbows in . . . plunger. :001_smile: Yes it is, though I am amazingly able to keep a good attitude. At least they hit the toilet. But they like to use the upstairs toilet, which I only see first thing in the morning and when I put them to bed at night. You can imagine the mounds I find now and then. Above the rim mounds. :eek::leaving: I just keep telling myself they WILL be flushing by the time they are in college. Right? Heather p.s. My oldest is over it for the most part, but when it is already full she doesn't dare flush. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaMere Academy Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 my dh and boys may be weird, but they either sit to pee or pee standing up with the seat down. I only find pee drops every once in a while. :lol: Of course, NO ONE did it. OH wait...I just reread, are we talking about seats or lids? LOL!! OK, in that case, we never close the lids around here and it doesn't bother me at all. I only close it when I want to sit on it to do my nails. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in NC Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 We started to put the seat and lid down when we had cats that like to drink out of the toilet. Ewwwww ! So we just put both down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I cannot tell you how much it irks me when males fail to put the seat back down. What is that all about? Did they not find it in the correct position? Why is it so hard to close it? And yes, I can remember at least one time in my childhood when my brother left it up and I walked in in the middle of the night and sat down only to kerplunk into the toilet bowl. Not nice. Not nice at all. :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eva Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I trained mine when they were very young to put the seat down and my hubby started then as well to set a good example. It has not been a problem in many years. I will never forget, years ago, being surprised in the middle of the night by a seat that was not there. ha That was probably what prompted me to train them in that area. ha Eva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenneinCA Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 My men all pee sitting down, so it isn't a problem here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay in Cal Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Mine usually put the seat down, but it doesn't bug me if they don't. We almost never put lids down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybear Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Okay, I feel really strongly about this, and I don't think I have ever said so,BUT......I don't mind it being left up. I'm grateful they bother to put it up in the first place. There is nothing worse than sitting on a wet toilet seat. Ughh! And while we're at it, maybe it would be good manners if we left the seat up for them. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybear Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Oh, and I just read Melissa in NC's post. The downstairs toilet is usually left down and closed, due to cats drinking out of it. Yuck. How can I let them kiss me if I'm not sure if they've been drinking out of the toilet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runningirl71 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 For me, it's just common courtesy to put the toilet seat down. I expect the lid to be down too. The men in my home don't have a problem doing this, but friends who come over do. I will ask them to go put it back down and tell them it is a rule of our house. I don't make a big deal of it and it doesn't bug me that much. I get bugged by other things, like washing your hands, splattering water all over the sink, but not wiping it down. THAT bugs me. I guess I have issues. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 At the lake cabin...no indoor plumbing therefor about 10 years.. Yes, we had plumbing in our home..I am not THAT Old! When you make a deposit in this bank, please don't leave any change on the counter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 When my dad visits, he ALWAYS leaves the seat up. Drives me crazy, because dh is so good about leaving it down. I'm spoiled - and I plan to train Schmooey to be as considerate as his daddy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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