Kareni Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Continuing to send good thoughts for your daughter, you, and your husband, @Jann in TX, during this stressful time. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Continuing in prayer for your dd, Jann. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Just seeing this thread and all the updates. Hugs and prayers. Plenty of posters have said how I feel about the ex. She dodged a bullet there 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Wow, that sounds hard all around, particularly when she was looking forward to a fun holiday. I hope she gets an accurate and as-positive-as-possible diagnosis very soon. 7 hours ago, Jann in TX said: One of DH's coworkers lives in the area and is on the way to hospital-- DD will spend night at her house if she is discharged!! That's a sweet gesture! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innisfree Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 5 hours ago, Pippen said: support on campuses range widely. Universities apparently don't have to provide the same level of support for someone with a temporary condition in the same way they're required to for persons with disabilities. This was our experience, also, after some fairly major orthopedic surgery that didn’t meet the college’s standard for accommodations. I hope OP’s dd will find her school handles it better, but there aren’t any guarantees. @Jann in TX, I’m thinking of your dd and all of you. I hope you can be with her soon and that she’s soon past the worst and into recovery. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 5 hours ago, Innisfree said: This was our experience, also, after some fairly major orthopedic surgery that didn’t meet the college’s standard for accommodations. I hope OP’s dd will find her school handles it better, but there aren’t any guarantees. @Jann in TX, I’m thinking of your dd and all of you. I hope you can be with her soon and that she’s soon past the worst and into recovery. I have heard of campuses that are very accomodating, but it was such a let down. When my husband took her back, he stayed in town for a week to help get her settled into a new dorm room (with an elevator and close to the bus stop) and make sure she could physically make it to classes. The one thing that did work out in her favor was that she was able to do her physical therapy on campus as they had a PT program. She had excellent treatment by a therapist who had worked mostly with dancers prior to being hired by the university. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Sending some prayers her way today. Check in when you can. I hope everything went as well as it could last night. I am so glad your dh will be there today. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted December 17, 2022 Author Share Posted December 17, 2022 (edited) Thank you all so much! DH is on his way to the airport-- I was going to drive him but 3yr old had a meltdown.. The CT scan was clear of vascular damage-- we are still waiting for MRI results (hospital was seriously backlogged on those). They are monitoring her for the compartment syndrome (she is at high risk) but they think things are OK now --if anything changes with her leg then she goes to the nearest ER. DD spent night at DH's coworkers house. -- DD has accommodations already in place on campus as she has a severe chronic pain disorder--full body CRPS (she is majoring in Neuro biology so she can research her condition!) She will file an additional request before classes start. Her professors were more than accommodating the past 2 weeks so we feel confident that if she can get through surgery and the first 2 weeks of recovery she will be fine on her own (with her dance group friends and roommates around to help). I'll find out Monday when I'll need to go up. I'm preparing to be gone 2-4 weeks. Since I teach online I can do that from just about anywhere! DD's roommates will be gone most of the break-- one will come and go due to her job. DD's room is on bottom floor (again due to her other health condition) but there is not a ramp to the door. DH and I will look into having one put in at the 'front door' (they always enter at the back but front has only 1 step instead of 4...)... the handicap parking for her building is just outside her apartment-- she should get her sticker on Monday. Edited December 17, 2022 by Jann in TX 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted December 17, 2022 Author Share Posted December 17, 2022 1 hour ago, Pippen said: The one thing that did work out in her favor was that she was able to do her physical therapy on campus as they had a PT program. She had excellent treatment by a therapist who had worked mostly with dancers prior to being hired by the university. We are hoping for on-campus PT as well. Her new Dr has one of the top PT programs in the USA-- but it is 1.5 hours each way! Their facility is awesome-- this is where all of the college athletes and pro-athletes (Denver Broncos) go... She said all of the people in the waiting room were 'buff'-- the original Dr's waiting room was filled with geriatric patients... 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Sounds like a good update from the hospital last night. Sending more good thoughts that things stay that way. And it sounds like you have a good plan for moving forward. How amazing that you can just be there to support her for 2-4 weeks. And seriously your dh's coworker is the sweetest person. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamonlyone Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Your family is in my thoughts and prayers this morning, Jann! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted December 18, 2022 Share Posted December 18, 2022 Praying for your daughter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 Update Dec 27 It has been so nice having dd back home (well she is staying at her sister's about 30 minutes away). She has PT this week and next then we will make decision about how to get her back to Colorado and how long I will stay there with her (I will be there for surgery and a few weeks after). Will be about a 6 month recovery...so she will miss a whole season of dance (well she will be filming and doing choreography just not performing). Hopefully her PT progress will be enough that surgery can happen sooner than later so she can get on with her life! It is so hard to see her hurting physically AND emotionally... 23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Thank you for updating. Praying for your dd. This is a lot for her. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Thank you for the update. I feel so bad for her - that is a lot. And I know how hard it is for us moms when we are helpless to make things better for our kids. I'm glad you can be there for her to help with recovery. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 3 hours ago, Jann in TX said: Update Dec 27 It has been so nice having dd back home (well she is staying at her sister's about 30 minutes away). She has PT this week and next then we will make decision about how to get her back to Colorado and how long I will stay there with her (I will be there for surgery and a few weeks after). Will be about a 6 month recovery...so she will miss a whole season of dance (well she will be filming and doing choreography just not performing). Hopefully her PT progress will be enough that surgery can happen sooner than later so she can get on with her life! It is so hard to see her hurting physically AND emotionally... Glad she is home and you have a plan going forward. I am sorry she has to miss out on a season of dance, but I am glad she gets to be part of it somehow. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Very happy to hear the update. I am so very aware about legitimate worries about kids, young and old 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted January 4, 2023 Author Share Posted January 4, 2023 Heading off to Colorado this weekend-- have Dr appointment in Denver to set surgery date on Monday... I started a new thread on what I should pack--going to have to learn to be a minimalist for the next month or so! DD is now able to 'walk' (more of a hobble) without her crutches and her brace!! She has been faithfully going to PT and then doing her exercises between sessions. This is a pre-req for surgery. We are so hoping for surgery next week or the week after! DD's surgery is a gruesome one-- they will replace her 'spent' ligament with a cadaver ligament. Over the course of the next year her body will actually rebuild a new ligament using the cadaver one as framework-- cool and gross at the same time! She will have to have her leg isolated (bed or wheelchair) for the first 2 weeks post op and will need daily assistance for at least one week after that...I'm planning on being gone at least 4 weeks.... going to miss my baby (well grandson DH and I are raising just turned 3 but he is still my baby!). 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 4, 2023 Share Posted January 4, 2023 Our orthodontist had a cadaver ligament surgery as part of a hip and knee repair/replacement. It actually worked out really well for her. Good luck! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 4, 2023 Share Posted January 4, 2023 Wishing her the best of luck with her surgery! My brother has cadaver parts in his knee/leg, too. It has so far been successful (5ish years, I think) and he is completely self-powered in all his endeavors and works a physical job. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted January 4, 2023 Share Posted January 4, 2023 Wishing her all the best with the surgery. It is so hard to have your babies all over the place and need you at the same time. Sending hugs to you momma while you do this. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted January 5, 2023 Share Posted January 5, 2023 47 minutes ago, Jann in TX said: DD's surgery is a gruesome one-- they will replace her 'spent' ligament with a cadaver ligament. Over the course of the next year her body will actually rebuild a new ligament using the cadaver one as framework-- cool and gross at the same time! I had an allograft ACL replacement (cadaver) about 5 years ago. Definitely look into an ice machine if they don’t send one home with her. It keeps ice in a machine/cooler and circulates the cold through a knee wrap. It made icing my knee easier. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted January 5, 2023 Share Posted January 5, 2023 Prayers for safe travel, successful surgery, and full recovery! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted January 5, 2023 Author Share Posted January 5, 2023 2 hours ago, alisoncooks said: I had an allograft ACL replacement (cadaver) about 5 years ago. Definitely look into an ice machine if they don’t send one home with her. It keeps ice in a machine/cooler and circulates the cold through a knee wrap. It made icing my knee easier. Thanks for reminding me about the ice machine-- I have one somewhere around here that I used with my shoulder surgery-- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
footballmom Posted January 5, 2023 Share Posted January 5, 2023 Sending prayers for safe travel, wisdom for the doctors and 100% healing for your daughter. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 Update Jan 11 We had our first pre-op appointment on Monday-- surgery scheduled for Jan 19-- IF we can get her into a pain clinic for an evaluation-- no evaluation no surgery-- we have called 3 providers so far-- NO ONE has openings until March... Looks like I will be spending all afternoon on the phone... We will drive back to Denver (1.5 hrs minimum) on Friday for another pre-op... I can't believe I will be DD's college roommate for 4-6 weeks! Learning curve (She will be 21 in 2 weeks)... -- DD is still struggling with being 'abandoned' by her BF.... but they are now officially over... she said at least she knows more red flags to look out for in future relationships. 19 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 I hope you are able to get her into a pain clinic, ASAP. One would think that if that is a stipulation for surgery that the surgeon/hospital would have one in-house, or at least a reciprocal relationship with a provider to streamline the surgery process. 😞 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted January 12, 2023 Author Share Posted January 12, 2023 20 hours ago, fraidycat said: I hope you are able to get her into a pain clinic, ASAP. One would think that if that is a stipulation for surgery that the surgeon/hospital would have one in-house, or at least a reciprocal relationship with a provider to streamline the surgery process. 😞 The Dr has one they use but they are booked (no exceptions) until late March---- she needs surgery before then to prevent further damage... Praying/Hoping that the clinic that sees her today accepts her as patient... 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 Praying things come together today! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinRTX Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 Praying for both of you. This must be stressful. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 I’d start calling first thing every morning to see if there are any cancellations. And call the surgeon’s office and see if they’ll go to bat for you. They may have some sway with somebody. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted January 14, 2023 Author Share Posted January 14, 2023 Good news and bad news... Bad news first-- dd's surgery was postponed a few weeks-- they want her to have even more 'rotation' of the knee than what they had asked for before-- so 2-3 week delay if she works HARD in PT... Dr doesn't want to wait past February. Good news-- the Dr was able to get her in with a Pain Specialist for support after surgery--- since DD has 'full body' CRPS (Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome) she is at extremely high risk for a worse form of CRPS to set in in her leg... I'm now 'on call' and will stay 2-3 weeks after surgery-- bummer is that it will be COLD for sure when I return for her surgery... we had beautiful 40's in Colorado this past week-- next week calls for lots of snow... 1 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted January 14, 2023 Share Posted January 14, 2023 Thanks for the update. Continuing to pray for successful surgery, no complications, and full recovery. Travel, school, finances, all the things! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 (edited) On 1/4/2023 at 5:11 PM, Jann in TX said: they will replace her 'spent' ligament with a cadaver ligament *faints in squeamish* On 1/11/2023 at 12:00 PM, Jann in TX said: -- DD is still struggling with being 'abandoned' by her BF.... Aww, sure, it hasn't been long. Internet hugs for her! Edited to add that I just glanced at the dates, and he sure did not waste any time! Edited January 15, 2023 by katilac 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted February 13, 2023 Author Share Posted February 13, 2023 Update Feb 13: I'm back in Colorado for 2nd time-- Surgery will be on Feb.14. She should be walking with crutches in about 2 weeks...looking at estimated 4 month recovery. I'll stay 2-3 weeks-- until I'm confident she can drive and care for herself. Hoping the weather holds until we get back to Ft Collins-- there is a winter storm warning for Tuesday afternoon and all day Wednesday...It has been 25 years since I've driven in snow... (when we lived just outside Chicago...). 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted February 13, 2023 Share Posted February 13, 2023 Sending good thoughts for tomorrow's surgery, @Jann in TX, and for your daughter's recuperation. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted February 14, 2023 Share Posted February 14, 2023 Hope surgery and recovery go well. So glad you can be there for her. What a long ordeal! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted February 14, 2023 Share Posted February 14, 2023 Sending all the good vibes for a smooth surgery and that the weather stays away until you guys get safely settled in afterward. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted February 14, 2023 Share Posted February 14, 2023 I'm glad you're able to be there to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted February 15, 2023 Author Share Posted February 15, 2023 Surgery went well-- recovery was pretty scary. DD was in a LOT of pain and her CRPS went crazy. At one point she passed out and just as she was coming to she stopped breathing... thankfully they only had to 'bag breath' for her for a minute or two then she started breathing on her own... DD remembers them asking for a standby defibrillator... they only told me that she had a tough time for a while-- they kept her in recovery for a few hours more to monitor her. She is 'Borg'-- lots of tubes (ice pump and pain med pump and pressure cuffs on both legs...) but is doing MUCH better. We are in a holding pattern until Friday when the pain (nerve block) pump gets taken off. It has been a LONG day-- DD is set up in her room eating dinner (9 pm here!) But thankfully pain is under control and she is chatting away to friends. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers! 22 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 That does sound scary, @Jann in TX. I'm glad she is now doing far better. Wishing her a successful recuperation and you some peace of mind. Regards, Kareni 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 Wow, definitely a long and stressful day. Glad she is doing better and hope the rest of her recovery goes smoothly. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 Thank you for the update. That must have been horrifying for you both. You may not have witnessed it but to a mother's heart that kind of imagery of her child in medical distress is wrenching. I'm glad it's over and that she is hopefully on the road to a full recovery. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 Yikes! Glad she is okay! Praying for her recovery!! So glad you can be there. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 I am so glad that the surgery went well. What a scary recovery. I hope she has an uneventful recovery. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 Praying for a smooth recovery from here on out. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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